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In this episode, host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu, welcomes Tamie, a passionate entrepreneur and political candidate, who shares her journey from being a single mom and business owner to running for Congress. Tamie discusses the importance of women's voices in politics, the unique challenges women face in leadership roles, and her commitment to bringing compassion and civility to government.
Content Highlights:
[02:10] Tamieâs Background:Tamie shares her background as a single mom, entrepreneur, and granddaughter of a WWII veteran.Discusses her experience in business and the impact of the pandemic on her career.[05:25] Pivot to Politics:Tamie explains her transition into politics and her motivation to bring civility and the female perspective to politics.[08:45] The Importance of Women in Politics:Tamie talks about how being a mother qualifies women for leadership roles, and how womenâs unique perspectives can lead to progress and community improvement.[15:30] Challenges and Double Standards:Tamie addresses the double standards women face in politics, including scrutiny of their appearance and personal lives, and the importance of perseverance and setting boundaries against negativity.[22:50] Compassion and Empathy in Leadership:Tamie speaks about the importance of compassion and empathy in her political campaign.[28:40] Encouragement for Aspiring Female Leaders:Advice to women considering entering politics or leadership roles.The significance of stepping up and taking action without waiting for perfect conditions.[34:10] Final Thoughts and Inspiration
Guest Spotlight: Tamie WilsonTamie Wilson, an entrepreneur, single mom and an advocate for all Ohio families, who has made it her lifeâs work to help people live happier healthier lives. Tamie is also the 2024 Democratic candidate running for the U.S. House of Representatives for Ohioâs 4th Congressional District.
Tamie's "Get Things Done" and her no-nonsense approach to community service led Tamie into politics, especially after she had to shut down her business due to COVID-19. For Tamie, representing the people of Ohio's 4th Congressional district is about addressing the challenges facing Ohioans, most of which she has experienced personally.
With a robust professional background in sales, marketing, counseling, and leadership roles within small business and major corporations, she has helped to retain and create thousands of jobs over the last 23 years. Her proactive âGet Things Doneâ mindset and common-sense approach to community service and creating a flourishing economy naturally propelled her into the realm of politics,
In addition, she is deeply involved in work with veterans. Her grandfather was a WWII U.S. Veteran. As a community volunteer, Tamie has been active with the DCPAAA (Delaware Citizens Police Academy Alumni Association), Eagles, UCC (Unity Community Center), LWV (League of Women Voters), the American Cancer Society, the American Heart Association, End CAN, Kiwanis, and other efforts to prevent child abuse and programs to create healthy living.
To learn more and support Tamie, visit her campaign website: tamiewilson.com , follow Tammy on X (@tamieuscongress) and join the conversation on Facebook.
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In this episode, Carmelita welcomes Nicole from Family Story to discuss the concept of family privilege and the importance of broadening our understanding of what constitutes a family. Together, they explore the societal, cultural, and policy implications of adhering to a narrow definition of family and offer practical advice for raising children to be accepting and inclusive.
Highlights and Next Steps:
- Challenge assumptions about family structures in your daily life.
- Introduce diverse family representations in media and books to your children.
- Use inclusive language when discussing families.
- Get involved with community organizations that support diverse family structures.
- Advocate for inclusive policies that recognize all types of families.
Guest Spotlight:Nicole Rodgers is the Founder and Executive Director of Family Story, an organization founded in 2015 to address and dismantle family privilege in America and create cultural and political strategies to advance equity for all types of families. Nicole is an entrepreneur, an author, a futurist (sometimes), and an expert on the changing family, who specializes in communications and research in the public interest.
Connect with Nicole Rodgers and Family Story Project
www.familystoryproject.orgInstagram: @familystoryprojX: @familystoryproj or @nsrodgersAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Tough topics. Whether it's a disagreement with a coworker, or tackling uncomfortably conversations with our kids, it can be hard to know how to approach things.
Today's episode focuses on communication and conversations, exploring the impact of what we say or don't say on our lives and relationships.
0:50 - Meet our guest, Rayna Rose Exelbierd, a motivational speaker, author, and advocate for kindness.4:20 - Rayna shares her experience with uncomfortable conversations, highlighting the importance of remaining calm and listening actively.11:15 - Discussing the necessity of asking specific questions to foster open communication with teens and children.15:40 - Addressing the misconception of sheltering children from challenging topics and the importance of age-appropriate discussions.21:05 - Encouraging parents to praise their children, reinforce their strengths, and instill a sense of self-worth.Thank you for tuning in! Don't forget to subscribe, rate, and follow us on Instagram @knowthembethem. Here's to empowering women and raising resilient daughters!
