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The Art of Charm Podcast is where self-motivated guys and gals, just like you, come to learn from a diverse mix of experienced mentors, including the world's best dating coaches, relationship experts, entrepreneurs, bestselling authors and other professional badasses. This is not about how to get the best out of others, it's about YOU. We're AJ & Jordan Harbinger. In our early 20s, we decided it was time to take our lives to the next level, especially in the realm of professional networking, dating and relationships. We learned from the best performance coaches, entrepreneurs, hustlers, life-hackers, fashion and image consultants from around the world and created a program unlike anything available anywhere. We talk in-depth about the stuff you're hungry to explore but only really dig up after a few drinks. We created The Art of Charm Podcast to help you take control of your destiny and get practical guidance from a wide range of experts. We do this by interviewing the best in the business and making their knowledge available to you right here, for free. Guests range from Motivational Speakers to Entrepreneurs to Tim Ferris to Dog the Bounty Hunter. Topics include networking, business, dating, relationships, sex, career advice, fitness & nutrition, life-hacking and lifestyle design. Think self-help is for losers? Youre in the right place. The Art of Charm is the place where ordinary people become extraordinary. Find more at: http://www.theartofcharmpodcast.com/

Episodes

583: AoC Toolbox | Imposter Syndrome  

The Art of Charm (@TheArtofCharm) talks about imposter syndrome and how to cope with the feeling you'll be uncovered as a fraud for being unworthy of what you've worked hard to achieve. [Photo by xmith xmith]

The Cheat Sheet: Do you ever feel like you've gotten undeserved reward or recognition from accomplishing something -- and it's just a matter of time before someone uncovers you for the fraud you are? This phenomenon is known as imposter syndrome. Almost everyone experiences this at some point -- but it's especially prevalent among high-performers. Imposter syndrome is often suffered silently, because the person experiencing it usually doesn't realize it's not unique to them and that there's a name for it. What lesson can The Ramones teach us about overcoming imposter syndrome? Learn why keeping a journal helps remind us of what we've achieved when we're in doubt of our credentials. And so much more...

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Minisode Monday #36 | Protection from Emotional Buttons  

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away.

We all have emotional buttons that set us off for some reason or another. But we don't have to be at their mercy if we understand where they come from and what they're trying to tell us.

Let's get to it!

The Cheat Sheet: The emotional buttons that set us off aren't logical, but they can be identified and defused logically. These emotional buttons are most easily pressed by those who are closest to us. They know how to push them because they're the ones who helped install them in the first place! The root cause of why these emotional buttons are so powerful is due to one of two things: it calls attention to something that's partially true and bothers us about ourselves, or it's contrary to one of our core values and it offends us deeply. This week, try to observe what emotional buttons are most easily triggered and try to determine which of these two reasons applies. To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he reads everything)!

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Fan Mail Friday #97 | Special Agent Harbinger  

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.

Let's cut to it! In this episode:

What is Jordan's background in law enforcement? Some listener feedback for Troubled in Tennessee from Fan Mail Friday #94 by someone who's been there before. Why don't we cover business and fitness topics more often? How do we offer grief support to others in a way that serves them best? (Thanks to the LifeProTips subreddit for help with this one.) A listener of shorter stature worries that he's taken on a small personality. A couple of questions about cultural identity in the United States. Quick shoutouts to PJ and Jameel Kassouri! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!

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582: Mind Pump | Raw Truth  

Mind Pump (@MindPump) hosts Adam Schafer, Justin Andrews, and Sal Di Stefano talk podcast shop, communication, business, the changing face of courtship, and more with Jordan in this longer format conversational episode.

The Cheat Sheet: How does Jordan bottle his own special brand of podcast magic when a good interview at The Art of Charm runs longer than anticipated? What do your good friends really mean when they tell you to "just be yourself?" What does a day at AoC residential Bootcamp look like (and why are women coached separately)? What are the most common pitfalls that ruin new relationships, and how has courtship changed since the '70s? Do you keep forgetting about all those nonverbal communication skills whenever you're actually mingling in the real world? Learn the Doorway Drill to convey confidence as an automatic habit. And so much more...

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581: Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear Pt. 2  

Gavin de Becker (@gavindebecker) is the the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government. This is the second part of a two-part series (check out part one here).

