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Evan Harrel and Laura Berland are back as guests on Mindfulness At Work to further discuss Compassionate Leadership at work. They founded and lead the non-profit organization, Center for Compassionate Leadership, and help train leaders for many corporations.
In this episode, they explain the evidence and science behind the ability to relate to others in a compassionate way. They share that it starts in the way we see ourselves. It seems so simple but it's not. It's really difficult to relate to others in a healthy manner if we treat ourselves in challenging ways. In fact, there are over 2000 research studies related to the benefits of self-compassion. How does self-compassion heighten the levels of productivity at work or depth of relationships? It's in learning that we don’t need external validation to feel nurtured and supported.
In order to exemplify this concept and how it works, Laura shares a personal story about the wild success she experienced in an entrepreneurial venture and yet she still didn't feel satisfied or validated. She regrets missing out on calm moments with her son during this time. We can be tricked into thinking, “I’m doing all of this work for my son”, but that's not the truest sentiment.
They also reference Dr. Kirsten Neff's work on self compassion. She has the most published, best research in the field, and the her website,self-compassion.org houses an entire section on familial relationships.
There is a direct tie between self-compassion, growth mindset, and resiliency. It all revolves around knowing when something doesn’t go the way we plan, how to proceed and survive it anyway. A self-compassionate person recognizes everything won’t work out just right all of the time but that they can and will recover. They learn from the situation so it isn’t costly for them in the future. Leaders are at their best when they are accepting of their own failures. They are modeling vulnerability and therefore, everyone can relate to them.
Jeff Weiner is a prime example of an executive chairman garnering amazing results for LinkedIn's culture and bottom line. He talks about his own transformation from being a difficult person without emotional intelligence skills to recognizing and becoming a compassionate leader. He has helped to bring those skills into the core values of LinkedIn. He is one of the most outspoken executives in the business world championing the importance of building a compassionate and truthful corporate culture. He learned it first-hand for himself and valued the results.
This is the type of transformation that takes place and feedback The Center for Compassionate Leadership receives from the participants in their resiliency training.
People at the top of their organizations have the opportunity to be in community with other leaders who are feeling and experiencing shared challenges and that makes all the difference. An aspect of compassion work that people don’t talk about is that it can be viewed as a sign of weakness. However, all it takes is intention and practice to recognize that in every interaction if we hone our compassion skills it is actually a strength.
Unfortunately, some leaders want the hack, to get from point A to point B and to jump over the pond of the inner work. Yet the growth is elicited by the muck below the surface. We must go through the muck to get out on the other side. As Margaret Mead states, "We shouldn’t teach people what to think, we should teach them how to think".
A warm thanks to Evan and Laura for their contributions. Register for The Center for Compassionate Leadership Resiliency Training this Fall.Do not miss it!
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Listen to this informative episode of Mindfulness at Work with Laura Berland and Evan Harrel, the founders of The Center for Compassionate Leadership. Laura is the Center's Executive Director and she is a serial tech entrepreneur, former Fortune 500 executive, meditation teacher, yoga therapist, nonprofit founder/board member, executive mentor, and digital media veteran. Evan is the Center's Chief Operations Officer. He has an MBA from Harvard's Business School and has served in the nonprofit sector as the executive director for a group of inner-city Houston preschools. He was an investment manager for 20 years, where he managed a thirty-billion-dollar mutual fund. Wow -what a duo!
Their years of corporate experience combined with their expertise in the emerging field of compassionate leadership have informed the creation of their groundbreaking curriculum for executives and leaders. In this episode, our listeners learn what the non-profit, Center for Compassionate Leadership does and how it serves our world. Their focus is on training leaders, to use them as an important point of leverage, to help grow the ripples of compassion and mindfulness across the globe.
They teach that mindfulness is the foundation for all the transformational work they execute within a structure and how it is the basis for all of the trainings and consulting they do. It's an acute awareness that we all have access to but we need to cultivate, in order to see clearly and make decisions informed by wholeness. They teach why relationships and connection are innate human needs and how to access the benefits of both by engaging in an awareness of one's energy and thoughts. Organizations should begin putting their hearts around their goals and decisions. They should let go of traditional obstacles that don't serve our culture's desire to flourish as connected, safe human beings.
