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Summary
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry discusses the unique challenges faced by individuals in larger bodies during the holiday season. She offers practical tips for navigating difficult conversations, setting boundaries, and fostering a positive body image amidst societal pressures. Kayla emphasizes the importance of self-advocacy, finding supportive communities, and resisting the urge to engage in negative body talk, especially as the new year approaches. The conversation is filled with insights on how to prepare for the holidays with intention and self-compassion.
Takeaways
Holiday season can be challenging for those in larger bodies.
Body discomfort is often misinterpreted as body judgment.
It's essential to check in with your physical sensations.
Setting boundaries is crucial in social situations.
You don't have to engage in diet talk during gatherings.
Finding a supportive community can help combat negativity.
Owning your holiday wishlist empowers you to ask for what you need.
Resist the societal pressure to change your body in January.
Advertisers manipulate our perceptions of body image.
You deserve to celebrate the holidays without shame.
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In this conversation, Kayla and Amy Julia (AJ) Cheyfitz Sex Therapist and Licensed Counselor to discuss the intersection of fatness and kink. They provide an overview of kink and BDSM, highlighting the broad range of behaviors and the importance of destigmatizing them. Amy Julia shares her experience as a larger-bodied individual in the kink community, noting the lack of representation and the need for more diverse body types in kink-related media. They also touch on the challenges of finding clothing that is comfortable for individuals with sensory issues and the importance of considering intersectionalities in discussions of kink and fatness. In this part of the conversation, AJ Cheyfitz discusses her experiences in the film industry and how it shaped her relationship with her body. She also talks about studying ASL and how the term 'fat' is neutral in that context. She then shares her experiences in the kink community and how it helped her have a changed relationship with her body. The kink community provides a space where there is a wide variety of bodies and no judgment or separation based on body size. Amy Julia also emphasizes the importance of diversifying one's feed and accessing more narratives about all bodies. In this conversation, AJ Cheyfitz and Kayla discuss the intersection of kink and fatness. They explore the challenges faced by individuals in larger bodies when it comes to communication, societal narratives around relationships and compatibility, and the role of trauma in kink. They also touch on the importance of understanding one's needs, desires, and worth when entering kink spaces, and provide resources for further exploration.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Fat Positive Everything podcast
06:25 Challenges of Finding Comfortable Clothing
09:31 Intersectionalities and Identities
14:01 Overview of Kink and BDSM
17:41 Amy Julia's Experience in the Kink Community
19:11 Lack of Representation in Kink-Related Media
19:40 Navigating Body Image in the Film Industry
21:35 Finding Acceptance in the Kink Community
23:30 Diversity in the Kink Community
26:35 Empowering Through Diverse Narratives
39:35 The Importance of Consent in the Kink Community
43:07 Introduction to the Intersection of Kink and Fatness
45:55 Societal Narratives and Communication Challenges in Relationships
50:17 Trauma and its Impact on Kink and Relationships
52:26 Exploring Power Dynamics and Taboo Elements in Kink
57:47 Creating Safety and Advocating for Oneself in Kink Spaces
01:01:20 Resources for Further Exploration of Kink and Fatness
https://www.foxandowlpsychotherapy.com/
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In this conversation, Kayla Stansberry and Ashantis Jones delve into the themes of fat liberation, intersectionality, and the societal implications of wealth and capitalism. They explore the emotional complexities surrounding anger in social justice movements, the responsibilities of the wealthy, and the illusion of happiness that often accompanies wealth. The discussion emphasizes the importance of community support over individualism, highlighting the systemic issues that contribute to societal discontent.
* Takeaways
Fat liberation is about understanding and embracing all body types.
Anger can be a powerful tool for social justice, but it must be directed appropriately.
Wealth hoarding by billionaires exacerbates social issues like poverty and food insecurity.
Happiness is not guaranteed by wealth; many wealthy individuals experience deep unhappiness.
Community support is essential for individual well-being in a capitalist society.
The language we use around fatness and body image is constantly evolving.
We must challenge the notion that hard work always leads to wealth.
Consumerism often exploits marginalized communities, particularly in fashion.
Understanding fiscal literacy is crucial for addressing wealth inequality.
The systems we live in often dictate our emotional and physical well-being.
