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  • Finding Joy in Life's Challenges: The Uncommon Gratitude Practice

    In our daily lives, we often encounter individuals who trigger strong emotional responses in us—whether it’s frustration, anger, or discomfort. The common reaction is to distance ourselves from these people, believing that cutting them out will provide relief. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, this approach may lead to missed opportunities for profound personal growth.

    In this episode of the School of Self-Image, host Tonya Leigh explores the profound lessons that can be learned from the things we often take for granted, complain about, or try to avoid in our daily lives. As Thanksgiving approaches, Tonya emphasizes the importance of gratitude and celebration, arguing that these practices should extend beyond just one day a year. She reflects on how embracing gratitude has been a transformative principle in her life, helping her navigate challenges and create a life she loves. Drawing from a recent workshop, she shares insights on staying connected to our celebrations, highlighting how they can foster personal growth and joy. Join Tonya as she invites listeners to recognize and appreciate the unexpected sources of wisdom in their lives.

    Talking Points:

    00:40 - Thanksgiving and Gratitude

    02:06 - The Power of Celebration

    03:11 - Practicing Gratitude in Hard Times

    03:43 - People Who Trigger Us

    07:04 - Learning from Triggers

    10:06 - Embracing Failures

    12:35 -Daily Annoyances

    16:00 - Future Gratitude

    22:34 - Showing Up for Your Dreams

    Quotes:

    "Gratitude has become a practice that I especially use during my hardest times."

    "I have come to view these people as my biggest teachers. I like to call them my pets. They're my personal emotional trainers."

    "I think the answer is to lean into it so we can learn from it and grow from it."

    "A lot of the lessons that we need to learn are going to be learned in the mistakes, not in the successes."

    "The next time you're annoyed, just ask yourself, is there anything in this that I could be grateful for?"

    "I have found that the anticipation is even better than the arrival."

    "If you come across just one podcast and you learn something that changes your life, I will feel like I have served my mission in life."

    "Be a woman who shows up for her dreams."

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  • Reclaim Your Time, Avoid Distractions, and Boost Productivity.

    Distraction is often viewed as an external issue, something that occurs due to our environment, technology, or other people. However, as discussed in the podcast episode, the reality is that distraction is primarily a mental challenge. In fact, it is stated that 90% of distractions stem from our own thoughts rather than external factors. This insight is crucial for anyone looking to improve their focus and productivity.

    Host and Master Self-Image Coach Tonya Leigh delves into the pervasive issue of distraction and its impact on productivity. Research indicates that the average person loses nearly four hours each day to interruptions, but Tonya shares her insights on how distraction can be managed rather than succumbed to. She introduces five effective strategies she practices to enhance focus, derived from her personal journey of transformation from a scattered individual to someone who achieves remarkable results. As we approach the holidays, Tonya reflects on her experiences in 2024, expressing gratitude for the lessons learned and the growth achieved, emphasizing the profound influence of self-image on all areas of life.

    Tune in for valuable insights that can help you navigate distractions and elevate your self-image for a more fulfilling life.

    Talking Points:

    00:49 - Holiday Greetings and Reflections
    01:10 - Gratitude for 2024 and Excitement for 2025
    02:31 - Self-Image and Humanity
    03:46 - Observations and Commands to the Brain
    11:20 - The Value of Attention
    12:14 - The Real Cost of Distractions
    14:03 - What Could You Do with 1500 Hours?
    16:14 - Reclaiming Lost Time
    19:03 - Breaking Down Plans into Actionable Results
    22:22 - Emotional Responses to Distractions
    25:08 - Understanding the Root of Distractions
    26:26 - Examining the Cost of Distractions
    30:04 - Personal Power and Focus
    34:08 - Handling Distractions When They Occur

    Quotes:

    "It's the failures that teach us the most."

    "Attention in this day and age is our most valuable commodity, and yet it's something that we do not guard often enough."

    "What could you do with 1500 hours?"

    "The question isn't whether you have the time, the question is, what are you going to do to reclaim it?"

    "What do we need to feel in order to put our phones away and be present with each other?"

    "Every focused moment is a vote for who I'm becoming."

    "Those moments are meant to teach you, they're meant to grow you, and they're meant to help you become less distracted."

    Useful Resources:

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  • Calm, Cool, and Connected: Embracing a New State of Being

    One of the most crucial decisions we make daily is what she refers to as the "B decision." This decision centers on consciously choosing who we want to be in any given moment, regardless of the external circumstances we face.

    Host Tonya Leigh dives into the concept of the "B decision," which focuses on the essential question we should ask ourselves: "Who do I want to be right now?" Tonya highlights the importance of this decision in shaping our experiences and handling life's challenges. She reflects on the anxiety and frustration many people feel when they rely on external circumstances to dictate their state of being. Using a personal story from her recent trip to New York City, she illustrates how life’s unpredictability can impact our emotions but emphasizes that we have the power to choose our responses. Tune in to explore how embracing the B decision can transform your mindset and lead to a more fulfilling life.