All of their work is a combination of evidence-based neuroscience and behavioral research, resulting in proactive, results-oriented leaders who want to apply a human-centered approach to enhance personal and organizational effectiveness.
Evan and Laura teach us why leadership always starts with self-compassion and explain how to practice the art of compassion.
Leaders and Leadership qualities and traits can be harnessed in many ways but must include:
1) Intense self-awareness
2) Being approachable
3) Having the wisdom to act
4)Possessing the courage for establishing boundaries- for home, work, and for yourself- which is the very hardest.
They are excited to help in the creation of a new environment for the workforce. They know going "back" to work after the reopening will look different and might be hard, but there will also be a period of deep inquiry and growth opportunity. It will be rewarding to those who are responsive and will open up creativity for deeper problem solving. We can learn a new way of working together in order to heal from the collective grief we've all experienced over the past 18 months. Are you ready?
Please reach Laura or Evan for more information about The Center for Compassionate Leadership. We are all carrying forth the information that the Mental Health Awareness the Month of May presented to us, and now it's time to apply solutions and support in the Month of June and beyond. Their work will help us all in taking action steps to do so.
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In this episode, we talk with Christina Glickman about the power of community and why being a bright light for others is her life's goal. Christina recently wrote the book, xtra the art of being. She wants other people to see that she's OK just being herself, in case they want to try the same for themselves. The book and her community following, are for strong, loving, purpose-driven women that are looking to step into life with unapologetic confidence. In the realization that she doesn’t know everything, her self-confidence deepens. The book has great stories and so many beautiful pictures. The pictures were taken, not for the purpose of using them in the book but just to take them. They ended up being perfect for it. Writing the book was more about the journey and the process. She wasn’t attached to the outcome of publishing the book or what it would garner. She learned so much by just doing it. One quote from the book that reflects this philosophy is,
“The world is aching for you to do what you love. Look for it. Find it. Hold onto it. Then let it go when it doesn’t give you joy. The search is real happiness. The search is what’s brave, finding it isn’t.” She wants people to show up in this world with hopes and dreams and know the only one holding them back is themselves. She wants to show others that in having permission to open up in the world and in being vulnerable, that they will receive.
She thinks mothers need to share more authentic stories about their trials and tribulations. It’s really hard to have kids in this world who are being taught that the end result is paramount to their existence. It’s truly destroying our children and it's all based on our own parenting fears. Kids can’t live up to the standards we put on them. They just need to be who they are. Christina thinks if you want your kids to be kind, empathetic, and compassionate then you need to be kind and compassionate. There’s nothing better than a role model.
Christina asks herself a couple of questions each day: Am I joyful? Do my kids feel OK? Does my husband? Did I do something to make someone feel better? And if she answers yes to those questions, she knows that she’s living a life well-lived. One reason she’s able to show up in the world in this way is that her father made her feel special, safe, and seen. She has a strong sense of self and that came from her feeling that she’s good enough.
We also discuss the non-traditional names of her children, her iconic hairstyle, and how she’s emboldened and buoyed by her decisions for both. If she's sure that the names she's chosen for her children are because they are right for her, then she can handle all of the comments and side-eyed looks she receives. And, therefore, stand by them. The more people tell her to change her hair, the more it comes to define her and she wants to keep it. So much so, that she provides a beautiful parenting success story for us to learn from. In the face of hurt, tears, and pain she graciously explains why she's keeping her hairstyle for herself to her 2nd-grade daughter even though her daughter's friend told her how weird her mom is for having it.
Her favorite quote from the book is: “Here’s is what I know. That I don’t know. There is power in the unknown. Sit in the I don’t know. It’s a confident place to be. Trust me." We trust you, Christina, thanks for living out your philosophies loud and proud and showing us that being extra is an art!
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Jim Cogan is a published author, a yoga instructor and the CEO/Owner of James Cogan Wellness. Jim’s new book, Dude Get a Clue was born out of his realizations and experiences as a white male in America and one of the structural problems in society: white male privilege. He believes men have lost their compass and this loss of direction has created what he calls a “decency deficit.” No preaching here. Dude is definitely not a self-help book, and Jim is not demonizing men, but rather offering insight on how to restore decency back into our national dialog. Decency between genders, races, parties,etc.
