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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is pumped up for PRIDE!
This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and give their advice on the trials and tribulations of dating after being inspired (and horrified) by this article about the 50 worst-ever sapphic dating stories. As two married lesbians who have achieved their final form, ie. chilling on the couch with their wives and rarely leaving the house, they are clearly the experts on the sapphic dating scene.
From a girl whose Plenty of Fish date turned out to be a Plenty of “Friends” date with a surprise boyfriend reveal to the girl who ended up sky high in a hot air balloon on a first date, these sapphic horror stories will have you thinking twice about swiping right. After discussing the stories in the article, we think back on our own dating experiences and the things that probably should have raised more red flags at the time. But it’s not all doom and gloom! We also provide healthier date ideas for early in a relationship along with our personal perfect 5-date sequences.
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Have a horrifying sapphic dating story that rivals the ones in the article? We want to hear them! Email us your terrible dates to @[email protected].
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that’s, “knock, knock, knockin’ on heaven’s door”. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the 2025 Apple TV dramedy, Eternity, Should've Been Gay.
Eternity asks the genuinely thought-provoking question, ‘what does happiness in the afterlife look like for you’, and dares to answer it in the most heteronormative way possible. Leigh and Ellie ended up having vastly differing opinions this time around. Ellie loved the film so much, she watched it more than once, and cried every single time. Leigh was so enraged while watching it for the first and only time on a flight that she strongly considered throwing herself out of the plane while 30,000 feet up in the sky.
For those who are unfamiliar, Eternity centers around Elizabeth Olsen’s character, Joan, as she decides between two possible “eternities” in the afterlife– one in the mountains with her first husband, Luke, who died young and waited 70 years for Joan to join him, or one at the beach with Larry, the husband with whom she spent the majority of her life and built a family. Unfortunately for Joan, neither Larry nor Luke seem all that concerned about where she would actually like to spend literal forever. They're set on mountain world and beach world, respectively, and will not budge on these decisions, even though a compromise would’ve fixed the entire problem. The one saving grace for Joan comes in her longtime best friend Karen, a late-in-life lesbian who plans to spend her afterlife lezzing it up in Paris.
The film presents so many potential paths for Joan to take (the mountains with Luke, the beach with Larry, Luke and Larry giving in to their obvious bisexual curiosities to form a throuple, running off to Paris with Karen, choosing an afterlife herself instead of being forced into someone else’s version of a happily ever after…) and then walks her down the most aggressively heterosexual option in a way that truly feels like a hate crime. Honestly, regardless of how much anyone loves their partner, eternity is not 100 years or even 500 years, it’s ETERNITY. There is no way everyone doesn’t end up becoming swingers eventually anyway.
We know one thing for sure, Eternity Should’ve Been Gay.
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Join our Patreon for less than a cup of your favorite iced coffee and unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more! Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is currently crying over a gay novel in an internet cafe. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) are hanging out with journalist and editor Yi-Ling Liu (@instalingers), author of The Wall Dancers: Searching for Freedom and Connection on the Chinese Internet. This debut narrative nonfiction follows the lives of five individuals across the past three decades as they push for social change while navigating within the walls of Chinaâs Great Firewall. We talk with Yi-Ling Liu about online censorship in China and the life-altering importance of representation and access to community for queer people everywhere. In the early days of the internet, there were significantly less built-in systems of censorship and surveillance. Internet cafes were cropping up in every town, and globally people were experiencing a newfound freedom that did not exist outside of the confines of their screens. In China and the United States alike, homosexuality was still considered a crime and classified as a mental illness. However, on the newly created, not-yet algorithmically controlled internet, queer people could find one another, form communities and subcultures, and share their stories long before it became acceptable to live openly in daily life. A gay person living in a small city thinking theyâre the only one in the world who feels the way they do could stumble across a queer novel in an internet cafe and have a truly transformative experience. Nowadays, things have flipped, especially in China. While being gay is generally more accepted and younger generations think nothing of coming out, the internet has become a much more restrictive and monitored environment. Gay couples in China can openly live their lives; but if they try to share those lives on social media, they have to do so covertly with language that wonât trigger the firewall. Words like âlesbianâ and âgayâ are automatically censored; so queer people have had to get creative, inventing a shared lexicon that keeps their content off the governmentâs radar. As we watch our own cultural landscape change through algorithmic censorship, increased government surveillance, book bans, and legal challenges, we canât help but see Chinaâs firewall as a very possible blueprint for our own near-future online ecosystem. Get your own copy of Yi-Ling Liuâs, The Wall Dancers: Searching for Freedom and Connection on the Chinese Internet. Donât forget to show your support for our tiny podcasting team by shopping small at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp. Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @[email protected]. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster).Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast for childless cat ladies everywhere.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with graphic memoirist, professor, and podcaster, Nicole J. Georges (@nicolejgeorges), and talk about why the 1990 children’s fever dream, The Witches, Should've Been Gay. If you saw this movie when you were a kid, you just might have a thing for dark haired high femmes with impossibly purple eyes.
