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What a privilege to have Lauren Reitsema back on the show to dive deeper into how we can authentically bond and connect with kids who are navigating divorce and blended family dynamics.
Lauren’s passion for relationship skills began in middle school after her parents' divorce, leading her to pursue Communication Studies at TCU. She’s the author of In Their Shoes, helping parents connect with children of divorce, and Relationship Essentials, which offers tools for healthy communication and boundaries.
For over 15 years, Lauren has taught relationship skills to teens, adults, and professionals. As President of The Center for Relationship Education in Denver, she inspires others to value and invest in their most important relationships.
Lauren vulnerably shares from her own journey as a child of divorce and blending, offering practical guidance and real encouragement for both bio and step parents.
We explore why it’s critical to understand the identity crisis many kids face, lean into hard emotions like grief, and the power of empathy and patience to lower resistance and build genuine, lasting connections.
Join us as we unpack Lauren's wisdom. It's truly a game-changer for every blended family.
You'll Discover:
The impact of broken family identity and why kids struggle to accept changing family dynamicsStrategies for step-parents to manage rejection and disappointment with patience and perseverance.The critical difference between seeking compliance versus nurturing an authentic connection.How embracing the struggle rather than avoiding it can lead to transformative growth and healing.How to create and craft a relationship with your stepchild as you go, without expectation, while honoring the child's pace.Resources from this Episode:
In Their Shoes by Lauren ReitsemaEpisode 40. Uncover the Unspoken Feeling of Kids in Blended Families [Special Resource: In Their Shoes]Relationship Essentials by Lauren Reitsema and Joneen Mackenzie To connect with Lauren: [email protected] episodes with Lauren:Episode 173. Expert Guidance for Holiday Success Episode 161. How to Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification? Episode 172. How do Healthy Step-Parent/Step-Child Dynamics Avoid the Pitfalls of Step-Parentification?Ready for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
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In this episode, we’re tackling one of the most emotionally charged challenges for blended families: navigating co-parenting dynamics and negotiating with an ex-spouse.
Whether things are civil or you’re experiencing high levels of tension, we share the three strategies that have changed everything for us and for the couples we coach — Clarity, Communication, and Consistency.
We'll share what’s worked (and what hasn’t), including stories from our co-parenting journey. You’ll hear how Kim learned to lead with respect, even when she felt disrespected, and how we helped one couple shift from chaos to calm by gaining clarity in the values and expectations of their own home.
If you’re ready to show up with more confidence, reduce co-parenting conflict, and build influence, this conversation is for you. You'll gain hope, practical tools, and encouragement.
You'll Discover:
Why clarity in your home's values gives you confidence during tough conversations with an exThe unexpected power of respectful communication (even when it’s one-sided)How consistency in your tone and with your boundaries helps to build trust and increase your influenceActionable steps and communication tips to manage disagreements between you and your exWhy your kids’ emotional security starts with how you show up, not how your ex doesResources from this Episode:
CLICK HERE to continue learning how you can improve your co-parenting relationshipReady for some extra support?
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Resources
Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away? Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and Love
Episode 211. 8 Warning Signs Your Ex is Manipulating Your Child's Heart and Mind
Episode 6. Are Your Kids Stuck in a 'Parental Allegiance' and What Can You Do About It?
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We know how heartbreaking it can be when your child starts pulling away from you. It can leave you wondering if your ex is negatively influencing them behind the scenes. We’ve lived it.
In this deeply personal episode, we open up about the painful season we went through with Kim’s daughter, Annika. We talk through how to recognize the signs of manipulation, avoid common parenting missteps, and respond in ways that protect your child’s emotional well-being. All while preserving your connection.
Plus, we share the powerful strategy we call “the pebble in the shoe” and how it can shift distorted narratives over time and help your child embrace the truth.
If it seems like you're living under a black cloud, and you're feeling discouraged or defeated, there is hope. You’re not alone, and your story isn't over.