In his experience, when faced with fear or anxiety, men resort to isolationism, man caves, pandemic notwithstanding. There is value to solitude, but when it becomes a cave where you are removing yourself from the dialog – from loved ones, society – no good can come from that. Men don’t know they need to offer help and ask for help. They tend to mistake empathy and kindness with weakness. At Mindfulness at Work and Cara Pollard Coaching, we have found the men we work with might present as tough and angry but they can be very kind and caring. They just have to be shown how to tap into that side and may need help in designing a plan to do so.
Jim wants men to understand that asking for help is a strength, not a weakness. He encourages men to be curious about the great world around us. Get out of the man cave! As he says in the book “if Tony Soprano can ask for help any guy can.“
Our discussion touches upon ego – moving from ego to essence. So many people (not just men) reside in their ego. We must work at understanding the concept of our own essence; we don’t just one day wake up in our essence. Jim opens up about his own experience with therapy and how it helped him realize his true self and how he learned self-forgiveness and self-acceptance. “For me, self-forgiveness was Step 1”, Jim explains. He encourages practicing self-forgiveness as opposed to chronically beating yourself up. Laugh at yourself as you would with a dear friend. Be a dear friend to yourself.
As a yogi with a master’s in health, Jim also shares his thoughts on the physical and mental health benefits of yoga and meditation. Practicing yoga brings you more in touch with you – not just your body – your essence, your breath. When you practice just being you, you become more accepting of yourself. Studies of brain wave patterns have proven that meditation brings you away from lower brain (rage, lust, fear) and into higher brain functions such as compassion. When you practice yoga, you are more aware of energy, yours and that of others. In Jim’s journey he realized the human condition and how much of our energy is comprised of fear, noting how fearful many are of yoga. “It’s amazing to me: a culture that is so passive, not harmful, not aggressive in any way, can actually feel like an intimidating world to enter.”
You can be a dude who doesn’t have a clue and live a life that may not be as joyous or thriving, but you can get a clue. In Dude Get a Clue, Jim suggests many ways to live a more purposeful life.
Dude Get a Clue is scheduled to be published in May 2021. Visit dudegetaclue.com or jamescoganwellness.com or follow James Cogan Wellness on Facebook or Instagram.
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Griffin and I discuss college graduation in 2020, how it was different for all, and what he missed most. We further discuss all the other things 2020 has uncovered; including anxiety, the need for therapy, and unbridled resilience. In this economy, recent college graduates had to manage their expectations for securing a job.... as did their parents. If a graduate was lucky enough to get a job, they may even be struggling to adapt to a new city because they may be a lot lonelier than they would have before Covid. Some of his peers are having a hard time. Therefore, people his age are aware of the need to reach out to do a meaningful check-in with friends and family.
He goes on to explain why support is paramount to success. He shares how and why therapy helped him from further spiraling into a chronic state of anxiety after he experienced panic attacks in college. He thinks anxiety is a prevalent issue for many 18-20-year-old college-age kids. He thought he was the only one who was experiencing this and his therapist suggested he ask around. To his surprise, he found that many, or most of his friends, feel the same way. He acknowledges that talking about problems, especially as males, really helps to normalize it, instead of perpetuating the stigma against therapy or emotional support. Support in groups, for helping males emotionally, is really great for people so they can learn that others are also struggling. Griffin recommends therapy and he thinks 100% of people agree that therapy and support groups are necessary but only 50 % of people engage in it.
He shares that parents should always be there for their kids, even if their kids say, "Shut up I can't talk right now". They can help their boys tap into their emotional side even if they are presenting as distant, disconnected, and angry. Parents should always be available to their kids and patient with them. They should always offer tools including access for talking to someone, and they should always offer their own presence.
Do parents know when that when they are anxious and worried about their teens, their teens are assuming it means their parents think they are a failure? Griffin thinks parents can learn to live in a middle ground of expressing that there are standards their kids need to live up to be but they don't need to push the kids to be something they don't want to be.
When it comes to racial inequalities and systematic racism, Griffin has tried to listen more and to learn more. He knows he has a long way to go, but he also thinks engaging in hard, uncomfortable conversations is vitally important. He needs to ask more questions of himself to try to be better. He also acknowledges that the learning doesn't stop and that he must listen and contribute to being an anti-racist every day. He has to keep working at it so that as a society we can change.