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Intersectionality Explored: Racism, Autism, and Community
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry and guest Ashantis Jones tackle complex topics including autism, anti-Blackness, racism, capitalism, decolonization, and the importance of intersectional community. They discuss personal experiences with autism and ADHD, the nuances of systemic oppression, the necessity of genuine community connections, and the pervasive impact of societal structures on marginalized identities. The conversation underscores the challenges of existing under capitalism and white supremacy, and advocates for a more inclusive and accommodating approach to community building.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome
00:20 Intersectionality Introductions
01:59 Autism and ADHD Experiences
08:19 Navigating Friendships and Community
12:08 Racism and Social Dynamics
22:31 Reflecting on Racial Experiences
24:04 Understanding Community and Diversity
26:22 Building Inclusive Relationships
29:25 Personal Stories of Change
30:22 The Importance of Community
32:51 Challenges in Advocacy and Activism
36:00 Confronting Systemic Issues
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Creating Safe Spaces: Exploring Fat Liberation with Alexandra Shewan
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kale Stansberry, a licensed clinical professional counselor and fat positive therapist, interviews Alexandra Shewan from Canada. The discussion delves deep into fat liberation, addressing internalized anti-fat biases, and exploring intersectional identities. Both hosts share their personal experiences and discuss the importance of building safe fat communities. The episode underscores the significance of understanding and acknowledging one's cultural and ancestral identities while remaining mindful of the privileges associated with whiteness. Kale and Alexandra also address the importance of non-neutrality in therapy, self-disclosure, and the detrimental effects of diet culture and fat bias. Finally, the hosts highlight strategies for maintaining mental health in an anti-fat world, including the value of community, spirituality, and engaging in artistic pursuits.
00:00 Introduction to the Fat Positive Everything Podcast
00:27 Meet Alexandra Shewan: Intersectionalities and Fun Facts
02:05 Discussing Indigenous Land Acknowledgment
03:52 The Importance of Anti-Oppressive Therapy
10:25 Challenges in the Counseling Field
14:08 Fat Liberation and Therapy Practices
16:57 The Impact of Anti-Fatness in Mental Health
21:11 Building Trust and Safety in Therapy
23:04 Navigating Puberty and Diet Culture
24:57 The Impact of Early Sexualization
25:32 Objectification and Self-Perception
25:58 Childhood Awareness and Diet Culture
30:18 Emotional Neglect and Fatness
36:15 The Importance of Community
38:45 Personal Escapism and Self-Care
41:20 Exploring Spirituality and Identity
44:44 Conclusion and Resources
NAAFA - naafa.org
Native Land - native-land.ca
Selkie Counselling - selkiecounselling.ca
Fat Tea - selkiecounselling.ca/fat-tea
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Special note: We are a bit late this week because of the horrendous outcome of the election. Just a reminder that this podcast is committed to standing against oppression. With the intention to uplift the most vulnerable populations. Please stay safe and care for yourself!
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, a licensed clinical professional counselor and fat-positive therapist, engages in an in-depth conversation with Mix Pucks Aplenty, a black, disabled, fat, queer, non-binary burlesque performer, producer, and founder of The Fat Con in Seattle, Washington. Pucks discusses their journey into fat liberation through burlesque, the creation of The Fat Con and its associated burlesque festival, FatLessFest, and the significant challenges faced during the planning and execution phases. They also touch on personal intersectionalities, the importance of community, and the radical act of self-love in a fat body. The discussion highlights the detailed planning for the upcoming 2025 Fat Con, including a rich array of workshops, meet-and-greets, and evening entertainment. This episode offers a profound peek into the dedication, resilience, and creativity behind creating inclusive spaces for fat individuals.
