Straight and Curly

Straight and Curly

Australia

A weekly podcast for people who are obsessed with self improvement. Carly Jacobs and Kelly Exeter road test a different life hack each week and will tell you whether it’s awesome or a total waste of time.

Episodes

Dealing With Information Overload: 077  

A wonderful yet highly challenging thing about the world we live in today is the amount of information we have access to. It's exciting to be able to access data on any imaginable topic, but many of us are also drowning in a sea of free resources and a blog reader full of posts we'll never get to.

How do we process it all in a more effective manner? That's what Carly and Kelly attempt to tackle in this episode!

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

This episode was brought to you by Open Universities. Go to open.edu.au to check out the single module post graduate units they now offer.

Phone Addiction: 076  

Carly removed the Facebook app from her phone ages ago. After watching Carly do it, plus listening to another friend espouse the benefits of it, Kelly also removed the app from her phone.

Interestingly, she saw absolutely no increase in productivity or happiness. Maybe this means she’s not as addicted to Facebook as she thought she was?

In this episode Kelly and Carly discuss how to know whether you actually have a phone (and Facebook!) addiction or not, along with some great tips for cutting back if you need to.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

This episode was brought to you by Open Universities. Go to open.edu.au to check out the single module post graduate units they now offer.

Mastering Memory: 075  

Carly’s quite good at remembering things, Kelly’s totally rubbish. As in ‘forgot to pick up a friend’s kids from school on Monday’ rubbish.  

But that might be because Carly is an S on the Myers-Briggs scale (easily processes information at a detail level) while Kelly is an N (processes information at a more conceptual level). 

Despite their differences, both girls have some great tips to share when it comes to boosting your memory in both the long and short term.  

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

This episode was brought to you by Open Universities. Go to open.edu.au to check out the single module post graduate units they now offer.

We tackle listener problems: 074  

Kelly and Carly always try to do something a little different for the shows that end a season and this episode is no different. They asked their listeners if they had any burning personal problems or questions they needed help with and in this show, they work through those questions. 

Leigh wants to know if she’s crazy to be going back to Uni.  Jess wants to treat her friends without making them feel uncomfortable.  Emma would like to know how the girls would react to something awful happening in their lives.  Michael wants to know where to find the time to be creative.  Ellen has multiple passions and is keen to know how to effectively pursue them.  Emily needs help getting away from her inbox. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

How To Say No: 073  

For most of Kelly’s life, she’s been a dedicated over-committer, completely addicted to watching people’s faces light up when she said ‘Yes’ to them. As with everything, she had to learn the hard way to say No and actually spent a whole year (2012 to be specific) practising it. 

Carly, as you’ll know from previous episodes, hates saying No to any work that is on offer, and she has huge FOMO (fear of missing out) too. She would rather than lie than ever tell someone No! 

In this episode Kelly shares all the techniques she learnt in her Year of Saying No, and tries to give Carly and few more tools to do the same. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Waking up early: 072  

This episode comes straight out of one of the many amazing discussions that occur in the Straight and Curly Facebook group.  

Laura wants to get up early but when her alarm goes off each morning, says she physically can’t get out of bed. She asked the group for advice and there were so many great ideas shared, we had to turn it into a podcast. 

Carly books non-refundable exercise classes. 

Kelly thinks Laura needs to change the story she is telling herself when the alarm goes off. 

And no less than 15 other group members had tips of their own to share. 

If you too would like to get up early but struggle with the snooze button every morning, you’re going to love this episode. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

 

Perfectionism: 071  

Kelly never used to think she was a perfectionist – but in researching for her second book Practical Perfection, discovered she was. Carly used to think she was … but has now decided she’s actually just a really high-functioning human! 

So, what even is perfectionism and if you’ve got it, how do you manage it?  

If you’re someone who holds themselves to high standards and gets frustrated when you’re not able to achieve those standards, then it’s likely you have perfectionist tendencies. There’s a difference between healthy perfectionism and neurotic perfectionism, however. In this episode the girls distinguish between the two as well as sharing their own experiences with both. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

How we got where we are today: 070  

Someone in the Straight and Curly Facebook group wanted to know what paths Carly and Kelly travelled after finishing high school and how they both ended up becoming writers. 

As it turns out, their paths were very different and this episode takes listeners (and the girls!) on an interesting trip down memory lane.  

Kelly started out working in the sport and recreation industry. 

Carly’s first job was as a drama teacher. 

How did they both get from those places to where they are today? You’ll have to listen in to find out more 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

How to be more decisive: 069  

Kelly and Carly are both incredibly decisive people. Mostly because neither can handle the time-wasting aspect of taking ages to come to a decision.

In this episode they share their best tips for taking the agonising out of your decision-making process:

Spend your decision allowance on things that matter Use the information you have to make a decision Don’t let base desires lead the way Give yourself a time limit Don't negotiate with yourself over stupid things Stop trying to extract maximum happiness out of every decision Take an outside perspective Practice mindfulness

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

How to stand up for what you believe: 068  

Kelly and Carly admit, they’re a bit scared about this episode. Mainly because it involves them talking about things they think are pretty non-negotiable (vaccination, keeping your maiden name when married, organ donation). And they prefer people to not hate them.

But, they have faith in the Straight and Curly community to take everything they say in the spirit intended. Along the way, they share their best tips for expressing strong views about things, but without being a total dick about it.

