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In this powerful episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Karden Rabin, a nervous system medicine practitioner and trauma expert, to explore the profound connection between the nervous system, trauma, and emotional awareness. Together, they dive into the science and art of somatic healing, offering a fresh perspective on chronic pain, emotional regulation, and the mind-body relationship.
Karden shares his transformative journey into somatic therapies, emphasizing the importance of understanding and responding to the bodyâs signals. They discuss practical tools like the AIR approach (Awareness, Interruption, Redesign) and the concept of "emotional cold plunging" as a method for confronting and processing difficult emotions. Whether you're dealing with chronic pain, navigating trauma, or simply seeking a deeper connection with your body, this episode is packed with insights and techniques to support your healing journey.
About Karden Rabin:
Karden is a leading expert in nervous system medicine and psychophysiological disorders, combining bodywork, brain retraining, and somatic trauma therapies to help thousands of clients worldwide. As Co-Founder of SOMIA and a regular contributor to Bessel Van Der Kolkâs Trauma Research Foundation, Karden brings a wealth of experience from working with organizations like The Wounded Warrior Project, Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health, and Starbucks.Key Takeaways:
Emotional awareness is crucial for understanding overall health. The nervous system plays a central role in chronic pain and trauma. Healing requires addressing both the mind and body in an integrated way. Somatic work focuses on listening to and responding to the body's signals. Cathartic experiences may bring temporary relief but aren't always effective. Emotional cold plunging is a tool for safely confronting difficult emotions. The AIR approach (Awareness, Interruption, Redesign) provides a practical framework for change. Healing is a relational process with the body, requiring patience and connection.Why You Should Listen:
This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to deepen their understanding of how trauma and emotions impact the body. Whether you're a therapist, someone managing chronic pain, or simply curious about the mind-body connection, Eli and Karden offer actionable insights and relatable wisdom to inspire your healing journey.Links & Resources:
Connect with Karden Rabin: Website | Instagram Learn more about SOMIA: Website Follow Eli Weinstein: Instagram | TikTok More episodes of The Dude Therapist: WebsiteTune in and start a new kind of conversationâwith your body, mind, and emotions. Listen now! đïž
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In this enlightening episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein is joined by the incredible duo, Joree Rose, LMFT, and Dr. John Schinnerer. As partners in both life and love, Joree and John have dedicated over five years to guiding couples toward deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Their expertise shines as they share insights from their groundbreaking work in couples therapy and their podcast, Love Isnât Enough.
Together, they discuss the transformative power of couples work, emphasizing that while love is a foundation, itâs not always sufficient to sustain a healthy, lasting partnership. They delve into the critical importance of individual growth within relationships and how understanding core wounds and triggers can lead to more empathetic and connected interactions. Youâll hear about the impact of societal expectations around masculinity on emotional regulation and why cultivating self-awareness is crucial for both partners.
Joree and John also reveal practical strategies, such as non-defensive listening, the power of weekly check-ins, and techniques to break cycles of conflict. Plus, they introduce their innovative year-long Master Class series, which focuses on the 12 key areas affecting couples' connections, along with their unique and highly effective couples therapy model. What makes their approach stand out is the humility and vulnerability they bring by sharing their own relationship challengesâand how theyâve grown stronger through them.
Whether you're in a relationship or working to better understand your partner, this episode is packed with wisdom, actionable advice, and heartfelt moments that will leave you inspired to invest in the connection you share.
Resources Mentioned:
Learn more about Joree and Johnâs work and their Master Class series at www.loveisntenough.net Follow their podcast, Love Isnât Enough, for more relationship insightsConnect with Eli:
Follow Eli Weinstein on Instagram, TikTok, and Threads Visit The Dude Therapist for more episodes on mental health, relationships, and personal growthTune in and discover why love, while essential, truly isnât enoughâand what you can do to build a thriving relationship beyond it!
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In this thought-provoking episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Sara Kuburic, better known as The Millennial Therapist, for a deep dive into the complexities of mental health and self-discovery. As an existential psychotherapist, Dr. Kuburic opens up about her journey and the powerful lessons sheâs learned along the way.
Together, Eli and Dr. Kuburic tackle some of the most pressing issues of our time, such as the impact of labels on our identity, the balancing act between freedom and anxiety, and the delicate interplay between religion and personal meaning. They also shed light on how social media shapes our mental health landscape and the necessity of being real in a world full of filters.