You'll Discover:
How to identify subtle signs that your co-parent may be manipulating your child — and how you can respond effectivelyHelpful ways to communicate with a hurt, angry, rejecting, distant child.A powerful strategy (“the pebble in the shoe”) to gently counter misinformation without escalating conflictThe importance of remaining steady and staying connected even when your child is distancing themselves from youResources from this Episode:
Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away? Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and LoveArticle by Dr. Bob Evans: 17 Primary Alienation StrategiesEpisode 194. Powerful Tips for Effectively Connecting with Your Angry or Distant Child [ with Dr. Amy J.L. Baker]Book by Amy J.L. Baker: Parenting Under Fire - How to Communicate with Your Hurt, Angry, Rejecting, Distant ChildEpisode 195. Connecting with Kim's HARD Child - Facing the Challenges of Parental AlienationEpisode 161. How do Healthy Parent/Child Roles Help Avoid the Pitfalls of Parentification [with Ron Deal & Lauren Reitsema]Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the KidsEpisode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former SpouseEpisode 175. 8 Tips to Protect Kids From Stress and Tension When Moving Between HomesEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsReady for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesessionLeave a Review in Apple Podcasts
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Resources
Episode 210. Is Your Child Pulling Away? Here's How to Respond with Wisdom and Love
Episode 207. 4 Big Myths About Parenting When an Ex Has Different Rules and How to Build Consistency
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This one hits close to home for us.
In this episode, we’re opening up about a painful season in our parenting journey when Kim’s daughter began pulling away from our home and requesting to spend more time at her dad’s. We know how confusing, heartbreaking, and disorienting this can be, especially for blended families with limited time together.
That’s why we’re sharing 3 essential tips that can help you manage yourself in a tough parenting moment, retain connection with your child, and respond in a healthy, constructive way. You’re not alone—and there is a path forward.
You'll Discover:
The emotional impact of watching a child distance themselves from you - and how to manage your emotions and reactions.How to ask powerful, curious questions that open the door to connection and uncover what's under the surface.Why validation can change the tone of any tough parenting conversation.A practical way to co-create one new action step with your child, without caving in to their requests.The truth about whether kids “get to choose” where they live at a certain age.Resources from this Episode:
Episode 184. The Heart of Motherhood: Navigating Messy Moments with Empathy and Love (emotional regulation)Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your KidsReady for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
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Resources
Episode 129. What does it take to build and maintain trust in your relationship?
Episode 119. 6 Tips to Grow Empathy and Create More Connection in Your Marriage
Episode 203. How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United Team
Episode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid Them
Episode 206. Avoid These 5 Common Pitfalls to Ensure a Successful Partnership
Episode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's Kids
Episode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?
Episode 107. 3 Disheartening Realities That No Couple Wants To Go Through - But We all Have To
Episode 187. Basics for Blending: How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)
Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them Out
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If you've ever wrestled with second-guessing yourself, feeling stuck in past mistakes, or wondering if you can truly trust yourself again, you're not alone.
In this episode, we open up about the very real struggles with self-doubt that we’ve faced personally and that we often see in the blended couples we coach.
Together, we're exploring five powerful habits that can help you break free from the cycle of self-doubt and start building real, lasting confidence. We’ll share practical mindset shifts and simple steps you can take today to start building more self-trust.
We hope that you’ll walk away feeling seen, encouraged, and ready to believe in yourself again — because real healing, growth, and breakthrough are possible.
You'll Discover:
5 essential habits to break free from self-doubt and trust in yourselfReplace self-criticism with self-compassion. Conquer fear, guilt, and worry. Embrace a growth mindset. Speak up with confidence. Let go of perfectionism by adjusting your expectations.Why your daily habits matter more than your genetics or past experiences when it comes to self-confidence.Simple tools to overcome self-sabotaging habits and learn to trust yourself.Resources from this Episode:
Check out our supportive community, Blending TogetherSoundtracks by Jon AcuffThe Beginner's Guide to Self-Compassion by Nick WignallEpisode 99. 3 Tips to Help You Move Beyond Painful Guilt and RegretEpisode 180. Break free from Guilt and Blend with Authenticity and SecurityEpisode 179. Conquer Fear and Embrace Your Blend with Confidence and Clarity Episode 165. How important is your mindset when it comes to blended family life?Episode 50. How to Openly Communicate What You Really Want (Assertive Communication)What Causes Perfectionism and How to Get Over It by Nick WignallEpisode 14. 3 Helpful Steps to Overcome Your "Perfectionist" Ideals and DisappointmentsEpisode 187. Basics for Blending: How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Ready for some extra support?
We're here to help! Schedule your free coaching call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
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Additional Resources
Episode 178. Suriving the Turbulent Teen Years: Expert Insight and Strategies for Today's Parent [with Dr. Michael Bradley]
Episode 124. How to Effectively Parent Through Each Stage of Development - and Reduce Painful Interactions (Part 1)
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In this episode, we share a practical and powerful strategy to help step-parents confidently navigate solo time with their stepchildren.