Children’s movies in the 80s and early 90s really went all in on nightmare fuel, and The Witches is no exception. This “baby’s first body horror” delivers everything from Animorphs-style transformations to traumatized kids trapped in paintings, plus a convention full of witchy femmes casually peeling off their wigs…and then their faces.
The story kicks off with Luke’s grandmother basically issuing a public service announcement about suspiciously stylish, childless cat ladies in sensible shoes, and then immediately kills off Luke’s parents in a tragic accident. With his parents gone, Luke goes to England with his grandmother, where their hotel just happens to be hosting a witch convention led by the highest femme we’ve ever seen, Grand High Witch, Miss Ernst (Anjelica Huston). Luke accidentally stumbles into the convention, overhears Miss Ernst’s extremely chill plan to turn all the children in England into mice, and is immediately turned into a mouse himself alongside his new buddy Bruno. Together with his grandmother, Luke and Bruno set out to stop the witches for good.
Witches, and villains in general, have always been queer coded, but in The Witches it barely even feels like subtext. The queerness is so loud it might as well be canon. We get into the chosen family of cults, the oddly sexual energy of fish paste on cucumber sandwiches, and the most important question, are all mice gay?
We know one thing for sure, The Witches Should’ve Been Gay.
Nicole’s latest book, Emotional Support Animals, featuring therapeutic animal illustrations, worksheets, and grounding exercises is available now. Hear more musings from Nicole on her podcast Sagittarian Matters. Nicole also co-hosts The Gaymazing Race podcast alongside author and professor Karen Tongson.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that truly believes lesbians can save the world.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) is once again holding down the fort without Ellie, but she’s far from lonely! We are excited to present an intergenerational panel of talented filmmakers from the Cinema Systers Film Festival (@cinemasystersfilmfestival), the ONLY all-lesbian film festival in the United States, as they join Leigh for an inspirational discussion about finding “systerhood” and the power of sharing our stories in community.
Leigh speaks with Laura Petrie, the founder and producer of the CSFF, about planting her acorn by bringing her vision for a lesbian film festival to life in her beloved hometown of Paducah, Kentucky. Next, we hear from Nicole de Meneses (@darkrainbowfilms), a freelance writer, producer and director who was introduced to the CSFF through a documentary on the festival (available on Lesflicks). She has had several films now featured at the festival, including the mermaid romcom, Fishy, and the vampire horror short, Last Bite. Next up is Jennifer Trujillo, the Senior Managing Director of the Gilbert Baker Film Festival (@gilbertbakerfilmfest), who faced serious anxieties over trekking to Kentucky (and subsequently fell in love with Paducah) to represent Last Bite in 2025 as a Supporting Producer. Last but not least, we are joined by Krissy Mahan, a working class film maker (and lesbian of a certain age), who has been documenting our stories since the AIDS crisis of the late 80s and is now well-known for her “dykeumentaries”, a visual record of queer people living as themselves during times when the official record may not reflect that reality. At this year’s festival, Krissy and Jenn will be leading a workshop titled "Accessibility is for Every Body”, aiming to liberate films from ableism from the pre-production stages forward. They dream of creating a cultural shift where films are truly accessible to all people regardless of their bodies' unique sensory inputs.
Together we can normalize our stories, break free of the patriarchal, homophobic, racist, ableist world we’ve inherited and celebrate one another while using film as a mechanism for thought experiments on how to create a better world where we can all survive. Stick around to the end to hear an impassioned debate (ie. dyke fight) over the lesbian Christmas classic, Carol.
