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If you are raising a child or children with big emotions, you probably deal with a lot of drama throughout the day: anxiety, resistance, disrespect…maybe even your child speaking negatively about themselves. The good news? There are a lot of strategies that can help. The bad news? There are a lot of strategies that can help. And often because there are a lot of these strategies that can help, you may feel so exhausted and run down that you don’t know which strategies to try first or what your next step should be.
This episode includes:
What keeps us feeling stuck and unable to move past our overwhelm
The first step we need to take to get unstuck -- and why it doesn’t take any extra energy!
How one simple shift can help us find more lightness inside and more peace in our homes
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If you are raising children with big emotions, you are probably used to their big reactions when they are tired, hungry, or overstimulated. But sometimes children have big reactions even when there is no obvious reason, leaving us feeling confused and like we have to walk on eggshells around them.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What is going on when our kids act overly irritated or annoyed but it isn’t clear why
How to recognize what I call “energy mismatches” (with examples)
What we can do to help our kids have fewer big reactions -- and more confidence and healthy self-esteem
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We know how important it is to be a powerful positive influence with our children. But becoming one sounds daunting at times -- especially with everything else we have to juggle on a daily basis. The good news is, we can increase our influence easily, just by adding two little words to our vocabulary!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What a “powerful positive influence” is, and what happens when you are one
Two qualities every powerful positive influence has
Two “magic” words that show our kids we care, we are consistent, and we can handle their big emotions
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Children with big emotions often struggle with transitions: Getting out of the house in the morning, stopping what they’re doing to go to the dinner table or to get ready for bed. They may even resist leaving the house when they have something fun to do, like a birthday party! When nothing seems to motivate them, we can feel confused and frustrated. Fortunately, there is something that we can do to help our children with transitions, and it’s easier than you might think.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why transitions are difficult for our children (it’s not just that they don’t feel like going to the next thing)
Why traditional strategies like logic and rewards don’t work for children with big emotions
Two things we can do to make transitions easier for our kids (and us!), with real-life examples
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When our children react strongly to disappointment or frustration, we often feel like we need to cater to their needs or give in to keep the peace. And then we worry that our child’s big emotions will keep them from learning how to handle the inevitable challenges they’ll face in life! Fortunately, even children with big feelings can learn to handle obstacles effectively.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why feeling strongly is strength -- and why it’s important we don’t teach our children to hide their emotions
Why we don’t have to cater to our children to prevent hard feelings…and how to empower them instead
A Long Game Parenting strategy that helps kids and parents learn how to respect negative emotions without being controlled by them (with several practical examples)
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You likely want to motivate better behavior and maintain a strong, positive relationship with your children. But there is something that you may be doing frequently that will reduce your influence and harm your relationship… and it happens any time your child isn’t behaving or feeling the way you want them to. (How often does that happen?!)
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Scientific reasons why we communicate in this harmful way (so you know how to stop it)
How our tone and body language impacts our children and leads to bigger reactions in kids with big emotions
One simple shift in perspective can help you build influence and strengthen your relationship in every interaction – with your children and with anyone else
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It can be frustrating when our children won’t do what they’re supposed to do: brush their teeth, finish their homework, or complete a chore that we’ve been asking them to finish. While it’s common for kids with big emotions to resist things that feel boring or uncomfortable, it can be exhausting for parents to find “just the right thing” to motivate them to move forward. The good news is, understanding one thing about resistance can reduce it tremendously.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why kids with big emotions are so likely to resist doing boring or uncomfortable things (what’s going on in their brain)
How to recognize this type of response
How to get kids on board with reducing the resistance
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You crave a peaceful home, but peace can be hard to come by when raising children with big emotions. Our kids are quick to react disproportionately to situations, and it’s easy to get sucked into their drama. How can we make sure that we are in control of our homes rather than everyone’s reactions?