Dr. Kuburic emphasizes the importance of taking personal responsibility in our relationships and shares the hard truths about what it means to live authentically. Whether youâre looking to better understand your sense of self, improve your relationships, or simply reflect on your own journey, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical takeaways.
Don't miss this chance to explore the true essence of self-discovery with one of todayâs leading voices in existential therapy. Plus, learn about Dr. Kuburicâs debut book, Itâs On Me, a must-read guide to recovering from self-loss and living a meaningful, authentic life.
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In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Jessie Gold takes us on a journey into the heart of mental health careâwhere the personal meets the professional. As the first Chief Wellness Officer for the University of Tennessee System, overseeing five campuses and over 62,000 students, Dr. Gold is no stranger to the pressures faced by healthcare professionals. Sheâs also an acclaimed psychiatrist, professor, speaker, and author of "How Do You Feel," a book that unpacks the emotional reality and humanity behind healthcare.
Key Highlights:
Self-Disclosure in Therapy: Dr. Gold opens up about how sharing her own experiences enhances therapeutic relationships. Burnout & Compassion Fatigue: Discover the signs and effects of burnout, plus the emotional cost that mental health professionals often pay. Big Feelings Matter: Why suppressing emotions can be detrimental and how validating feelings is essential for everyone, therapists included. Therapists Need Therapy Too: Dr. Gold emphasizes the importance of mental health support for those in caregiving roles. Writing from the Heart: Her book "How Do You Feel" highlights the often-overlooked emotional needs of healthcare workers and the importance of self-care in the profession.Whether you're a healthcare worker, mental health advocate, or someone passionate about authenticity and self-care, this episode will leave you with valuable insights and a fresh perspective on mental health. Dr. Goldâs words remind us that everyone, even the caretakers, deserves care and compassion.
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In this compelling episode, weâre joined by Dr. Sheila Nazarian, a highly acclaimed plastic surgeon, successful entrepreneur, renowned television personality, and dynamic activist. Beyond founding her private plastic surgery practice, Dr. Nazarian launched multiple ventures, including NazarianSkin, The Skin Spot e-commerce site, Nazarian Plastic Surgery, Spa26, and Physique26 Weight Management Program. Sheâs been featured on popular platforms like Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon, E! News, The Doctors, Fox News, NewsNation, and the Emmy-nominated Netflix series Skin Decision: Before and After.
Dr. Nazarian brings her courageous voice and unwavering commitment to advocating for Jewish identity, anti-Semitism awareness, and empowering the next generation. Tune in for insights on:
Embracing Jewish identity in todayâs climate Transforming personal experience into impactful activism Facing fear to mobilize action and truth Preparing the next generation to stand up for their beliefs The role of community, personal safety, and shared responsibilityFollow Dr. Nazarian's advocacy journey on Instagram @drsheilanazarian and X @doctornazarian, and donât miss this inspiring conversation on resilience, courage, and the drive to empower a better tomorrow!
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In this episode, Eli Weinstein and Ash Cebulka delve into the transformative power of understanding the subconscious mind. They discuss the differences between conscious and subconscious thoughts, the impact of trauma on our lives, and effective techniques for personal transformation. Ash shares insights on accessing and rewiring the subconscious to foster healing and growth, emphasizing the importance of intuition and self-awareness. The conversation highlights practical methods for listeners to begin their journey of self-discovery and healing, including journaling and visualization.
Bio:
Ash Cebulka is a world-renowned transformation coach, author, and creator of the My New Chapter journal, with over a decade of experience in the personal development space. People like to say that Ash is the one you call when your life needs a new chapter; Ash's mission is to help you create meaningful and sustainable changes in your life. Her work is based on neuroscience, intuitive practices, and spirituality. Her work guides you to insights illuminating your conditioning and old programming so you can write a new heart-centered story for your life. A story that you consciously choose to create.
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Whether speaking on stage, working with creatives on retreats, or working with my private clients, she loves sharing practical and powerful practices you can integrate into your daily life so you can not only change your lifestyle and mindset but, most importantly, have a more resilient, stronger, loving, and light-hearted relationship with yourself. -
In this thought-provoking episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Dr. Judy, a renowned clinical and forensic neuropsychologist, to dive deep into the power of self-talk and how our attachment styles shape our present-day behaviors. Dr. Judy sheds light on the long-lasting impact of past experiences, offering insights into why we act the way we do and how balanced thinking can lead to transformative healingâat any age. Together, they tackle the often misunderstood world of disorganized attachment, uncover practical coping strategies, and provide actionable tips to turn those nagging negative thoughts into empowering positive actions. Whether you're seeking healing or understanding, this episode has something for everyone!