We hope you’ll journey to Paducah, Kentucky for the 10th Anniversary celebration of the Cinema Systers Film Festival taking place from May 21st to the 24th, 2026. In addition to a full roster of films, the festival provides tons of events to take part in throughout the long weekend including panels, musical performances, and workshops. Find out more about the festival, see the line-up, buy tickets, and book your stay at cinemasysters.com.
Looking to experience even more of our stories in community? Check out the Gilbert Baker Film Festival, an accessible, virtual worldwide film festival returning in late June 2026 and running through August.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is also obsessed with couch time.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with return guests and friends of the pod, co-hosts Kris and Shana of Bad Queers Pod (@badqueerspod), and talk about why the international sensation, K-Pop Demon Hunters, Should’ve Been Gay.
We are really loving this new trend of all the animated kid’s movies with blatantly queer undertones becoming instant hits. From Frozen to Nimona, there has been a large push to teach kids to embrace differences and be true to themselves. With half of us being introduced to K-Pop Demon Hunters thanks to our own small kids, looking at all the gay angles wasn’t top of mind. But after an hour and a half of absolute bops (Golden is written by the same gay man that wrote the musical adaptation of The Devil Wears Prada!), the on-the-nose queerness of having a secret identity, the forbidden love between Rumi and Jinu, and Rumi’s coming out story being the core of the entire plot, we knew we had to do an SBG right away.
We talk about our experiences with the movie, expose Gwi-Ma as a petty Log Cabin Republican, break down the lyrics to Soda Pop (which is definitely about poppers), and discuss our favorite ships (Polytrix forever!).
We know one thing for sure, K-Pop Demon Hunters Should’ve Been Gay.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is hearing wedding bells. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the many differences they’ve observed between gay and straight weddings. Getting married and getting “gay married” may look the same on paper, but the actual weddings themselves tend to be significantly different.
As most of you know by now, Ellie is getting married soon, but what you don’t know is that her brother is also getting married this year. This would be a nightmare with two straight weddings, because they can be so much more involved and require a huge time commitment. Straight weddings are by nature steeped in heteronormative culture and bogged down by the traditions of patriarchy. It feels like there is a standard formula that most heterosexual weddings follow (except of course for our allies, the straight nerds). But for our gay weddings, the limit does not exist!
There is no one-size-fits-all way to have a queer wedding. Does the concept of a Daddy/Daughter dance make your stomach turn? Would you rather pass away than let your father walk you down the aisle? Don’t want to ever hear another super outdated ball-and-chain speech again? You’re in luck! We don’t have to do any of that nonsense. You were already breaking the mold by simply being your beautiful queer self, you might as well throw the mold all the way out for your ‘wedding gay’.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that has a huge lesbian crush on Anne Hathaway.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with comedian, singer, and writer Sydney Kane (@sydneymorgankane) and talk about why the 2009 smash hit, Bride Wars, Should’ve Been Gay. If watching Kate Hudson and Anne Hathaway roll around on top of each other in wedding dresses was your gay awakening (like it was for Sydney), you’re in the right place.
For those of you who are somehow unfamiliar, Bride Wars tells the incredibly queer story of two childhood best friends, Emma (Anne Hathaway) and Olivia (Kate Hudson), who have been planning their Pride month weddings at The Plaza since their dress-up, house-playing days. When the two do finally get engaged, their weddings end up accidentally booked for the same day in June and chaos ensues as both women proceed to lose their minds. With the wedding date rapidly approaching, Liv and Emma commence an elaborate game of chicken and petty sabotage in the hopes of getting the other to cancel before finally deciding to attempt to share the venue.
Since Bride Wars is about two heterosexual couples getting married, we expected to see a lot more of Liv and Emma’s fiancés. Instead these guys are rarely on screen, even during the wedding planning stages. There is not one ounce of romance or desire shown between the couples. In the end, Emma even leaves her own wedding to go wrestle Liv, ultimately choosing to call off her entire relationship. This would’ve been such a prime set-up for our childhood sweethearts to end up together, but of course it’s 2009 and gay marriage isn’t legal nationwide yet, so we get Emma marrying Liv’s brother as a stand-in instead. Classic.
We know one thing for sure, Bride Wars Should’ve Been Gay.
If you are in or around L.A., you can catch Sydney’s musical comedy special, Wife Material, live on April 21st at the Roxy. Tickets are available now.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants you to gay-se your voice!