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The science behind big reactions (and why we have more control that we think)
How to break the cycle of Yuck that keeps us stuck
A Leadership Parenting strategy called “Expect and Plan” that ensures we are in charge of our homes, not everyone’s reactions
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We might want to handle the daily stressors of life with calmness and respect, but often it doesn’t work that way. (At least not for me!) Listen as I describe a situation I handled pretty poorly as a parent – and the strategies I used to get myself out of a cycle of guilt.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to feel our feelings without being controlled by Yuck
A simple and effective Leadership Parenting strategy to address mistakes
Questions to ask YOURSELF when you do something you regret
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https://rachel-bailey.com/332https://rachel-bailey.com/332Show Notes:
When we are raising children with big emotions, it can be frustrating watching them struggle when things don’t come easily. Even when we encourage them and remind them that they can do hard things, they may continue to complain or resist, leaving us wondering: Should we push them, or should we give in? Fortunately, there is a simple way to make this decision… and a way to help them handle discomfort when a push is appropriate.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why children with big emotions often avoid doing hard things
How to decide when to push them do hard things and when it doesn’t make sense to push
How we can help deal with their discomfort so they can become the best version of themselves
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While some kids with big emotions blame others, others are incredibly hard on themselves. And it can be devastating to hear them beat themselves up when they make a mistake! Often when they do, our instinct is to tell them it will be okay, that it’s not a big deal, that everyone makes mistakes. But as you’ve probably noticed, that doesn’t make them stop this behavior in the long run, and it can even make them feel worse in the moment. The good news is that we can use Leadership Parenting strategies to help our children – and ourselves! – handle these situations more effectively.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why previous attempts to help our kids calm down haven’t worked -- and often make things worse instead
Qualities that many children with big emotions have in common (and why it feels like they regularly get stuck in cycles of negativity)
How to stay regulated and help kids get unstuck so they can learn how to handle their mistakes in the moment… and build resilience for the future
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Most parents who are raising kids with big emotions would say that our kids’ reactions – their reactions when they don’t get their way, or when they have to do something they don’t want to do, etc. – tend to be very big and very difficult to manage. Often, we feel like their reactions control our homes because they impact our daily routines, our other children, and even the decisions we make. But it is possible to regain control of your home so that it doesn’t seem like those emotions or reactions are in charge! Specific step-by-step strategies, called Leadership Parenting strategies, can help you make that happen.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What Leadership Parenting strategies are and why they’re so powerful
Two actionable leadership parenting strategies that allow us and our children to respect emotions without being controlled by them
Benefits of using leadership parenting strategies with our kids
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Having a joyful and connected holiday season can be challenging when we are raising kids with big emotions. We are so busy and our children are overstimulated, full of sugar and out of their regular routines. If we aren’t proactive, we can become overwhelmed, exhausted, and resentful. The good news is, a simple process (that just takes a few minutes) can reduce holiday Yuck and increase our parenting influence, giving us more energy to enjoy the season.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to work with our children to solve problems, rather than working against them
A simple process that addresses our kids’ negative behavior, moods, and attitudes in the moment
How to use this same process to teach them the skills they need for the next time they have big feelings
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https://rachel-bailey.com/?p=88635Holidays can be hard for kids with big emotions. From staying up late to being out of regular routines to being overstimulated, this season can leave us all feeling exhausted and stressed. In this bonus episode, I share a plan for holiday stress that doesn’t take a lot of time... and almost always leads to success!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why taking 5-10 minutes now will save you hours later
The steps in this process, with an example of each
How this plan ensures that you will feel more in control this holiday season
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It can be hard to know what to say to a child with big emotions when they're struggling. And while it’s important not to pressure yourself to say the “right thing” all the time, one small change (that you can make immediately) will almost always make things better in those situations.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why one word (that most of us use all the time) almost always upsets children with big emotions
The alternative word that can make a positive difference in negative situations
How this shift improves our influence in the moment and strengthens our children’s self-esteem in the long run
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Many kids with big emotions lack confidence, and that can be heartbreaking to see. While building children’s confidence doesn’t happen overnight, one simple action can help. Even better, this same action can also strengthen your relationship and takes less than a minute to use!
In this episode, you’ll learn:
The simple strategy to strengthen your child’s confidence and your relationship
How we can incorporate this strategy into our daily lives
Why this strategy might not work for anxious or sensitive kids (and why that’s a good thing!)
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It’s very common as we’re raising kids with big emotions to walk on eggshells, fearing the moment we might “set them off.” But it is possible to learn to diffuse dramatic situations more easily so that we can handle them instead of dreading them.
In this episode, you’ll learn, through the “sink metaphor”:
Why it’s absolutely in our power to make situations better instead of worse
What our kids really need so that they (and we) don’t get stuck in the drama
What our responses are like from our children’s perspective
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Many children with big emotions crave consistency, but how can we be consistent when life gets in the way? There are so many things to juggle as a parent -- extracurriculars, homework, schedule changes, work trips, family visits -- and we’re tired. The good news is that there’s an alternative to consistency that is much easier to achieve as a busy parent (and it has all the same benefits!).
In this episode, you’ll learn:
How to reduce the pressure on yourself and still meet your kids’ needs
The difference between predictability and consistency
What it feels like to be on the receiving end of this strategy
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There is nothing worse than feeling helpless as a parent, and it’s easy to feel powerless or out of control when our kids won’t listen to what we have to say. Often when we feel powerless, we end up trying to control our children more… which only reduces our influence! Fortunately, there is a simple strategy that can help you improve the impact of your words so your children can actually hear the lessons you’re trying to teach them.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why most people dig their heels in when people try to change them
How to give our kids with big emotions what they need to be able to hear us
A simple strategy to increase our influence that requires us to spend less energy, not more
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Often when we ask our kids with big emotions to do things they have to do, instead of doing what we ask, they resist, negotiate, or even become disrespectful to us (or themselves!). And when we feel helpless and stuck, we often then fall back on strategies that our parents used with us… which tends to make things worse. So how can we motivate responsible and respectful behavior when our attempts seem to just lead to more drama?
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Two reasons why rewards and punishments don’t work for kids with big emotions
Common reasons why children struggle (and how we can identify these reasons when our kids are having a hard time)
How to go beneath kids’ behavior to motivate more positive behaviors, moods, and attitudes with less resistance
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