Guest Spotlight: Name HereRayna Rose Exelbierd is the Chief Empowerment Officer, CEO of The Rose Grows. For the last decade, she has worked as a motivational speaker using her personal story to share lessons of rejection, resilience, and working with people who are different. Rayna emphasizes the importance of conversation and building relationships with other communities.
She has spoken to over a quarter of a million people. Rayna Rose has even more extraordinary stories about teens who made a difference under her mentorship. Through communication and leadership training, students have changed laws, received scholarships, launched businesses, and so much more!
About Rayna Rose Exelbierd:
therosegrows.comInstagram: @therosegrows.trgLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/raynaroseexelbierd/Check out her books about individuality and kindness, The Girl Who Wore Two Different Shoes and The Girl Who Said Hello to Everyone!About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle, retreat host. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat.
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Grief is not exclusive to death. Guest Shameka Williams, founder of Those Without Mothers, and From Grief to Love, shares her journey with grief and the lessons she learned, including:
Giving yourself permission to grieveHow grief, loss, transition intertwineWhat can happen if we don't process our griefThe difference between processing feelings and stewing in themHow grief is like a weedTo learn more about Shameka, visit www.thosewithoutmothers.com, or find her on Instagram @shamekaspeaks, @thosewithoutmothers, @thebipolarpodcast, and @fromgriefwithlove.
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Kids and technology use â weâve all asked ourselves, how much screen time should kids have? Am I giving my kids too much? When should they get cell phones? The list goes on.
Today's guest, Dr. Katie Davis, is an Associate Professor at the University of Washington (UW) and Director of the UW Digital Youth Lab. For nearly twenty years, Dr. Davis has been researching the impact of digital technologies on young peopleâs learning, development, and well-being.
She is the author of three books, including Technologyâs Child: Digital Mediaâs Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up (March 2023).
Tune in to hear:
Why asking "Is screen time is good or bad?" isn't the right questionHer two-step tool to supporting healthy tech experiencesWhat self-directed tech experiences are - what to look for and what to avoidA quick reframe that'll ease your mind about your tween or teen's tech timeHow we can all be a Good Enough Digital ParentIt's 25 minutes you'll be glad you listened to!
To connect with Katie:
Website: https://katiedavisresearch.com/Instagram: @katiebdaX (Twitter): @katiebda LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kedavis12/ Sign up for the Technologyâs Child newsletter at https://katiedavisresearch.com/
Episode ResourcesTechnologyâs Child: Digital Mediaâs Role in the Ages and Stages of Growing Up, by Katie DavisAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Remember getting your first period? Did you feel self conscious, confused, out-of-sortsâŠjust like a lot of body changes around that time?
Itâs time to flip puberty positive! In this episode, Konika Ray Wong chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about puberty, all the awkwardness that comes with it, and how to help our daughters change the scripts around puberty and feel empowered as they navigate the transformation that happens throughout their tweens and teens, even into their 20âs.
Listen to hear:
Swaps to flip puberty positiveThe importance of separating puberty from sexual maturityHow puberty is a privilegeWhy normalizing change is importantAnd more!Guest bio:
Konika Ray Wong is a science teacher and mom on a mission to flip puberty positive. She founded GPS with her daughter during the pandemic when it was obvious the world needed more girl power and science education!
For over two decades, Konika has been a kindergarten through sixth grade science educator. She has a Masters in Education and California teaching credential from the University of San Francisco and a Bachelor of Science in Biology from Virginia Polytechnic University. A Common Sense Media certified educator who also attended the Institute for Social and Emotional Learning, she is passionate about body literacy, destigmatizing puberty, and building communities of empowered learners that confidently celebrate growth.
She recently published her first childrenâs book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods". Imagine a world where every little girl felt strong and confident in her body and every child with a uterus celebrated their superpowers. This empowering book, a guided story for kids ages four and up to read with a grownup, is the first step in that direction. In "One in a Million," children meet a cute uterus character that takes them on a journey that demystifies the process of ovulation and the menstrual cycle. The kid-friendly characters and simple scientifically accurate text set a positive tone about periods without shame or stigma.