    Talking Points:

    01:09 - The Importance of the B Decision
    02:02 - Life's Unpredictability
    03:06 - Conscious Choice of Emotions
    04:10 - Balancing Professional and Personal Life
    05:02 - Energy and Thoughts
    05:45 - Trapped by External Changes
    06:37 - Default Settings and Triggers
    08:44 - Responding to Crisis
    10:09 - Energy Shifts and Influence
    11:56 - The Self-Image Pause
    13:48 - Purposeful Emotional Choices
    16:29 - Ripple Effect of Being
    20:05 - Curiosity vs. Judgment
    24:00 - Life Improvements Through Being
    25:04 - Benefits of Calmness
    25:36 - Calm, Cool, and Connected


    Quotes:

    "I asked myself, who do I want to be in this moment with nothing outside of me changing?"

    "Your beingness is the energy, the predominant energy that you are embodying in any given moment."

    "But you tell your brain, here's what we're doing. This is who we're being."

    "I am becoming someone who takes immediate action."

    "Every thought you think and every action that you take is a vote for who you want to be."

    "I don't need the world to be different in order for me to be different. But when I be different, the world does change."

    Useful Resources:

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  • Transforming Your Life with Intentional Language

    Words have more power than we give them credit for, not only in copywritting but in our everyday lives. This discussion revolves around the profound impact that words have on our mindset and actions. One of the key takeaways is the transformative power of shifting our language from "I want" to "I am." This simple change can significantly alter how we perceive our aspirations and ultimately influence our behaviors.

    Host Tonya Leigh welcomes special guest Jamie Palko, the behind-the-scenes copywriter for the School of Self-Image. Jamie shares her journey back to copywriting, highlighting the power of setting clear goals and the excitement of reconnecting with her passion. The conversation reflects on the serendipitous moments that brought Jamie to the podcast, where she first learned about the School of Self-Image. Join them as they explore the magic of wordsmithing and how it has brought them together in this full circle moment.

    Talking Points:

    00:10 - Jamie's Full Circle Moment
    01:32 - Jamie's Journey Back to Copywriting
    02:23 - The Power of Words
    04:55 - Transitioning Between Projects
    05:16 - The Role of a Copywriter in Content Creation
    05:47 - The Impact of Words on Personal Life
    08:35 - The Shift from "I Want" to "I Am"
    10:35 - The Energy of Words
    12:17 - Words Carry Energy and Meaning
    13:00 - The Pygmalion Effect and Setting Expectations
    14:47 - Reframing Nervousness as Excitement
    16:47 - Teaching Mindset to Children
    19:05 - Speaking from Your Future Self
    20:02 - Overused Words: Should and Overwhelmed
    23:19 - Shifitng "Have to" to "Get to"
    28:38 - Practicing New Ways of Speaking
    32:47 - The Power of Words in Creating Your Life

    Quotes:

    "I really do feel like those words that I spoke to myself and wrote that down and really sort of lived and breathed those for those couple of months made this happen."

    "Two little words, so much just deleting them gave me so much relief."

    "You've planted her in this small pot. And you need to plant her in the forest and let her grow with the words you use."

    "Stop "should-ing" all over yourself."

    "Your words are creating your life and they're very, very powerful."

    "It was lovely to have this time talking to you and introducing myself to the world."

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  • Vote for Yourself: Five Ways to Champion Your Dreams

    To truly champion yourself, it is essential to have a clear vision of what you want in life, much like political candidates who articulate their visions during campaigns. A well-defined vision serves as a guiding light, helping you navigate the complexities of your personal and professional journey.

    Host Tonya Leigh poses a thought-provoking question: What if you applied the same passion and conviction seen in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations? Tonya explores five powerful ways to become your own champion, encouraging listeners to "vote for yourself" with enthusiasm. She shares her recent experiences from the SOSI tour in Europe and expresses excitement for the final stop in New York, emphasizing the importance of community and setting intentions for the upcoming year.

    Tune in to discover how to champion your own goals and dreams!

    Talking Points:

    01:29 - The Elephant in the Room: U.S. Election
    02:24 - Cognitive Bias and Personal Growth
    03:19 - Campaigning for Yourself
    05:07 - Championing Your Own Vision
    07:04 - Vision Questions and Exercises
    10:07 - Avoiding Vision Shame
    13:10 - Strong Beliefs and Convictions
    18:09 - Finding Belief in Yourself
    19:12 - Being Your Loudest Supporter
    22:04 - Overcoming External Doubts
    24:00 - The Power of Environment
    25:47 - Writing Your Victory Speech

    Quotes:

    "What if you brought the same passion, conviction, and unwavering belief that you often see in political campaigns to your own dreams and aspirations?"

    "Just allow yourself to dream."

    "Coaching is one of the best investments you will ever make in yourself. And I stand by that 1000%."

    "If you have to get up and look in that mirror every morning and be like, listen girl, here we go. Today's gonna be an amazing day. You know why? Because you are amazing."