The Cheat Sheet: Why is "no" the end of the discussion for a man, but the beginning of a negotiation for a woman in our culture? Understand why you should be wary of the unsolicited promise. Should we try to join our intuition to our intellect, or do the two work better on their own? Learn the difference between worry and fear -- why worrying is ultimately useless while fear can save your life. Try the Rule of Opposites exercise to calibrate your intuition in the moment. And so much more...

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Minisode Monday #35 | Good Discomfort vs. Bad Discomfort  

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away.

As much as we might wish otherwise, personal growth isn't a comfortable process. AppSumo and OkDork's Noah Kagan rejoins us for this Minisode Monday to talk about how we can at least make sure it's a good discomfort rather than a bad discomfort. Let's get to it!

The Cheat Sheet: In order to grow, you have to step outside of your comfort zone. Not all discomfort is guaranteed to help you grow. Learn to tell the difference between the "good" discomfort that teaches you valuable lessons and "bad" discomfort that puts you through some kind of an ordeal without benefiting you in any way. Noah compares eating so much food that you can barely waddle away from the dinner table (bad discomfort) to going for a seven-mile walk with a good friend that results in sore legs -- but stronger muscles and better endurance -- and excellent conversation (good discomfort). Sometimes your brain will try to convince you the discomfort on the intended path ahead is bad when it's really good -- we're excellent at making excuses to avoid discomfort entirely. This week, try to step outside of your comfort zone in a way that promotes good discomfort. Noah recommends something simple: "Get out your phone right now and text someone something you wouldn't normally text them." It's an easy way to work out your discomfort muscle with minimal danger (though Jordan offers a few caveats you'd be wise to consider first). To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he reads everything)!

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Fan Mail Friday #96 | Self-Respect Isn't Selfish  

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.

Let's cut to it! In this episode:

If you listened to our recent episode with Darya Rose, you understand the importance of creating good habits without having to fall back on willpower. But where do you begin? More feedback on jealousy in response to the actress whose boyfriend has trouble with her romantic scenes, and advice given by another listener. While listening to our most recent episode with Susan Winter about breakups, a listener who recently went through a breakup was prompted to write in for advice about getting back into the dating game. The catch: she has HSV and dreads the responsibility of telling potential new partners. A casual relationship had to hit the brakes because your partner's mother passed away. It's a few months later and you want to pick up where you left off. How do you know if the other person's ready -- and what should you do if they're not? [For reference, Kimberly Seltzer talks about covert contracts a bit here.] If the married person you're having an affair with stops having sex with you because they've discovered you watch porn, there may be other issues at play here. You probably already know what our advice is going to be here, but come along for the ride anyway, won't you? Shoutouts to Jeremy Ashton from the HATponics crew and the CHS Lions Powers of Hope team who build aquaponics systems in Jamaica to help deaf kids grow food, and Meredith from her crazy dad in Wuxi! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!

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580: Linda Carroll | The Narcissistic Continuum  

Linda Carroll (@Lovecycleslinda) rejoins the show to discuss how we often label the other person in a relationship as "the crazy one" and why we need to examine where we land on the narcissistic continuum. Linda is a therapist and author of Love Cycles: The Five Essential Stages of Lasting Love.

The Cheat Sheet: After a painful breakup, have you ever casually referred to the estranged party as your "crazy ex?" It's common to chalk up the strains of complex human dynamics as the results of someone else's mental disorder when we want to avoid taking personal responsibility for them -- and this is dangerous. While a real narcissist is hard to find, we all land somewhere on the narcissistic continuum. Learn what we can do if we think we or someone we know and love might be in a relationship with a narcissist -- or even be one. Understand the difference between being a true narcissist and exhibiting narcissistic qualities. And so much more...

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579: Gavin de Becker | The Gift of Fear  

Gavin de Becker (@gavindebecker) is the the author of The Gift of Fear and Other Survival Signals That Protect Us from Violence and the security pioneer who designed the MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems used at the top levels of government.

The Cheat Sheet: Violence is a reality -- if you're not prepared for its possibility, you'll be caught off guard by its eventuality. Learn how to hone your sixth sense for danger. Discover how to spot the red flags that signify someone as a likely abuser, con artist, or predator. How can technology paired with human intuition protect us from people who mean us harm? How literal is the term "gut feeling?" And so much more...