Groupthink is incredibly dangerous and males can sometimes engage in destructive behavior when they are together. He thinks it's imperative to try to be an upstander in these instances. He professes there are males who try to do the right thing and that is more prevalent than people give them credit for. And he continues that Groupthink can be turned onto its head for good things too. There is power in working together for right, for a good cause, rather than wrong. In order to contribute, and inspire the good kind of groupthink, he suggests finding an ally. This is especially helpful if groupthink goes into a destructive and hurtful mode. He knows there is strength in numbers and more often than not, there is someone else who wants to do the right thing.
He thinks it's up to you to find the support you need for all things 2020 and when you do, you'll live a happier more productive life. The awareness of it all is clearer now that it's nearing the end of 2020.
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Are you feeling anxious? Are your kids? If the answer is YES, we aren't surprised. In this conversation with Dr. John Duffy, we break down the good, the bad, and the ugly when it comes to anxiety. Most importantly, we talk about how your anxiety, as a parent, affects your kids. You may be forging a path for how they will always relate to anxiety and stress in their life. Not only are they learning- in the now but they may carry these habits for a very long time. And right now we are feeling an epidemic proportion of stress and anxiety. In fact, as the coronavirus spreads so does our collective feeling of strife. Listen to the episode for some relief and ideas as to why you are feeling it and how to deal with it.
John asks that we all check three things; our ego, our fear, and our judgment when it comes to our kids. We can ask ourselves to check their presence in any of our relationships. I believe those three things get in our way because we are projecting our own fears, ego, and judgment onto our kids. They become the receptacle for many of our anxious feelings.
John also explains how anxiety can be a motivator for performance. The Yerkes-Dodson law suggests that elevated arousal levels can improve performance up to a certain point but at the point when arousal becomes excessive, performance diminishes. Many of us are operating in a state of high anxiety and low-performance on the downside of the bell curve. That's where the downward spiral of anxiety sets in and we become anxious about our anxiety.
How do you feel about the way you were parented? Do you want to be a different kind of parent? Parents have the best intentions but their actions don't always reflect those same intentions. You can start by asking yourself if you are connected to your kids or if you are treating them like a check a list. Are you teaching confidence, resilience, tenacity, and grit or are you rescuing them all the time? If so, that's where their anxiety may be coming from. Rescuing them or preventing them from ever feeling uncomfortable isn't reality. They will stop trying new things. Doing things they aren't necessarily great at, fosters a growth mindset and resiliency. Yet we save them from their own anxiety. A mantra I ask parents to remember, in terms of anxiety, is "In trying to fix it, we exacerbate it, and in trying to rid it, we perpetuate it."
John is the best go-to expert for teaching, in understandable terms, how stress is damaging us, why anxiety is prevalent, and what to do about it.
Listen to his relevant and important contributions.
John Duffy, Psy.D., a highly sought-after clinical psychologist, bestselling author, podcaster, and parenting and relationship expert. He hosts a podcast with Chicago Tribune Columnist, Heidi Stevens, called “On Purpose: The Heidi Stevens and Dr. John Duffy Podcast.” He also hosts another podcast, "Better", with his amazing wife, life partner, and co-author, Julie Duffy.
His latest book timely Parenting the New Teen I the Age of Anxiety
In this episode, we also refer to The Available Parent - go get them both!
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Nicole Telfer from EmpoweredKidsTV uses her media education platform to empower parents to reduce conflict, heal, and connect in their homes. Nicole started Empowered Kids’ TV because when she needed advice and help for her own parenting, she mistakenly thought she could get it from the experts who were often on TV. She realized these "stars" didn't really know much about parenting and the actual real experts were doing deep research and she wanted to find a way to showcase them. They aren’t people just having success in the moment, when the cameras are on, but people who really know how to help parents. After featuring them on the platform, she now asks herself and others, what actions and habits can we take to develop and enhance our family without being overwhelmed by dealing with ourselves? It was a journey for her to arrive there and answer her own questions and of course, her journey continues.
