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  • One of the primary reasons I started this podcast was because of challenges we humans have in being able to have peaceful conversations when we have differences of opinion, especially when those differences are around topics about which we care a great deal, and therefore have high emotion around. We lack these skills because they were never taught to us!

    In this episode, “Teaching Civil Dialogue as a Tool for Peace”, Episode #140 of Co-creating Peace, I have an intriguing conversation with Charlie Young, author of “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue”, and a passionate advocate for teaching civil dialogue, both at home, and from the earliest stages of our formal education.

    Highlights of our conversation include:

    the concepts of civil dialogue/constructive communication and methods of teaching these skills to youth the vital significance of teaching essential skills like validation, empathy, clarifying, summarizing, non-judgmental observation, and mindfulness. pivotal skills in bridging cultural and racial differences, fostering forgiveness, and promoting societal harmonyagreement isn't necessary to achieve mutual understanding

    Charlie Young was born, raised and educated in MA. He came to Oregon in 1958. His life experiences are many including directing an office of education with emphasis on adult learning, serving in the Naval Reserve, being a flight instructor, corporate pilot, head trainer for developing efficient and effective work processes for a large electrical contractor and upon retirement being a mediator. His book “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue” brings together his life experiences and continued education for developing better ways to communicate and resolve differences.

    To learn more about teaching civil dialogue in schools, contact Charlie directly at: [email protected].

    Educators: To get your copy of his book, “Constructive Communication – Civil Dialogue”, click here or go to: books.friesenpress.com and search for “Constructive Communication” by Charlie Young

    Or you can find it on Amazon by clicking here or searching for “Constructive Communication” by Charlie Young.

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  • Trauma is a part of life, as the world we’re living in continually shows us. Yet we don’t have to carry that trauma throughout our life.

    Welcome to “EmotionAid¼ – 5 Steps to Reduce Trauma and Deactivate High Emotion”, Episode #139 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    Join me for this enlightening episode as I welcome back Jeffrey Goldstein to discuss the transformative power of EmotionAidÂź, a set of five practical tools created by the International Trauma Healing Institute in Israel to help manage and de-escalate emotional responses during times of trauma, conflict or high stress. Jeffrey explains how these tools work to dissipate residual adrenaline, re-center and re-orient ourselves, release the trauma from our body, and find wisdom and strength through the experience. By regulating the nervous system and our psychological responses with these techniques, we can release the residues of the trauma response and transform that energy into creative and positive outcomes, promoting well-being and peace within ourselves and in our interactions with others.

    Highlights of our conversation include:

    Recognizing & honoring our trauma responses for what they areThe importance of discovering where our trauma(s) reside in our body and how to release themThe 5 steps of EmotionAid¼The extraordinary value of utilizing the 5th step of EmotionAid¼ (Resourcing) to fill the spaces that remain when we’ve released the residues of our trauma(s)Understanding that growth and positive outcomes can result from consciously working through our trauma

    Jeffrey Goldstein SEP lives in Yefe Nof, Jerusalem, Israel. His professional focus is Body Oriented Trauma Therapy with a Spiritual Approach. Modalities are Attunement, Somatic ExperiencingÂź, and EmotionAidÂź. He offers private sessions, classes, & trainings in Israel, Switzerland, USA, and online. He's a Dedicated Spiritual Peace activist with a strong desire to spread inner peace. He conducts Peace Vigils 2x/week since Oct. 7, 2024.

    Website: JeffGoldsteinAttuner.comPh./WhatsApp +972-52-655-7195E-mail: [email protected]: Energy Ball For Peace Ceremony: Personal Health and Global Blessing; Energy Ball: For Health and Spiritual Growth

    Upcoming Zoom offerings:

    Join Peace Vigils: Sun.: 20:15 UTC/GMT; Wed.: 17:00 UTC/GMTSafe~Peace Zoom gatherings Sundays: 19:00 UTC/GMT request link: [email protected]

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  • In Episodes #20, #76 & #77, I had some great conversations with guests about boundaries. Today’s guests, Jan & Jillian Yuhas, twin sisters who are both psychologists and mediators, have a unique take on working with boundaries that emerged from their 20 years of experience in interpersonal psychology and mediation.

