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The problem with growing up with neglect and abuse is that it can drive your thinking, constrict what you believe is possible for your life, and make you see only what is ugly in the world. These are what I call trauma-driven beliefs. I can often predict who in my programs is going to make tremendous progress quickly, and start changing their lives – and who is going hit a wall. And the people who get stuck at the wall are those who are attached to their trauma-driven beliefs. In this video I teach you about common beliefs that block healing and ruin connections, and what you can do to change them.
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If you grew up with an abusive or neglectful parent – and especially if you were the oldest child -- you may have learned to dance around and do everything in your power to make Mom stop being sad. You may have erased your feelings and needs and instead poured ALL YOUR ENERGY into the parent. People who have done this often have a hard time getting perspective on it, and realizing that no parent should be draining the life out of a child just so THEY can feel OK. The parent’s needs are never met through this, but worse, the child completely loses any sense of self. And having no sense of self is bound to generate unhealthy adult relationships that continue the cycle. In this 4-video compilation I share some of my most popular videos on ways to set limits, stop people-pleasing and become your real self.
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There’s this strange thing that happens to families when one member falls into destructive addiction. We know that addicts’ thinking gets distorted, and they fall into denial and lying and blaming and sometimes stealing. That’s what you’d expect. But, as I know so well from bitter experience, the “presumably sane” people who LOVE the addict ALSO succumb to distorted thinking and toxic behavior – and they fall into denial, and lying, and blaming, and maybe not stealing – but losing themselves amidst the drama. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman whose reaction to the chaos makes the family dynamic more damaging than it already was.
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A chaotic and neglectful family life can deprive a child of forming an identity – not just who they are, but what they like, and what they might like to pursue in their lives. In adulthood, you may try to fill this empty space with relationships – or rather, the IDEA of a relationship – to give you direction and a sense that your life matters, and that you’re REAL. My letter today is from a woman I’ll call Bea, and she writes:
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There’s a symptom of trauma that is common in everyone, but it’s almost universal for people who were abused or neglected as children. It's a haunting sense of loneliness, and not fitting in, that can make any effort to connect with people extra stressful. This is not just an emotional hurt. Abuse and neglect caused an injury to your ability to connect with other people. If this happened to you, you were robbed of what every person rightfully deserves – to be well treasured and lovingly guided into the realm of human connection that’s all around you.
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Have you ever struggled to get even basic things done, like get to work on time, put wet laundry in the dryer, or make a phone call? Everyone procrastinates sometimes, but for people who were abused or neglected in childhood, procrastination can take over your life and hold you back. In this four-video compilation I share some of my most powerful videos about CPTSD, productivity and procrastination -- why it happens and what to do.
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If you're a woman and you say your "close male friend" is just a friend, one test of your true feelings is how you feel when he gets into a relationship, and how she feels about you. A lot of people will gaslight the girlfriend, or blame the boyfriend for not standing up to her, but often there’s something else going on here. My letter today is from a woman
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A history of abuse and neglect can make a person crave extra emotional support. But when both partners have CPTSD, communication can be fraught and feelings of abandonment can turn into hours-long processing sessions. Can you teach a partner to listen to the needs you express? In this video I respond to a letter from a man who loves his partner in every way, but suffers when he works so hard to express his needs, and then doesn’t get the results he wants.
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If you had trauma in childhood, you may find yourself feeling that you have to hide how you feel in a dating relationship, and pretend you're "fine" when in fact you feel manipulated and hurt. Maybe you fear you'll look foolish or drive away what little love is available. But it's never worth faking a relationship just so you don't have to be alone. Being open and honest about how you feel and what you want is the most direct path to actually have what you want. In this video, I describe how a lack of clarity plays out in relationships, and steps you can take to stand up for yourself and build the relationship you want.
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One in three people (and even more among people with CPTSD) report that most days they feel completely overwhelmed -- emotionally, mentally and in terms of all they have to do in a day. Just about everyone has lost at least SOME of their power to FOCUS during the last decade. For many, it’s become much harder to feel alert and peaceful inside, and to get things done. In this 4-video compilation, I share some of my most popular videos on Clutter and Overwhelm, with tips on how YOU can recover your full potential to focus, take a
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It’s natural to want a loving connection with your own parents. When one or both of them have either abused or neglected you, and they continue to undermine and criticize you, it can be hard to know what to do when the parent who hurt you KEEPS hurting you. Even if you love them – even if you wish you could have a good relationship -- keeping them in your life can make it a LOT harder to heal. And after you go no-contact, and you still feel pain about not seeing them. In this video I respond to a letter from a man whose mother is pushing to reconnect, and he must decide whether to open the door to her.
