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  • Episode Summary:
    In this episode, we explore the difference between peace and apathy, a question sparked by a powerful listener insight: “Peace kind of feels like apathy. I’m so used to intense emotions that now I wonder if I’m doing enough.” If stillness feels unsettling or you’re questioning whether peace means stagnation, this episode is for you.

    We unpack why peace can feel uncomfortable, how to tell the difference between peace and apathy, and how to embrace peace without falling into the chaos of overthinking. I also share practical steps and personal stories to help you trust the stillness and find deeper growth within it.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why peace can feel like apathy when you’re used to chaos. How to distinguish between peace (calm presence) and apathy (disconnection). Practical steps to embrace peace: Get curious about your feelings. Redefine what “enough” means for you. Practice allowing peace in small doses. How to hold space for emotions like hesitation and doubt without chasing answers. Why peace is the foundation for sustainable growth and clarity.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

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    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

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  • Episode Summary: Are you feeling overwhelmed by your thoughts, stuck in a loop of overthinking and ruminating? In this episode, we explore what it means to feel "squeezed up into your head" and how to break free by reconnecting with your body. Learn how overthinking is often a protective mechanism and discover actionable steps to address the deeper fears your mind is shielding you from.

    Chantel shares a personal story of uncovering her own money-related fears and how touching these emotions—rather than just knowing about them—led to profound transformation. This episode is packed with insights, practical exercises, and tools to help you shift from overwhelm to calm, including the highly recommended Holiday Calm Kit.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Understanding Overthinking: Why we tend to "squeeze up into our heads" when emotions feel overwhelming.

    Knowing vs. Touching: The difference between intellectually understanding your fears and truly sitting with them.

    Practical Steps to Reconnect: Actionable techniques to drop into your body and work with the emotions your mind is resisting.

    The Role of Protectors: How parts of your mind create stories to protect you from pain—and how to lovingly work with them.

    Holiday Stress Relief: How the Holiday Calm Kit can help you navigate this busy season with ease and grace.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

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  • Episode Summary:
    In this special Thanksgiving episode, we’re diving into a new way to approach gratitude—especially when it feels hard or out of reach. If the idea of “being thankful” feels like pressure, this episode is for you. We’ll explore the concept of gritty gratitude—what it is, why it matters, and how it can anchor you during life’s toughest moments. You’ll walk away with practical tools to embrace presence, accept your emotions, and create small, meaningful moments—without guilt or pressure.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why gratitude can feel hard during difficult seasons—and why that’s okay. What gritty gratitude is and how it’s different from surface-level gratitude. Practical tools to practice presence and create grounding moments when life feels chaotic. How to let yourself feel your emotions without adding guilt or judgment. Simple ways to notice and appreciate the small, steady anchors in your day.

    Key Takeaways:

    Gritty gratitude anchors you: It’s about finding something real and steady to hold onto during life’s storms. Give yourself permission to feel: Allowing emotions without judgment opens the door to presence and relief. Small moments matter: Noticing the warmth of your drink, the sound of laughter, or the feel of the air can ground you in the present. Kindness toward yourself helps: Speak to yourself like you would a friend—gently and with compassion. Gratitude isn’t about perfection: It’s about noticing what’s real and letting small moments of appreciation grow.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Holiday Intention Kit : A free resource to help you find ease, clarity, and connection during the holiday season.

    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Thank you for listening! If this episode resonated with you, share it with a friend or leave a review. Your support helps more people discover the podcast and find fulfillment in their own lives. Happy Thanksgiving!

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

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  • Show Notes:

    🎄 The holidays don’t have to leave you feeling burned out and overwhelmed. 🎄

    In this episode, we’re tackling the holiday chaos head-on with practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you create the holiday experience you truly want. You’ll learn:

    ✨ How to stay intentional by deciding who you want to be before the season begins.
    ✨ Why setting your "rules for success" is the key to avoiding burnout.
    ✨ The freedom of saying NO—and how it benefits both you and your loved ones.
    ✨ A new way to navigate family dynamics by showing up authentically (and letting go of people-pleasing).