    Welcome to “Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method for Elevating Your Value and Relationships” Episode #138 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    Highlights of our conversation include:

    Using “I”- statements to talk about our boundaries and our valuesThe importance of exploring shared values to help us find common groundUsing open-ended questions as “discovery” questions to help us respond to a triggering statement from a heart-centered, non-reactive place.Moving from “me” to “we” to inspire collaboration and help elevate relationships

    Jan Yuhas, M.A., MFT, and Jillian Yuhas, M.A., MFT, are Relationship Experts, Boundary, and Conflict Resolution Consultants, and the authors behind 'Boundary Badass: A Powerful Method For Elevating Your Value and Relationships.' Jan and Jillian are dedicated to helping value-driven entrepreneurs and companies cultivate mutually beneficial relationships, facilitate respectful conflict resolution, and empower others to master the art of setting personal and professional boundaries. With over two decades of experience in interpersonal psychology and mediation, the sisterly duo specializes in unlocking others’ inherent value, amplifying their personal development and professional performance, and guiding them toward relationship growth. To learn more about Jan & Jillian Yuhas, and the wonderful resources they have to offer, visit: janandjillian.com. To learn more about their book, “Boundary Badass”, visit: boundarybadass.com.

    To learn more about values, tune in to Episode #27. To hear more about negotiation, you can listen to Episode #4, boundaries in Episodes #20, #76 & #77, I messages Episode #10 & open-ended/“dis

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  • Beginning June 8th, you’ll hear new episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world. Meanwhile, I hope you'll listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

    Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

    Episode #29 – “The Power of the Positive”This episode builds upon what I discussed in Episode #14 on re-framing our perspective. The Power of the Positive is about focusing on the things that are positive in life, in people, in situations – even in the presence of the aspects we see as detrimental or undesirable in those same things. We can use The Power of the Positive to help us co-create peace.Episode #30 – “We See What We Believe” In this episode, I share my thoughts on an interesting psychological phenomenon known as “confirmation bias”. I also share a letter with you from someone who wrote to me about how she used Appreciative Inquiry, which I talk about in Episode #29.“Episode #97 – How to Move Beyond Blame, Live Your Highest Purpose and Become an Unstoppable Force for Good” Dr. Fleet Maull joins me to talk about Radical Responsibility, and how practicing it can empower us to better co-create peace with others. Highlights of our conversation were:

    – The value of mindfulness & emotional intelligence to help us to co-create peace
    – Radical Responsibility
    – The Drama Triangle and its relationship to conflict
    – The power of dialogue

    Episode #100 – “From Drama Triangle to Circle of Empowerment” Susan Partnow shares insights on the drama triangle and how to transform it into a circle of empowerment. Highlights of our conversation include:

    – The 3 roles in the drama triangle and how they interact
    – How to move from the drama triangle into the circle of empowerment
    – How to invite others to join us in moving from the drama triangle into the circle of empowerment.

    Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co-creating Peace! All episodes of Co-creating Peace can be found wherever you listen to your favorite podcasts and at: https://bridgesofpeace.com/podcast-co-creating-peace.

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  • This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

    While I am taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co-creating Peace with others.

    Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

    Episode #10 – “The ‘I’s Have It” This episode is about using “I-messages” to help you deliver information in a way that feels safe for others to hear by self-referencing when voicing our opinions or experiences, and avoiding “You-messages” which feel accusatory, such as “You make me so...!” or “You always....”. I’ll also read letters that I received from a couple of listeners and share with you the advice that I gave them, which directly relates to this topic.Episode #13 – “Conflict Is an Opportunity” How often have you thought of conflict as an opportunity? Most people don’t see conflict that way at all! In this episode, I’ll tell why you will find it helpful to seek and find the positive opportunity in every conflict in your life.Episode #14 – “If You Change the Way You Look at Things, the Things You Look at Change” This episode is part 1 of a 2-part series on re-framing. I will tell you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: re-framing your perspective.Episode #15 – “How You Say It Affects How They See It” This episode is part 2 of a 2-part series on re-framing. In Episode #14, I told you about what I consider to be one of the most powerful tools I know for both peacemaking and psychological well-being: re-framing your perspective. In this episode, you’ll learn how to use re-framing in your communication to help you more skillfully navigate challenging communication and difficult conversations.

    Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

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    Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace! Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace

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  • This is a great time to catch up on past episodes of Co-creating Peace – a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

    While I am taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

    Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

    Episode #6 – “I See You” on how to meaningfully acknowledge other people, their experiences and their perspectives Episode #7 – “What’s Your Style” which explores the different styles with which we approach conflict, and which is most likely to get your needs met Episode # 8 – “Don’t Believe Everything You Think” discusses our filters and assumptions, and the role they play in creating and fostering conflict. You will also learn about The Iroquois Rule of Six. In Episode #58, "Here Comes the Judge", I discuss more about this topic with Michael Lightweaver.Episode #11 – “Speak Their Language” brings to light the modalities with which each of us processes and communicates information, how that affects misunderstanding & conflict, and how mindfully communicating using another persons modality can build rapport

    Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

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    Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace! Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace

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  • Welcome to Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

    I will be taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace during April and May as I relocate my home and my sound studio. During that time, I hope you will listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co Creating Peace with others.

    Here are a few examples of the many episodes you might want to listen to:

    Episode #2 is all about the structure of Conscious Communication Episode #3 provides insights into the Actions Iceberg, Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs/Universal needs, in detail & with examples, Episode #4 teaches you about Needs-based negotiationEpisode #5 tells you all about The Chain of Conflict and how to break it.

    Tune in the weekend of June 8th for a new episode of Co Creating Peace!

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    Subscribe to Co-creating Peace on your favorite podcast provider Send me your ideas for topics and guests or be a guest to talk about your communication or conflict resolution challenges and receive free communication coaching Share on social media & tell the world about Co-creating Peace! Become a patron at www.patreon.com/CocreatingPeace

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  • Welcome to “Energy Ball for Peace Ceremony".

    In this episode, Jeffrey Goldstein and I embark on an intriguing exploration of how each of us can harness the natural energy within us to foster peace and healing for ourselves and others. Jeffrey guides us through forming an energy ball, a technique using the healing energy within each of us.

    Join us as Jeffrey describes the transformative peace ceremonies he has been using and teaching in Israel and Palestine for many years. Energy ball ceremonies harness the power of collective intention and the positive ripple effect that can create. Using this powerful tool, we can all contribute to a more united and peaceful world.

    Jeffrey's vision of global harmony through individual and group energy work provides a beacon of hope in a world often divided. I invite you to listen deeply, and you may discover new ways to channel your inner energy towards co-creating a more peaceful existence for all.

    Highlights include:

    The healing energy within us allHow to form and utilize an Energy BallExploring Energy Healing TechniquesTransforming Energy for Positive Change

    Jeffrey Goldstein SEP lives in Yefe Nof, Jerusalem, Israel. His professional focus is Body Oriented Trauma Therapy with a Spiritual Approach. Modalities are Attunement, Somatic ExperiencingÂź, and EmotionAidÂź. He offers private sessions, classes, & trainings in Israel, Switzerland, USA, and online. He's a Dedicated Spiritual Peace activist with a strong desire to spread inner peace. He conducts Peace Vigils 2x/week since Oct. 7, 2024.

    Website: JeffGoldsteinAttuner.comPh./WhatsApp +972-52-655-7195E-mail: [email protected]: Energy Ball For Peace Ceremony: Personal Health and Global Blessing; Energy Ball: For Health and Spiritual Growth

    Upcoming Zoom offerings:

    Attunement Class Level 1:Nervous & Endocrine Systems 4/1/24: 17:00 UTC/GMT 4/2/24: 09:00 UTC/GMTSpiritual Resilience April 11: UTC/GMTJoin Peace Vigils: Sun.: 20:15 UTC/GMT; Wed.: 17:00 UTC/GMTSafe~Peace Zoom gatherings Sundays: 19:00 UTC/GMT request link: [email protected]

    IMPORTANT NOTE: I'll be taking a break from broadcasting new episodes of Co-creating Peace in April and May, as I renovate my sound studio. During that time, I hope you'll listen to past episodes of this podcast, harvest the insights and wisdoms you will find there, and continue to share Co-creating

    Share your thoughts, reactions, feedback & ideas with me. I'd love to hear from you!

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  • Welcome to "From Conflict to Collaboration: The Art of Mediation”, Episode #136

    Have you ever felt trapped in a web of conflict, unsure of how to untangle the emotional threads of anger, fear, and confusion? This week, we're joined by mediator Michael Fraidenburg, co-author with fellow mediator Terry Teale, of the recently published book, “The Art of Mediation” to explore the transformative journey mediation offers in guiding individuals from impasse to insight. We discuss some of the emotional complexities of conflict, and the critical role of the mediator in fostering a safe space for genuine dialogue.

    Mike and I explore the subtleties of facilitative mediation, a process that hands the reins back to the conflicting parties, allowing them to steer towards their own resolutions while maintaining autonomy. Our discussion explores the mediator's dual role – resolving the present dispute while equipping individuals with the psychological tools and practical know-how to approach resolving future conflicts together without the need for professional support.