00:00 Introduction to the Fat Positive Podcast
00:23 Guest Introduction: Mix Pucks Aplenty
00:35 Intersectionalities and Personal Identities
02:35 The Journey into Burlesque
10:44 Creating FatCon: The Inception
15:36 Challenges and Triumphs in Organizing FatCon
20:45 Building a Diverse and Inclusive Team
24:16 The Radical Act of Community
26:38 The Impact of Shame on Community
27:05 Formerly Fat People and Anti-Fatness
28:49 Details of 2025 FatCon
31:20 Workshops and Events at FatCon
33:41 Community Building and Accessibility
41:45 Scholarships and Ticketing Options
43:12 FatCon and FatLessFest: A Weekend of Thickness
47:50 Expanding the FatCon Movement
49:06 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
FatCon - www.fatcon.org
Philly FatCon - IG profile
Fatlesque Fest NW - www.fatlesquefestnw.com
ChubHub PDX - www.chubhubpdx.com
The PlusBus - www.theplusbus.com
Puckduction - www.mxpucksaplenty.com
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Challenging White Feminism and Advocating for Body Liberation: A Comprehensive Look
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry is joined by public health consultant and activist Patrilie Hernandez to explore the intricacies of white feminism, intersectionality, and fat liberation. The conversation delves into the evolution of these movements within online spaces, discussing the shift from collective organizing to individual prominence and the impact of capitalism on social justice advocacy. With a focus on conflict resolution, cultural differences, and the need for self-compassion in social movements, the episode emphasizes the necessity of creating secure, inclusive spaces and understanding the historical context of activism. Listeners are encouraged to engage mindfully in online interactions, fostering genuine relationships while avoiding the exploitation of others' labor.
You can find the Wonderful Patrilie Hernandez
https://www.embodylib.com/about
@the_bodylib_Advocate
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Navigating Medical Bias: Advocating for Proper Healthcare in Larger Bodies
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything Podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, a licensed clinical professional counselor and fat-positive therapist, interviews activist and content creator Lindsey Holland. The discussion centers around Lindsay's experiences with fat discrimination in the healthcare system, including misdiagnoses, refusal of necessary testing, and the long-term consequences of medical neglect. Lindsay shares her journey of dealing with severe back pain and her eventual success in finding a doctor who took her seriously. The episode highlights the broader implications of weight-based medical biases, compares the care received by people with other health conditions and professional athletes, and stresses the importance of self-advocacy and documentation. It also provides practical advice on how to demand quality care, hold healthcare providers accountable, and navigate the emotional toll of medical mistreatment, all while emphasizing the significance of self-worth and the liberating realization that everyone deserves proper medical attention.
Instagram: Lindseyyyh
Tiktok im.an.adult
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Fat Liberation Parenting: Challenging Stigma and Building Community
In this episode of the 'Fat Positive Everything' podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, a licensed clinical counselor and fat positive therapist, is joined by Laurie Ganberg, a fellow therapist and fat liberationist specializing in fat liberation parenting. They discuss their personal intersectionalities and experiences, focusing on fat liberation as a practice in parenting. Laurie explains her journey into fat liberation parenting, the impact of weight stigma on parenting, and the systemic challenges faced by parents in larger bodies. They also touch on the creation of community spaces for fat parents, the importance of modeling body trust for children, and the political nature of parenting. Laurie shares her motivations for creating Parent Connections and the empowerment of discussing health at every size. The episode concludes with encouragement for parents to embrace imperfection and community in parenting.
00:00 Introduction to the Fat Positive Everything Podcast
00:25 Meet Laurie Ganberg: Fat Liberation Parenting Expert
00:40 Intersectionalities and Personal Backgrounds
04:21 Laurie's Journey to Fat Liberation Parenting
04:51 Challenges and Realities of Fat Liberation Parenting
10:40 Creating Community for Fat Parents
14:24 Weight Stigma and Its Impact on Parenting
23:05 Encouragement and Advice for Parents
38:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Resources:
@laurieganberglicsw
December Fat Liberation Workshop!
www.fatliberationparenting.com
Book Recommendations
What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat by Aubrey Gordon
https://www.amazon.com/dp/080701477X?ref=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_RVXGHHF9GRCB5WHYB1S6&ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_RVXGHHF9GRCB5WHYB1S6&social_share=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_RVXGHHF9GRCB5WHYB1S6&skipTwisterOG=1
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Embracing Intersectionality with Mayra Mejia: Queerness, Fat Liberation, and Community Building
TW: AntiFATNESS and Cursing
In this episode, Kayla interviews Mayra Mejia, a fashion and culture writer and a staunch advocate for fat liberation. The conversation covers various topics including queerness, intersectionality, and personal self-advocacy. Mayra shares her experiences of growing up in a fat body, discovering her neurodivergence, and identifying as a queer, Latinx woman. They also discuss the creation of Plush DMV, a supportive community for fat individuals in the D.C. area, and the challenges faced in queer spaces regarding body positivity. Both Kayla and Mayra emphasize the importance of learning the roots of fat phobia and anti-blackness to foster inclusive and welcoming environments. The episode is filled with personal anecdotes, reflections on society's perceptions, and actionable steps towards creating safe spaces for marginalized communities.