    I’m also sharing personal stories from my own holiday stress moments (eye cutting disasters included!) and how simple shifts made all the difference.

    PLUS, I’ve created a Holiday Intention Kit just for you!
    It includes:
    ✅ A downloadable workbook to help you stay calm and focused this season.
    ✅ 4 brand-new private podcast episodes for those moments of overwhelm, exhaustion, or frustration.

    👉 Click the link below to grab your kit and start thriving this holiday season!

    Let’s make this a season of joy, connection, and love—starting now.

    RESOURCES MENTIONED:
    📥 Get your Holiday Intention Kit + Private Podcast Episodes: Download it here

    If you loved this episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a friend! Let’s spread calm and intention this holiday season. ❤️

    Show Notes: Here

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  • Episode Summary:
    In today’s episode, we’re diving into the concept of holding space—what it means to be present for others and ourselves in moments of intense emotion without judgment, interruption, or the urge to fix. This is a core element of emotionally strong leadership, and it’s foundational for creating authentic, lasting connections.

    Inspired by a powerful video of a dad holding space for his daughter’s big emotions, we’ll explore how this simple act can transform relationships and deepen our own emotional resilience. Holding space isn’t just for others; it’s also a skill we can cultivate to better support ourselves. Tune in to discover how to embrace this transformative practice in your own life.

    Topics Covered:

    What Does It Mean to Hold Space?
    We define what holding space truly means and why it’s more than just being physically present. Learn why this practice involves active patience, empathy, and the ability to stay grounded.

    Why Holding Space Matters:
    Holding space creates a safe environment where people feel seen, accepted, and free to be themselves. For us, it’s an opportunity to grow our own emotional resilience and practice deeper empathy and connection.

    Examples of Holding Space in Different Scenarios:

    Holding Space for Others’ Emotions: How to be there for someone without jumping in to fix or solve. Holding Space for Ourselves: Learning how to be there for ourselves during difficult emotions without rushing to change or judge what we’re feeling.

    Practical Tips to Start Holding Space Today:
    Discover simple techniques for cultivating this skill in your life, including grounding yourself, practicing non-judgmental listening, making room for silence, and fostering self-compassion.

    Key Takeaways:

    Holding space is an active choice to allow others (and ourselves) to experience emotions fully, without judgment or the need to fix. Emotionally strong leadership requires presence, patience, and stability. By practicing this with others, we create a space for genuine connection and trust. Holding space for ourselves can be deeply transformative, helping us embrace all parts of ourselves with compassion and acceptance.

    Action Steps:

    Reflect on how you currently respond to others’ emotions. Are you quick to give advice or fix? Practice simply listening without needing to solve. Try holding space for yourself by setting aside time to sit with your emotions without judgment. Start with just a few minutes, acknowledging what you’re feeling and allowing it to be there. Ground yourself with a few deep breaths next time someone shares something emotional. It will help you stay present and supportive without absorbing their energy.

    Quotes:

    “Holding space isn’t passive—it’s an active choice to set aside your own discomfort, your need to fix, and allow others to be as they are.” “Emotionally strong leadership begins with the willingness to hold space, both for ourselves and those we lead.”

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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  • In today’s episode, we’re diving into a concept we all want more of but often struggle to fully understand: trust. Trust isn’t just a word—it’s a way of living that invites us to let go, have faith, and embrace the journey without needing to control every detail. But what does that really look like?

    Join me as we explore the nuances of trust, faith, and surrender. We’ll discuss why trust is so essential to our growth and well-being, and why letting go of the "how" and "when" can actually move us closer to our goals.

    In This Episode, You'll Learn:

    What trust really means and why we need it to thrive How the need to control can hold us back from reaching our goals Three relatable examples of trust in action—money, coaching, and weight loss Simple ways to invite more trust into your daily life How to embrace the fear that arises when we release control and use it as a guide for deeper growth

    Whether you're seeking more confidence in your career, relationships, health, or personal growth, this episode will give you practical tools to let go, lean in, and move forward with a renewed sense of trust.