Connect with Konika:
Website: www.girlpowerscience.comInstagram: @girlpowerscienceBuy her book, "One in a Million - A First Book About Periods" on AmazonAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Do you love learning about how our brains work, and what makes us tick? Do you wonder what positive psychology is, and whether youâve got a positive attitude or toxic positivity? Me too!
In Ep. 55, host Carmelita Tiu chats with Jen Rafferty - an educator, speaker, and founder of The Empowered Educator - about brains, positive psychology, toxic positivity, the importance of feeling our emotions, and so much more.
Tune in to learn about:
What positive psychology is, on a high levelThe difference between positive psychology and toxic positivityGratitude bypasses, aka positivity bypasses Why people fall back into patterns and habits that arenât good for themAnd more pithy neuroscience goodness!Connect with Jen Rafferty:
Website: https://www.empowerededucator.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/jenrafferty_FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/theempowerededucator/Podcast: Take Notes with Jen RaffertyAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us.
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What do you do if your daughter shares that sheâs been sexually assaulted? Do you know how you would react? Do you know if your reaction would truly help or hinder your child?
In this powerful episode, Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma Unstuck, share their thoughts on prevention, response, and support. Listen to hear:
What we can do create a safe space for our kids to shareThings that can undermine our efforts to create open communicationHow to respond in the moment, in a way that supports your childWords to use as you and they process the events, the retelling and the journey of healingIf, when, or how to share their experiences with othersFoundational things parents can do to help our kids be less of a target
Guest Spotlight: Claire Horner and Dr. SaDohl Jones of RESET: Trauma UnstuckClaire and Dr. SaDohl (suh-doll), are two sexual trauma specialists in Atlanta, Georgia. To heal their own trauma while helping others do the same, they have dedicated their professional and personal lives to healing. They have over 39 years of combined sexual trauma recovery experience, both in the therapist chair and on the couch as clients.
Their channel and business is called âRESET: Trauma Unstuckâ and they launched âThe FOF or Freak Out FREE Podcast on Valentines Day where they match survivors, helpers, and allies with resources for sexual trauma healing to increase confidence and handle lifeâŠThe Freak Out Free Way.â
Connect with RESET Trauma Unstuck, Dr. Sadohl and Claire:
Email: [email protected] Instagram: @resettraumaunstuck Tiktok: @resettraumaunstuckAnd check out The F O F Podcast â youâll find expert resources for sexual trauma healing to increase your confidence and handle lifeâŠThe Freak Out FREE Way. https://www.podpage.com/freak-out-free-with-claire-dr-sadohl/
Episode ResourcesSaprea is an organization that provides FREE retreats to survivors AND educational materials to parents/educators. Saprea exists to liberate individuals and society from child sexual abuse and its lasting impacts.Dr. Sadohl and Claire did a wonderful episode with Chris Yadon of Saprea. Listen to the episode here on Spotify, Podpage, or Anchor. Ep. 53 - Sexual Assault: Creating a Dialogue & 7 Things to Tell Our Daughters
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(Ep. 34 Encore -- because this topic is THAT IMPORTANT).
April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids.
While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are - and how to talk about these things without instilling fear or anxiety.
Also, 7 phrases that our daughters need to hear, to help open up the space for safe conversations about sexual assualt.
Listen to hear:
The definition of sexual assault and consentHow to bring up this topic with your daughters, including using current events and pop culture to help facilitate conversations7 things to tell your daughters for more open communication, and help them feel aware about sexual assault and empowered by the love and safety you provideOther episodes to check out:
RAINN.org24/7 Free Support Hotline - 800-656-HOPE (4673)Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them
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Moms -- Are you looking for direction after a life change?
Do you feel like you're reacting to life instead of defining it?
Do you sense you're made for something more?
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Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about how to navigate beauty culture.
We cover:
The importance of diversifying what you see and media literacyThe myth of âfiguring it outâ and having it all togetherNormalizing making informed choicesSocial media - the good, the bad, and how much time Debbie spends on it ;)The duality of our emotions - you can feel dislike something and that doesn't mean it needs changeAwesome parting thought from Val about what real beauty isTo learn more about Debbie Saroufim, visit www.bodyrelationship.com , and follow her on Instagram @bodyrelationship_coach. And check out her Parents Guide, for what NOT to say to your kids if you want them to have a health relationship with their bodies.
Want to feel happier about your appearanceâespecially as you ageâyou might like reading more about what Val has to say about it. Subscribe for free to How Not to F*ck Up Your Face at valeriemonroe.substack.com.
About Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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What is equality? What is equity? What is gender equity? How can we embrace all of these?
In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Annie Warshaw, co-founder of Mission Propelle and a gender justice professor at Roosevelt University, unpacks gender equity in her chat with host Carmelita Tiu.
In this episode, Annie:
Answers the question, "What is gender equity?" Explains how we can be aware of gender equity and encourage it Tells us the 3 things that will make her feel like sheâs raised her sons successfully Helps us reframe our beliefs about old-school etiquette so we can foster more equitable gender rolesTalks about the importance of having a list of shared family valuesTo learn more about Annie Warshaw and her work:
for equity consulting and coaching, visit missionpropelle.com, or follow @mission_propelle on Instagramfor information about Youth Alliance Yoga, go to youthallianceyoga.comOther references:
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Resilience â we know we all want our kids to have it. But what is it really, and how do we foster it in our kids?
In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Host Carmelita Tiu chats with Dr. Kate Lund, Psy.D., author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life. Dr. Kate shares her unique viewpoint on how to help our tweens and teens build resilience and provides various strategies for how we can equip our kids to thrive, through all of lifeâs ups and downs.
Listen to hear Dr. Kate share:
How to define resilienceWhat really listening to our kids looks likeTips on sharing struggles and normalizing challengeWhy to focus on the process as opposed to the outcomeHow weâre wired to have negative thoughts, and how we can respond as parentsAbout this weekâs guest
Kate struggled as a child with a medical condition called Hydrocephalus which made some of the typical activities of childhood challenging. Her parents' unwavering belief in their child built an inner resilience that led to a successful career and life despite her challenges.
She worked as a radio reporter while in college interviewing some notable figures such as Barbara Bush
and Ivan Lendl the number one tennis player in the world at the time. She was also a White House intern for President Bill Clinton. As a licensed, clinical psychologist, she has worked with major hospitals, schools, and hundreds of parents. Her international bestselling book Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life is the ultimate guide to helping children build resilience and thrive in all areas of life.
Kateâs mission is to help parents bring out the best in their kids to create the leaders of our future.
Sheâs also launched a new podcast called âThe Optimized Mindâ - reflecting on what we need to think about in terms of being at our best.
In This Episode:
The Optimized Mind PodcastConnect with Dr. Kate Lund on LinkedInCheck out her course, The Seven Pillars of the Resilient ChildAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Body Image is an important topic to me because our relationship with our bodies and our body image is complex, especially for women and girls, and it lasts a lifetime.
The societal challenges to healthy body image donât stopâŠand just like any relationship, having a healthy relationship with our bodies typically requires ongoing attention.
My guest today, Pam Luk, is intimately familiar with how the world can make you feel uncomfortable in your skin, and what we can do about it. Sheâs passionate about body diversity and empowering kids to have a healthy body image.
Listen to hear:
Why Pam started Ember & AceThe importance of clothes and activewear that fits plus sized kidsHow to talk with kids when they're struggling with their bodiesWhat to add to your social media feedsHow we sabotage our efforts to get our kids to believe that all bodies are good bodiesMedia literacy and how to navigate messagingAbout Our Guest, Pam Luk
Pam Luk is the founder of Ember & Ace, an athletic wear brand for plus size kids. Growing up playing sports, Pam learned firsthand the importance of finding active wear that fits. Not finding it is one of the main reasons kids quit sports. Ember & Ace launched their first five-piece essentials collection on February 2nd 2023. Visit emberandace.com to learn more.
To learn more about Pam and her work, connect with her here:
Website: www.emberandace.comInstagram: @emberandaceLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/company/emberandace
References in this Episode:Debbie Saroufim - Ep 37 / Defying Diet Culture and Ep 38 / Tough Truths & TipsEmily Lauren Dick - Ep 24 / Body Positivity & Fat PhobiaAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Have you ever stopped to question the version of success that you may be pushing your kid to achieve? Do you wonder if youâre over-involved in your tween or teenâs life, or not enough? Do you want your kids to get straight As and secretly get a thrill if they say âI think I want to go Stanford or Harvard or Yaleâ? And then you kind of feel anxious about the pressure and what that means for them?
As parents, we all have an internal compass that guides us as we raise our kids. And it today's competitive world, it's more important than ever for parents to raise their kids with intentionality and grace.