00:00 Introduction and Guest Introduction
00:45 Intersectionalities and Fun Facts
02:24 Reality TV Obsessions
03:45 Fat Liberation Journey
07:48 Creating Safe Spaces: Plush DMV
14:01 Queer and Fat: Navigating Identity and Community
19:18 Exploring Attraction and Identity
19:37 Navigating Queerness and Body Image
21:20 Embracing Aging and Self-Acceptance
23:21 Challenges in the Queer Community
24:16 Unpacking Fat Phobia and Intersectionality
27:10 The Importance of Historical Context
35:14 Promoting Body Neutrality and Positive Spaces
37:44 Conclusion and Community Engagement
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TW: Explicit Content
Redefining Beauty and Confidence in Adult Entertainment w/ Kayla Peach
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything Podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, the Fat Positive Therapist, interviews guest Kayla Peach, an adult film actress and content creator. They discuss their personal intersectionalities, experiences in the adult entertainment industry, and the significance of self-diagnosis and mental health awareness. Kayla Peach shares her journey into sex work, the importance of body positivity, and the challenges faced by fat performers. They also touch on industry discrimination and the empowerment of working with women-run studios. The episode highlights the value of finding representation in media and offers insights for fat individuals seeking to explore their sexuality and confidence.
00:00 Introduction to the Fat Positive Everything Podcast
00:27 Meet Kayla Peach: Intersectionalities and Fun Facts
02:04 Self-Diagnosis and Mental Health Insights
03:56 Journey into the Adult Entertainment Industry
08:54 Challenges and Stigmas in the Industry
10:48 Navigating Social Media and Digital Discrimination
24:05 Exploring Sexual Interests and Body Confidence
34:05 Final Thoughts and Plugs
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Exploring ADHD/AUTISM and Body Image with Megan Griffith
Join Kayla Stansberry, host of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, and special guest Megan Griffith as they discuss fat liberation, intersectional identities, and the impact of neurodivergence on body image. The episode delves deep into understanding autism and ADHD (referred to as AUDHD), how it affects daily life, emotional regulation, and experiences with body positivity. Together, they share personal stories, coping mechanisms, and the importance of accepting body diversity within the neurodivergent community.
https://www.theneurocuriosityclub.com/
https://www.theneurocuriosityclub.com/resources
Instagram Accounts
@theneurocuriosityclub
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Deconstructing Internalized Fatphobia: A Conversation on Fat Liberation, Mental Health, and More with Nyemade Boiwu
***TRIGGER WARNING: ACTIVE PROCESSING OF Ableism and Fatphobia, Mentioning of dieting and weight loss.
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything Podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, a licensed clinical professional counselor, engages in a rich discussion with Nyemade Boiwu, an award-winning writer, speaker, and plus-size African immigrant from Liberia. The conversation delves into various intersectionalities, including race, body size, mental health, and ability. Nyemade shares her personal experiences navigating diet culture, fat-shaming, and actively processing internalized anti-fatness. The episode also touches on topics such as the impact of societal standards on movement, the dehumanization of larger bodies, and the journey towards self-acceptance and intuitive living.
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This episode delves into the origins and highlights of Philly Fat Con, a three-day convention launched in 2023 designed to create a safe and inclusive space for plus-size individuals. Hosted/created by Kenyetta, Donnelle and Adrienne. The event, which features keynote speakers, movement classes, a market, and a clothing swap, emphasizes the importance of grassroots community efforts and representation. The conversation covers the successful launch, personal experiences, and the exciting plans for the 2024 event, including expanded programming, new locations, and a special focus on sensuality and sex in plus-size bodies.