One piece of parenting advice she gives is, connection is key. Not “connection” as a buzz word that it’s starting to become, but by tapping into your own default state, better known as your highest state. This is the state when you are at your truest self. Her own awareness of connection grew over time. She discovered connection isn’t just spending time together, in proximity but an understanding of yourself first. One of the most surprising things she learned from the experts she's interviewed, comes from Byron Katie. Her radical concept that you don’t have to believe your own thoughts made a great impact on Nicole. She also was surprised by learning from Dan Siegel that your entire being within itself is connected. The words you use, your body language, the tone of your voice, the twinkle in your eyes, can all create connection to the inside and the outside of your body. When we learn to use our bodies like a foreign language to communicate, we’ve really started to have a self-understanding. That connection to our own communication then spreads out to other people around us so that they are allowed to be connected to themselves.
With the anxiety that is occurring today, we are often in a state of fight, flight, or freeze which puts us immediately into disconnection. We don’t have safe access to fluffy things. Fluffy things allow us to daydream, to visualize, to feel safe etc. If you feel unsafe, as is part of our DNA, " to run from tigers", we experience disconnectedness. We may, for example, mistakenly ignite our fight or flight response when our boss says he wants to talk to us. The same response occurs when a parent stands over a child intimidating and yelling at them. It ignites a feeling of being unsafe. When we feel safe and connected with self-compassion we then have the power to change, to grow, to be resilient, to have grit, and to be self-soothing. Safety equals access to fluff. When we feel safe, emotionally, we can tap learning things like grit, and therefore, cognition is high. A parent’s inability to use the tools to connect ignites more power struggles and conflict. However, when a parent learns how to communicate and connect to themselves during high-stress situations, it helps their children. With all this in mind, Nicole has released the Connected Parent’s Behaviour Guide for Little Kids. This is a guidebook with tools for parents. It offers ways to tap into your intuition and connection and to use that as your own manual for parenting. Get your free guidebook here:
http://academy.empoweredkidstv.com/parent-guide/?ref=cara%40carapollardcoaching.com
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Listen to this episode and hear expert insights from the hosts of the popular podcast, Hot Flashes/Cool Topics podcast. Bridgett and Colleen are accomplished women who bring their own knowledge, as well as their guest experts', to their podcast for midlife women, ages 40-75. Any age listener gains wisdom from their content. They say they keep growing, learning, and developing. They invite their listeners to join them on their journey. We discuss the changes their own careers took when they were raising their children who are now young adults. They both had some hurdles to overcome, during those many stages of parenting; whether as working moms, stay-at-home moms, or as empty nesters. They share what they learned along the way and how they've now transitioned to moms of adults. The pandemic meant their empty nest wasn't so empty for a bit and they share how they really enjoyed it! We talk about Corporate America and offer some ways to support working moms today. We further discuss why Corporate America should hang up their fraternity hazing attitude toward its employees' workload and why they'll actually be creating a happy, healthier, more productive environment and culture.
About them:
Hot Flashes & Cool Topics Podcast is changing the narrative for women in midlife and beyond. The cultural lag needs to catch up to modern women over 50 who have more spending power, wisdom, and positive, energy to share with the world. Hot Flashes & Cool Topics features women over 50 that are single/married, professional/entrepreneur/retired, empty nester/childfree but all have in common that they enjoy the freedoms that come with this time. We cover every aspect of the modern midlife and showcase them as we are today and will continue to be tomorrow.http://hotflashescooltopics.com/
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On this Mindfulness at Work episode, we talk to David Gandelman, who is a spiritual teacher, about meditation and how it changed his life. David teaches meditation to over 100,000 students on the Insight Timer App, at Cornell University, and at his studio in Los Angeles. He is also the founder of Meditation School where he helps people learn to calm down, ways to get more sleep, and helps them discover what they want to heal.
The reason people first explore meditation is to lower their anxiety by 20%. They do learn to turn off their anxiety and find inner peace but they also learn a lot more. This can be scary, so many people give up because when we first start meditating, the outer noise of our lives comes inside. People become uncomfortable but if we can forge through and continue practicing, we can eventually use it as a teaching tool for a deeper awareness of ourselves. David says, "Anxiety is the icing on the cake so it would be great to uncover what’s beneath it." Sticking to a meditation practice is the hardest part because it's unfamiliar. We all try to avoid any initial discomforts in our lives but in facing the discomfort we create growth and learning for a better way of living.