    Tune in, and let’s uncover The Power of Trust together!

    Remember, trust isn’t about knowing every step of the journey—it’s about having the courage to start.

    Show Notes: Here

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    Episode Description: In the spirit of Halloween, we're diving into a topic that's both spooky and deeply transformative. Join Chantel Allen as she explores the "haunted house" within each of us—the place where the "ghosts" of our past live. These aren't ghosts to be feared, but parts of ourselves that show up to be acknowledged and healed.

    In this episode, Chantel shares why so many of us feel haunted by old stories, limiting beliefs, and past experiences, and how these “ghosts” show up in our lives. Through the analogy of a haunted house, she explains how to navigate these internal characters, bring compassion to each room in our inner "house," and ultimately free ourselves from past wounds. This episode is a must-listen if you’re ready to turn on the lights within, face your fears, and welcome every part of yourself.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why the ghosts of our past aren't here to harm us but to teach us. How the different characters within us—like the hustler, the perfectionist, or the "not good enough" self—are like ghosts in our inner house. Why acknowledging and understanding these parts of ourselves is essential for self-compassion and growth. How to go through your inner house, turning on lights of love and acceptance, and welcoming each part with kindness. The importance of letting go of linear thinking about our past to release the hold of old, unhealed parts of ourselves. Practical steps for embracing and creating a safe space for every part of who you are.

    Key Takeaways:

    You Are the House: No matter what "ghosts" or old characters appear, you are the whole and complete structure. The ghosts are just parts of you, not the entirety of who you are.

    Why Ghosts Appear: Just like traditional ghost stories, our inner ghosts need to be heard and understood. They're asking for attention, not avoidance.

    Creating Space for All Parts of You: Learn how to welcome each part of yourself—even the parts that feel "not good enough" or fearful—with compassion. Each part has something valuable to teach.

    Embrace, Don’t Fix: Instead of fixing these parts, create a safe, loving “house” within you where each part can exist peacefully. Just like a loving home, you are safe and complete just as you are.

    Reflection Questions:

    Who are the "ghosts" or characters that show up in your life? What are they trying to tell you? How can you create more space for these parts of yourself? What does it mean for you to turn on the lights of love and acceptance in your inner “house”?

    Subscribe & Leave a Review: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe so you never miss a future episode. Also, I’d love to hear your thoughts—leave a review and let me know what resonated with you!

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    Show Notes: Here

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  • Emotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list.

    Episode Summary:
    In this episode, we dive deep into a common struggle many coaches face: feeling stuck despite implementing all the “right” strategies. You’ve tried the funnels, the ads, the social media tactics—but something’s still not working. The truth? It’s not the funnel—it’s you. We’ll explore how unresolved emotional issues are the real barriers to your success, and I’ll share practical tips on how to start addressing them so you can finally break through. Plus, I’ll introduce my new program, Emotion Mastery for Coaches, designed to help you achieve emotional alignment and unlock the true potential of your strategies.

    Key Takeaways:

    External Strategies vs. Internal Blocks
    Learn why no strategy can work if you’re not emotionally aligned with your business goals and how unresolved emotions like fear, doubt, or imposter syndrome can sabotage your efforts.

    Why Emotional Alignment Matters
    Understand how your thoughts and emotions directly influence the actions you take and why working from a place of fear or self-doubt leads to resistance and poor results.

    Practical Tips to Overcome Emotional Blocks:

    Identify Your Emotional Triggers: Reflect on moments of resistance in your business and recognize the underlying emotions. Stop Pushing Through Resistance: Learn how to acknowledge and observe emotions instead of trying to force your way through them. Get Support: Discover the importance of having a coach to help you identify blind spots and shift your emotional state.

    Introducing the Emotion Mastery for Coaches
    Discover how my new program will help you align emotionally with your business goals, allowing your strategies to finally start working for you. Learn how emotional transformation leads to tangible business success.