    You’ll leave this episode equipped with Mike's three golden questions, your new go-to toolkit for reshaping perspectives and promoting flexibility in the face of disagreement. These questions aren't just for the mediation table; they're practical approaches that can be woven into the fabric of your daily personal interactions.

    Join us for an episode that not only provides powerful, yet easy to use tools for mediation, but also for fostering collaborative relationships in our daily lives.

    Must-hear highlights include:

    Conflict is a natural, normal part of life, and can actually be an opportunity. It’s how we approach conflict that determines if the impact is constructive or destructive.The ways in which mediation empowers people to find their own solutionsThe 3 golden questions that will help you move forwardThe transformative power of the "yes, and" rule and the "good enough" standard

    Michael Fraidenburg, the principal of The Cooperation Company, is a Certified Mediator recognized by the Washington Mediation Association. He teaches conflict resolution for the Dispute Resolution Center of Thurston County, WA and the Northwest Environmental Training Center, contributing to the skill development of professionals. His expertise includes working with prominent organizations, like the US Bureau of Land Management, the State of Washington, the City of Seattle, and the Puget Sound Partnership

    Michael’s co-author, Terry Teale, the principal of Heart of the Matter Mediation Services, is a certified mediator, collaborative negoti

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  • Welcome to “Don’t Believe Everything You Think”, Episode #135 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    If you listen to “Co-creating Peace” on a regular basis, you’ve probably recognized that many of the recent episodes have been related to ways that each of us can bridge the divides that exist between individuals, groups, and countries. Clearly, it is essential to our survival as a specie that we learn to co-habitate this planet in peace, which can only happen if we learn to collaborate with one another for the mutual benefit of all. Competition for territory, resources, and power has brought us nothing but death and destruction, time and again.

    As I look at the world around us, I can’t help but notice that the ever-expanding divides we are experiencing are being fueled by rhetoric, assumptions, judgements, and bias, all of which are triggering escalations of hatred and violence.

    How do we transcend this? There are many answers to this question. One is: don’t believe everything you think.

    Join me as we explore the intricate workings of our minds and the ways in which our unconscious filters shape conflicts and communication. Listen in as I discuss the primal brain's lightning-fast judgments and associations that often go unnoticed, influencing our reactions and potentially escalating conflicts. I discuss how important it is to critically evaluate our automatic thoughts to ensure they align with reality and the current situation. We also delve into the transformative Iroquois Rule of Six, a tool that offers a multifaceted understanding of different perspectives, which is invaluable in transforming conflict into collaboration.

    We’ll address the common trap of 'if-then' thinking and the critical role of questioning our personal filters and assumptions, and the importance of curiosity over conclusions.

    Highlights you won’t want to miss:

    the influence of unconscious filters and biases on communication and conflictthe primal brain's role in instant judgments and how these can subconsciously affect how we relate to othersthe importance of mindfulness to bring unconscious thoughts to the forefront for critical evaluationthe Iroquois Rule of Six as a method to consider multiple perspectives in conflict situationsthe dangers of 'if-then' thinking

    I hope it helps you on your path to co-creating peace in your life. If each of us strives to co-create peace in our own world, we can build a strong foundation for co-creating peace across the globe.

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  • Welcome to “Lessons on the Road to Peace”, Episode #134 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

    As the world wrestles with chasms of division, John Noltner and his wife Karen, set out to traverse the American heartlands, a journey that would span 93,000 miles and countless narratives. Their quest, part of his project "A Peace of my Mind", and captured in John's book "Lessons on the Road to Peace," is an exploration of the threads that bind us in our shared humanity. In our conversation, John unveils the mosaic of America's story, emphasizing the power of empathy and understanding in transcending differences.

    John also discusses the importance of deep listening, challenging our own expectations, and staying engaged in difficult conversations. He shares insights on building trust, finding common ground, and the power of modeling empathy and respect. He talks about his experiences traveling across the country, meeting people from different backgrounds, and seeking out stories that challenge divisive narratives, with the goal of helping us all to rediscover what connects us as human beings, and promoting understanding and empathy.

    Key takeaways you won’t want to miss include:

    everything is more complicated than it appears in a headline;exploring shared humanity can help to bridge divides; if you sit down and you talk to somebody, hear their stories, and understand some of their experiences, it becomes infinitely more difficult to vilify or demonize or hate that personlisten deeply, challenge your own expectations, and keep showing up.“When we are engaged in conversation, when we are staying connected, when we're staying involved and in relationship, there's some hope that we can move through whatever tension and conflict and difficulty we encounter. But when we walk away from the table, that hope walks away with us.”