Whether you're a biological parent or a step-parent, this episode is for you! You'll discover how preparation, communication, and teamwork can transform tension into opportunities for connection.
The key? A simple but often overlooked strategy called the Transfer of Power. You don't want to 'wing it' when flying solo with step-kids — instead, be smart and plan for success.
You'll Discover:
Why solo time can trigger anxiety, fear, or dread for step-parentsHow the "Transfer of Power" can set the step-parent up for success - and the critical role of the bio-parentSteps to prepare beforehand: Anticipate tension, plan for fun, and discuss expectationsHow to manage yourself and the kids during solo time — without power strugglesSimple strategies to stay calm and set kind, clear boundariesHow to reflect as a couple and make improvements for next timeResources from this Episode:
Episode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 204. 4 Facets of Stepparenting: Defining Appropriate Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1 of 2)Episode 187. Basics for Blending: How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress (Part 1 of 2)Episode 158. An Effective Stepparenting Approach Focused on What Works - and What Doesn'tEpisode 159. How to Stay Hopeful as a Stepparent When You're Continually Rejected and Hurt Episode 85. How to Uniquely Build More Love and Connection in Your Blended Family [with Ron Deal]Episode 37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent? Episode 39. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsReady for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
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Parenting in a blended family can be tough — especially when your ex has completely different rules and expectations.
Today, we're tackling a common source of frustration: navigating household differences. We'll uncover the four biggest myths that keep blended couples stuck and reveal the counteractive truths that bring clarity, confidence, and collaboration.
Plus, we’ll share our Four A’s strategy for communicating with your ex to build more consistency between homes.
You'll Discover:
The four myths about parenting across different households—and what you can do to move beyond delusion, confusion, and frustration.How to establish healthy boundaries in your home without trying to control the other home.Why "Our home is our zone" should be your mantra.How to avoid fear-based parenting and hold firm to your values—even when they don't align with the other home.A simple four-step communication framework to foster better co-parenting collaboration and create more consistency for your kids.Resources from this Episode:
All Episodes on Parenting and DisciplineAll Episodes on Co-ParentingReady for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
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Resources
Episode 135. How to Set Appropriate Boundaries and Negotiate Well with your Ex-Spouse
Episode 188. Basics for Blending: How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and Distress
Episode 153. How to Empower Organization, Improve Communication and Create Peace Between Your Kids Two Homes
Episode 112. 3 Dangerous Dynamics That Can Destroy Co-Parenting - And Hurt the Kids
Episode 113. How to Respond When Being Disregarded, Devalued, or Dismissed by Your Former Spouse
Episode 67. The Best Co-Parenting Strategy That You Already Know
Episode 31. Unexpected Ways to Improve How You Cope with You Ex
Episode 33. How to Cope with a Difficult Ex and Protect Your Kids
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Does it ever feel like you are miles apart as a couple when it comes to leading your blended family?
In this episode, we dive into the most common partnership pitfalls that couples face. From feeling unheard and untrusted to navigating misaligned parenting expectations, we unpack the challenges that often create disconnection, stress and conflict. We also share practical tools to shift from frustration to deeper connection, trust, and teamwork.
You'll Discover:
How assumptions about each other's motives can fuel conflictThe impact of feeling unheard or untrusted in a blended family dynamicPractical strategies to stay connected and solve problems togetherHow to build resiliency and effective communication in your relationshipResources from this Episode:
Episode 204. 4 Facets of Stepparenting: Defining Appropriate Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1)Episode 205. 4 Facets of Parenting: What Bio-Parents Need to Know to Achieve Best Outcomes (Part 2)Episode 154. What practical and emotional shifts can you expect as you blend your family?Episode 134. How to Make Good Decisions in Tough Situations and Stay Connected as a CoupleEpisode 59. Why are you stuck in a Parent-Child Allegiance? Episode 160. A 4-Part Framework for Achievable Expectations and How to Live Them OutEpisode 167. Achievable Strategies to Make Your Marriage the Foundation of Your Blended Family Episode 202. How to Break Free from Painful Cycles and Enjoy Deeper Levels of Intimacy [with Ron & Nan Deal]Episode 187. Basics for Blending: How to Tolerate and Manage Discomfort and DistressEpisode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 147. Do sensitive conversations end up creating conflict in your relationship?Episode 203. How to Make Better Decisions and Solve Problems as a United TeamEpisode 79. 4 Conflict Communication Patterns That are Hurtful and Toxic to Your RelationshipEpisode 172. 2 Key Elements to Resolve Your Parenting Style Differences - And Get UnitedEpisode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (The Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger Dynamic)Ready for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a FREE coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https:
Are you ready to join the Blending Together Community? Click this link: https://www.blendedfamilybreakthrough.com/blendingtogether
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Resources
Episode 74. How to Develop Appropriate and Effective Consequences that Empower Responsibility
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We know firsthand that parenting in a blended family isn’t the same as parenting in a first family. A biological parent's role is crucial in helping kids adjust to change, supporting step-relationships, and keeping things running smoothly.