Todayâs guest, Cindy Muchnick, co-wrote the book, The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teenâs Wellness and Academic Journey in Todayâs Competitive World to help us navigate questions like this, and help us calibrate our parent compasses towards our kidsâ wellbeing.
Listen to hear:
The downsides of over-involved parentingWhen and how to nurture self-advocacy in your tweens and teensA tip for teen self-advocacy that Cindyâs never shared before!The ask that can forge new connections with your tween and teensWhat parents need to do before looking at how they're raising their kidsAnd more nuggets of wisdom!
About Our Guest, Cynthia Muchnick
Cindy, a graduate of Stanford University, is an expert in the college admission process: she got her start in admission offices before opening a private study skills and college counseling business in Southern California, which she ran for over fifteen years. As an Assistant Director of Admission for the Illinois Institute of Technology and the University of Chicago, she screened and reviewed over three thousand applications, interviewed prospective students, and served on the admission committee to evaluate borderline applicants and appeals cases. Then, as a private counselor, she helped hundreds of high school students navigate their academic journeys, including course selection, study skills, time management, and college applications. Since closing her private educational practice in 2011, Cindy has focused on public speaking to student, parent, school and business groups on a variety of education-related topics.
Over the course of her career, Cindy has written numerous books; The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teenâs Wellness and Academic Journey in Todayâs Competitive World (Familius/Workman/Hachette, 2020) is her tenth. Her other titles include The Best College Admission Essays (co-author, ARCO/Petersonâs, 1997), The Everything Guide to Study Skills: Strategies, Tips, and Tools You Need to Succeed in School (Simon& Schuster, 2011), Straight-A Study Skills (co-author, Simon& Schuster, 2012), The Everything College Checklist Book (Simon& Schuster, 2013), Writing Successful College Applications: Itâs More than Just the Essay (Petersonâs Publishing, 2014), and four other books (Simon & Schuster and Penguin Random House). Her essays have appeared on Zibby Owensâ Moms Donât Have Time To Write Medium platform, Your Teen Magazine, College Confidential, Raising Teens Today, The Los Angeles Times, and The Mom Experience, among others.
Cindy holds a bachelorâs degree in Political Science and Art History from Stanford University and a masterâs degree in Liberal Studies from Nova Southeastern University. Some of the other twists and turns in her multifaceted career include her stints as a campus tour guide and volunteer student coordinator for Stanfordâs Office of Undergraduate Admission and a tenth-grade history teacher at The University School, in Ft. Lauderdale, FL. She is a professional speaker and panelist on the subjects of education, study skills, parenting, and mental...
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Weâre still early in 2023 and if youâre like me, youâre still jazzed about goals, intentions, resolutions, etc. Julie DeLucca-Collins joins host Carmelita Tiu to talk about the power of tiny habits, and how small habits can build into big results.
Listen to hear:
How motivation doesnât work when creating habits, and what doesThe recipe for creating tiny habits that stickThe importance of celebrating even the small winsAbout Our Guest
Julie DeLucca-Collins is the Founder and CEO of Go Confidently Services, the host of the popular Casa DeConfidence PodcastÂź, and her weekly Radio Show Confident You featured on a global talk radio network.
As a Business and Life Strategist Coach, Julie helps women business owners launch or grow their businesses, get clients, be productive, and achieve their dreams. Julie helps her clients create simple habits to achieve goals and change their lives.
Julie is a sought-after public speaker, author, trainer, and course creator. She is certified as a coach in Cognitive Behavioral Techniques, Holistic Coach, and Tiny Habits. She is also certified as a Social Emotional Learning Facilitator and has completed her 200-hour Yoga Teacher Certification. Julie enjoys helping her clients build mental fitness and improve their mindset to be at peace and improve peak performance. Julie is also the #1 best-selling author of the book Confident You (simple habits to live the life you've imagined).
Julie has been honored with the "25 Most Powerful Minority Women in Business Award." by the Minority Enterprise Executive Council in Washington, DC. Julie and her Podcast co-host/producer husband Dan reside in Vernon, CT, with their fur babies, Yogi Bear, Junior, and Simba.
To learn more about Julie and her work, connect with her here:
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Tiny Habits AcademyTiny Habits - The Small Changes That Change Everything, by B.J. FoggAbout Your Host, Carmelita / Cat / Millie Tiu
Mom, spouse, coach, podcaster, wordsmith, legal eagle. Endlessly curious about how we can show up better for ourselves â because when we do that, we also show up better for our kids and those around us. Visit carmelitatiu.com to learn more about Cat, and for info on 1:1 coaching, the mom collective, and her monthly newsletter.