Meditation is energetic maintenance. It's as if we are cleaning our "inner pipes" when we acknowledge our deeper feelings. Those feelings turn into thoughts, which turn into beliefs that are exhibited in our behaviors. This is because our feelings ruminate in our heads, and we try to figure things out based on those feelings. Meditations break through those patterns that aren’t necessary and reset our energy.
We often look outward for validation in life and begin to believe things like money matters more, love matters less. When we turn those outer eyes inwards and look inside, we grow and see what really matters to us.
David has learned 4 steps that meditation helps:
1) Find it
2)Feel it
3)Face it
4)Heal it
And 5th- is to ask yourself, Now What?
He has learned that often our thoughts are using us instead of us using them. He uses meditation to figure out how he can remain the master of his thoughts.
David encourages working parents to meditate to clear energy, to be in the present moment, and to bring higher energy. They will then find the answers they seek. He believes parents automatically treat their kids the same way their parents treated them, even if it's damaging. Actually they should get to know their child’s 10,000 year-old wisdom soul. Kids want to be seen by their parents - He asks, "Can you see them for the spirit they are inside their body?"
He shares what his own parents think of him being on the Insight Timer App with David Brand and Elizabeth Gilbert. They were thrilled and very proud of him. They appreciate his entrepreneurial spirit. In fact, he teaches entrepreneurship meditation as well as, speed dating and relationship meditations. He believes there’s a way to find your balance and fulfillment through meditating in all areas of your life.
David Gandelman is also the co-host of the Energy Matters podcast, Grounded Sleep Podcast, and teaches meditation at Cornell University and NBC Studios. His meditations have been streamed for over 30 million minutes on the meditation app, Insight Timer. He connects energetic experience, ancient wisdom traditions, and humor, to create a safe atmosphere for people interested in learning to meditate, and developing their natural spiritual abilities. To reach him:
https://energymattersacademy.com
https://www.davidgandelman.com/
https://www.meditationschool.us/
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In this episode, we continue our discussion about working moms and the emergent need for support. We think there are two critical components to get right when it comes to being a working parent; Communication and Expectations.
We lay out the importance of communicating with your partner, your boss, your co-workers, and your kids. Kacey asks listeners to, "Please ask for help-people love to give it to you, including your kids, but you have to make it evident what you are asking for".
Sometimes dads don't know the extent of everything we do. Good managers would rather know the truth of your situation because the well being of their employees matters. We know women are not being supported properly because of the burnout, anxiety, and overwhelm they are suffering.
We further explore expectations and how to be intentional about them. We get busy concentrating on daily tasks and we forget what is most important to us.
Corporations need to address working parents. The struggle is finally being recognized EVERYWHERE. We are all asking, "Why isn't anybody listening"? Companies can't go back to business as usual after the pandemic is over. Kacey says "We really need to take care of each other". We sure do and we share some simple ways to do so in the episode!! Kacey is a valued team member of Cara Pollard Coaching and we further help companies support their parent employees through our corporate programs. For information please go to www.carapollardcoaching.com
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Kacey Hartung is one of the valued team members of Cara Pollard Coaching. She is a working mom, manager, and life coach who brings a wealth of experience, knowledge, and expertise to this discussion.
Listen as we discuss the many trials and tribulations exhausted, working moms are facing. We discuss all of it and offer some suggestions for helping working moms-especially at this time. It all starts with communication and acknowledging how hard this is!
Kacey's created a quote card deck and one card is aptly named: The working mom SOS- Aka Save our Sanity! To order and find out more:
https://www.thegamecrafter.com/games/working-mom
Moms are worried about teaching their kids online while working from home. They worry about it all, even the seemingly small fact that their child didn’t learn to make the “L” properly in cursive and their kids will be behind.
We examine the definition of a good parent, success, and the impossible dream of having it all- at least at the same time.
Cara shares what she often tells her clients- “Failure is not an option, in terms of the relationship with your child "!
“What does success mean to you?” Kacey asks her clients. She continues, “What is success? Working 40 hours a week and being done might be your definition and that’s OK because your definition will change with every phase of raising your child.” Why? Because she says-
“It’s all a phase and only phase” it really isn’t forever but that’s easy to see in hindsight.