    Subscribe & Leave a Review: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe so you never miss a future episode. Also, I’d love to hear your thoughts—leave a review and let me know what resonated with you!

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    Show Notes: Here

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    In this episode, we explore the powerful transformation that happens when we stop trying to control our lives and instead allow ourselves to surrender and receive. Chantel Allen breaks down the concept of letting go of agendas, stepping into the present moment, and embracing both light and darkness as essential parts of the journey.

    Through heartfelt analogies like dust illuminated by sunlight and the tension between survival mode and surrender, Chantel guides listeners through the process of unwinding the patterns that keep us stuck. She explains why we often feel a deeper fear when we open ourselves up to more love and connection—and how acknowledging our fear allows us to heal.

    Listeners will learn:

    How surrender leads to receiving more light and clarity in life The difference between agendas and intentions—and why it matters Why embracing darkness allows us to access more light Practical ways to tune into the present moment and let go of control How to break free from old patterns, trust yourself, and feel whole in the "Now"

    Whether you're feeling overwhelmed, seeking breakthroughs, or simply trying to trust the process of life, this episode offers profound insights on moving from fear and control to freedom and abundance.

    If you want to get info on the Emotion Mastery for Coaches program launch- click here to get on the list.

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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  • In this episode, we dive into the important distinction between feeling your emotions and reacting to them. Often, we think we're processing our emotions, but we're really avoiding them—whether through distraction, busying ourselves, or even clinging to others. I share stories from clients who have transformed their emotional experiences by learning to sit with their feelings, instead of running from them. We’ll explore how staying present with your emotions, even the uncomfortable ones, leads to deeper connection, more freedom, and lasting joy. I also provide practical tools you can start using today, including a daily body scan exercise, journaling prompts, and insights into how to embrace your emotions without letting them control you.

    What You’ll Learn:

    How to recognize when you’re reacting to your emotions instead of feeling them. Why avoiding your emotions creates disconnection and keeps you stuck. The importance of staying in the room with your emotions and allowing them to move through you. How to bring compassion to the parts of yourself that are feeling shame, grief, or other heavy emotions. A practical daily body scan exercise to help you become more emotionally aware. Journal prompts to deepen your relationship with your emotions.

    Key Takeaways:

    Feeling vs. Reacting:
    Emotions are meant to be felt in the body, not analyzed or avoided. Recognizing whether you're reacting to your emotions (through distractions or overthinking) or truly feeling them is the first step to emotional freedom.

    Story of Grief & Connection:
    One client realized that her urge to cling to her son’s childhood moments was a way to avoid feeling the grief of him growing up. By staying present with the grief, she found clarity and was able to connect more deeply with herself.

    Compassion for Younger You:
    A client feeling shame visualized a 6-year-old version of herself hiding in a dark basement. By staying with the emotion and offering compassion to her younger self, she brought light to the shame without needing to 'fix' it.

    Practical Tools:

    Body Scan Exercise: A simple way to get out of your head and into your body. Spend a few minutes each day scanning for where you feel tension or sensations, and breathe into them without judgment. Journal Prompts: Use journaling to explore what emotions you avoid, how you typically react, and what it means to show compassion to yourself in those moments.

    Temporary Nature of Emotions:
    Emotions are temporary, and resisting them only makes them last longer. By learning to sit with them, you let them flow through, allowing for more joy and connection in your life.

    Action Steps:

    Try the body scan exercise each day this week. Take just two minutes to notice what’s happening in your body, name the sensations, and breathe into them. Use the following journal prompts to explore your emotional patterns: What emotions do I avoid most often? Why do I avoid them? What’s a recent situation where I reacted to an emotion instead of feeling it? What would I have done differently? What does compassion look like when I sit with an uncomfortable emotion?

    Show Notes: Here

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  • Episode Overview: In this episode, we dive deep into emotional exhaustion—what it is, how it affects us, and how to move through it. Whether you're a mom, leader, or coach, emotional exhaustion can creep in when you’re constantly carrying the weight of others’ emotions. Today, Chantel shares personal stories and real-world examples of how emotional exhaustion shows up, especially when you’re supporting others, and offers actionable steps to process and complete your own emotional cycle so you can recharge and show up fully again.