    A gifted storyteller, John Noltner has worked on four continents, gathering stories of human courage, grace, and resilience. He has produced projects for national magazines, Fortune 500 companies, and non-profit organizations. A Peace of My Mind reflects his belief that art and storytelling can help individuals, organizations and communities articulate their deepest values and encourage action toward building social capital and community connections.

    John hopes that “Lessons on the Road to Peace” can serve as a model for how to encounter differences, how to challenge our expectations and how to see the common humanity that is all around us. This book is intended to encourage and inspire the peacemakers of the world

    To learn more about John’s project “A Peace of My Mind”, and to get his book, “Lessons on the Road to Peace”, visit: apeaceofmymind.net or apomm.net

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  • Welcome to "Unlocking Harmony, Compassion, Balance, and Growth in a Divided World", Episode #133 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdoms from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

    In this episode, my guest, Constantin Morun and I discuss how to transform your internal monologue into a powerful tool for positive change. We delve into the art of self-forgiveness and understanding, showcasing that the path to bridging societal divides lies within our own hearts. Our conversation sheds light on the significant impact of nurturing self-compassion, as it not only aids in achieving personal peace, but also equips us with the empathy needed to foster harmony in our interactions with others.

    Constantin Morun is a passionate advocate of personal growth, self-discovery, and professional development with over 15 years of experience. Through his journey from a fear-ridden man hiding his authentic self to embracing vulnerability and authenticity, Constantin demonstrates that self-discovery can unlock the keys to personal and professional success. As a Holistic Life Empowerment Mentor & Coach, he inspires and empowers individuals on their unique journeys towards growth and self-discovery through both his professional and personal life, as well as his podcast, Unleash Thyself. Integrating his passion for technology, spirituality, and mentorship, Constantin helps individuals unlock their full potential, fostering a positive impact on the world around them. His mission centers on personal growth, spirituality, and self-discovery, dedicated to uplifting and empowering every member of the audience with his humble and sincere insights.

    Highlights you won't want to miss:

    A holistic approach to self-awareness, which can lead to more conscious and effective communication A myriad of opportunities can come from developing a growth mindsetThe four facets of a fixed mindset and how to overcome themTools for facing and embracing challenges

    Learn more about Constantin Morun and the fine work that he is doing by going to: https://linktr.ee/unleashthyself

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  • Welcome to “The Graceful Confrontation Guide to Empowered Communication”, Episode #132 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation, where we bring you insights and wisdom from experts in mindfulness and peacemaking from around the world.

    Today, Rebecca Whitman, bestselling author of 3 books on business mindset, an award-winning coach, and the host of the Balanced, Beautiful & Abundant podcast, joins me to talk about the importance of effective communication in relationships and in personal growth. We’ll explore the challenges of non-responsive communication and the fear of confrontation that often leads to ghosting. One of the things that Rebecca emphasizes is the need for positive confrontation, direct communication, and setting boundaries, which can actually prevent conflicts.

    Key Takeaways:

    Non-responsive communication often stems from a fear of confrontation and a lack of direct communication skills.Positive confrontation involves direct communication that is loving, respectful, and focused on resolution.Setting boundaries and expressing them clearly can prevent conflicts and misunderstandings.Conflict resolution skills are essential for maintaining healthy relationships and preventing unnecessary conflicts.The JADE acronym (justify, argue, defend, explain) reminds us to avoid behaviors such as these, which compromise our personal power and integrity in communication.Feedback is a gift that can help us grow and improve, and it is important to differentiate between feedback and judgment.

    To easily connect with Rebecca, learn about her upcoming events and other resources she has to offer, use click here: https://linktr.ee/rebeccaewhitman. Additional resources and information can be found on her website: rebeccaelizabethwhitman.com

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  • Welcome to “Empathy is Needed When Things Get Heated”, Episode #131 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    I have a great story to share with you, told by the three men who lived it, about how an unattended fire that could have been a catastrophe at multiple levels, instead became a powerful wisdom opportunity and a relationship-strengthening experience.

    Highlights you won’t want to miss:

    how – with the right perspective and approach – a stronger, deeper relationship can literally emerge from a fire like a phoenix reborn;a powerful way to rebuild trust;the ways in which a relationship can be strengthened when we go through a difficult experience together;how empathy and acknowledgement can heal the one who gives them as well as the one who receives them.