BIO:
Dr. Judy Ho, Ph. D., ABPP, ABPdN, is a triple board certified and licensed Clinical and Forensic Neuropsychologist, a tenured Associate Professor at Pepperdine University, and a published author, penning âStop Self-Sabotage,â published by HarperCollins in August 2019; a book detailing a scientifically driven six-step program which has been translated into 7 additional languages around the world. Her second book, which she co-authored with Max Dubrow, entitled "Iâll Give it to Your Straight-ish: What Your Teen Wants You to Know," is published by Flashpoint and contains Dr. Judy's evidence-based tips to help parents raise healthy and resilient teenagers. Dr. Judyâs third book, The New Rules of Attachment, which focuses on healing insecure attachment styles at any age to optimize well-being, career, goal attainment, and relationships with family, friends, and colleagues, was published by Hachette Book Group in March 2024. Dr. Judy maintains a private practice in Manhattan Beach, CA where she specializes in comprehensive neuropsychological assessments and expert witness work. She regularly appears as an expert psychologist on television, podcasts, and radio and contributes to other media, including print and electronic periodicals. She was a co-host on the syndicated daytime television talk show âThe Doctors,â co-host of CBSâs Face the Truth, and host of The SuperCharged Life podcast, which focuses on scientific, tangible tips for physical and mental wellness and strategies for motivation and productivity, produced by Stage 29 Podcast Productions.Dr. Judy Ho is an avid researcher and two-time recipient of the National Institute of Mental Health Services Research Award. She hosts an active research program to improve mental health care for high-need populations and is the chair of the Institutional Review Board at Pepperdine University. Her treatment approaches integrate the scientific principles of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. She often speaks at national and local events including research, clinical, and corporate conferences and workshops for organizations and schools.Dr. Judy received her bachelor's degrees in Psychology and Business Administration from UC Berkeley, and her masters and doctorate from SDSU/UCSD Joint Doctoral Program in Clinical Psychology. She completed a National Institute of Mental Health sponsored fellowship at UCLA's Semel Institute.
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In this episode of The Dude Therapist, Eli Weinstein sits down with Todd Baratzâtherapist, author, and expert on relationships and generational trauma. Todd dives into the power of therapy, the importance of open communication in families, and why 'good enough' relationships might be more fulfilling than we think. He also unpacks the nuances of modern dating and how understanding our triggers can lead to greater self-awareness.
Tune in as Todd shares personal reflections and practical advice for overcoming emotional hurdles and fostering healthier connections in your life.
Takeaways:
Todd Barretts emphasizes the importance of long-term therapy relationships. Generational trauma significantly impacts our understanding of ourselves. Open communication in families fosters emotional intimacy and connection. Modern dating is filled with anxiety and unrealistic expectations. The concept of 'good enough' relationships is crucial for long-term satisfaction. Triggers can provide valuable insights into our emotional states. Acceptance of our feelings is essential for personal growth. Relationships inherently involve challenges and discomfort. Self-awareness is key to navigating emotional complexities. Todd's personal journey informs his therapeutic approach.Bio:
Todd Baratz is a renowned psychotherapist and sex therapist whose innovative approach to mental health and relationships has established him as a leading figure in his field. In addition to his clinical practice, Baratz is a prolific writer and speaker. His insights are regularly featured in various media outlets, where he discusses topics ranging from romantic relationships to individual mental wellness. He lives in New York City and Los Angeles. Learn more on Instagram under his handle YourDiagnonsense. He is the author of How to Love Someone Without Losing Your Mind.
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Ready to dive into a raw, real, and much-needed conversation on masculinity? This week, Eli Weinstein sits down with Brendan to unpack the emotional struggles boys and men face today. From feeling isolated to fighting societal pressure to âman up,â they dig deep into the loneliness men often keep hidden.
Brendan shares eye-opening research on teenage boys, shedding light on why building community and self-acceptance is the key to emotional growth. They get real about why vulnerability isnât a weaknessâitâs a game changer.
This episode is all about breaking down walls and embracing emotions as part of being human. Whether youâre a guy, raising one, or just curious about emotional well-being, this is for you!
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Dr. Frank Anderson discusses trauma and healing in this episode. He shares his personal experience with trauma and how it has shaped his career in helping others heal. Dr. Anderson emphasizes the importance of understanding and accepting our responses to trauma and the need for connection and support in the healing process. He also highlights the significance of trusting our own wisdom and seeking corrective experiences. Dr. Anderson believes that healing from trauma is possible and encourages individuals to appreciate their own resilience and capacity for healing.