But here’s the challenge—many bio parents either hold too tightly to their old parenting patterns or step back too quickly and expect their spouse to fill in. Both can create major tension.
In this episode, we’re breaking down the four key facets of parenting and defining the roles and responsibilities of the bio-parent:
Meeting practical needs while avoiding unnecessary frictionProviding support while managing shifting priorities Teaching important life lessons - and overcoming parental blind spotsDelivering discipline in a way that strengthens relationships rather than tearing them apartIf you’ve ever felt stuck between your kids and your spouse—or if you’ve struggled with guilt, fear, or parental paralysis—this episode is for you.
You'll Discover:
The most common 'easy wrong turns' that bio parents make when trying to “blend” the familyHow to avoid creating unnecessary frustration, and resentment in your homeWhy bio parents need to lead in discipline—and how to set step relationships up for successHow to provide boundaries and emotional support for your kids without letting guilt or fear take overStrategies for building an effective parenting partnership — even when you see things differentlyResources from this Episode:
Episode 204. 4 Facets of Parenting: Clarifying the Roles and Responsibilities (Part 1) Episode 163. How Intentionality Helped One Couple to Accomplish a Successful Blend [with Sean & Staci] Episode 81. How a Missing Bio-Parent Impacts Kids in the Delicate Blending Process (Part 1 of 2)Episode 132. How do loss and grief impact blended family integration?Episode 108. 3 Unity Breakers that are Detrimental to Your Connection and How You Can Avoid ThemEpisode 139. The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger Dynamic)Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem SolveEpisode 49. Should your highest priority be your marriage - or your kids?Episode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy) Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John GottmanReady for some extra support?
We all need some extra support along the blending journey — we're here to help. You can connect with us for a free coaching call to see how we might help you experience more clarity, confidence, and connection in your home. Schedule your free call here: https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession
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Resources
Episode 136. How to Intentionally Create Positive Family Time and Reduce Relational Tension
Episode 149. How to "Blend" Holiday Traditions and Create Meaningful Connection This Season
Episode 85. How to Uniquely Build More Love and Connection in Your Blended Family [with Ron Deal]
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Stepparenting raises many questions: What’s my role? How involved should I be? What if my stepkids don’t accept me?
It’s easy to make wrong turns without even realizing it.
In this episode, we’re delving into four key facets of parenting: meeting practical needs, providing support, teaching life lessons, and delivering discipline. We'll uncover the unique roles and responsibilities of a stepparent regarding each facet and define what's appropriate and inappropriate.
If you’re feeling frustrated, disconnected, or unsure how to navigate parenting in your blended family, this conversation is for you!
We’ll share best practices, real-life examples (yes, including our own!), and strategies to help you stay in your lane while building healthy bonds with your stepkids and strengthening your parenting partnership.
You'll Discover:
Why stepparents should focus on connection before correction How to support your stepkids and meet practical needs without overstepping or experiencing resentment The best approach for building genuine connection, trust, and respect with your stepkids Why delivering discipline too soon can backfire—and what to do insteadA simple but powerful strategy to create a strong parenting partnership with your spouse and reduce tension in your homeResources from this Episode:
Episode 47. How to Like Your Stepchild Even When You're Feeling Frustrated and AnnoyedEpisode 39. How to Create Strong Bonds with Resistant StepkidsEpisode 9. A Surprisingly Simple Strategy for Bonding with Step-KidsEpisode 29. What is a Loyalty Bind and What Can You Do About It?Episode 102. 4 Revealing Myths About 1 on 1 Time Between Parents and their Bio-Kids (Part 1 of 2)Episode 192. A Simple Process to Navigate Sensitive Conversations About Each Other's KidsEpisode 25. How to Survive Time Alone with Your Step-Kids (Transfer of Power Strategy)Building Love Together in Blended Families by Ron Deal & Gary ChapmanStepparenting: Keeping it Sane by Charles Fay, Ph.D.In Their Shoes by Lauren ReitsemaPreparing to Blend by Ron DealReady for some extra support?
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