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In an intimate relationship, there are some deliberate manipulation tactics. For example:
Verbally claiming to attach importance to you but refusing to communicate with you in depth. This is to cause cognitive dissonance in you. Unconsciously, you will increase your emotional investment in this relationship. Eventually, these emotions will transform into affection, leading you to fall in love with someone who originally did not meet your requirements. Maintaining overly close contact with other people of the opposite sex and insisting that they are just ordinary friends, and deliberately praising other women in front of you. This is to make you unconsciously enter into competition with others and feel that you can never securely possess this person no matter what. Since you completely lack a sense of security, you are forced to verify your partner's love from some very trivial matters. For example, you start to demand an instant reply to messages and other things that you didn't originally care about. Therefore, if we find ourselves in a relationship asking our partner to do these trivial things, please pause for a moment and think about why. Why do we need him to reply to messages instantly? Are we trying to confirm our own value? If you don't realize this, these small demands of ours will eventually become the handle by which the other person blames you, accusing you of being a control freak who demands him to do many small things that he cannot do. Because these manipulation means are very concealed and only target you, when you quarrel with the other person over these small things, the other person immediately accuses you of being selfish and petty. You have been in a state of extreme lack of security and self-doubt for a long time, resulting in an extremely unstable mental state. -
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I. The Origin of Women's Territorial Consciousness
In the matriarchal society, women held a dominant position and the family centered around the mother. This ancient family power structure pattern enabled women to develop a natural territorial consciousness. Home became an extension of their spiritual world, and only when the home furnishings, tools and so on were all chosen by themselves would they gain a sense of satisfaction with the home.II. The Root Causes of the Contradictions between Mothers-in-law and Daughters-in-law
Both mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law consider themselves to be the hostesses of the family. It is easy for the two sides to have contradictions regarding living habits, values, communication methods, resource allocation and economic issues. The contradictions mainly stem from their feeling that their own boundaries have been violated. They have a natural hostility towards each other and find it very difficult to put themselves in the other's shoes, because putting oneself in the other's shoes means giving up power.III. The Influence of Giving up Power
Sacrifice and Trade-off: Giving up power means having to make sacrifices, and when making sacrifices, one has to consider whether it is worthwhile and what rewards can be obtained. Psychological Imbalance and Consequences: Psychologically giving up power is likely to lead to psychological imbalance, which is not conducive to the long-term stability of the family. It will give rise to feelings of grievance, make one's own value unrecognized, and then trigger a trust crisis, plunging the relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law into a vicious cycle. Moreover, this state of losing power often lasts for a long time, leaving many women in a cycle where they are unable to seize power, yet reluctant to lose power, and can only keep complaining. -
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Regarding the acquisition of marital resources and self-inflation:In a marriage, if a man can obtain stable life care and emotional support, he is very likely to achieve positive improvements both physically and mentally.It is somewhat reasonable that a wife may find it difficult to continue to serve as a projection carrier after marriage. When a wife remains stagnant for a long time, in the eyes of her husband, she may gradually lose the space that allows him to fantasize and endow her with idealized traits. Therefore, a man may seek a projection object outside the marriage. Because projection requires a sense of mystery and unpredictability.Men who are indulged in this kind of projection will experience cognitive dissonance. When a man projects his ideal image onto a certain woman, in order to maintain the rationality and continuity of this projection, he will often selectively ignore or whitewash the problems existing in that woman and only be willing to see the side that conforms to his imagination.
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本集播客探讨了当代男性爱的能力下降的现象，指出其原因在于：年轻男性依赖“拜金”行为逃避付出；社交媒体助长了利用和操控人际关系以获取利益的不良风气， ；社会对“花花公子”的推崇扭曲了爱情观；便捷的社交软件导致男性沉迷于短暂关系，缺乏建立深度情感的能力；以及， 男性主动选择了这种轻松的路径 。
This episode of the podcast explores the phenomenon of the decline in contemporary men's ability to love, and points out that the reasons are as follows: Young men rely on "money-worshiping" behaviors to avoid making efforts; Social media has fueled the bad trend of exploiting and manipulating interpersonal relationships to obtain benefits; Society's admiration for "playboys" has distorted the concept of love; Convenient social apps have led men to be addicted to short-term relationships and lack the ability to build deep emotional bonds; Moreover, men have actively chosen this easy path.
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This episode explores the impact of social media and dating apps on modern people's romantic relationships. It points out that the convenient online interactions have led people to form two patterns in intimate relationships. One is being addicted to short-term or polyamorous relationships and pursuing the excitement of novelty, yet possibly being unable to adapt to long-term commitments. The other is longing for long-term relationships but feeling physically and mentally exhausted and doubting their self-worth in the process of constantly attempting short-term interactions. Only plain, lasting and mutually trusting long-term relationships can enable people to live a happy life.
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The importance of the tradition.
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If, during the course of our work, we are confronted with substantial uncertainties and find ourselves in a work environment that lacks the capacity to embrace diverse thinking and the clash of viewpoints, then what meaning or value can be ascribed to the act of composing our work reports?
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People Who Show Weakness to You Are Actually Manipulating You.
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If you are overly sensitive and irritable in an intimate relationship, it may not be that there is something wrong with your emotion management, but that there is something wrong with the relationship itself.
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Love is not unconditional. Please admit, identify and express your own emotional needs.
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Do you regard over-giving as a means of getting rewards and gaining recognition?
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The other person is getting worse and worse, and part of it is the result of our "training".
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Before the storm arrives, make sure that we have taken the lifebuoy with us.
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In an intimate relationship, the reason why you dare not put forward your needs is not that you are not brave enough, but that you don't feel safe.
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Why do we fall in love with others so easily? Why is it that regardless of the other person's qualities, we can fall in love with them so easily? If our love is rational, then why are we in so much pain?
