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Are You Exhausted Trying to Help Someone Who Wonāt Change? Hereās What Actually Works!
Have you ever bent over backward trying to help someone you love, only to feel like youāre getting nowhere? Youāre not aloneāand Iāve got good news: people can change. But hereās the kicker: theyāll only do it when it comes from within.
In this episode, Iām breaking down the psychology of change, the stages people go through, and the surprising reason why trying to force change never works (spoiler alert: it usually backfires). Youāll also learn powerful, actionable strategies to:
ā Set healthy boundaries (without guilt).
ā Protect your emotional well-being (because you matter too!).
ā Provide the kind of support that actually encourages growth.If youāre ready to stop feeling stuck and frustrated, and instead discover the most effective way to empower someone on their journeyāthis is for you. š§
Timestamps Youāll Love:
00:00 ā Why It Feels Impossible to Change Someone Else
01:15 ā Can People Really Change? (Yes, But Hereās the Secret)
03:45 ā The Real Power of Intrinsic Motivation
06:20 ā The Stages of Change: Where Your Loved One Might Be
12:40 ā Setting Boundaries That Encourage Growth
18:55 ā Avoiding the Trap of Enabling
23:15 ā Free Tools to Help You and Your Loved OneBONUS GOODIES!
š Want to help a loved one uncover whatās really holding them back? Share my free Whatās Holding You Back? Quiz with themāitās designed to uncover hidden obstacles, subconscious blocks, and personal strengths to help them move forward with confidence.š Donāt miss this weekās YouTube Livestream: How to Help Someone Who Doesnāt Want to Help Themselves (Thursday, 12 pm MT). You can even submit an anonymous question ahead of time here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.
This conversation could change everything. See you there! š„
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Are political differences with people you love threatening to tear your relationships apart? Youāre definitely not alone! Today, weāre diving deep into the delicate dance of keeping relationships healthy across political divides.
In this episode, Iām sharing the strategies to help you navigate tricky conversations with grace, keep your cool, and protect your own happiness along the way. By the end, youāll know exactly how to preserve the connections you care about most, even when politics threaten to tear you apart. Stick around to the endāIāve got some free resources to help you practice these skills and share them with your loved ones. Letās jump in!
Timestamps:
00:00 - Are Political Differences Threatening Your Relationships?
04:22 - Assess the Importance of Each Relationship
07:32 - Radical Acceptance (It's Tough, But Worth It!)
11:12 - Emotional Regulation - How to Stay Cool
16:49 - Focus on the Positives (Yes, Really!)
23:09 - Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries
32:18 - Advanced Skills: Radical Curiosity and Empathy
39:06 - Free Resources + Final Thoughts
If you loved this episode, donāt miss the next video in this series! Letās keep building those relationship skills.
P.S. Need a little more support? Check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Video Series. Also, join me Thursday at 12 pm MT for a live session right here on YouTube on this very topic, how to navigate political differences in relationships. You can even submit an anonymous question right here.
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Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of conflict and misunderstanding with your partner? You're not aloneāand you're not powerless to fix it! In todayās episode, Iām breaking down how to fix a broken relationship by exploring the underlying patterns that keep couples locked in negative cycles.
Plus, Iāll share my own story (yes, Iāve been there too) and reveal the key strategies and mindset shifts that can help bring you and your partner back together. If youāve been trying to make things better but feel like youāre swimming against the tide, tune in for some essential insights and actionable steps to get your relationship back on track
In this video, weāll cover:
0:32 ā The Toxic Spiral of Negative Communication
3:15 ā Uncovering the Hidden Patterns
6:48 ā How Negative Cycles Shape Perception
10:25 ā Breaking Free and Finding Real Solutions
15:45 ā When to Seek Help
Want more guidance on fixing your relationship? Check out my free resource, How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz. Using this quiz, youāll be able to decipher strengths and growth points in your relationship.
If you want to ask me a question about your relationship, join me this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube for my Livestream about how to fix a broken relationship. Submit your question anonymously here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. See you there!
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"This wasn't supposed to happen!"
Have you ever felt life throw you a curveball so big it knocked you flat? Itās that gut-punch moment when plans unravel, your candidate didn't win, dreams dissolve, and youāre left wondering, āNow what?ā In this episode, Iāll take you through the tools and mindset shifts needed to transform disappointment into personal growth. Weāll talk about the power of radical acceptance, why itās okay to feel all the feels, and how to find the hidden opportunities in setbacks.
Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Lifeās Unexpected Curveballs
01:22 Embracing Disappointment: Feel All the Emotions
05:46 Finding the Lesson in Loss
15:23 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward
18:36 Steer Clear of Destructive Reactions
21:16 What Does This Make Possible?
24:15 Conclusion and Free Resources
PS: Get free access to my Emotional Wellness Collection, a personally curated podcast and blog collection designed to help you grow and stay well emotionally.
Also, donāt miss our live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where weāll dive even deeper into this topic. Submit an anonymous question in advance here:
https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
See you there!
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How strong is your intuition? Do you trust your inner wisdom? More importantlyā¦ can you tell the difference between intuitive thoughts and anxiety? Today youāre going to learn how to trust your gut!
In this episode, Iām thrilled to sit down with Brittney Carmichael, intuitive healer and founder of Shine School, as we dig into how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, the subtle cues of inner wisdom, and ways to strengthen this instinct into a true superpower.
Whether youāre an intuitive veteran or someone just starting to listen to that quiet inner voice, this conversation will give you the practical tools you need to better understand, trust, and strengthen your intuitive thought.
Timestamps:
00:00 - Intro: Intuition or Anxiety?
02:23 - Intuition vs. Fear: Brittanyās Insights
05:14 - Building Intuitive Strength
10:39 - Brittanyās Journey to Inner Wisdom
20:24 - Understanding Your Inner Voice
29:54 - Self-Love as a Foundation for Intuition
33:02 - Power of Positive Self-Talk
49:17 - How to Trust Your Inner Wisdom
*P.S.* Want to dig even deeper? Take the free "What's Holding You Back?" quiz and get clarity on what might be standing in your way. Plus, join me for this weekās Livestream Q&A on Intuitive Thought, Thursday at 12 pm MT,on Instragram, Facebook, or Youtube. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.
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Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was justā¦ missing? And now, youāre feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, donāt worryāyouāre not stuck!
This week Iām joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and weāre diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, weāre going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships.
āØ In this episode, youāll learn:
- How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but donāt define it!)
- The healing power of contingent communication in relationships
- Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth
- The importance of presence over perfection in parentingāand in life!
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing
02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development
06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication
13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life
14:31 Healing from the Past
20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns
21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality
23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!)
27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth
30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty
35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration
38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts
š Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/.
Andā¦ drumroll please! Join me for this weekās live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where Iāll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself!
Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
Letās grow together! š±
Love,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If youāve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, youāre in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, Iām sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationshipsāknowing when a friendship is no longer serving you.
Together, weāll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. Youāll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, andāif it comes to itāfind the courage to end friendships that have run their course.
Hereās what we cover:
[00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones. [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships. [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing. [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved. [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace.If youāve ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or itās time to walk away, this episode is for you.
Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem?
Also, Iād love for you to join me for this weekās YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where weāll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. Iāll see you there!
ā Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions?
This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. Theyāre on your dime, and your time with them should be all about youānot an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes.
The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. Thatās why Iāve created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists.
In one of my latest episodes, I had a big sister-style heart-to-heart with therapists about how to contain their own "stuff"ābecause if we donāt, it can splash onto our clients. And I wanted to share this episode with you so you could share it with them.
Here ya go: https://www.growingself.com/self-disclosure-in-therapy-how-much-is-too-much/
Use it as a way to start a courageous conversation with your therapist about what you need, what you want, and whatās workingāor not workingāin your relationship. Plus, youāll be providing them with a resource that supports their growth. Win, win, win!
If youāre a therapist reading this, I have so much for you! Connect with me at growingself.com/therapists to access this episode and many more on how to flourish and thrive in this career we all love.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
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Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, āHow long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?ā Trust me, youāre not alone. In this episode, weāre diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past?
I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: itās different for everyone! But weāve got insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to help you make sense of your own process and feel more empowered as you heal.
Weāre covering everything from how long it takes to feel "okay" again, to why some relationships hurt more than others, and how to know if youāre truly moving on. Plus, Kendra shares her journey of transformation after addiction and abusive relationships, offering you hope that growth is possibleāeven when it feels like the pain of heartbreak will never end.
Join us to learn about:00:00 ā The Hardest Question After a Breakup: How Long Will This Take?