    Key Takeaways:

    Emotional exhaustion is when we don’t complete the emotional cycle—leaving us stuck and drained. It’s common for moms, leaders, and coaches to experience emotional exhaustion because of how much we carry emotionally for others. Emotions have a beginning, middle, and end. Exhaustion happens when we don't finish this process. Recognizing, allowing, and processing your own emotions is key to breaking free from emotional exhaustion. Emotional exhaustion isn’t about finding the "why" of your feelings; it's about feeling them all the way through, neck down, and giving your emotions space to move.

    Steps to Move Through Emotional Exhaustion:

    Recognize and name your emotions – Instead of thinking your way through, sink into your body and let yourself feel. Allow space for your emotions to process – Cry, feel sad, angry, or overwhelmed, but do it with intention. Complete the emotional cycle – Don't just stop when you're done helping others—take time to finish feeling what’s come up for you personally.

    Guided Meditation:
    In the final part of this episode, Chantel leads a 10-minute guided meditation designed to help you identify and process any lingering emotions. This exercise helps you fully complete the emotional cycle and release any emotional exhaustion you may be carrying.

    COMING SOON:
    Don’t forget! My new Emotional Coaching Mastery Program is opening soon, where we’ll dive even deeper into these principles to help you process emotions and recharge so you can show up fully for yourself and those you lead.

    Show Notes: Here

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  • In today’s episode, Chantel dives deep into the concept of the inner fixer and doer—the part of us that’s constantly striving to solve problems, take action, and make everything better. While this part of us may have served us in the past, it’s not always supporting our growth in the present. Chantel explores why we often default to this “fixer” mindset and how we can begin to heal it by shifting from doing to being. Learn how to recognize when the fixer is active, why it’s okay to let it rest, and what lies beyond the constant need to solve everything. Stick around for a powerful guided meditation designed to help you notice and release the fixer, and simply allow yourself to be.

    Key Topics Covered:

    What the inner fixer and doer are, and why they show up The role of the fixer in protecting us in the past Why the fixer mindset may no longer be serving you today How constantly doing and fixing can lead to overwhelm and disconnection The importance of moving from doing to being in our daily lives A guided meditation to help you lovingly notice, allow, and rest the fixer

    Takeaways:

    Understand why your inner fixer exists and how it may have served a purpose in the past. Recognize when the fixer is active in your mind and body. Learn how to lovingly acknowledge and allow the fixer to rest. Experience the power of shifting from doing to being, and how that can create space for healing and inner peace.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Guided meditation for noticing and releasing the inner fixer (included in this episode).

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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  • In this episode, Chantel interviews Julie Merrill, an experienced sex coach, to explore how the thoughts we have about sex deeply impact our level of desire and fulfillment in our intimate relationships. Together, they dive into key topics around desire, misconceptions about sex, and how women can reclaim their connection to sexual pleasure.

    Key Takeaways:

    The Power of Your Thoughts: Julie explains how our mindset and beliefs about sex shape our overall experience and desire, often creating mental blocks we aren’t even aware of. Sex is for Women Too: Challenging societal narratives, Julie highlights how women’s pleasure and desires are just as important and how embracing this truth can transform relationships. Bringing More Desire into Your Life: Practical tips on how women can cultivate more desire and connection in their intimate lives by shifting their thinking and focusing on their own needs. Understanding Your Unique Desires: A deep dive into how to discover what truly fuels your desire and the importance of self-awareness and open communication in building a fulfilling sex life.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Julie Merrills free 30 min call link.

    Show Notes: Here

    Connect with Me: Email: [email protected] Website: www.chantelallencoaching.com Youtube: @ChantelAllenCoaching Instagram:@chantelallencoaching

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  • Episode Summary:
    In this powerful episode, Chantel Allen dives deep into the transformative question: What if love was the only goal? We explore the profound impact of making love our primary focus, rather than control or external validation. Chantel discusses how love is our true essence and how reconnecting with this truth can simplify and enrich our lives. From self-compassion to surrender, she offers practical insights on shifting from control to love in our relationship with ourselves, others, and even money. Tune in to discover how embracing love can lead to true healing and lasting joy.