Some of Casey’s clients and employees have told her that they have to strive for that next gold ring but young moms may have to say to themselves that they must adjust their choices and if that includes striving for the next ring then they need to get more help! If not, they may have to go into a neutral state at work - a status quo zone -and both choices are great!
Companies and parents have to adapt and adjust. We get tied up in rules and that everything should look orderly and remain stringent. We have to recognize rules will change and we will survive them- whatever they are -because we have to. That includes what school might look like in the Fall. We know one thing, it won’t look normal! So now we have to move forward and be flexible.
We hope to offer compassion, advice, and a little relief for working moms. We see you, we hear you, we applaud you!!!
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Disclaimer: In this episode, we discuss times we have caused harm. We encourage you to seek real BIPOC educators and pay them for their expertise. We know we are not experts.
If you listen please know that as white women of privilege, having been on this journey for only a few years, we recognize our privilege and fragility. We discuss times we caused harm to BIPOC in actions and words. We are learning about racism and hope to share our journey as we educate ourselves about its centuries-long impacts.
Tia Fagan and Cara would like to expressly acknowledge that we are wholly unqualified to know the extent of the effects of racism. We are hoping to inspire our listeners, who would like to expand their knowledge and awareness to join us in anti-racist/anti -racism learning.
We discuss our experiences with defining racism, awareness of it, or lack thereof. We explore the reasons our words and actions can cause harm to people, what we thought we knew wasn't, and what we personally thought we knew, we didn't.
Tia is one of the esteemed team members on the Cara Pollard Coaching team & contributes to this discussion. Tia describes a recent intense stirring within her to share her expressions. She says, "This is active, messy work and I know I continue to do harm because I continue to do it imperfectly. There's still so much to learn.”
We discuss some of the following points:
Work we’ve done and resources we find helpful
What we learned
What surprised us
More work we intend to continue doing
How we think families can do work together to learn about racism
What we think companies should do for real Diversity and Inclusion practices
The policy changes needed in educational, financial, housing, and criminal justice systems
Why we think the police need deeper training and why reallocating funds is important
For more information about Tia Fagan please visit TiaFagan.com .Tia specializes in supporting families navigate times of transition by guiding them through a 5-step parenting process, helping them SHIFT from surviving to thriving. Tia is a Certified Coach through Dr. Shefali's Conscious Coaching Institute as a Certified Coach Practitioner in the Conscious Parenting Coaching MethodTM and through the Jai Institute for Parenting. Tia practices living a life of consciousness, presence, and authenticity every day.
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Kate Torgersen is the founder of Milk Stork, the first and only breast milk travel solution for working moms. In this episode, we discuss the challenges working moms face going back to work just weeks after having a child or going back at 12 weeks, which is some arbitrary number, and in either case, means the baby is not eating solid foods yet. She wants to know why we don’t have federally regulated paid leave for parents. We also discuss the need for affordable, universal, federally supported child care. After the stay at home order it's obvious to us, that high quality child care, higher paid teachers and higher paid care givers is imperative to help level the playing field and support working parents in our corporate culture.
Kate also explains her personal reason for founding Milk Stork. After the birth of her twins, she needed and wanted to travel for work but it proved to be immensely difficult. She faced a dilemma, either travel for her job OR breast feed her babies. There was no way to do both without compromising her career, her breast-milk production, or her well-being. She thought, "I can't believe other women haven't experienced this or this problem hasn't been solved before". Ascribing to the belief that necessity is the mother of invention, she further said to herself, “If not me, then who ? If not now, then when?". She felt compelled to figure out an answer and opened an operation that allows for all working moms to travel and breastfeed efficiently. Kate shares all this wisdom and more, in our rich discussion.
Born out of necessity since the stay at home order, she now offers products made with love by Moms, for Moms! Find them at The Mothershop™ https://www.milkstork.com/shop
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NYT best selling author Eve Rodsky joins us at Mindfulness at Work to discuss her research on gender equity and why, if we wish to attain it in the workplace, we have to start in our homes. Her mantra, "Having it all, doesn't mean doing it all" is a new way for all women to manage their day to day lives. She also she doesn't like the term equality . She says, " Whats fair isn't always equal and whats equal isn't always fair". She's developed a system to attaining more equity in your home so that we don't become side tracked as women with invisible tasks, nagging ,and having to get divorced to have a 50% 50% partnership. Listen to this episode for some validating, research based, amazing ideas for ways to have a thriving, loving, family life, and partnership that feels fair to you.