Resources mentioned:

Elizabeth Kolbert – Why facts don’t change our minds Clementine Ford - Giving up your name after marriage is a choice that's worth questioning

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the  Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

What’s bothering us right now: 067  

Despite their best efforts to show people it’s not the case, some people seem to think Kelly and Carly swan through life without a care in the world. Most likely because neither of them like discussing their problems in the moment – they prefer to talk about the things they’ve fully processed and worked through. 

In today’s episode, the first before Straight and Curly takes a break for three weeks, the girls get vulnerable and share about the things that are bothering them right now: 

Carly’s worried about the environment and trying to reduce the amount of waste she produces … but finds it hard not to slip into becoming really vigilante about it all.  Kelly’s given up her beloved Flying Solo Editor role and discusses why it’s a really sensible thing to do … but still hurts.  Carly’s very frustrated that having an impeccable diet and working out really hard six days a week for an extended period of time yielded very little change on the scales. She’s worried what this means for her future self.  Kelly’s kids are currently on school holidays and she’s struggling to find the balance between getting all her work done – and giving them a fun school holiday experience.  Carly and Kelly are both frustrated by their propensity for taking on too much! 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

Travel: 066  

Kelly and Carly have both travelled quite extensively within Australia and overseas. In this episode they discuss: 

Where they’ve been  Where they’re dying to go   Where they’re dying to go back to  Travel hacks  Money saving tips for travel  How to manage the need for planning with the need for living in the moment when on holiday/travelling 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

Lucky Dip: 065  

Kelly asked her blog readers what topics they wanted her to write about. Several of the topics were super-interesting, but weren’t things she could write a full post on. She also wanted to get Carly’s view on a few of them. So Kelly and Carly tackle those questions together in this episode including: 

How do you get people to think for themselves?  How do you talk about money ‘well’?  How to deal with the ‘it never rains, but it pours’ woes of being a freelancer.  How to know when to give up on something you’re ‘crap’ at, and when to keep persisting.  How to deal with the nightly news (which seems to be all bad news).  How to deal with imposter syndrome. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

Decision fatigue: 064  

Decision fatigue refers to the deteriorating quality of decisions made by an individual after a long session of decision making. It is now understood as one of the causes of irrational trade-offs in decision making.

Decision fatigue explains why we're able to eat well in the morning, but make poor food choices at night. It explains why we'll put a good amount of thought into an important decision in the morning, but have no dramas making a snap decision about the same thing later in the day. In short, the more decisions we make over the course of a day - the less able we are to make good decisions by the end of that day because every decision we have to make saps our energy in some way.

In this episode, Carly and Kelly discuss ways to reduce the amount of decision fatigue in your life to set you up for making better decisions at any time of the day, not just the morning!

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Striving vs Life: 063  

Josie has a conundrum – after spending most of her life striving relentlessly, she’s come to a place where she’s … satisfied. And it’s kind of freaking her out. Josie asked: 

Do you think it’s important to have goals in life and to strive, or is it just as valid to meander along?  Do you think strivers can often have a negative undercurrent to their need to achieve? Or is this not that common?  How do you recognise when your goal setting is coming from a negative place?  And, any tips on how I can find motivation again to try and strive for a new goal that’s truly important to me and not about what other people think? 

As dedicated strivers themselves, answering the above questions also provided Kelly and Carly with the opportunity for some self-reflection. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

We recommend: 062  

This was a fun episode!

One of their listeners asked Kelly and Carly for recommendations on:

Books TV Foods to try Places to visit People they find interesting

It provided an interesting opportunity for them to show just how different they are!

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook

How to manage an existential crisis: 061  

Listener Saskia asked:

“What do you do when you've achieved your goals? How do you deal with the existential dread of "this is the rest of my life"? How do you set new goals after doing the goals that you've strived to reach? What comes after schooling, babies, marriage, house, whatever you've pursued. What's the answer to "now what??””

Whew, big topic! One that resonated quite deeply with those in the Straight and Curly Facebook group. While Kelly regularly experiences existential crises, Carly is far too sensible for those! So this episode is worth a listen for the different ways they come at this tricky subject.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

 

Is messiness really that bad?: 060  

This is a funny episode because neither girls are particularly messy types. That said, Kelly is anally tidy and cannot see the positives of any kind of messiness. So Carly goes in to bat for team ‘Messy’. 

While Kelly tried to convert listeners to the idea that ‘outer order contributes to inner calm’, Carly points out the difference between messy and dirty, and shares some research the indicates messy people are more creative. 

All in all, it’s an entertaining episode, if only to hear Kelly having a nervous breakdown at something she read in Sarah Wilson’s new book ‘First, we make the beast beautiful’. 

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook . 

Tracking diet and exercise: 059  

Carly is a committed tracker, Kelly hates them because she hates things holding her to account (she feels she should be able to hold herself to account). But there is no denying it, if you have fitness or diet goals, trackers are incredibly useful.

So, what are the pros and cons of fitness tracking?

And what are some of the girls’ favourite tools in that regard?

They share that and more in today’s episode.

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

Having difficult conversations: 058  

Difficult conversations. For the conflict-averse (like Kelly) – they can be terrifying. But they’re also a necessary part of life, and essential for good relationships. Today, Kelly and Carly share their best tips for having effective difficult conversations including:

Going into the conversation with a clear objective Avoiding the use of blaming language Mastering your emotions (remaining rational/not taking things personally) Sticking to the issue at hand

For more info on Kelly and Carly, and to see any links or resources mentioned in today’s episode, head over to  www.straightandcurly.com or come join the Straight and Curly group on Facebook .

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