    "What I've noticed is that when I just go within and I bet on myself, I evolve to the next level."

    "You have a vision for your life, you build your campaign promises, you become your own rally, you invest in your victory, and you build your dream team."

    Useful Resources:

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  • Finding Peace: Techniques to Release Attachments and Anxiety

    In the journey of personal growth and freedom, awareness serves as the foundational step. Becoming aware of our thoughts, emotions, and attachments is crucial for breaking free from the cycles of worry and anxiety that often trap us.

    Host Tonya Leigh dives into the transformative art of letting go, a topic she has passionately coached and personally navigated. Drawing from her own experiences and insights, Tonya emphasizes the importance of releasing attachments to ideas, people, and things, which can often lead to suffering and anxiety. She shares a pivotal moment during a vacation in Paris, where a friend's advice and the book "Awareness" by Anthony de Mello sparked a profound realization about the roots of unhappiness.

    Tune in to discover powerful techniques and wisdom from spiritual teachers and psychologists that can help you cultivate calm and break free from the cycle of worry.

    Talking Points:

    01:19 - The Concept of Letting Go
    01:39 - Awareness by Anthony DeMello
    02:02 - Attachment Causes Suffering
    03:29 - Happiness and External Factors
    05:37 - Embrace Reality as It Is
    06:19 - Importance of Self-Observation
    07:34 - Love Without Attachment
    09:10 - Letting Go of the Ego
    10:19 - Letting Go of the Need for Approval
    14:15 - Embracing Uncertainty
    18:16 - Dedication vs. Attachment
    20:55 - Fall in Love with the Practice
    21:59 - Let Go of the Rope

    Quotes:

    "All of my suffering was because of attachment."

    "Happiness doesn't come from things outside of you."

    "I want everything for you. I need nothing from you."

    "All I need to do is let go. Just let go. And yet it's so hard."

    "The ability to just show up in the world as you truly are, sharing the things that you truly love, expressing yourself in a way that feels true to you, is the most freeing thing in the world."

    "The reason why you're suffering right now is most likely because you are attached to something or you fear losing something, which is also an attachment."

    Useful Resources:

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  • Mastering Productivity: Signature Work Habits with My Executive Assistant

    Beginning and concluding your day effectively are essential practices that can significantly influence your productivity and overall mindset throughout the workday. Tonya Leigh and her executive assistant, Abigail Schroeder, explore the importance of these two bookends of the day and how they contribute to a more effective and fulfilling work experience.

    Tonya opens the conversation by addressing a common question she receives: how she manages to get so much done. Tonya shares the story of how she found Abigail amidst over 500 applicants and highlights the importance of having a supportive team. Together, they explore effective work strategies, insights on collaboration, and the value of intuition in hiring.

    Tune in to discover how to enhance your productivity and learn from Abigail's expertise in managing tasks and supporting a busy, thriving executive by creating a positive, effective work environment.

    Talking Points:

    01:53 - Role of an Executive Assistant

    02:27 - Abigail's Responsibilities

    07:04 - The Four Ds Framework

    09:16 - Abigail's Signature Work Habits

    10:51 - Starting Your Day Well

    13:26 - Self-Awareness and Acceptance

    16:01 - Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses

    20:10 - Writing Everything Down

    25:08 - Prioritize with Focus and Rest

    31:14 - Diffuse Mode of Thinking

    37:58 - Most Impactful Work Habit

    39:33 - Company Culture

    Quotes:

    "My two main goals in my role is to optimize your time and to support the overall vision you have for the company."

    "If you're going to do it, don't do something and then be struggling and arguing with it."

    "At any moment, you can do a U-turn and recommit, do whatever you need to do to get yourself back on track."

    "It's just part of the human experience. We're not supposed to be great at everything."

    "You wouldn't expect yourself to be able to run a marathon without training for it, you know? And so we have to treat our brain the same way."

    "Ending your day well can look like, I don't know, cooking, hanging out with friends, going on a walk, playing a game."

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  • Transform Your Workspace: Tools and Techniques for Enhanced Focus and Creativity

    Creating a productive environment involves establishing "micro-environments" tailored to different types of work, such as deep creative tasks or administrative duties. This concept is based on the understanding that our surroundings can significantly impact our ability to focus and produce high-quality work.

    Tonya Leigh shares her personal journey of navigating a busy season filled with travel, program launches, and the joy of productivity. After a summer of significant changes and commitments, including the SOSI tour and the launch of the style experience, Tonya reflects on the importance of creating a productive environment to enhance focus and effectiveness. She introduces the concept of "productive surroundings" and discusses strategies that have helped her manage her workload and achieve her goals.

    Tune in to discover how you can set yourself up for success and engage in deep, quality work amidst the distractions of the digital age.