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In this episode we talk with Christy Keating about how to keep your children safe while Pandemic life requires they be online for school & socializing. Christy is one of the esteemed team members on the Cara Pollard Coaching team & brings her expertise to this discussion. From her perspective as a parent coach and CEO of Savvy Parents, Safe Kids, Christy talks with us about how to practice good digital citizenship; how boredom sparks creativity; and how parents can honor their own grieving process during this unprecedented time.
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Carlota contributes her thoughts on life as it is currently happening in her hometown of Madrid, Spain. She reaches out to us in an effort to encourage the U.S. to take the necessary precautions that Spain took, but, from her perspective, the country adopted them too late. Needless loss & suffering have resulted and there is still time to go before the country will see improvement.
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We spoke with Carlotta as she was in Social Isolation in her home she shares with her husband, in Madrid, Spain. She illuminates the need for a collective global concern for each other, for our children, for our health care workers and for Mother Earth, now and as we move forward. -
WE ARE HONORED TO HAVE HAD THE CHANCE TO SPEAK WITH JENNIE WILLOUGHBY WHO WRITES AND SPEAKS ON MINDFULNESS AND THE RESILIENCE OF THE HUMAN SPIRIT. Jennie’s platform gained widespread attention in 2018 when her description of the abuse she suffered at the hands of her ex-husband, former Trump White House Staff Secretary, Rob Porter, launched a national scandal and he was removed from the White House. More recently, she has been opening the conversation around earned redemption and life after #metoo and cancel culture. From the unique perspective of compassion and forgiveness, Jennie encourages and supports people in fostering a new dialogue to use with ourselves and others to foster empathy and connection. With degrees in Bio-Chemistry and Brain-Based teaching, Jennie uses her 13 years working in the classroom and her knowledge of neuroscience as the backbone of her work offering support in dealing with experiences of anxiety, anger, stress, and trauma. Jennie writes at www.thepullofgrace.com and is published in the Washington Post and Time magazine. Jennie has been featured on CNN's Anderson Cooper 360, NBC's The Today Show, MSNBC's The Last Word with Lawrence O'Donnell, Fox's Media Buzz with Howard Kurtz, WNYC’s United States of Anxiety, and NPR’s The Takeaway. Jennie also performs regularly as a vocalist on stage with The Inspired Word NYC. Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, & Instagram. Please note:There were a few times that the recording was interrupted due to breaks in internet connection.
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Part 2 of our conversation with Sarah Lacy, the dynamic voice of women & culture. We continue to discuss the gender gap, as it plays out on the playground and into the boardroom.**Sarah Lacy is an investigative journalist; author of “The Uterus is a Feature Not a Bug: the Working Woman’s Guide to Overthrowing the Patriarchy”; Chairman & CEO of Chairman Mom; & Founder/Chairman of her latest venture, NeedHop.BONUS! Chairman Mom is offering a free 3-month subscription to all who care to join during the CoronaVirus crisis. Please sign up at www.chairmanmom.com FOR FREE using the code ‘TOGETHER’.--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/carapollard/support
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Sarah Lacy shares her thoughts on managing life in the unprecedented times that we are facing—as our world shifts to handle the Covid-19 pandemic, parents are working from home (WFH), homeschooling and trying to keep it all going while STAYING IN PLACE.
For our listeners--Chairman Mom is offering a free 3-month subscription. Please sign up at www.chairmanmom.com FOR FREE using the code ‘TOGETHER’.
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Cara Pollard and Beth Miles discuss the documentary, Brain Matters, with Carlota Nelson, the film's writer and director in Part 3 of their series. Brain Matters explores Early Childhood Development and what really makes children thrive.Brain Matters is the bridge that connects the science world with the educational world. It’s a global movement, which uses the results of neuro-science to show how to raise children mindfully, and, in the process, create thriving citizens of our planet.Learn more about Brain Matters & their petition with Change.org.Sponsorships: off for this episode--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/carapollard/support
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