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) holds down the fort without Ellie for a delightfully nerdy and fascinating conversation with founder and speech-language pathologist Nicole Gress, MS, CCC-SLP. Nicole took what they learned from their medical training, lived experience as a genderfluid individual, and years of interacting with gender diverse clients in the Bay Area and founded Undead Voice (@undead.voice), an online, community-driven platform dedicated to eradicating the voice dysphoria experienced by 85% of the trans population. The platform is open to people of all gender identities and ages, so whether you are 9 or 90, you can take the steps toward reclaiming your voice.
Imagine feeling overwhelming discomfort every single time you speak and the impact that would have on your ability to participate in the world and show up as your full self. This widespread detrimental impact on mental health was one of many reasons why Nicole was inspired to create something new, outside the restrictions of the medical system. With the coaching, curriculum, and community support of the Undead Voice Lab, gender diverse individuals can discover their most affirming voice in about 4 to 6 months of training.
We get real nerdy with it as Nicole breaks down exactly how the program works. They discuss the 3 influences that create a voice: environmental, cultural and physical, along with the 5 pillars that you can learn to master: tilt, weight, resonance, pitch and dynamics. Since environmental and cultural influences are intrinsic to who you are and help to showcase your personality, the program leaves those alone and focuses on the physical aspects of voice, teaching participants how to shift and control the size and shape of their vocal instrument. Leigh and Nicole also talk about voice transition as a form of accessible, non-invasive gender affirming care for trans youth.
You can learn more about Undead Voice at www.undeadvoice.com. Registration is open right now for the Jumpstart program, a free 3-week intro program designed exclusively for trans and gender diverse people looking to begin or refine their voice transition journeys. Jumpstart participants are eligible for a $1,000 tuition credit toward the full voice training program, Undead Voice Lab.
Download this free Trans Voice 101 Guide if you are interested in learning more about voice transitioning.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that hopes you find your queerest happily ever after. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the animated fairytale, Charming, Shouldâve Been Gay. One thing Charming does have going for it is a wildly stacked cast. Weâre talking Ashley Tisdale, Demi Lovato, Avril Lavigne, John Cleese and Sia all in one place. Unfortunately, even a big name cast couldnât save this film from receiving a 22% on Rotten Tomatoes. Weâre pretty sure the only way to save Charming from a fate worse than choking on a poison apple is to make it gay. And judging by the amount of reviews that say things like, âDoes anyone else think Prince Charming is aro/ace?â, weâre all on the same page. Charming is a queer story from the jump, starting with the Princeâs curse. This man is cursed to have every woman he meets fall in love with him. Weâre pretty sure that if you, a man, view hot women constantly throwing themselves at you as a curse, you might be at least a little bit (very) gay. Charming laments being unable to find his one true love while juggling simultaneous engagements to Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty. He appears doomed to be a player, unable to find his true love amongst a sea of unlimited suitors. That is until Lenore, who is mysteriously immune to the Princeâs charms, takes a page out of Mulanâs book and disguises herself as a man. While the movie doesnât explain why the curse does not work on her, we think thereâs two simple explanations; 1. Lenore is a lesbian and/or 2. Lenore is trans/nonbinary. Since the curse is predictably heteronormative in scope, Lenore being gay and/or trans creates a loophole that we think could explain her immunity. We know one thing for sure, Charming Shouldâve Been Gay.Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more!You can also support the show by shopping small at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp.Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @[email protected]. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster).Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants a hot, older lesbian to step on them. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and discuss their feelings on age gap relationships.
When we think about an age gap relationship, it isn’t so much about the specific number of years that separate the couple. While there are of course certain gaps and scenarios that give us the ick right off the bat, ultimately we define an age gap relationship more by differences in life stage than by years apart. A 20 year old college student is most likely in a very different life stage than a 35 year old whereas that same 15 year gap might feel like nothing to a couple who get together at 40 and 55.