Philly Fat Con 2024
OCT-18-20th buy tickets here : https://www.eventcreate.com/e/phillyfatcon2024
Socials: @phillyfatcon
Hosted by Donnelle, Kenyetta & Adrianne
@phillyplusswap , @Curvyandseductive, @Curveconscious
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Fat Positive Everything Podcast: I WILL EAT YOU ALIVE with Katie Hillman
TW: EATING DISORDERS, FAT STIGMA
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayle Stansberry and guest Katie Hillman, a fat DIY theater maker, discuss fat liberation, internalized anti-fat biases, and the importance of representation in media and theater. They delve into Katie’s theater production 'I Will Eat You Alive,' a play about fat experiences, dieting, and body acceptance. The discussion highlights the challenges fat actors face in the industry, the importance of social media for community building, and the impact of seeing diverse bodies represented in media.
Listeners also learn about Katie's upcoming show in the Philadelphia Fringe Festival and are encouraged to follow their work on social media.
Shirt:
https://fatgirlflow.merchtable.com/apparel/fatties-for-a-free-palestine-crop-tee/?
Tickets:
https://interrobangbaltimore.org/iwilleatyoualive-baltimore
https://fringearts.com/
Socials
Instagram:
@Katie223 @Iweyaproject @Interrobmore @fattiesforpalestine
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In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, interviews Shamindri De Sayrah, a passionate cosplayer from Sri Lanka. Shamindri shares her journey into body advocacy and the challenges she faced, including cyberbullying due to her size. Despite the negativity, she found confidence through cosplay and now promotes body positivity. The discussion covers the importance of diverse body representation in media and cosplay, and Shamindri emphasizes that everyone should embrace their passions regardless of societal standards. Tune in for an inspiring conversation on breaking anti-fat biases and pursuing what you love despite adversity.
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Bold Tattoos for Bold Bodies: Embracing Fat Artistry with Toni PNW
TW: Anti-Fat Verbal Abuse
Bold Tattoos for Bold Bodies: A Conversation with Tattoo Artist Toni PNW In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry interviews Toni PNW, a fat, queer, Mexican American tattoo artist. Toni shares her journey from being an educator to becoming a tattoo artist specializing in representing and honoring fat bodies through her art. They discuss the challenges fat people face in service industries, the importance of inclusive and dignified tattoo experiences, and practical advice on aftercare for fat bodies. Tony also introduces her new initiative, Heavry Space, a community and directory dedicated to fat tattoo artists and clients seeking a safe and inclusive tattooing environment. The conversation highlights the need for representation and accessibility in art spaces, making this episode an empowering listen for anyone interested in body positivity and tattoos.
Socials:
@Tonipnw
@heavryspace
Webistes:
https://tonipnw.carrd.co/
https://heavryspace.com/
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TW: Anti-fatness, Anti-Blackness, Diet Drugs and Cursing
In this episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry introduces Heather Johnson, an educator specializing in marginalized identities and housing. Heather shares her intersectional journey as a Black, fat, queer woman, discussing issues such as internalized anti-fat bias, fat liberation, and the intersection between anti-blackness and anti-fatness. Heather also delves into her work as a community college counselor and her doctoral research on the experiences of Black fat femmes in higher education. The conversation highlights the importance of representation, historical context, and daily advocacy for equitable and accessible spaces for all bodies.
Resources:
Socials: @Ladyhsj
Books:
* The Embodiment of Disobedience: Fat Black Women’s Unruly Political Bodies by Dr. Andrea Shaw
* Mama’s baby, papa’s maybe: An American grammar book. : HJ Spillers, Diacritics p. 65- 81
* Fat Liberation Manifesto: Judy Free Spirit & Aldebaran
* Fearing the Black Body: Dr. Sabrina Strings
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Introduction to Fat Liberation and Intersectionality
In the inaugural episode of the Fat Positive Everything podcast, host Kayla Stansberry, a licensed clinical professional counselor and certified intuitive eating counselor, explores the concepts of fat liberation and intersectionality. Exploring the importance of body diversity, the harmful effects of diet culture, and the dehumanization of fat bodies, while drawing connections between anti-fatness and racism. Kayla shares her own intersectional identity and emphasizes the continuous journey of learning and unlearning biases. She also touches on the significance of addressing mental health within the context of fat liberation, and previews topics to expect in future episodes.
Resources Listed
Dr. Sabrina Strings : Fearing the Black Body
Sonya Renee Taylor, The Body is Not an Apology
Socials:
Instagram, Threads & Tikok: @Fatpositivetherapist
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