Bio:
Frank Anderson, MD, is a world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist. He is the acclaimed author of Transcending Trauma, the memoir To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation, and the co-author of the Internal Family Systems Skills Training Manual. As a global speaker on treating trauma and dissociation, heâs passionate about teaching brain-based psychotherapy and integrating current neuroscience knowledge with Internal Family Systems (IFS). Dr. Anderson is the co-founder of The Trauma Institute and Trauma Informed Media, organizations that promote trauma awareness, education, integration, and healing. He is a lead trainer at the IFS Institute under Richard Schwartz and has a long affiliation with Bessel van der Kolk and the Trauma Research Foundation. Dr. Anderson maintains a private practice in Harvard, MA, where he lives with his husband and two sons. Follow him at FrankAndersonMD.com and on Instagram at @frank_andersonmd.
Takeaways
Understand and accept your responses to trauma. Don't blame yourself for how you react. You have what you need inside of you to heal. Trust your own wisdom and seek support and connection. Healing from trauma happens in connection with others. Find healthy and safe relationships that provide corrective experiences. Healing is a process that takes time. Take it one step at a time and be patient with yourself.Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
08:01 The Concept of 'Normal' and Self-Acceptance
12:48 Traumatic Experiences and Processing
16:39 Becoming a Chameleon and Opening Up
19:03 Healing Trauma and the Role of Protectors
26:13 The Journey of Healing and Patience
31:55 The Resurgence of Trauma Healing and Integrated Approaches
39:26 Key Points on Trauma and Healing
43:00 Reaching Out and Finding Healing
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Sarah Ann Macklin, a registered nutritionist and founder of the top health podcast Live Well, Be Well, shares her journey from the modeling industry to becoming a nutritionist and mental health advocate. She emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and self-care in achieving overall wellness. Sarah discusses the impact of societal pressure and comparison on our mental health and offers strategies for cultivating a positive mindset. She suggests naming the inner critic, practicing mindfulness, and writing self-compassionate letters to develop a healthier relationship with ourselves and our bodies.
Sarah Ann Macklin is a multifaceted force in the realm of health, nutrition and advocacy. As the founder of the acclaimed podcast Live Well Be Well and the visionary behind the Be Well Collective, she has galvanised change in the wellness landscape. A registered nutritionist, TEDx speaker, international model and esteemed health journalist, Sarah's impact exceeds boundaries. Named by Marie Claire as the Jamie Oliver of the Modelling industry.
Her dedication to preventative mental health initiatives led to the establishment of the Be Well Collective, a not-for-profit organization committed to preventable mental health support on a mission for all minds to BE Well. Through her top health and nutrition podcast, Live Well, Be Well, one of the biggest UK health podcasts with exclusive of-the-moment health conversations involving the worldâs renowned scientists and health experts, Sarah has publicized invaluable insights and garnered widespread acclaim.
Takeaways
Self-compassion is essential for overall wellness and involves acknowledging and accepting our imperfections and treating ourselves with kindness and understanding. Societal pressure and comparison can negatively impact our mental health, and it's important to recognize that everyone experiences self-doubt and struggles. Practicing mindfulness and being present in the moment can help us become more aware of our thoughts and feelings and respond to them in a more rational and compassionate way. Writing self-compassionate letters to ourselves can improve body satisfaction and body image by fostering acceptance and gratitude for our bodies. Developing a positive mindset takes time and effort, but it is possible to cultivate self-love and self-acceptance by challenging negative thoughts and treating ourselves with compassion.Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Sarah Ann Macklin
01:00 Sarah's Journey into Nutrition and Wellness
03:20 The Impact of the Modeling Industry on Mental Health
08:43 The Dangers of Comparison in the Digital Age
14:45 The Importance of Self-Compassion in Achieving Health
19:49 Balancing Self-Compassion with Societal Pressure
25:31 Cultivating a Positive Mindset and Overcoming Self-Doubt
28:49 Improving Body Image through Self-Compassion
35:23 Strategies for Developing a Healthier Mindset
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Dr. Kat Truitt, a clinical psychologist and applied neuroscientist, discusses the importance of understanding and working with our brains to improve mental health. She shares her personal journey of struggling with mental health and how it led her to pursue a career in psychology. Dr. Truitt emphasizes the need to break down barriers and make mental health services accessible to everyone. She explains how our brains can sometimes feel like they are trying to hurt us, but it's actually a survival mechanism gone awry. She also discusses the concept of the brain holding the key to our health and wellness and how we can learn to utilize it. Dr. Truitt highlights the power of psychosensory tools, such as EMDR and mindful touch, in healing trauma and promoting resilience. She encourages individuals to prioritize their brain health and engage in practices that strengthen their mental well-being.