We can’t talk about age gaps without talking about the power dynamics and patriarchal ideals they are often rooted in. So many celebrities are in significant age gap relationships and the media has normalized older men being attracted to younger barely-not-children women since the dawn of the patriarchy. But it isn’t only men who are into the gap. When we take a step back and really look at lesbian media, there is a major romanticization of the older, dominant lesbian and the younger, typically less experienced woman who is obsessed with her. From The Devil Wears Prada to Carol to Hacks, lesbians on a whole have a “mommy” problem. If you’re creeped out by a 40 year old man pursuing a 22 year old college girl, you should be just as creeped out by Carol pursuing Therese.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that would lovingly hand-feed you a churro. This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the 2024 box-office smash hit, Challengers, Shouldâve Been Gay(er). Honestly, we went into this movie assuming it was going to be so much gayer than it actually was. All of the promos hyped the threesome and made the story sound super queer, which made us all the more disappointed when it just did not deliver. Luckily, we have plenty of ideas on how to fix Challengers so that it can be the gay movie we were advertised. For a film by the same director as Call Me By Your Name, the queerness is way too subtle. Sure, thereâs a threesome; but the film doubles down on both boys being into Zendayaâs character, Tashi, rather than each other. And beyond that one intense make-out, Art and Patrick never get together. Thereâs not so much a love triangle as there is a beard triangle, with each character equally in-the-closet. Between cringing at the poorly crafted CGI tennis balls and overly on-the-nose suggestive subtext, we couldnât really understand why this movie got so much gay buzz. We get that everyone is desperate for queer crumbs; but the characters are not even likeable, there's barely any on-screen queerness and they somehow made Zendaya unattractive! While the film does provide an interesting take on sex and power (and on paper looks to be the tennis-equivalent of Heated Rivalry), it falls short on delivering any resolution to the sexual tension between Art and Patrick and never touches on Tashiâs sexuality at all. We know one thing for sure, Challengers Shouldâve Been Gay(er).Join our Patreon to unlock 25+ full-length bonus episodes, ad-free weekly episodes, mp3 downloads of our original songs, exclusive Discord access, and more!You can also support the show by shopping small at bit.ly/lezmerch & picking up Lez-ssentials songs on Bandcamp.Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @[email protected]. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster).Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that fully supports hexing your terrible ex.
This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with screenwriter (Hulu’s Crush, Amazon Prime’s The Second Best Hospital in the Galaxy) and return guest Kirsten King (@kirstenlking) to discuss her debut novel, A Good Person, which will be released on March 31, 2026. We chat with Kirsten about pro-bono exorcisms, Boston socioeconomic class divides, performative white activism, and leaning into being a “bad bisexual”. Heads up for light spoilers ahead (nothing that you couldn’t figure out from the book jacket).
A Good Person follows the story of Kirsten’s unhinged protagonist Lillian, a deeply flawed bisexual millennial that she describes as a “soup of personality disorders”. Lillian is the type of character we love to hate-watch as she charges from one questionable decision to the next leaving mess after mess in her wake. When Lillian’s situationship with Henry leads to a crushing breakup instead of lifelong romance, she reacts the way anyone would– by getting drunk and casting a hex on him. Unfortunately for her, she becomes the prime murder suspect when Henry is found dead the very next day. She really should have gone for one of those protection spells from Etsy after her drunken foray into witchcraft. Instead, Lillian is flung headfirst into a twisting psychological thriller as she seeks to clear her name and discover the truth.
You can pre-order A Good Person wherever you get your books, but we highly recommend choosing an independent bookstore. We received advance copies and honestly could not put it down. If you enjoy books about unreliable, unlikeable narrators where you’re never quite sure what is going to happen next, you’ll love Kirsten’s A Good Person.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants the dykes on bikes to bring us to The Green Place.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) are rewinding the clock back to our discussion about why the 2015 movie Mad Max: Fury Road Should’ve Been Gay.
Honestly, nothing could have prepared us for how gay and campy this movie is. It’s basically leather daddies vs. dykes on bikes in a post-apocalyptic desert. Furiosa, played by Charlize Theron, is from The Green Place, a lesbian mecca inhabited entirely by women known as the Vuvalini. She wants nothing more than to escape Immortan Joe’s leather daddy war boy desert land and get back to her girls, but won’t leave without taking all the hottest women from Joe’s harem of breeders with her.
When Joe realizes that Furiosa has straight up stolen all his hot ladies, he sends his war boys to track her down in a series of action-packed, explosion-filled car chases through the deserted post-apocalyptic wastelands. When she does finally get back to lesbian mecca, everyone is so excited to see her. But things are no longer going well for them in The Green Place, so Furiosa adds a bunch of the dykes on bikes to her pack and heads back to challenge and overthrow Immortan Joe.
Between the intense sapphic energy of the Vuvalini, Furiosa’s whole shaved head, protector of hot women aesthetic, and the absolute camp that is Immortan Joe and his pack of shiny boy toys, we cannot see this movie as anything other than a gay masterpiece.