    Talking Points:

    00:39 - Life Update: Busy Season and Achievements
    02:04 - Concept of Productive Surroundings
    04:00 - Personalizing Productivity Strategies
    04:43 - World of Constant Distractions
    05:57 - Deep Work and Distractions
    07:02 - Specific Goals for Deep Work Sessions
    09:11 - Micro-Environments for Different Tasks
    11:01 - Office as CEO Time
    13:09 - Creative Brainstorming at Breakfast Table
    16:00 - Asana for Project Management
    18:29 - Power of Routine and Music
    19:24 - Getting Dressed for Productivity
    22:04 - Collaborative Work for Productivity
    24:46 - Importance of Downtime

    Quotes:

    "There are seasons where you may work more, there may be seasons where you work less, but there is a harmony that I feel like we're all seeking."

    "I used to jump from task to task, always busy, but never really accomplishing anything substantial."

    "I went from being completely unproductive to being the most productive I've ever been and creating the most results I've ever created from the process that you teach."

    "Put your downtime on the calendar first, because if you don't, you will continuously push it to the back burner."

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  • Finding Your Place: The True Meaning of Belonging

    True belonging begins with the acceptance and love of oneself, enabling you to show up authentically in any situation. This concept is central to the podcast episode, where Tonya Leigh emphasizes that belonging is not merely about fitting in or conforming to the expectations of others. Instead, it is about embracing your true self and cultivating a profound sense of acceptance from within.

    Tonya shares her recent experiences at the SOSI tour stop in L.A., highlighting the joy of connecting with a supportive community. She reflects on the common feelings of insecurity and social anxiety many of us face, especially when entering new environments. The episode is inspired by her journey to cultivate a sense of belonging and acceptance, starting from within.

    Tune in to discover valuable insights on overcoming feelings of isolation and building genuine connections with yourself and others.

    Talking Points:

    00:01:48 - The Essence of Belonging

    00:03:25 - Need for Confidence and Connection

    00:05:13 - Misconceptions About Belonging

    00:05:45 - Authenticity and Confidence

    00:08:47 - Vulnerability and Connection

    00:10:04 - Embracing All Parts of Yourself

    00:13:00 - Rejection is God's Protection

    00:16:26 - Thoughts That Nurture Belonging

    00:17:32 - Developing a Belonging Mindset

    00:19:08 - Belonging in Luxurious Environments

    00:20:26 - Taking Responsibility for Your Own Belonging

    00:23:35 - Cultivating Belonging in Daily Life

    00:25:09 - Celebrating Differences

    00:26:13 - Challenge for the Week

    Quotes:

    "It's like this is the essence of what we are all about. Women celebrating each other, sharing and supporting."

    "You will never belong in a group of people if you don't first belong to yourself."

    "When you show up in that fullness of who you are, that's what really creates connection and true belonging."

    "You belong because you exist."

    "True belonging starts with you accepting yourself exactly as you are."

    Useful Resources:

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  • From Ruts to Renaissance: How Style Can Change Your Life

    A style renaissance is not merely about updating your wardrobe or following the latest fashion trends; it is a profound journey of self-discovery and personal growth. In her podcast episode, Tonya Leigh emphasizes that true style comes from within and reflects who you are at your core. A style renaissance can help you rediscover your true self and use style as a powerful tool for self-expression.

    Tonya invites listeners to embark on a transformative journey through their style. She introduces the Style Experience, an annual program designed to help women redefine their approach to fashion and personal expression. Tonya shares her own struggles with understanding style, highlighting a common experience of trying to mimic trends without a true sense of self. The episode emphasizes the importance of an inside-out approach to style, encouraging listeners to explore how their wardrobe can empower and elevate their lives. Tune in to discover how this unique experience can facilitate personal growth and unlock your authentic style.

    Talking Points:

    01:08 - Style Experience Transformation Journey

    02:24 - The Deeper Questions of Style

    04:10 - The Importance of Style in Personal Development

    05:33 - Defining a Style Renaissance

    06:16 - Rediscovering Your True Self Through Style

    06:49 - Sign 1: Major Life Transition

    08:14 - Sign 2: Being in a Rut

    11:16 - Sign 3: Getting Dressed is a Chore

    13:00 - Finding Joy in Getting Dressed

    14:14 - Sign 4: Envy of Other Women's Style

    15:30 - Sign 5: Hitting an Upper Limit

    24:00 - No More Waiting for the Perfect Time

    29:20 - Speeding Up Your Style Journey

    Quotes:

    "It never answered the deeper questions that come with a style journey, which is, who are you really?"

    "A style renaissance is a personal awakening, a rejuvenation, a rebirth of who you are in relationship to style."

    "Getting dressed is a form of self-care and self-expression. It shouldn't be a burden."

    "I literally crawled out of my hole. I overcame an upper limit with style as one of the major tools in doing so."

    "I can look back and see how style has been responsible for so many of the opportunities that I have been blessed with."

    "A style journey really is a journey back home to yourself."

    Useful Resources:

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  • Dressing for You: How to Break Free from Style Myths and Embrace Authenticity

    Many individuals find themselves standing in front of a closet full of clothes, yet feeling as though they have nothing to wear. This common frustration often arises from a mindset that prioritizes an ideal body weight or shape over the current self. The belief that one must wait until they achieve a certain physical state before investing in their style is not only limiting but also counterproductive.