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*LIVE Webinar May 14. Recover Your Vision of The Life You Want: https://bit.ly/3ifhJ8U* *Do You Have CPTSD?* Take the QUIZ: http://bit.ly/3GhE65z FREE COURSE: *The Daily Practice*: http://bit.ly/3X1BrE0 Website: http://bit.ly/3CxgkRY *** Extreme neglect in childhood – where adults literally don’t care for you appropriately, can lead to a kind of emotional “leakiness” where -- even though you’ve created a good life and set goals as an adult, -- you feel disconnected from people when when they are close to you. For people with CPTSD, that memory of NOT being cared for can creep into every situation – you feel it with people you date, with friends, you feel it at work or school, and if it’s not healed, it will cause you to get into and STAY in relationships where, in fact, you’re NOT cared for. In this video, I respond to a letter from a man who is repeating the pattern of his childhood and is ready to change.
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People who were emotionally or physically neglected, or literally abandoned in childhood often find themselves getting left by partners over and over again. The reasons feel mysterious when it's happening to you. But this is how CPTSD can damage your ability to form healthy relationships AND your perception about why this happens. In this video I explain common behaviors and thinking patterns that may be dooming your relationships from the beginning.
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Everyone knows that abuse and neglect in childhood can have negative effects on us as adults. But there's a taboo around admitting the damage we do to ourselves with our own trauma-driven behaviors. it's not your fault you were abused or neglected, and it's not your fault it left you prone to these common problems in life. But today, the only person who can change this pattern is you. In this 4-video compilation I teach about common self-defeating behaviors for people with CPTSD -- what they look like, how they drag you down and re-trigger old wounds -- and what to do to begin healing.
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It’s easy to get sucked into terrible relationships with people who treat you badly, especially for people who were mistreated and neglected as children. You may find yourself with narcissists, manipulators, liars and people who just plain grind your spirits down. But so long as you stay hyper-focused on what’s wrong with THEM and what THEY did – the more you may come to see yourself as helpless – and the longer you may be participating in the sabotage of your own future. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman with CPTSD who has not yet learned to take charge of her healing and her life.
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Romantic obsession with someone you can’t have is a sneaky, life-wrecking toxin – almost a drug that feels great at first and *seems* like if you could just have that person, your life would go from empty... to amazing. This "drug" treats pain. And the drug wears off, and next thing you know the “solution” you’ve found has just swept like a massive mudslide through everything good in your life. Can it ever be true that this *one* person you wanted but lost, is the missing element in your life that explains why you’ve been sad so long? Maybe, if you know the signs. In this video I respond to a letter from a man who can't stop thinking about an ex.
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If you look around all the friends and partners who you've led into your life and you discover there's kind of a high proportion of people who bring trouble and danger into your life --- guess what? Your red flag detector is broken. It's supposed to be sounding the alarm when when bad or dangerous people try to walk into your life. You're supposed to get a bad feeling -- an aversion to soul-sucking people and situations that are toxic for you. But for people with CPTSD, who were abused and neglected in childhood, learning to spot trouble BEFORE it gets in your life is an essential part of healing.
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Abuse and neglect in childhood can leave its mark on your ability to regulate your emotions. They come out too strong, causing you to lash out, burst into tears, panic or fall madly in love at an intensity that doesn't fit the circumstances. This is often the result of changes in children's developing brains. In this 4-video compilation, I share four of my most popular videos on emotional dysregulation, and teach tips for how to recognize dysregulated responses before you damage relationships, with practical tips for how to contain intense feelings until you can express them in a healthy way.
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Living through a traumatic childhood takes extraordinary survival skills. You shut down, act tough, dance around to make other people happy, even when it means losing yourself. Sometimes the pain of all you’ve been through doesn’t show up until after the trauma ends. In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who is reckoning with a lifetime of abuse that has now affected her children – and her emotional dysregulation with the first good partner she’s ever had.
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Most of us who have ever had a relationship have fallen love, and most of us have also had someone not love us back. But what if you’re with someone who WANTS to be with you and loves you, but they say they don’t feel IN LOVE with yoU? What does this mean? And is there ever hope that their feelings will change? In this video I respond to a letter from a woman who is torn by pleas from her boyfriend to stay with him, even though he's not in love with her. Could he be "aromantic?"
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