We know one thing for sure, Mad Max: Fury Road Should’ve Been Gay.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is currently listening to Tequila Knows Me on a loop.
This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Shawnee Kish (@shawneekish), a four-time JUNO-nominated 2 spirit Indigenous alternative country artist from Canada. Shawnee released her debut album, Chapter 1, this past summer and was recently nominated for female artist of the year at the 15th Annual Country Music Awards in Alberta.
We spoke with Shawnee about her journey toward self-acceptance and embracing her Indigenous roots, the barriers for queer artists in country music, and the experience of cultivating chosen family while navigating her own family’s homophobia. Growing up in Canada, she did not have strong connections to her Indigenous ancestry and hid from her own sexuality. When she began to learn from her elders and understand more about Indigenous beliefs, she was able to reconcile what her spirit always knew was true and fully step into her 2 spirit identity.
Nowadays, Shawnee is loudly out and proud, refusing to shy away from her true self even when confronted by her family’s religious beliefs and intolerant music industry professionals. Ellie bonded with Shawnee over processing emotional, deeply personal experiences through music and Leigh bonded over their shared experience of motherhood. We also talked with Shawnee about how she met her wife (a story that is slightly different depending on whether you ask her or her wife about it) and what it means for her to be 2 spirit.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that needs everyone to drop what they’re doing and watch Heated Rivalry right now.
This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the worldwide phenomenon that is Heated Rivalry. Whether or not you’ve actually watched a single episode of the show or read the book the series is based on, you’ve definitely heard of these gay hockey boys. Queer shows so rarely make it into the mainstream, and Heated Rivalry has managed to do so in a big way. So big in fact that the lead actors, Hudson Williams (Shane) and Connor Storrie (Ilya) were chosen as official torchbearers for the 2026 Winter Olympics opening ceremony! Even NYC mayor Zohran Mamdani has openly promoted the book series, encouraging New Yorkers to stay home and read the romance during the recent major snowstorm. While we wish lesbians could have our own Heated Rivalry moment, we have to admit that we’re really loving the show and what it is doing for queer representation, especially in the realm of men’s professional sports.
We can’t talk about Heated Rivalry without talking about the shadow of homophobia that persists for male athletes, causing most to wait until their professional careers have ended to come out of the closet, if they come out at all. The NHL is actually the only men’s pro-league that still has never had a player (current or retired) come out as gay. So, this story centering on gay male hockey players is a really important push for representation in a sport that remains heavily steeped in a culture of homophobia and toxic masculinity.
While one viral series isn’t going to immediately change that culture, it is impossible to overstate the impact that its massive popularity is having on the sports world. Conservative sports podcaster bros are having to watch the show to discuss it with their listeners, because it has become too huge for even them to ignore. Closeted athletes are being inspired to come out publically following the success of the series, including hockey player Jesse Kortuem who was personally thanked for his bravery by none other than Hudson Williams (Shane) himself. We’re amazed seeing all the positive impacts that a series with only 6 episodes has already made in the queer community and beyond and truly cannot wait to see where Season 2 takes us.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is once again making an entire episode based on a single song. You’re welcome.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the hit Katseye song, Gabriela, Should’ve Been Gay. Personally, we have not stopped singing this song on a loop since it came out (of a closet made of air). Gabriela is basically an even queerer, more Gen-Z version of Dolly Parton’s Jolene. With two out of six members of the group being openly queer, it was only a matter of time before they released the gayest song we’ve ever heard. We’re honestly not sure what they could’ve been going for with Gabriela if not a bisexual anthem.
We can’t talk about Gabriela without addressing the sapphic fever dream that is the music video. Katseye may spend the chorus singing “back off of my fella, Gabriela”, but there is not one fella to be seen anywhere on the screen. In fact, they go to extremes to use absolutely anything but a fella, casting a mannequin and a self-driving taxi as placeholders for men. The decision to cast Jessica Alba and zero men feels deliberately gay, especially when paired with the least subtle lesbian imagery we’ve ever seen. These girls are literally spitting up flower petals and stroking cats while singing about how much they want to climb Gabriela like a tree.