    Tonya Leigh discusses her own experience with what she describbes as the "waiting game." She recalls how she spent years convincing herself that she would invest in her style once she lost a certain amount of weight or reached a specific body shape. This mindset creates a cycle of negativity, where individuals continuously reinforce a narrative rooted in self-doubt and dissatisfaction. As she explores her past and the lessons learned, Tonya encourages listeners to consider their own style choices and what they may have outgrown.

    Join her for an inspiring discussion on embracing your unique style and stepping into your authentic self.

    Talking Points:

    00:00:37 - Tonya's Morning Motivation and Style Journey

    00:01:43 - The Deep Connection Between Style and Self-Image

    00:02:59 - The Style Experience: A Unique Approach

    00:04:05 - Enrollment for The Style Experience

    00:05:08 - Style Mistake #1: The Waiting Game

    00:09:23 - Style Mistake #2: The Numbers Game

    00:13:25 - Style Mistake #3: The Label Trap

    00:18:25 - Style Mistake #4: Trapped by a Self-Image

    00:22:40 - Style Mistake #5: The Knowledge Gap

    00:28:18 - Conclusion: Embrace Your Style Journey

    Quotes:

    "Style may seem superficial on the surface, but in reality, it's so deep."

    "Everything you choose is confirming a story about yourself."

    "Waiting for the perfect body is like waiting for a train that never arrives."

    "The moment you stand up and you say, I'm no longer waiting to feel beautiful, to live the life that I want to live, that's when you get all of your power back."

    "Your style isn't defined by the quantity of your clothes, but how well they reflect and serve you."

    "Style is a skill. Like any skill, it can be learned, practiced, and improved upon."

    "True style is about being comfortable in your own skin and your life, not in someone else's expectations."

    Useful Resources:

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  • Gentle Persistence: A Journey of Sauntering Towards Success

    Sauntering beyond your limits is a powerful approach that involves combining ambition with ease, playfulness with purpose, and approaching obstacles with curiosity rather than frustration. In the podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses how sauntering involves walking with purpose yet unhurried, being playful yet focused, and curious yet determined. This approach allows individuals to maintain a sense of calm and gratitude while pursuing their goals, even in the face of challenges.

    By sauntering beyond your limits, you are encouraged to adopt a mindset that values the journey as much as the destination. Instead of constantly pushing yourself to go faster and do more, sauntering allows you to explore your limits with a sense of curiosity and openness. When faced with obstacles, the sauntering approach encourages individuals to stop, assess the situation, and consider alternative paths or solutions. This contrasts with the typical hustle culture that promotes pushing through obstacles without taking the time to reflect or adjust course.

    Join Tonya as she discusses the power of taking a more relaxed and enjoyable approach to personal development and life.

    Talking Points:

    01:41 - The Concept of Sauntering
    02:24 - Visualization Exercise
    03:17 - Sprinting vs. Sauntering
    05:02 - Curiosity Over Frustration
    06:28 - Expanding Limits
    07:43 - Playful Exploration
    08:46 - Creative Problem Solving
    11:02 - Detaching from the Outcome
    16:02 - Lessons from Nature
    20:36 - Micro-Adventures
    22:02 - Style Challenge

    Quotes:

    "You know, we live in a world that's always telling us to push harder, go faster, do more. It's all hustle culture and no pain, no gain."

    "What can I learn from this obstacle? How can I work with it rather than against it?"

    "But a lot of successful people in the world have become successful because of their playful approaches to overcoming their limitations."

    "To truly saunter beyond your limits, you must practice detaching from the outcome."

    "You have the power to saunter beyond your limits. You can be ambitious and enjoy your life. You can make progress without burning out. You're capable of so much more than you know."

    Useful Resources:

    Soul Style Quiz: http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

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  • Interior Design for the Soul: 5 Life Lessons to Elevate Your Self-Image

    One crucial aspect of embracing contrast in life is recognizing and integrating all facets of oneself, including the shadow side. Tonya Leigh explores the significance of embracing contrast in interior design and how it can be applied to life. Just as in design, where contrasting elements can add depth and richness, embracing the diverse aspects of our personalities enables us to explore neglected or denied facets of ourselves, fostering personal growth and self-acceptance.

    Tonya stresses the concept of the shadow side, a term introduced by psychologist Carl Jung, which refers to the darker, less desirable aspects of our personalities that we often try to conceal or suppress. She underscores the importance of not only showcasing our positive traits but also acknowledging and accepting the parts of ourselves that may not always be bright and cheerful.

    Tune in to explore the parallels between interior design choices and self-image transformation.