00:00 Introduction and Background 03:22 Understanding the Power of Our Brains 08:10 Creating Space for Change 19:27 Rebuilding Core Values 23:44 Viewing Trauma as a Challenge and Opportunity 28:21 Training and Strengthening the Brain 34:21 Healing Trauma with Psychosensory Tools 47:36 Conclusion and Contact InformationDr. Kate Truitt, an award-winning clinical psychologist and applied neuroscientist, is internationally recognized for her trauma, stress, and resilience expertise. As the founder of the Truitt Institute, she integrates cutting-edge neuroscience into mental health training and seminars. She also leads her clinical team of expert mental health practitioners at Dr. Kate Truitt & Associates. She serves as CEO of both the Amy Research Foundation and the Trauma Counseling Center of Los Angeles.
As a member of the Goldie Hawn Foundationâs MindUP Scientific Advisory Committee as well as an expert contributor to the Kevin Love Fund and the Girl Scouts of America, Dr. Truitt passionately advocates for mental health literacy and empowerment globally. With an impressive social media following of over 140,000 and a combined viewer and readership of over 10 million, she regularly shares valuable mental health insights.
Her voice in the mental health arena extends to her role as a sought-after speaker and expert in media, including features on BBC and Today. Dr. Truitt has delivered keynotes and training at prestigious platforms like the United Nations and the United States Department of Defense. As the author of Healing in Your Hands: Self-Havening Exercises to Harness Neuroplasticity, Heal Traumatic Stress, and Build Resilience and Keep Breathing, she is dedicated to advancing the treatment of trauma and stress disorders, making significant strides in destigmatizing mental health and fostering resilience worldwide.
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Julie Manano, a licensed marriage and family therapist, specializes in working with couples using emotionally focused therapy for couples. She focuses on attachment styles, particularly the anxious-avoidant dynamic. A healthy relationship is defined by compatibility, shared values, and effective conflict management. Conflict is an opportunity for growth and bonding but must be managed with emotional safety. Change in attachment style can happen within a relationship, but it requires awareness, understanding, and time. The deeper questions to ask in a relationship involve exploring fears, views of self, and shame. Love languages are not enough to replace emotional bonding. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses his book and the importance of understanding relationships' underlying emotions and behaviors. He emphasizes the need for self-reflection and self-awareness to create positive behavior change. Weinstein also highlights the negative cycles that couples often get caught in and provides examples of how to break free from them. He discusses the importance of recognizing that partners are on the same team and need to support each other emotionally. Additionally, he addresses the challenges of adjusting to changes in a relationship and the importance of patience and growth.
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00:00 Introduction to Julie Manano and Attachment Styles 01:28 Defining Healthy Relationships and Conflict Management 05:09 Breaking the Ideal of No Conflict in Relationships 08:56 The Role of Repair in Relationships 10:22 Understanding Change in Attachment Styles 13:13 Fear of Vulnerability and Change in Relationships 14:40 The Importance of Attachment Styles in Relationships 16:30 Changing Attachment Styles Within a Relationship 18:24 Balancing Repair and Attachment Style Work in Therapy 21:09 Exploring Deeper Questions in Relationships 23:02 The Limitations of Love Languages in Relationships 24:26 A Different Approach to Love and Relationships 24:54 Understanding the Underlying Emotions and Behaviors 27:18 Recognizing the Complexity of Relationship Problems 33:56 Partners on the Same Team: Emotional Support 37:20 Sympathy over Empathy: Connecting to Feelings 48:28 Breaking Free from Negative CyclesJulie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.
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Dr. Stan Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, discusses the importance of secure functioning in relationships and the principles of mutual care and the couple bubble. He emphasizes the need for couples to create a shared vision and set of social contracts to protect and support each other. Dr. Tatkin also highlights the challenges of modern dating and the importance of building secure functioning relationships from the start. He concludes by discussing the ongoing research being conducted by the PACT Institute to provide evidence-based support for their approach.