    Key Takeaways:

    Love is not something we need to seek outside ourselves; it is who we are at our core. Shifting from control to love can transform our relationship with ourselves, our loved ones, and our approach to money. Surrendering control and choosing love, even in difficult situations, is where true healing begins. Practical steps to start embracing love over control in daily life. The importance of connecting with our emotions and learning to love all parts of ourselves, even those we struggle with.

    Questions to Reflect On:

    What would change in your life if you made love the ultimate goal? How does control show up in your life, and what would it look like to replace that control with love? What small steps can you take today to practice self-compassion and surrender?

    Resources Mentioned:

    Interested in going deeper? Sign up for 1:1 coaching with Chantel Allen to learn how to love more and build a stronger connection with yourself. Sign up here!

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  • Episode Summary:

    In this episode, Chantel Allen dives into a powerful and often overlooked truth: the cure for the pain is in the pain itself. Whether you're dealing with physical discomfort, emotional turmoil, strained relationships, financial stress, or a crisis of faith, there’s a transformative opportunity hidden within the struggle. Chantel explores the different pillars of pain and how each one offers us a chance to grow, learn, and step more fully into the person we’re meant to be.

    What You’ll Learn:

    How physical pain can be an invitation to slow down, listen to your body, and make self-care a priority. Why emotional pain often signals the need for deeper self-awareness and healing. How relationship pain can reveal important truths about boundaries, self-love, and personal growth. The surprising lessons that financial pain can teach us about abundance and security. How to reframe faith-related pain as an opportunity for deeper vulnerability and spiritual connection. A step-by-step process to recognize, allow, and learn from pain in all its forms.

    Key Takeaways:

    Pain isn’t just something to be fixed or avoided; it’s a powerful teacher that invites us to grow. Each type of pain—whether physical, emotional, relational, financial, or spiritual—holds a unique lesson. By embracing and learning from our pain, we can transform it into a pathway for deeper self-discovery and personal evolution.

    Quotes from the Episode:

    "The cure for the pain is in the pain itself. It’s not just about fixing it but learning from it." "Pain is permission to grow, to step into the person you’re meant to be." "When you stop running from the pain and start asking what it’s trying to teach you, you unlock a whole new level of growth."

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  • Welcome to today's podcast, where we'll explore the transformative power of compassionate witnessing and why it is essential in our personal development journey. Compassionate witnessing involves being fully present with others, validating their experiences, and offering empathetic support. This practice not only fosters healing and growth but also creates a profound sense of connection and understanding.

    In our fast-paced world, we often struggle to find spaces where we can express ourselves freely and be truly heard. Whether we're dealing with personal challenges, navigating complex relationships, or striving for emotional growth, having someone who can compassionately witness our journey makes a significant difference. Compassionate witnessing provides a foundation for authentic connections, deep healing, and meaningful progress.

    In this episode, we'll discuss why we struggle to "do the work," the critical role of coaches, mentors, and therapists, and the importance of finding the right one for you. We'll also delve into the concepts of holding space, balancing compassion with objectivity, and how to effectively progress in adult emotional development. Moreover, we'll explore how these principles benefit not just coaches, but also moms, leaders, and individuals in various roles.

    Let's dive into the power of compassionate witnessing and uncover why we need it to truly thrive.

    Key Takeaways

    The Power of Compassionate Witnessing:

    Validation and Empathy: Being fully present and empathetic validates others' experiences and emotions. Non-Judgmental Support: Creates a space where individuals feel seen, heard, and understood without judgment. Healing and Growth: Fosters healing and encourages deeper self-exploration and personal growth.