    Joining me to tell you this story are the 3 men who were involved in the incident, Edwin Rutsch, Zak Wear, and Daniel Hirtz.

    Zak Wear and Daniel Hirtz are active members of the Empathy Movement who were at the Empathy Center for the Empathy Facilitator training.

    You may remember Edwin Rutsch from Episode #103, when he shared some truly inspiring information about the Empathy Movement with us. Edwin's the founding director of the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy. The center’s website, cultureofempathy.com, is a comprehensive portal for empathy-related material.

    There’s an in-person Empathy Circle Facilitator Training happening at the Empathy Center in Santa Barbara CA Jan. 27-28, 2024, and online trainings every couple of months. To learn more about the Empathy Circle Facilitator Training and to register go to: www.bestempathytraining.com

    See the Empathy Summits schedule and register at: www.empathysummit.com. The next one is a multi-Saturday one beginning January 6th.

    Learn about the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy at cultureofempathy.com. Online empathy circles happen every week. Visit www.empathycircle.com/schedule to find the best one for you.

    The next episode of Co-creating Peace airs the weekend of January 13, 2024.

    Tuesday, Jan. 16th, my flagship 34-hour professional development course “Facilitating with Finesse in Today’s World” begins, hosted live online by University of New Mexico’s Anderson School of Management.

    Are you looking for new skills to support your success as a leader and increase your potential to reach new heights in your career? Do you wish the meetings you lead or participate in could be more focused, efficient, collaborative, and productive? Are you eager to start the new year with new tools to help you manage group processes? Then this is the opportunity for you!

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  • With the holidays coming up, we often have high emotion, covering a wide range from love and joy, to anger & frustration, celebration of blessings and grieving for lost ones, old family wounds & grudges, and political tensions – you name it! I want to provide you with as many tools and understandings as possible to bring peace and harmony to your holidays... and to your life.

    Welcome to Part 2 of “Holding the Calm”, Episode #130 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    In the last episode of this podcast – Episode #129, “Holding the Calm”, Part 1 – you heard the first half of a very interesting conversation I had with mediator and author of “Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension”, Hesha Abrams, who shared with us several practical and effective tools to diffuse tension and resolve conflicts in a wide variety of contexts.

    Among the many wonderful things Hesha shared with us in Part 1 are:

    Conflict is like spaghetti sauce.Self-interest, including political self-interest, often interferes with conflict resolution.Validation is the WD-40 of the universe, but what if you don’t have any to give? People can be like crabs in buckets.

    Today, Hesha shares some great information about how tackling smaller issues can evolve into solving bigger problems. Highlights include:

    the vital importance of teaching children conscious communication and conflict transformation skills beginning in early childhood, and mindfully modelling those behaviors for them in every moment,the subtle power dynamics often at play in negotiations, the game-changing impact of unexpected moves in any conversationmediators are like midwives helping to birth the resolution to the conflict.

    Hesha Abrams is the founder of Hesha Abrams Mediation and is an internationally renowned mediator who has successfully resolved thousands of cases over the past thirty years, from simple car accidents to multibillion-dollar disputes involving titans of industry. Hesha Abrams is a master at turning high conflict into amicable resolutions and resolving delicate matters with diplomacy and skill. She is renowned for her success in resolving complicated and high-stakes disputes from corporate disagreements to political conflicts. Her strategic ability to remain cool-headed and balanced in complex situations leads to successful outcomes making her a leading name in her field, and an invaluable resource in any dispute resolution process.

    You can find “Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension”, and learn more about Hesha and her work by visiting: www.holdingthecalm.com

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  • Ever find yourself feeling stuck in an increasingly tense situation, perhaps with someone you find difficult to deal with, unable to find a resolution, and unsure of how to diffuse the growing tension?

    Welcome to Part 1 of “Holding the Calm”, Episode #129 of Co-creating Peace, a series about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    As a follow-on to the last episode of this podcast – Episode #128, “Navigating Family Tensions”, I want to continue the theme of how to navigate tensions, regardless of who it is with, and what better time to do it than now, as we enter the holiday season, which brings with it the wide variety of emotional dynamics that seem inevitable at this time of year.

    In today’s episode, you’ll hear the first of a 2-part dynamic and enlightening conversation I had with mediator and author, Hesha Abrams, who gives us several practical and effective tools to diffuse tension and resolve conflicts in a wide variety of contexts. She shares the intriguing concept of motivational rationalization; how humans perceive and process information, how scarcity mentality can affect our decision-making, and how we can use all this information to have more peaceful, productive interactions with others.