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Do you find yourself beating yourself up when you don't reach a goal...even if you have very good reasons for not attaining it? Are you saddled with "shoulds" and little perfectionist gremlin voices that make you feel like a failure whenever a goal isn't met?
In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu talks about how to cut through the negative self-talk and guilt by asking a key question -- "Am I living in alignment with my values?"
She also covers 4 alternatives to traditional "goals" -- perfect for times in your life when you need flexibility and a SMART goal feels too rigid:
setting intentions"holding space"anti-goalsno goals at all***Check out the new website! Visit www.knowberaisethem.com***
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(Encore of Episode 05)
âIâm Speaking.â We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right?
We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if theyâre interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that theyâll offend?
Listen to hear:
The different social norms for boys and girlsDisparities in how much men talk versus women in executive settingsThe 10 words every girl needs to learn, according to Soraya ChemalySample phrases illustrating how to interruptWhat to tell your daughters to make them feel more comfortable with interruptingKnow Them, Be Them, Raise Them
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Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An âabracadabraâ to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way?
While sadly thereâs no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.â
The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say things better, to better support our daughters.
I love you no matter what.You are absolutely beautiful, inside and out.You are strong, and youâve got this! Iâm here to support you.How do you feel?Gosh, I love my ______ (body part)! What is your favorite part of your body?Oh yeah? Tell me more.How can you be a light in this situation?You have a strong desire to feel powerful and that is GOOD!How will you be the change you want to see?I am not ok with _____, or Iâd like you to ______.To learn more about Wendy and A Fresh Start Family, visit:
Website: www.freshstartfamilyonline.comInstagram: @freshstartwendy Podcast: The Fresh Start Family Show Got a strong-willed child? Check out the free guide, "How to Raise Strong Willed Kids With Integrity" and "10 Firm and Kind Phrases to Use When Your Child Isn't Listening."You can also enroll in a free class on power struggles - save your seat by visiting www.freshstartfamilyonline.com/powerstrugglesclass .Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them
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Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares:
What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientationHow these terms relate to one anotherWhy acceptance is not the goalThe importance of using pronounsHow to support your child while being careful not to push themGuest Bio:
Elaine is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist based in Ann Arbor, Michigan, whose passion is working with individuals within the LGBTQ+ community, and the neurodivergent community, which often overlap. She works under an intersectional, feminist, and anti-oppressive framework.
Email: [email protected]
In this episode â references and additional resources:
The Trevor ProjectPrevious Episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them:Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35)Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them
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In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping.
Some highlights:
The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kidsWhy we shouldnât beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every dayHealthy ways to copeGuest Bio:
Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Amazon #1 bestselling author of The Teen Toolboxâąïž. She is a mum of two fantastic young adults in their late 20âs - so she has been deep in the parenting trenches.
Cai has blended nearly three decades of motherhood with her background as a Master Practitioner in: NLP, Hypnotherapy and Coaching, together with her experience as a ChildLine counsellor to create her TEEN Toolboxâąïž Series which provides parents and teenagers with the tools to successfully navigate this vital (and sometimes rocky) stages of adolescence.
To learn more about Cai Graham:
Visit www.caigraham.comFollow her on Instagram @caigrahamFind her on Facebook - Facebook Page: @thecaigraham / Facebook Group: Parent & Teen ToolboxHer Amazon bestselling book: The Teen ToolboxCheck out Caiâs videos:
Breathing Techniques: www.caigraham.com/breathing3 Questions to Ask Your Teen: www.caigraham.com/threequestionsTapping (EFT - Emotional Freedom Technique): www.caigraham.com/tappingIn this episode â references and additional resources:
Previous episodes of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them related to this topic that you may find helpful:
Self Harm: What It Is, Why It Happens, and How to Respond // with Cai Graham (Ep. 40)Emotional Suppression and How to Create a Safe Space for Your Kids to Open Up // with Ezza Mustaffa (Ep. 35)Are Your Thoughts Fooling You? Reframing Negative Thoughts and Cognitive Distortions // with Julia Hogan (Ep. 20)Brad Yates
YouTube channel for Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), aka tappingBrad Yatesâ book for kids, âThe Wizardâs WishâKnow Them, Be Them, Raise Them
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