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Minisode Monday #34 | How to Find a Mentor  

Welcome to Minisode Monday, where we kick off the week with something quick and actionable -- to make you more magnetic and effective -- that you can implement right away.

Last time he was on the podcast, Jon Acuff shared something he called the notecard exercise for people who wonder how to find good mentors. Let's get to it!

The Cheat Sheet: Gather a big stack of 3×5 cards. You're going to write down one person per notecard. [00:43] Ask yourself these questions. [00:52] You'll probably end up with a huge stack of cards -- or, at the very least, a good starting point. [01:31] The purpose of this exercise is to illustrate that you have so many options that don't often come to mind, and now you've got some contacts to get the ball rolling. [02:00] You can also arrange the cards on a board and reach out to your contacts one by one to see what unfolds. [02:18] To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he reads everything)!

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Fan Mail Friday #95 | High Performer Idiosyncrasies  

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right. Let's cut to it! In this episode:

Why do we steer away from more spiritual topics on this podcast? Is Jordan on the level? Mr. Mumbles from Fan Mail Friday 91 gets some advice from -- of all people -- Jordan's mom! You don't have to rely on the bar scene to be social -- you can banter with others in plenty of other situations. Adopting idiosyncrasies of high performers won't necessarily make you a high performer. Quick shoutouts to Rachel Whitney on the acting grind in Hollywood and Phil, who lost 140 pounds and shook off depression -- and credits his AoC experience for galvanizing these positive changes! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!

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578: Paul Bloom | Against Empathy  

Paul Bloom (@paulbloomatyale) is a developmental psychologist and author who returns to discuss his newly published book Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion.

The Cheat Sheet: How do you define empathy -- and do you believe it's a crucial component to "good" behavior? Learn why empathy actually does more harm than good by making us focus on smaller problems that affect one person over solving the bigger, intangible ones that can affect an entire population. How does empathy direct us to help in fundamentally biased ways? Why did we evolve empathy in the first place? Understand the differences between empathy, sympathy, and compassion (and why it matters in our decisions). And so much more...

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577: Julian Guthrie | How to Make a Spaceship  

Julian Guthrie (@JulianGuthrie) is an award-winning journalist and bestselling author. She joins us to discuss her new book How to Make a Spaceship: A Band of Renegades, an Epic Race, and the Birth of Private Spaceflight.

The Cheat Sheet: How Julian Guthrie gets in touch with hard-to-reach people. The types of habits and backgrounds shared by the movers and shakers of the aerospace industry -- itself a magnet for high achievers. How incentive competitions can spark an industry or even jumpstart a lagging field -- and why. Why it's crucial to be relentless in the pursuit of your vision and able to convey the sincerity of your passion. How to stay focused on the task at hand in the face of consistent rejection. And so much more...

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Minisode Monday #33 | Productivity Tricks with Noah Kagan  

In this Minisode Monday, AppSumo and OkDork's Noah Kagan rejoins us to talk about putting simple systems in place to boost productivity. The good news: it's not as complicated as you may think.

Let's get to it!

The Cheat Sheet: What are the two things that keep most people from being productive? What environment best lends itself to your productivity? Do you feel better when you're creating or consuming? Why is email such a poor way to maintain productivity -- and what might serve you better? How do you know when to stop dismissing something that's worth your time? And lots more... To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he reads everything)!

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Fan Mail Friday #94 | Bangers and Bottlenecks  

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right.

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The path to entrepreneurship is seldom taken alone. Why does AoC advertise for brands you don't hear about on other podcasts? Our friend Karen "BattleAxe" Baetzel tells us how some unfortunate aviator call signs come to be (and tells Jordan what his might be). Why is the real joke always in the comments? Is your relationship truly worthy of the "it's complicated" label? Quick shoutouts to Darya Rose (our most recent guest) and Clotilde Dusoulier -- foodie bloggers currently enjoying AoC -- and Sunrise Emmanuel! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!

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576: Darya Rose | Foodist  

Darya Rose (@summertomato) is a neuroscience Ph.D and author of Foodist: Using Real Food and Real Science to Lose Weight Without Dieting. On this episode, we talk about the psychology behind forming habits and what we can do to make lifestyle changes that last.