    Don’t miss these highlights:

    Conflict is like spaghetti sauce.Self-interest, including political self-interest, often interferes with conflict resolution.Validation is the WD-40 of the universe, but what if you don’t have any to give? People can be like crabs in buckets.

    Hesha Abrams is the founder of Hesha Abrams Mediation and is an internationally renowned mediator who has successfully resolved thousands of cases over the past thirty years, from simple car accidents to multibillion-dollar disputes involving titans of industry. Hesha Abrams is a master at turning high conflict into amicable resolutions and resolving delicate matters with diplomacy and skill. She is renowned for her success in resolving complicated and high-stakes disputes from corporate disagreements to political conflicts. Her strategic ability to remain cool-headed and balanced in complex situations leads to successful outcomes making her a leading name in her field, and an invaluable resource in any dispute resolution process.

    Join us for part 2 of my conversation with Hesha, airing on Sunday Dec. 10th. when Hesha provides some great insights about:

    areas of the brain that get triggered when we’re upset and how to work with that,the subtle power dynamics often at play in negotiations,the game-changing impact of unexpected moves in any conversation.

    In the meantime, check out Hesha’s book, “Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension”, which contains all these insights and tools and a whole bunch more at: https://www.holdingthecalm.com. It might just be the perfect stocking stuffer for your entire family!

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  • Picture this: You're at your family's holiday gathering, and suddenly a heated argument breaks out. The festive atmosphere quickly turns tense, and you find yourself wishing you had a mediator on speed dial. For a wide variety of reasons, holiday family gatherings can sometimes feel like ground zero for conflict.

    Welcome to “Navigating Family Tensions: Lessons from Mediation”, Episode #128 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    Joining me today is my good friend and colleague, David Levin, a long-time mediator, to share some insightful tips on navigating those tricky family conflicts that can often arise during the holidays. David offers gems of wisdom and lessons learned from mediation, advising us to tread lightly and avoid direct intervention, while stressing the impact of individual, meaningful interactions, and nurturing our relationships to create a peaceful dynamic where we can.

    Highlights you won’t want to miss include:

    Don’t mediate your family What you see & what you cannot see when you look at othersHow to navigate family tensionListening to connectWhat mediators have learnedDavid has provided us with brief synopsis of the insights he shared in our conversation, which includes a diagram of the communication tool called “looping”, that he described to us: “Navigating Family Tensions: Lessons from Mediation” Handout

    Here are just a few of the past episodes of this podcast which describe other tools you may find useful when navigating family conflict:

    Episode #3 – “When the Need Arises”Episode #5 ­ – “Breaking the Chain of Conflict”Episode #18 – “Re-humanizing One Another” Episode #43 – “Using Nonviolent Communication¼ to Speak Your Truth”, Part 1Episode #44 – “Using NVC¼ to Speak Your Truth”, Part 2 David Levin graduated from the University of New Mexico School of Law, in 1977 and has been a trained mediator since 1987. David began his legal career as a civil litigator and a general practitioner, later becoming a Board Recognized Specialist in Family Law and establishing a general private mediation practice. He is currently practicing mediation, providing mediation training and education, and serving as a resou

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  • What does one do to co-create peace in times like these? Are we powerless to alter the direction and momentum in which humanity seems to be propelling itself helter-skelter into the abyss of mutual destruction? Are we destined to drown in the tsunami of hatred that threatens to wash away all that is good and beautiful in the world?

    Or, could we somehow, some way, transcend the tsunami of hatred, help others to do the same, and alter the dark & terrifying path we are heading down?

    Welcome to “Transcending the Tsunami of Hatred”, Episode #127 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    What if I told you that you, yes YOU, could be the single spark that ignites a global movement towards peace? Imagine a world where each individual can counteract the tide of hatred and violence, simply by embracing kindness, compassion, and collaboration. This episode of Co-Creating Peace is all about empowering you to make that profound impact. I’ll share practical strategies for resisting hatred and fostering peace, even when it feels like an uphill battle.

    Highlights include specific ways you can implement these four techniques to help you transcend hatred:

    Live mindfully Transcend judgement Act in the opposite of that which you do not condoneShow up with kindness, compassion and collaboration.

    Join me on a journey toward co-creating a more peaceful world, one person, one deep connection at a time.

    You can hear additional information on mindfulness in my conversation with mindfulness expert and teacher, Andrew Safer in Episodes #71 & #72. Learn about my living mindfully learning retreat here.