05:40 ā Kendraās Story: From Addiction to Empowerment
12:19 ā Why Some Breakups Take Longer to Heal Than Others
19:32 ā The Emotional Rollercoaster: What Healing Really Looks Like
29:00 ā Handling Triggers: Holidays, Anniversaries & More
37:15 ā How to Know if Youāre Truly Healing or Just Surviving
45:20 ā Next Steps: Tools and Advice for Moving OnIf youāre hurting after heartbreak, this oneās for you. Thanks for tuning in, and/or for sharing this episode with a friend or loved one who is feeling stuck in heartbreak, and needs some direction for how to move forward.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
PS: Want to see how far along you are in your breakup recovery? Take my free quiz, How Over Your Ex Are You? š Take the Quiz
Join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where weāll tackle the topic of Getting Over Your Ex. Submit your questions anonymously in advance ( Ask Here)
Or just jump into the conversation on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. See you there!
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Friend, partner, or job said "thanks but no thanks"? Well, the joke's on them: If you know how to mine the gold in this opportunity it could wind up being the best thing thatās ever happened to YOU.
And... Rejection sucks. Whether itās from a friend, a romantic partner, or a job you really wanted, it can leave you feeling bruised and wondering, āIs it just me?ā Guess what? Itās not just you, and itās not the end of the world (promise!). š In fact, rejection can be the key to unlocking your most resilient, powerful self. Yeah, I said it!
Join me as I break down the very real emotions behind rejection and share how you can use it as a springboard for serious personal growth. Weāll cover how rejection shows up in your personal, professional, and social lifeāand how to cope, heal, and come out stronger on the other side. Ready to transform those ānoāsā into growth? Letās do this! š
What Weāll Cover:00:00 - Rejection Feels Awful, But... Why rejection hits so hard and why itās universal.
02:42 - Resilience & Growth: Your New Best Friends - Turning setbacks into setups for your future self.
12:47 - Friendship Rejection: Why Does This Hurt So Much? Handling the emotional sting of being ghosted or left out by friends.
20:28 - Heartbreak Hotel: Dealing with Romantic Rejection Why getting dumped can hurt on a primal level and how to come out of it stronger.
43:42 - Career Flops: Professional Rejection and What to Do Next Didnāt get the job? Fired? Hereās how to bounce back like a boss. š¼
51:45 - Your Rejection Recovery Plan: Next Steps Actionable strategies to heal and grow from any kind of rejection.
š„ Bonus: Want to chat about your own experiences with rejection? Jump into this weekās live stream where weāll be swapping stories, getting advice, and supporting each other! šļø Submit your questions in advance right here. Want to start doing the work we're discussing today? Book a free consultation for coaching at GrowingSelf.com.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
#RejectionRecovery #EmotionalResilience #LoveHappinessSuccess #PersonalGrowth
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Letās get real for a minuteāhave you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? Youāre not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, Iām diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantlyāwhat you can do about it.
In this episode, Iām joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." Weāll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feeling lost, but weāre also unpacking Dr. Ruthās brilliant āmenu for connection.ā Itās full of ways to reignite your bondānot just in the bedroom, but through shared activities, better communication, and ultimately, deeper self-reflection.
Weāll tackle some tough love truths (like the role self-love plays in intimacy), and Iāll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your partner, starting today.
Episode Breakdown:[00:00] ā Whereās the Spark?
Why so many people feel disconnected from their partnersāand how it happens more often than you think.[00:47] ā Dr. Ruthās Secret Sauce
The first thing to check when your sex drive is goneāyour relationship dynamics![02:09] ā Itās Not Them, Itās You?
The surprising role self-love plays in keeping intimacy alive.[03:47] ā The āMenu for Connectionā
Five elements Dr. Ruth swears by to build a richer, more meaningful connection with your partner.[05:47] ā Fun Outside the Bedroom
How activities like pickleball (yes, pickleball!) could reignite the flames of passion.[08:06] ā Whatās Really Going On?
Digging deeper: how emotional barriers like resentment might be blocking your connection.[12:41] ā Therapy or Time to Move On?
When itās time to seek helpāor even consider a bigger decision.[15:41] ā You Deserve Better
Dr. Ruthās empowering message: You deserve happiness, fun, and great sexādonāt settle for less.[17:16] ā Letās Wrap This Up!
Final thoughts and inspiration to help you take that first step toward a better, more intimate relationship.Tune in, share your thoughts, and letās create a life full of love, connection, and fun together!
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyP.S. ā Ready for more? ā
Download my free guide, "Communication that Connects," to start having meaningful conversations that build closeness in your relationship. And donāt forget to join me for this weekās live stream on Thursday at 12 PM MTāweāll dive even deeper into intimacy and connection. Submit your anonymous questions ahead of time right here!P. P.S: Who else in your life needs to hear this message today? Forward this episode to them and feel good about being a positive āchange agentā in the lives of others. You and I are on the same mission my friend! Xo, L
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Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projectsā¦ and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate?