    Talking Points:

    00:52 - Chaotic House and Podcast Recording

    01:45 - Interior Design Lessons for Life

    02:06 - First Impressions and Self-Image

    03:09 - Designing Your Environment for Self-Image

    04:40 - Creative Brief and Future Vision

    06:10 - Curating Elements of Life

    07:04 - Intentional Curation Beyond Physical Spaces

    08:19 - Five Key Interior Design Principles

    09:12 - Lesson 1: Embrace Contrast

    13:20 - Lesson 2: Create Focal Points

    19:15 - Lesson 3: Functionality is Essential

    25:00 - Lesson 4: Embrace White Space

    31:07 - Lesson 5: Don't Be Afraid of Making Mistakes

    37:02 - Ongoing Process of Life Design

    38:40 - Conclusion and Application

    38:50 - Invitation to Soul Style Quiz

    Quotes:

    "Just as we thoughtfully curate our living spaces, we can intentionally design our lives to reflect our truest selves and support our personal growth."

    "The key is to recognize that these contrasts aren't contradictions. They are complementary aspects of your whole self."

    "We try to be good at so many different things versus really focusing and harnessing on the things that we're naturally good at."

    "Remember, just as white space and design allows important elements to stand out, creating space in your life allows priorities to shine through very clearly."

    Useful Resources:

    Soul Style Quiz: http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

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  • Quality Over Quantity: The Key to an Elegant Closet

    An elegant closet transcends mere clothing and accessories; it is about curating a selection that truly embodies your authentic style, meets your lifestyle needs, and brings you joy every time you open its doors. Tonya Leigh stresses the significance of crafting a closet that effortlessly reflects who you are. This involves meticulously choosing pieces that resonate with your personal style and values.

    When curating an elegant closet, it is crucial to consider not only the visual appeal of the items but also their practicality in meeting your daily lifestyle demands. The clothes and accessories in your closet should serve a purpose and align with the activities and occasions you typically engage in. By ensuring that your wardrobe is tailored to your lifestyle, you can feel confident and comfortable in your outfits, knowing that they cater to your needs.

    Get inspired to turn your closet into a personal sanctuary that truly reflects who you are.

    Talking Points:

    00:44 - Tonya's New Home and Office

    01:37 - Designing an Elegant Closet

    03:03 - Four Essentials of an Elegant Closet

    04:19 - Emotional Benefits of an Elegant Closet

    04:30 - Inspiration from a French Friend

    05:33 - Misconceptions About Elegance

    05:55 - Soul Style Quiz

    07:00 - Solving the "Nothing to Wear" Problem

    07:21 - Easier Packing for Trips

    08:25 - Investing in Timeless Pieces

    10:22 - Challenge: Choosing Quality Pieces

    16:02 - Personal Story: High Heels vs. Sneakers

    20:09 - Organizational Tools and Tips

    26:52 - Final Thoughts on Closet Curation

    Quotes:

    "When I was designing my closet, what I wanted was an elegant closet. And it turns out elegance isn't big. It's not massive. It's not over the top. It's about curating a closet that allows the beautiful expression of you."

    "An elegant closet eliminates decision fatigue, it boosts your self-esteem, and it sets this positive tone for your day."

    "Because let me tell you, no amount of cheap thrills can fill the space that's meant for true quality pieces that resonate with your soul."

    "It is an intimate journey designed for the discerning woman who knows she's capable of more, but needs that extra guidance and inspiration."

    Useful Resources:

    Soul Style Quiz: http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

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  • Creating Harmony: The Art of Morning Rituals

    Creating a beautiful morning routine is not about overwhelming yourself with a long list of tasks but rather about being intentional with small parts of your day. Tonya Leigh believes a healthy morning ritual sets the tone for a successful day and starts with focusing on specific rituals that support your well-being and drive positive energy first thing in the morning.

    Tonya emphasizes the importance of starting the day with a capsule collection of non-negotiable activities that contribute to your overall well-being. These activities can vary from person to person but should be chosen based on what makes you feel better emotionally and sets you up for a successful day.

    Join Tonya as she explores crafting your own beautiful beginnings for a more purposeful day.

    Talking Points:

    01:24 - The Power of Morning Routines

    02:08 - Intentional Small Changes

    02:40 - Soft vs. Hard Mornings

    05:01 - Capsule Collection Concept

    05:33 - No Tech in the Morning

    06:26 - Waking Up Naturally

    07:09 - Better Sleep App

    07:41 - Hydration and Music

    08:46 - Sunshine and Stretching

    09:18 - Honoring Life and Gratitude

    11:51 - Family Time and Journaling

    13:18 - Skincare Routine

    15:05 - Meditation and Breath Work

    17:04 - Soul Style Quiz - http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

    19:44 - Decadent Breakfasts

    22:04 - Structuring Beautiful Beginnings

    23:11 - Creating Intentional Days

    Quotes:

    "I love how it feels when I'm not plugging into the world first thing in the morning because it's coming."

    "I love to honor my life. This is so important."

    "There's something to be said for asking yourself what you can give to your life versus always thinking, what can life give to me?"

    "I really find that my soul is like an old world kind of soul."

    "A beautiful life is nothing more than a collection of beautiful days."