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  • If ever there were a need for empathy, it is now. Listening to the news about what’s going on around the world, it feels as though humanity is fragmenting right before our eyes. Empathy is the glue that holds humanity together. Empathy reminds us to nurture life through connecting with one another in kindness and compassion. Empathy is one of the most powerful tools we have to transform conflict into harmony.

    Welcome to "Scaling the Empathy Wall”, Episode #126 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    On Nov. 4th, I will host the 3rd in a series of Empathy Summits produced by the Center for Building a Culture of Empathy. Please join me for this free online Empathy Summit – "Why is Empathy Essential in Conflict Resolution?" We’ll hear from 5 international conflict resolution experts, then participate in Empathy Circles dialogues with other summit participants. To learn more and to register, visit https://www.empathysummit.com

    Denise Blanc, joins me to talk about how curiosity and inquiry can help us to scale that invisible, but oh-so-daunting wall that seems to divide us from the people around us so that we can discover and remember the beauty of our shared humanity. Together we explore how we can find the commonalities that are the foundation for empathy by starting conversations with clear intentions, asking questions that take us beneath the superficial, and acknowledging others to help them to feel seen and appreciated.

    Gems you’ll want to harvest:

    Connecting well with others begins with intention & curiosityFinding what we share in common helps build a foundation for empathyAcknowledging and asking open questions helps find our commonalitiesThe wisdom that comes from initiating a “pattern interrupt” “Interrogating” your biases can help you reality-test and transcend them

    Denise Blanc, MA, EQCC, ACC is a communication expert, Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach, Facilitator, and Mediator. She coaches, teaches, and writes at the intersection of Emotional Intelligence, Conflict Transformation, and Mindfulness.

    Denise is the founder and CEO of River Logic Partners, a leadership coaching and consulting firm.

    She is the author of RiverLogic: Tools to Transform Resistance and Create Flow in all of our Relationships described as “a deeply insightful guide to living in the presence of conflict - fluidly, with equanimity, caring and skill.” Denise’s commitment is to inspire candor, courage, and compassionate communication in creating a more caring world.

    You can learn more about Denise Blanc and her book “RiverLogic: Tools to Transform Resistance and Create Flow in all of our Relationships” by visiting www.riverlogictools.com

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  • Imagine a world where a simple circle can create a profound sense of belonging, shift confrontational conversations to collaborative explorations, and emphasize connection and inclusion. That world exists today in Peace Circles. Because of the work of Black Women for Positive Change, and other groups such as the Listen First Coalition, Braver Angels and Living Room Conversations, dialogue circles are happening across our nation and around the world.

    Enjoy “Co-creating Peace in Circles”, Episode #125 of Co-creating Peace, a podcast about conscious communication and conflict transformation.

    Today, I’m visiting with Renata Valree and Kim Best from Black Women for Positive Change to talk about Peace Circles – an initiative focused on youth to give them opportunities to come together in a safe environment to share their experiences and feelings about this troubled world they’ve inherited.

    Highlights you won‘t want to miss include:

    Confidentiality and non-judgmentalism promote safety when we speak about what’s important to us More than ever, today’s Youth need empowerment A primary responsibility of every adult is to teach children how to be by modeling that for them

    Renata Valree is an Assoc. Professor at CA State University Dominguez Hills where she teaches in the Negotiation, Conflict Resolution, and Peace-building graduate studies program. Renata has a Masters in Negotiation and Conflict Resolution. She serves as E.D. of the Peace in Education Community Mediation Center, is a member of the leadership team for the Assoc. for Conflict Resolution, and is the former Dir. of the Office of the LA City Attorney's Dispute Resolution Program.

    Kimberly Best, RN, MA, is a Civil Mediator, Family Mediator & owner of Best Conflict Solutions, LLC, specializing in mediation and conflict resolution. She is President/Chair of the TN Assoc. of Professional Mediators and a volunteer Senior Mediator with the LA City Attorney’s office Community Police Unification Program. Kim is also a facilitator, restorative practices practitioner, trainer in dispute resolution processes, and a member of Mediators Beyond Borders, Int. Kim is committed to advancing dispute resolution practices for improving communication and finding optimal solutions for all parties.

    Join the 12th annual Month of Non-Violence initiative during October. Visit blackwomenforpositivechange.org and click the Month of Non-violence tab to learn more and be a part of this wonderful experience! Sign-Up: https://monthofnonviolence.org/2023-month-of-non-violence-sign-up/


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