    Why We Struggle to "Do the Work":

    Fear of Change: Change can trigger anxiety and resistance. Self-Doubt: Questioning our capabilities and worthiness can hinder motivation. Lack of Awareness: Unconscious patterns and behaviors may go unnoticed. Emotional Pain: Facing deep-seated issues can be painful, leading to avoidance.

    Role of a Coach/Mentor/Therapist:

    Self-Discovery: Helps uncover hidden aspects of ourselves. Safe Space Creation: Provides a non-judgmental and supportive environment for exploration. Guidance and Support: Offers tools, insights, and encouragement.

    Finding the Right Coach/Mentor/Therapist:

    Resonance and Alignment: Essential to find someone who resonates with us and aligns with our values. Trust and Connection: A strong, trusting relationship is foundational. Specialization and Expertise: Look for expertise in areas relevant to your goals.

    Holding Space: Meaning and Importance:

    Providing Presence: Offering undivided attention and support. Facilitating Expression: Allows free expression in a safe environment. Promoting Healing: Crucial for emotional healing and growth.

    Balancing Compassion and Objectivity:

    Emotional Boundaries: Maintaining healthy boundaries to offer compassion without losing objectivity. Active Listening: Staying objective while being empathetic. Reflective Responses: Offering feedback that encourages self-discovery.

    Progressing in Adult Emotional Development:

    Self-Reflection: Regular self-reflection and mindfulness practices. Seeking Support: Engaging with coaches, mentors, or therapists. Continuous Learning: Embracing a growth mindset and challenging experiences. Building Resilience: Developing emotional resilience through coping strategies and self-care practices.

    Applying These Principles in Various Roles:

    As a Mom: Modeling Behavior: Demonstrating emotional resilience and self-awareness. Creating Safe Spaces: Providing a supportive environment for children. Enhancing Communication: Improved self-awareness leads to better family communication. As a Leader: Empathetic Leadership: Understanding and addressing team members' emotional needs. Building Trust: Creating a safe space for open communication. Effective Conflict Resolution: Emotional intelligence aids in resolving conflicts constructively. In Personal Relationships: Deepening Connections: Compassionate witnessing and holding space strengthen relationships. Supporting Growth: Encouraging and supporting loved ones in their personal development journeys.

    Topics Covered:

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  • In this powerful episode, we explore the transformative concept of surrender and how it can become a vital tool when faced with overwhelming challenges. Whether you're dealing with relationship issues, health problems, financial struggles, or career obstacles, surrendering can open the door to divine guidance and support.

    Key Takeaways:

    Understanding Surrender: We discuss what it means to truly surrender, differentiating it from giving up, and how surrender is about opening ourselves to new possibilities and divine support.

    Recognizing the Signs: Learn how to identify when you are at the point of wanting to give up and how to shift your mindset towards surrender instead.

    The Role of Faith: Explore the importance of faith in the surrender process, including how to trust in God's plan and timing.

    Practical Steps to Surrender: Get practical tips on how to cultivate a surrender mindset, maintain patience, and stay open to guidance from the universe or God.

    Personal Stories: Hear personal anecdotes and stories about how surrendering has led to breakthroughs and newfound clarity for many.

    Topics Covered:

    The emotional and mental states associated with wanting to give up. Differentiating between giving up and surrendering. The importance of recognizing our limitations and seeking divine help. The process of surrendering: what it looks like and how to do it. Trusting in divine timing and maintaining patience. The role of energy and mindset in the surrender process. How to stay open to signs, synchronicities, and divine guidance.

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  • In this episode, we dive deep into the transformative power of coaching, focusing on the twin pillars of Agency and Love. Discover how these two elements can help you break free from past traumas, cultivate emotional independence, and foster deeper, more meaningful connections. We will explore how embracing agency leads to freedom, and how this newfound freedom enhances our capacity to love ourselves and others. Through real-life examples, including touching client stories, we learn practical steps to harness the vibrations of love and practice self-compassion.

    Key Topics Discussed:

    The Essence of Agency:

    Understanding agency as choice and freedom. Personal empowerment and emotional independence. Breaking free from past hurts and transforming them into wisdom.