Bio:
Dr. Tatkin and his wife, Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, created the PACT Institute in 2010 to train mental health professionals to successfully integrate a psychobiological approach in their clinical practices. They appreciate his depth of understanding â of both the scientific research and the human condition â and how he integrates that wisdom to form the foundation of the comprehensive principles and methodologies he teaches. The American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists CA honored Stan with the Educator of the Year award in 2014.
Dr. Tatkin helps couples create healthy attachments and secure-functioning relationships based on fairness, justice, and sensitivity. In addition to his robust clinical practice in Calabasas, California, Dr. Tatkin and Tracey lead couples through Wired For Love Couple Retreats -- both online and in person across the United States and Europe.
Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at the UCLA David Geffen School of Medicine, Department of Family Medicine. He is on the board of directors of Lifespan Learning Institute and serves as a founding member on Relationships First, a nonprofit organization founded by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction to Dr. Stan Tatkin and the PACT Institute 02:00 Understanding PACT and its Polytheoretical Approach 04:54 The Motivation Behind Creating a New Perspective in Couples Therapy 08:44 The Impact of John Gottman and Sue Johnson on Couples Therapy 09:42 The Role of Brain Science and Psychobiology in Couples Therapy 11:32 Applying Brain Science and Psychobiology to Communication and Conflict Resolution 13:25 The Importance of Knowledge and Psychoeducation in Couples Therapy 15:22 The Interplay Between the Brain and Couples Therapy 20:16 Revising 'Wired for Love' and the Changing Landscape of Relationships 23:14 Common Relationship Pitfalls and Mistakes to Avoid 27:38 Creating a Shared Vision and Accommodating Differences in Relationships 35:16 The Importance of Mutual Care and the Couple Bubble 44:51 Applying PACT Principles to Modern Dating and Relationships 50:14 Building Secure Functioning Relationships from the Start 52:36 Key Relationship Advice from Dr. Stan Tatkin 55:03 Ongoing Research by the PACT Institute--- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/thedudetherapist/support -
In this episode, Eli Weinstein interviews Chiemi, a leading expert in infertility and IVF. They discuss the misconceptions and assumptions surrounding infertility, the ongoing emotional and physical toll of the journey, and the importance of compassion and support. They also explore the dynamics of support within couples, the need for active listening and validation, and the challenge of balancing grief and joy. Chiemi emphasizes the importance of honoring one's experience and creating spaces for vitality and self-care. They also discuss the lack of recognition and ritual around the grief of infertility.
Key Ideas:
Infertility and IVF are often misunderstood, and there are many misconceptions and assumptions surrounding these experiences. The emotional and physical toll of infertility and IVF is significant, and it is important to acknowledge and validate the grief and trauma that individuals and couples go through. Support within couples is crucial, and it is important to listen to and validate each other's experiences actively. Balancing grief and joy can be challenging, but it is possible to hold space for both emotions and allow oneself to experience happiness alongside the pain. Creating spaces for self-care, vitality, and emotional well-being is essential during the infertility journey. The grief of infertility is often unrecognized and lacks the rituals and support that are typically associated with other forms of loss.Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Discussion of Misconceptions about Infertility
03:24 The Unrecognized Grief of Infertility
08:55 The Importance of Conversations about Loss and Fertility
15:01 Supporting Each Other in the Infertility Journey
19:12 Navigating Fear and Avoiding Turning Against Each Other
28:24 Creating a Warm and Loving Space in the World of Infertility
30:38 Letting Joy In and Balancing Grief and Happiness
34:02 Shifting the Mindset from Guilt to Acceptance
37:25 Recognizing and Honoring the Grief of Infertility
38:53 Conclusion and Appreciation for the Work of Supporting Infertility
Bio:
Chiemi aka Miss.Conception Coach is a published writer and Infertility Trauma + Grief Support Specialist. She lends her unique voice and expertise to help people better understand, validate, and process their infertility journey. She uses her platform to raise awareness about the emotions felt and the reality of the mental health issues people experience. Through her unique counseling style, she helps people understand, and heal from their experiences. She offers worldwide individual and couples teletherapy. Connect with Chiemi on Instagram and visit her website to learn more.
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Dr. Miriam Kirmayer, a clinical psychologist specializing in adult friendships, discusses the importance of friendships and social connections in our lives. She shares her journey of researching adult friendships and the challenges of building and maintaining them. Dr. Kirmayer emphasizes the need for knowledge translation and making evidence-based information about friendships accessible and relatable. She also explores the dynamics of childhood friendships and how they differ from adult friendships. Dr. Kirmayer provides insights on overcoming social anxieties, being open and vulnerable in friendships, and the importance of self-talk and positive cues in building and maintaining connections.