    Useful Resources:

    Soul Style Quiz - http://schoolofselfimage.com/stylequiz

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  • The Art of Becoming: Navigating Life's Transformations

    Embracing the process of becoming involves shedding old identities, beliefs, and habits to align with one's true self. As discussed in the podcast episode, the journey of becoming is likened to a metamorphosis, much like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly. This transformation requires individuals to let go of who they have been to become who they truly are or aspire to be.

    Host, Tonya Leigh, shares her personal experiences of going through various stages of becoming, including facing challenges, reevaluating her identity, and making intentional changes to align with her true nature. She emphasizes the importance of letting go of comfortable ways of being, confronting difficult truths about oneself, and being willing to evolve into a new version.

    Join Tonya as she delves into the process of shedding old identities and embracing new versions of ourselves.

    Talking Points:

    02:32 The Art of Becoming

    05:13 Letting Go of Identities and Beliefs

    10:31 The Butterfly Metamorphosis Analogy

    11:26 - Martha Beck's Change Cycle

    16:17 Cocooning Yourself with Self-Care

    19:30 Square One Mantra

    23:34 Reimagining and Nourishing Your Soul

    28:20 Embracing Failure and Obstacles

    32:05 The Promised Land

    36:45 Embracing Constant Change

    Quotes:

    "We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."

    "This is the part of the butterflies metamorphosis where it's literally dissolving into what she calls a person soup."

    "Coming from the truest part of you, that takes a lot of courage and a lot of people will never do that."

    "I don't know what the hell is going on and that's okay."

    "I don't regret any of this, not a single part of it. I don't believe in regret."

    "You need to give yourself permission to daydream. Let it run wild."

    "That obstacle is there to grow me, not to back away from, not to run from, but to run towards."

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  • Creating a Lasting Impression with Your Soul Style

    Understanding your soul style involves aligning your values, personality, passions, and dreams with your outward appearance. Host Tonya Leigh stresses the importance of knowing and embracing your soul style, which transcends mere clothing choices. She breaks down the components of soul style into four key elements: values, personality, passions, and dreams.

    By paying attention to how you feel in different outfits and embracing the evolution of your style, you can create a wardrobe that truly reflects your inner essence and makes you feel confident, comfortable, and authentic.

    Join Tonya as she delves into the journey of self-discovery and the significance of expressing your inner self through your personal style.

    Talking Points:

    00:00:51 - Personal Update from Tonya

    00:01:45 - Reflecting on Life and Belongings

    00:03:00 - Understanding Soul Style

    00:05:45 - Components of Soul Style

    00:06:32 - Values and Their Impact on Style

    00:10:05 - Personality and Style Expression

    00:12:54 - Dreams and Future Self in Style

    00:16:16 - Creating Your Style Cocktail

    00:17:09 - Primary Style Archetypes

    00:21:03 - Reflecting and Experimenting with Style

    Quotes:

    "It's more about shedding layers to reveal the truth of who you are, the truth of your essence, the truth of your soul."

    "I love taking care of my beauty, and I have been ridiculed for that, and that's okay."

    "What I want for you all is that you are showing up in a way that truly represents who you are at your deepest level, at your core."

    "Your soul style should make you feel confident, comfortable, and like you. It should feel like freedom."

    Useful Resources:

    12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/

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    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

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  • From Overwhelmed to Empowered: Transforming Your Style with Five Key Habits

    Celebrating 400 episodes! In this special episode, Tonya reflects on her podcast journey, starting from her first nervous recording to reaching this significant milestone. She shares the importance of pushing past self-doubt and critical voices to keep going. A heartfelt thank you to listeners and her team for the support.

    Then, Tonya dives into ‘The Five Style Habits That Transformed My Life’.

    Intentional style habits play a crucial role in enhancing personal style, saving time, money, and energy, while boosting confidence and authenticity. In a podcast episode, Tonya Leigh discusses five key style habits that have elevated her life, highlighting their positive impact on overall well-being.

    Intentional Shopping with a Style Vision: Developing a clear style vision helps individuals make intentional shopping decisions, reducing impulse purchases and ensuring every item aligns with their personal style.

    Daily Outfit Photos: Taking daily outfit photos and analyzing them with curiosity rather than criticism helps individuals understand what works for them.

    Quarterly Closet Edits: Regularly reviewing and organizing the closet allows individuals to assess their wardrobe, identify items that no longer serve them, and make room for new pieces that align with their style vision.

    Keeping Everything in Sight: Organizing the closet for maximum visibility helps individuals see and appreciate all their clothing items, reducing the feeling of having nothing to wear.

    Practicing Gratitude for the Wardrobe: Cultivating gratitude for the current wardrobe fosters a positive relationship with clothing, leading to contentment and authenticity.

    Tune in for an inspiring episode filled with gratitude, motivation, and style inspiration.

    Talking Points:

    03:09 Style as form of self-care.

    05:56 Relationship with clothing and style.

    11:09 Style habits for elevated life.

    13:15 Creating a style vision.

    18:36 Elevating style with daily photos.