It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless youāre actively working to build and maintain friendships. But hereās the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. š
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friendā¦ and learned some important things that sheās sharing with YOU. From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. š
If youāve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. š
Chapters
00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships?
00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think
00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend
02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend?
04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult
12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship?
15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesnāt
18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So ScaryāAnd Necessary
22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship
25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens
25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Hereās Why It Happens
25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize Youāre Doing Friendship All Wrong
26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Letās Find Out
27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like UsāAnd What to Do About It
27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different
28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships
29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App?
32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship
34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult
43:57 Why We Crave Communityāand How to Build One
47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated
53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That Lastš” Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life.
xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps!
P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU.
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Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea.
I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationshipācommunication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.ābut letās be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!!
Thatās why today, weāre flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. š„
In this episode, weāre breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague).
Trust me, as a marriage counselor, Iāve seen it all. Whether itās neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your āissuesā when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But donāt worry, Iām not here to throw shadeāI'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! š±
By the end of this, youāll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure youāre NOT sabotaging your love life. š
Here's what you'll learn: ā±ļø
00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes
02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You
04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues
08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer)
11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!)
And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer!
š¬ Letās talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? Whatās one mistake youāre guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby āIād love to hear from you!
AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa
If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! Iāve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. š
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobbyš” PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, āCommunication That Connectsā ā itās packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!
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š§ Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety ā This Changes Everything! š§
Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Hereās the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. š„ In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. š±
š Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom!
š” What You'll Learn Today:
00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally
00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story
12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots
19:22 Esmeās Story: A Powerful Case Study
33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality
42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief
50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety
54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole!
āØ And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. š
If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief
š„ Donāt forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know whoās struggling with anxietyāthis could be the breakthrough theyāve been waiting for!
Your partner in growth,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
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Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, weāre diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.
In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, Iām pulling back the curtain on some of the āweirdā things therapists do (like, why wonāt they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey.
Weāll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, Iām sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, youāll walk away with some major a-ha moments!
Timestamps:
00:00 - Letās Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries?
02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries
06:43 - Why Your Therapist Wonāt Steer the Conversation (Hint: Itās for YOU)
09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need?
12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe
24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird)
31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact RulesāWhatās Up with That?
35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship
45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and TakeawaysWanna Learn More?
Signs You Have a Bad Therapist
How to Find a Good Therapist
Donāt forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Letās keep this conversation going! š
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Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think.
On todayās podcast youāll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, Iām sharing why confidence isnāt just a feeling you magically haveāitās something you build through consistent, value-driven actions.
Together, weāll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today.
Hereās what youāll learn:
00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence
01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence
04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions
06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence
07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values
13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect
17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset
34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence
44:42 Conclusion and Free ResourcesWant more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where Iāll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice!
Donāt forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth.
See you there! ššŖ #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf
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Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve.
In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' weāre not just talking about managing anger in relationshipsāweāre transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, Iāve got some incredible free resources for you!
00:00 Introduction
01:58 Roots of Anger
08:36 Communication Strategies
18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence
28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts
Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! š¬ā¤ļø
#LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie BobbyPS: Grab that FREE two part āCommunication That Connectsā training right here!
P.P.S. Iām going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Hereās the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and Iāll see you soon! -
Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? ššø Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being.
In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. šāØ
Specifically, weāre discussing:
00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs
00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You
05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights
08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs
14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt
32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition
46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts
It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journeyāhit play now! š„š #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance
Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
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7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship
Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" š¤ You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," Iām sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on researchā¦ and they are game-changers! š
What weāre discussing:
00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship
02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space
04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety
05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind
07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself
11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality
14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy
17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship
21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources
š But wait, thereās more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today!
š FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication.
š Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. Weāre here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help.
š Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? Iām here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship.
Let's create love, happiness, and success together! šāØ
#HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching
After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one youāll NEVER do - itās all good! Iād also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me! Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! š¬š
Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
GrowingSelf.com
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Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today weāre diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, youāre in the right place.
Weāll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, youāll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own.
Specifically, weāre discussing:
0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person?
00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges
06:46 The Importance of Compatibility
14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection
17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment
22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth
29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path
33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts
Thanks for tuning in! Until next week, take care ā and keep growing.
Xo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication.
P.P.S. And donāt forget, if youāre listening to this the week itās released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where Iāll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.
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