The Cheat Sheet: If you're one of three American adults who qualifies as obese, you've probably tried dieting. Has it worked? What's the biggest mistake people make when trying to get healthy, lose weight, or make some other positive lifestyle changes? Why traditional willpower-based habits like dieting don't work. How to use your own psychology against yourself to shed old bad habits and make new good habits stick. What's the key difference between success and failure? And so much more...

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575: Tony Hawk | How Did I Get Here?  

Tony Hawk (@tonyhawk) is a vertical skateboarding legend who enjoys household name status these days, but as we learn in discussing his book How Did I Get Here?: The Ascent of an Unlikely CEO, the journey's been far from easy.

The Cheat Sheet: Why taking risks is important for the sake of progress. How personal success can be gauged independently of financial success. Why your personal brand needs to be genuine and something you're willing to protect. Why it's important to learn everything about your craft -- even if you've "got a guy who handles that." What The Tony Hawk Foundation does for underserved communities. And so much more...

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Minisode Monday #32 | Do You Believe You?  

We're our own worst critics. In this Minisode Monday, the challenge is to question the validity of the thoughts we have about ourselves.

The Cheat Sheet: You're a heck of a lot more than just your thoughts -- which is a good thing, considering we all harbor negative thoughts about ourselves. Our thoughts determine our feelings, which in turn determine our actions, which later define our beliefs. Our thought patterns are largely formed out of habits; our belief processes get stronger as we get older -- regardless of how untrue these thoughts may be. The problem isn't the thoughts themselves; it's the fact that we take these thoughts as truth without questioning them just because they're ours. It's a cycle. Challenge these thoughts! If they're not moving you forward, do something about it. It's easier said than done, but questioning the validity of these thoughts is a good place to start. Is the risk of failure really impossibly high? Are you really not smart enough? Are you really so unattractive that you're completely unlovable? Who might disagree with these assessments, and why might they disagree? To learn more about social dynamics and productivity hacks, take the Art of Charm Challenge by clicking here, or text CHARMED to 33444. Also be sure to check out our Social Capital Intensive here! Let us know about how you put today's Minisode Monday into practice! Leave a comment below, tweet with @TheArtofCharm in your response, or write to Jordan directly: jordan@theartofcharm.com (he reads everything)!

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Fan Mail Friday #93 | Holiday Party Networking  

Time for Fan Mail Friday, where we'll be answering your questions and dropping some knowledge and feedback to help you kick the weekend off right!

Your company just got bought and your future there is uncertain. Is this week's holiday party an ideal networking event with the new overlords? The best way to get depressed and down on ourselves is to assume that we can read other people's minds. Negative feedback needs to be taken in balance. (If we took our negative feedback at The Art of Charm too much to heart, we wouldn't have two shows under our belts -- let alone 574 full episodes, 31 Minisode Mondays, 93 Fan Mail Fridays, and regular bonuses along the way.) You've followed our advice for attracting new people into your life (particularly Kira Asatryan's Stop Being Lonely tips from episode 504). But what happens when you seem to attract particularly needy people? In our recent interview with returning guest Philip McKernan, Jordan got into the preparation required to make a good show. When it comes to life, are you fully preparing for your show? Q: How many shrinks does it take to change a light bulb? A: The light bulb has to want to change. A good friend making poor decisions may be a lot like that light bulb -- he or she may not even want your good advice. Quick shoutouts to Anna in Norway and Chris Rudolph on the road that intersected with AJ and Johnny! Have any questions, comments, or stories you'd like to share with us? Drop us a line at friday@theartofcharm.com!

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574: Sally Hogshead | How to Fascinate  

Sally Hogshead (@SallyHogshead) tells us how we can make anything fascinating in as little as one hour by applying the principles of her book Fascinate: How to Make Your Brand Impossible to Resist.

The Cheat Sheet: Are you pistachio or vanilla? Different is better than better -- learn why standing out and knowing how to fascinate is your greatest competitive advantage. Neurologically, the process of fascination is similar to the infatuation of falling in love. Discover how to find your particular strengths and use them for maximum leverage -- not just in business, but in life. Take the fascination test to identify what makes you different -- so you can do more of what you're already doing right and less of what detracts from your strengths. And so much more...

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