Bio:
Dr. Miriam Kirmayer is a clinical psychologist, leading friendship expert, and influential speaker on human connection and social support.
With over a decade of research on the science of friendship, Dr. Miriam is revolutionizing the way we show up for, mentor, and connect with each other.
Dr. Miriam is one of the first and only clinical psychologists to specialize in friendship and shares guidance on navigating relationship changes and challenges through her writing, courses, and online community.
As a speaker and consultant, Dr. Miriam helps people, teams, and organizations to bridge the connection divide and readily build resilient, supportive relationships. She currently sits on the Mental Health Advisory Board for Wondermind, a mental fitness company co-founded by Selena Gomez and consults for The Foundation for Social Connection.
Dr. Miriam regularly contributes research-driven insights and relatable advice to top outlets including The Atlantic, BBC, Forbes, The New York Times, Time, and more.
Dr. Miriam Kirmayer received her Ph.D. from McGill University and lives in Montreal, Canada with her husband and their two children.
Connect with Dr. Miriam @miriamkirmayer and learn more at MiriamKirmayer.com.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
03:44 The Power and Importance of Adult Friendships
08:48 Navigating the Challenges of Building and Maintaining Friendships
15:38 The Role of Self-Talk and Positive Cues in Building Connections
20:53 Embracing New Connections and Initiating Friendships
28:00 Recognizing and Embracing the Evolution of Friendships
32:46 Gender Differences in Friendships
39:19 Men's Need for Intimacy and Self-Disclosure in Friendships
42:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Dr. Sherri Campbell, an expert on toxic family dynamics and emotional abuse, shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery. She emphasizes the importance of authenticity and genuine care in therapy and how she incorporates personal experiences into her practice. Dr. Campbell defines toxic relationships as poisoning the spirit and preventing individuals from functioning at their full potential. She discusses the need to accept the reality of abusive family members and partners and the process of learning to love oneself after growing up in a toxic environment. Dr. Campbell also highlights the power of creating happiness and the value of suffering in developing empathy and wisdom.
Takeaways
Authenticity and genuine care are essential in therapy, as they help clients feel seen and valued. Toxic relationships poison the spirit and prevent individuals from reaching their full potential. Accepting the reality of abusive family members and partners is crucial for healing and self-love. Happiness is not given, but created through self-discovery and personal growth. Suffering can lead to increased empathy and wisdom, enhancing one's capacity for happiness and fulfillment.Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Background
07:58 The Journey of Learning to Love Oneself
11:44 Understanding Toxic Relationships
20:59 Connecting Hope and Reality
31:23 The Goal of Therapy for Survivors of Toxic Family Dynamics
37:28 Creating Happiness and the Value of Suffering
42:11 Final Words of Advice
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In this conversation, Eli Weinstein interviews Vincent Infante, a therapist and life coach who shares his unique approach to helping clients optimize their lives and feel empowered.
They discuss the importance of giving grace to others and the limitations of therapy and coaching. They also explore the daily grind that can lead to burnout and ways to alleviate it. The therapist emphasizes the positive intent behind negative emotions and the need to be curious about them.
They also discuss the power of mindset shifts, breaking out of diagnoses, and rephrasing language to separate oneself from emotions and experiences.
In this conversation, Eli Weinstein and Vin discuss the importance of separating psychological disorders from personal responsibility. They mention Dr. Amen and his work on brain scans to understand mental health. They also talk about the prevalence of making excuses in today's society and the need to take ownership of one's actions and emotions. Vin shares his personal journey of breaking free from victimhood and the importance of honesty and self-awareness. They discuss the five aspects of mastery: thoughts, emotions, behaviors, actions, and language, and how they can be controlled to create a more intentional and empowered life.
