Эпизоды
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What do AuDHDers need (beyond the obvious needs all humans have)? And why do those needs matter?
This episode covers some important ones:
Being able to engage with our interests (in a particular way)Executive Function support, without trying to make the hardest things easy or enjoyableAutonomyTrue restThe narrow path of just enough stimulationProcessing timeTo be witnessed in just the right wayRecognition that our needs vary quite a bit day to dayComing to terms with disabilitySpace and time throughout our self-discovery journeySafe enough spaces to explore what it means to be ourselfLinks mentioned:
Executive function test post if you want to ask Qs or share your experienceExecutive Skills Questionnaire Revised (ESQ-R)Unmasking Autism book (affiliate link)Crisis Resources:
USA-based anonymous crisis chatInternational crisis linesVarious types of crisis resources in about 10 countriesResources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain courseHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Almost all of us consider formal diagnosis in our AuDHD discovery journey. Whether it's ADHD-focused for medication, or Autism-focused for validation or accommodations.
Knowing why you want the diagnosis goes a long way in figuring out what to pursue. The main options as I currently see them are:
full formal neuropsych testingprovisional diagnosis with a shorter screening testa formal letter requesting accommodations from your providerself-diagnosiscommunity diagnosisThis episode talks about
The upsides and downsides of diagnosis in generalMy personal diagnosis experience (two full rounds of neuropsych testing)Options to approach decision-making for yourselfHow to get started if you do want diagnosisQuestions from the longer decision-making process in the episode are in the Transcript Doc
Crisis Resources:
USA-based anonymous crisis chatInternational crisis linesVarious types of crisis resources in about 10 countriesMonotropism resources:
Monotropism Questionnaire and more info about itMonotropism explainedFergus Murray's 6 Starting Points for Understanding Autism034 Monotropism Might Explain Everything with Fergus Murray035 How Much Time Does Creating Take?039 Autism "Levels" and MonotropismOther Links mentioned:
Devon Price's post about Autism diagnosis pros n consThrow Away the Masters Tools: Liberating Ourselves From the Pathology Paradigm by Nick WalkerAuDHD Flourishing Resources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Пропущенные эпизоды?
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Bonus drop from The Curiosity Cure podcast:
Today's conversation with Mattia takes us through their journey with chronic pain, feeling better, and the ways they navigate their inner mindbody conversation as someone with AuDHD + PDA. We touch upon themes of neurodivergence, gender transition, resourcing inner + external safety. We chat about using hypnotic techniques to decrease a sense of threat/unsafety that may accompany disorders like ehlers-danlos syndrome and POTS.
Thanks to Deb for sharing this episode: full show notes here
The show notes link above has many resources about successful healing from related conditions
The Curiosity Cure podcast site
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I'm taking the last two weeks of August off, and will be back in September with a "back to the basics" series about things like diagnosis, what to do when you first discover your AuDHD identity, etc!
In the meantime, you can check out...
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocYouTube: The Longer Road, Mattia guesting on other podsHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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There are many reasons we experience loneliness. There's a particular existential loneliness I experience when I feel like it's not possible for anyone to understand me. And much of that emerged from a lifetime of ableism.
Being in AuDHD community has been incredibly healing. Thank you for being here!
Also... as of today we're over 200,000 downloads... thanks for listening!!
Resources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Working memory may be a main reason we feel so exhausted... we're doing so many things manually that are habits for non-AuDHD brains.
Using a working memory file as we go can help a lot and massively reduce overwhelm and cognitive fatigue. Cal Newport uses a digital file for this during computer work. I've been using post-it notes so I can carry them around with me.
There are many benefits I talk about in the episode, and the main one for me is being able to track decisions as I go so I don't keep trying to make them over and over!
Resources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain courseHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Today I had several moments of autistic joy (sometimes called "glimmers") that were also great examples of mindfulness. But mindfulness in a way that works for my sensory experience!
Reminder that our brains are also quite capable of delight in little things.
Resources:
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Quitting can feel amazing, especially when it's a clear self-protection move. And when we haven't waited until it becomes so terrible we have to get out.
But the decision-making process can feel slow!
This episode covers three ways I've decided to quit things:
Big emotions / the thing got really badMath-y pros and cons approach (slow but effective)Getting somatic info from my body#3 is great... but at the same time, I've done years of building safety around receiving and integrating information from my body! It's not just about the technique itself.
Resources:
Mentioned the DEAR MAN skill from DBTLike Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain courseHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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I recently took the laziest vacation I ever have, and it was a revelation.
Also, there are usually so many external factors we're not considering while laying on the couch feeling too "lazy" to do something! There are layers.
Resources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain courseHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Men are not the enemy...
Some thoughts on identity, community, and responsibility.
Big shout-out to Devon Price's new book, Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power
Resources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain courseHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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"felt vulnerable, may delete later"
Quick story/update and to validate that communication is so hard... and so are transitions!
Full audio direct link for Patreon folks
Transcript doc
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AuDHD brains face many challenges when it comes to projects. It's something I've put a great deal of time and learning into, both personally and professionally.
This episode covers many ideas and approaches that tend to work for us.