    The Role of Love:

    How love expands as we gain more freedom. The importance of sending out positive vibrations. The health benefits of love and how it improves overall well-being.

    Practical Exercises:

    A 15-second love meditation practice. Guided visualization exercises for self-compassion and healing past wounds.

    Real-Life Applications:

    Client stories demonstrating the power of agency and love. Practical advice on how to love yourself and others more deeply.

    Spiritual and Scientific Insights:

    References to Dan Siegel’s work on neuroplasticity and vibrations. Integrating religious teachings with modern science for holistic growth.

    Inspirational Quotes:

    "Agency is the gift of coaching, creating freedom by transforming pain into wisdom." "The freer we get, the more capacity we have to love." "Love yourself with both your strengths and struggles."

    Call to Action:

    Practice the 15-second love meditation daily. Reflect on how you can foster both agency and love in your life. Share this episode with someone who needs to hear this message.

    Resources Mentioned:

    Dan Siegel’s work on neuroplasticity and vibrations. Matthew 22:35-40 on loving God and neighbors.

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  • In this episode, we explore the transformative power of shifting our focus from impressing others to blessing them. Learn how this simple mindset change can lead to deeper self-discovery, authentic connections, and a more fulfilling life. We'll discuss practical tips and share inspiring stories to help you embrace the blessing mindset.

    Key Points:

    Introduction to the Topic:

    Definition of "impressing" vs. "blessing." The common societal emphasis on impressing others. The benefits of shifting focus to blessing.

    How It Relates to Life Coaching:

    Many people feel stuck in their personal growth journey. External validation vs. internal fulfillment. The importance of focusing outward to understand and connect with oneself.

    Benefits of Seeking to Bless:

    Releases Pressure: Frees mental and emotional space for self-exploration. Authenticity: Encourages genuine interactions and self-discovery. Connection: Fosters deeper, more meaningful relationships. Purpose and Fulfillment: Brings a sense of satisfaction from positively impacting others.

    Practical Tips to Start Blessing:

    Listen Actively: Truly listen in conversations to understand and support. Acts of Kindness: Small, thoughtful actions can make a big difference. Practice Gratitude: Appreciate and express gratitude for the people in your life. Reflect on Intentions: Consider whether actions are motivated by impressing or blessing. Serve Your Community: Volunteer and get involved in community service.

    Inspiring Story:

    Susan's transformation from seeking approval to finding fulfillment in helping others. How volunteering at a local shelter helped her reconnect with her true self.

    Conclusion:

    Reflect on personal life and identify areas to shift focus from impressing to blessing. Embrace the journey of self-discovery through genuine connections and acts of kindness.

    Call to Action:

    Reflect on where you're striving to impress and how you can start blessing instead. Subscribe, share, and leave a review if you enjoyed the episode. Remember, self-discovery is best traveled together – let's keep transforming and blessing each other along the way.

    Podcast discussed today:

    All In: Bonnie Cordon- Letting Him Direct Thy Paths

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  • This series it to take us back to the basics and support those who may not be familiar with how to get started with awareness, acceptance and changing that relationship with themselves. In this epsiode we discuss the thing that can stop us from even getting to awareness or acceptance of our brains... which is that fear of us seeing what we're thinking. Join us as we explore the analogy of the castle and how that can help us take a step into our brains and closer to acceptance.

    Key Discussion Points:

    Introduction to Beginners:

    What typically stops us from getting to acceptance Why that isn't a problem

    Envisioning our brains like a castle:

    How seeing our brains like a castle can help What it means to be the architect of ourselves How to step in the foyer doors

    Practical Steps to Cultivate Acceptance:

    Strategies to stay in the room Allowing the fear Writing it all down (thought downloads)

    Conclusion:

    Recap of the key points discussed. Encouragement to continue exploring acceptance in your own life.

    Call to Action:

    We want to hear from you! Share your thoughts and experiences on practicing acceptance. Follow me on social media and join the conversation using the hashtag #EmbraceYourMind.

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