Takeaways
Give grace to others and be flexible when scheduling and rescheduling appointments. Therapy and coaching have their limitations, and a hybrid approach that combines aspects of both can be more effective. Negative emotions have positive intent and can be indicators of deeper challenges or problems. The daily grind can lead to burnout, and it's important to find ways to alleviate it. Rephrasing language and separating oneself from diagnoses can help create possibilities for change and overcome negative experiences. Separate psychological disorders from personal responsibility Take ownership of your actions and emotions Be honest and self-aware about who you are Control your thoughts, emotions, behaviors, actions, and language Create an intentional and empowered lifeChapters
00:00 The Power of Giving Grace and Flexibility
03:49 The Limitations of Therapy and Coaching
08:04 Alleviating the Daily Grind
13:24 The Positive Intent of Negative Emotions
23:08 Rephrasing Language for Change and Possibilities
25:02 Understanding Psychological Disorders and Personal Responsibility
26:31 Taking Ownership of Your Actions and Emotions
30:32 Breaking Free from Victimhood through Honesty and Self-Awareness
39:10 Mastering Your Thoughts, Emotions, Behaviors, Actions, and Language
45:00 Creating an Intentional and Empowered Life
For more on Vincent Infante, check out the links below:
Website: www.vincentinfante.life
LinkedIn: www.Linkedin.com/in/vininfante
Instagram: www.instagram.com/vin.infante
PsychologyToday: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/vincent-infante-staten-island-ny/821820
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Dr. Sara, an expert on relationships, discusses the six ingredients for designing the love people deserve. These ingredients can be applied to all types of relationships, including those with parents, siblings, children, and coworkers. The conversation explores the importance of attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth in maintaining thriving relationships. It emphasizes the need to focus on the right aspects of a relationship and not rely solely on love to save it. The discussion also challenges common misconceptions about sex and physical attraction in relationships. In this conversation, Eli Weinstein discusses the six key ingredients for a successful relationship: respect, vision, trust, compassion, acts of love, and knowing your own blueprint. He emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and communicating them lovingly and firmly. Vision involves imagining a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other, creating a harmonious relationship. Trust is built on reliability and consistency, and commitment is crucial even when you don't feel like it. Compassion is about being there for the other person without making it about yourself, and acts of love involve making the other person feel special in the way they want to be.
Takeaways
The six ingredients for designing the love people deserve are attraction, respect, trust, compatibility, communication, and growth. Love alone cannot save a relationship; it requires effort and focus on the right aspects. Physical attraction is important, but it is culturally constructed and can change over time. Respect involves continuously learning about boundaries and being respectable oneself. Trust is built through consistency, reliability, and vulnerability. Compatibility includes both individual attributes and interpersonal qualities. Effective communication goes beyond talking and includes understanding and valuing each other's perspectives. Relationships require growth and evolution to adapt to different stages and challenges. Set boundaries and communicate them lovingly and firmly. Imagine a partnership where two individuals influence and support each other. Build trust through reliability and consistency. Commit to the relationship even when you don't feel like it. Be there for the other person without making it about yourself. Make the other person feel special in the way they want to be.Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Background
02:22 Dr. Sara's Journey into Relationship Work
05:20 The Role of Love in Relationships
09:16 The Focus and Efforts in Relationships
12:13 The Six Ingredients for Designing Love
22:41 Focusing on What Matters in Relationships
24:35 The First Ingredient: Attraction
26:36 The Second Ingredient: Respect
29:21 The Third Ingredient: Trust
31:46 The Fourth Ingredient: Compatibility
34:38 The Fifth Ingredient: Communication
38:03 The Sixth Ingredient: Growth
40:52 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
28:24 Creating a Vision for a Harmonious Relationship
29:21 Building Trust through Reliability and Consistency
35:06 Committing to the Relationship Even When You Don't Feel Like It
41:46 Being There for the Other Person without Making it About Yourself
49:16 Making the Other Person Feel Special
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Travis Thomas, a performance coach, discusses the importance of mindset and courage in sports and everyday life. He shares how his background in improv comedy led him to the mental performance space and how he incorporates improv principles into his coaching. Travis emphasizes the need to accept and embrace uncertainty, control the controllable, and focus on what's important now. He distinguishes between fearless and courageous, highlighting the importance of facing discomfort and taking action despite fear. Travis encourages individuals to validate their feelings and prioritize their locus of focus to make decisions that align with their priorities.
Takeaways
Accept and embrace uncertainty in order to adapt and respond effectively to changing situations. Focus on what you can control and take action in the present moment. Courage is the ability to face discomfort and take action despite fear. Validate your feelings and prioritize your locus of focus to make decisions that align with your priorities.BIO
Travis Thomas is a performance coach who specializes in mindset, leadership, and culture. He is the former performance coach for the US Menâs National Soccer team, and is currently serving that role with FC Dallas and the St. Louis University menâs soccer team. He continues to serve as a corporate trainer, speaker, and consultant for some of the top companies in the world. He is the author of the book, â3 Words for Getting Unstuck: Live Yes, AndââŠin which he shares his experience from 25 years in improvisation and improvisational comedy - and how those principles apply to the happiness and performance in our lives.
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