Key Takeaways:
We usually learn to use what I call the Adrenaline-Anxiety Approach. While effective short-term, it can lead to burnout and other issues.A monotropic approach is more sustainable and individualized... and it can feel slow at first.Experimentation as a core toolCreating just enough structure and safety to get going, without getting bogged down (loose planning)Working with the brain states you haveManaging interruptions, inputs, and daily lifeFinding the balance that works for youThe episode also walks through the Love Your Brain course, designed to help AuDHDers understand their mind-body system, work with brain states, and navigate project challenges. The course emphasizes self-compassion, experimentation, and building processes tailored to individual needs.
Links:Devon Price's Laziness Does Not Exist article, and a PDF if you're not on MediumThe transcript may be especially useful for this episode! (It'll take a few seconds for the link to fully load to this episode)Love Your Brain courseLearn more about Love Your BrainHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Pawel, a former middle school teacher in an alternative school, lays out how most of our adult problems were ones we first encountered in middle school. From social groups to complex problem solving, they show up again and again in life.
He also talks about how being a high-masking AuDHDer showed up in life.
Books mentioned: The Anxious Generation* by Jonathan HaidtRight Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well by Amy Edmondson*And if you're skeptical of Haidt because of his terrible 2018 book, here's a podcast episode that fact checks and brings nuance to claims in The Anxious Generation: If Books Could Kill episode
Resources:Like Your Brain community space (Pawel's not sharing social media links but is over here with us)Transcript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain now has three elements you can choose from for more accessibility:
Love Your Brain course contentGroup coaching and co-working callsDirect support from MattiaHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Achievements often feel tied into personal identity. AuDHD folks in particular struggle with achievement pressures, even with just regular neurodivergent demand avoidance.
A few core topics:
The joy of supporting others' work and stepping back from being the primary creatorAchievements often don't provide the emotions we expect, so it's meaningful to focus on making the process feel better insteadCreativity requires boredom and restAnd the very surprising thought I had that led to this episode...Episodes mentioned:
Andrew Simonet on creating supportive feedback convos as a creativeWhen Dreams Feel Impossible (last week's episode)Autistic Stereotypes with Thomas HenleyResources:Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterLove Your Brain now has three elements you can choose from for more accessibility:
Love Your Brain course contentGroup coaching and co-working callsDirect support from MattiaHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Every creative and interesting person has experienced the feeling that at least some of their big dreams are impossible. And when the current big dream is just surviving, that can be especially challenging.
I share about the emotional side of the ten years when my composition career had an almost 100% rejection rate. And why I'm giving this unusual advice...
It can be healthy to temporarily let go of dreams that are stressing you out!
Crisis Text Line, text HOME to 741741 to reach a volunteer Crisis Counselor on a wide variety of topics
Originally episode 61 on The Longer Road podcast (with minor edits)
Resources:
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Thomas Henley educates, normalizes, and actively pushes back against autistic stereotypes and stigma. Check out his highly rated podcast, Thoughty Auti - The Autism Podcast (on which I talked about AuDHD).
Thomas has made multiple decisions in his life to combat stereotypes, including months of backpacking, and becoming a world-class martial artist, both of which he talks about today.
We also touch on what some of the lingering stereotypes are, and what helps!
More from Thomas:
Thoughty Auti - The Autism Podcast@thomashenleyUK on Instagram & TikTokWebsite: thomashenley.co.ukThis is a slightly edited podcast that was recorded about a year ago for The Longer Road.
Resources:
Like Your Brain community spaceTranscript DocEmail NewsletterHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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You may have internalized the message as a child that there was something wrong or bad about you. Even if it was not explicit, you probably didn't receive some of the attention and delight that would have sent the strong message that your way of being in the world is valid.
Today's message is simple: You were not a bad child. You deserved love and support in a way that made sense to you.
Thank you to the therapist who walked me through this concept! Thank you to Linda Thai for providing such amazing emotional support through the courses and group coaching I've taken with her. I credit both of them with helping me learn how to reparent myself in a more deep way.
Resources:
Like Your Brain community space (where the picture is that I mentioned in the episode... it's visible to all members including free members)Transcript DocEmail NewsletterHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Rest is not something to be made up for later with productivity. Whether it was forced by the body or not.
We deserve to have energy to do what we love!
Love Your Brain now has three elements you can choose from for more accessibility:
Love Your Brain course contentGroup coaching and co-working callsDirect support from MattiaHosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Eric Tivers has shared 10 years of helpful content on his podcast, ADHD reWired. He's also built multiple careers helping neurodivergent folks: from therapy, to teaching high support need kids, to the current ADHD group programs.
It's a never-ending journey of discovering what works for his current needs and capacity. And the relatively recent discovery of... oh... maybe there's something to this autism thing.
Find Eric and his work at adhdrewired.com
Resources:
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Multiple times in the past week or two, clients have felt like they're failing miserably. But it turns out they're in complex, difficult, multifaceted situations that don't have an easy answer.
Plus, it's easy to feel like we're never doing enough, or the right thing. If we're solving personal problems, world events loom large. If we're addressing world events, it feels like a drop in the bucket.
Capitalism tells us that there's a straightforward, purchasable solution for every problem. That's a lie.
You're probably doing really well relative to all the complicated issues you face, and the overall lack of support and resources most of us encounter. And if you really believe that's not true... this episode is especially for you!
Link:
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Resources:
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