    26:36 Quarterly Closet Edits

    31:47 Creating a sense of abundance.

    35:30 Gratitude in building a wardrobe.

    42:17 Elevating personal style and confidence.

    Quotes:

    "I want to encourage you, I want to challenge you to think about style as a form of self-care."

    "Style has this trickle effect. Because it's not even about the clothes, it's about you and how you feel."

    "Clothing has helped me create the life that I'm living today."

    "I love the mantra of I'm letting this go so that something else better can take its place."

    "Gratitude can help us enjoy the process of evolving our style."

    Useful Resources:

    12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/

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    Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com

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  • Challenging the Status Quo: The Power of Asking Why

    One of the key themes discussed in the podcast episode is the importance of challenging the status quo by asking why and questioning what we have accepted as normal. Tonya Leigh emphasizes the significance of questioning the beliefs and norms that have been ingrained in us without critical examination.

    Tonya shares a personal anecdote from her childhood where she questioned the teachings in Sunday school, demonstrating her early inclination to challenge the status quo. She highlights how questioning the norms around her led her to develop a mindset of curiosity and critical thinking, which ultimately shaped her ability to challenge societal norms and expectations.

    Join her at the School of Self-Image where personal development meets style, and learn how the audacity to ask can open unexpected doors in your life and career.

    Talking Points:

    01:00 - Gratitude Amidst Chaos

    02:31 - Childhood Memories and Aspirations

    04:17 - The Power of Asking: Transforming Lives

    06:00 - Questioning Societal Rules and Norms

    09:53 - Questioning Religious Teachings

    10:12 - Fighting for Possibilities: How Can I?

    12:27 - The Importance of Quality Questions

    14:45 - Shifting Focus: From Limitations to Possibilities

    16:08 - Overcoming Self-Sufficiency and Asking for Help

    18:29 - The Role of Rejection in Asking

    20:36 - Observing Others: The Power of Asking

    23:02 - The ATM Machine Analogy

    24:11 - Expansive Energy: The Audacity to Ask and Receive

    25:09 - Invitation to Join the Private Podcast Series

    Quotes:

    "Learning to ask the right questions of yourself and others can open doors you never knew existed."

    "If you have the audacity to ask, your life will begin to change in the most beautiful of ways."

    "Energy is everything, my friends, everything. Where your attention goes is where your energy is flowing."

    "I ask for help. I ask for what I want."

    "The more willing you are to ask for what you want, are you also more willing to give without any kind of resentment?"

    "I want you to see you as an ATM machine."

    "A beautiful life requires you."

    Useful Resources:

    12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why/

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    FREE Download: https://schoolofselfimage.com/self-image-manifesto/

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    Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

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  • Failing Forward: Lessons in Style and Business

    Failure is often viewed negatively, but in this episode, Carmin and Sherry Black share with host Tonya Leigh their stories of failure and how they turned it into a stepping stone to success. Carmin explained how her business, Half United, faced a setback due to a manufacturing defect that resulted in a lawsuit. She realized that the failure was not solely due to external factors but also stemmed from her own decisions and priorities.

    Similarly, Sherry Black shared her experiences of encountering obstacles and setbacks in her career as an interior and furniture designer. From relocating from Hawaii to Alaska to launching restaurants in Raleigh, Sherry faced various challenges along the way. However, she emphasized the importance of embracing failure and using it as a learning experience.

    Both Carmen and Sherry's narratives illustrate the significance of embracing failure as a stepping stone toward success. By acknowledging their mistakes, learning from them, and making necessary adjustments, they were able to evolve, grow, and ultimately achieve their goals. Their stories serve as a reminder that failure is not the end but a valuable opportunity for growth and improvement in future endeavors.

    Talking Points:

    02:45 Stylish careers.

    05:15 Childhood fascination with glamorous decor.

    09:42 Fashion faux pas anecdote.

    14:32 Individuality and self-expression.

    18:34 Starting a business with $200.

    24:05 Bullets turned into jewelry.

    28:39 Overcoming failure and resilience.

    30:40 Manufacturing challenges and growth decisions.

    38:33 Embracing challenges for growth.

    44:25 The impact of personal style.

    52:13 Taking risks in business.

    59:25 Experience stacking.

    01:05: Entrepreneurial mindset and resiliency.

    01:16: Signature style preferences.

    01:22: Mr. Rogers obsession.

    01:23: The value of simplicity.

    01:27: Setting daily goals for success.

    01:30:58 Imagine possibilities beyond limits.

    Quotes:

    "Yeah. Yeah, Christian, my brother and I, when we started our first brand, we had no money. I am talking no money. Big money buying mugs from Salvation Army."

    "You can still look chic in your workout Clothes, you know a cute little ponytail and put on some lip gloss and you've changed the whole vibe."

    "Style is timeless and it starts with you."

    Useful Resources:

    12-Week Private Podcast Series: https://schoolofselfimage.com/why

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    Connect with Self-Image Coach, Tonya Leigh:

    Website: https://schoolofselfimage.com

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