The lyrics for Gabriela are equally as gay as the music video, even leaving in the “fella” rhyme. As we did with our Jolene episode, we pick the lyrics apart line by line looking for the gay subtext. In this case, we’re not sure it counts as subtext. It’s just the text at this point. The line, “Skin amaretto / I bet you taste just like the summer / Under the covers” transitioning into a fantasy about a threesome with Gabriela pretty much speaks for itself. This girl is so down bad for Gabriela that she literally passes away with her “heart in the casket” when she sees her. There is perhaps no experience more relatable to lesbians than seeing a woman that is so hot that you just die on the spot.
We know one thing for sure, Gabriela Should’ve Been Gay.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that fully supports you U-Hauling with your girlfriend of two weeks.
This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the lesbian divorce rate discourse. If you spend any time on Reneé Rapp’s internet you likely have seen some variation of this so-called “fact” going around about married lesbian couples having a 70% divorce rate. You may even have taken this fact at face-value. We’re not statisticians and we won’t say we did all that much deep research for this episode, but the claim is absolutely a myth. And it very much misrepresents the findings of that study. The world of statistics is a mess and it’s challenging to get a clear analysis of lesbian divorce rates when women have only been legally allowed to marry each other in this country for like a decade. It’s only natural that it will take time for marriage and divorce rates to stabilize, especially with LGBTQ+ rights in constant flux. With all this confusing back-and-forth, we wanted to take some time to look into some of these studies and give our two cents on what the reasons may be for lesbian couples having a higher divorce rate (if true).
Through our super professional research we discovered a few factors that might be at play. First off, lesbian couples get married at higher rates than gay male couples and tend to be more monogamous. That coupled with the fact that women of all sexualities are more likely to initiate divorce than men leads us to believe this statistic is likely true. Next, time moves differently for queer couples. We have to consider things that straight couples simply never have to worry about, like whether we’ll legally be allowed to get married if we choose to wait. This can lead to lesbians jumping into marriages faster and discovering incompatibility afterward. We also are shown to be less likely to “stay for the kids”, probably because queer women are more inclined to co-parent equally after a divorce. However, we can’t completely ignore the flaws in the existing studies. Many include queer women who have divorced men in the past or include such a disproportionate sample size of queer couples to straight couples that it invalidates the results.
While there are obvious issues with the way the research has largely been approached (mainly because the straights do not understand how we operate), we will concede that everything seems to be pointing to it being true that lesbians divorce at a higher rate than both heterosexual and gay male couples. However, we also choose to believe the studies that show that lesbian couples have higher rates of satisfaction in our marriages and lower rates of cheating than other couples. Plus, lesbians who do U-Haul prior to getting married have lower rates of divorce. So really, we’re still the best and the straights can just keep crying about it.
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Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @[email protected]. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster).
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is just too good to be true.
This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with queer actor, writer, and comedian Olivia Levine (@olivialevine19) to talk about why the 1999 cult classic Drop Dead Gorgeous, Should’ve Been Gay. If you’re unfamiliar with the plot, it focuses on a small town beauty pageant that turns deadly for the contestants. As with many movies from the 90s, there are a lot of things in the script that just do not hold up in 2026. We still enjoyed this movie overall, but please be aware there is a period-typical amount of ableism, racism, and homophobia.
One thing that Drop Dead Gorgeous does get right is the casting. This cast is STACKED. If you’re a millennial like us, you’ll recognize so many people in this movie, including Kirsten Dunst, Kirstie Alley, Denise Richards, Brittany Murphy, and Amy Adams. The acting is impeccable and the characters are delightfully unhinged in the campiest of ways. Being an SBG, the characters aren’t openly queer, but we can honestly say we do not think there is a single straight character in this movie. Unfortunately, interpreting these characters as queer means there is quite a bit of BYG (bury your gays) trope throughout. For a romcom, there is a shocking amount of murders, but they are done in really over the top, comical ways (so it isn’t scary to watch!).
We know one thing for sure, Drop Dead Gorgeous Should’ve Been Gay.
Check out Olivia’s monthly comedy show “Strapped” at the legendary Stonewall Inn in NYC. Keep an eye out for upcoming dates and locations for Olivia’s solo comedy show “Unstuck”, which focuses on the intersection of OCD, anxiety and queerness.
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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that really hopes 2026 is “the year that it happens”.
This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about highlights and lowlights from 2025 as we look ahead to our hopes and dreams for 2026. As far as queer media, it has been a year for the gay boys. From Will’s coming out on Stranger Things to the widespread success of Heated Rivalry, the gay boys are thriving on our screens. Sadly, lesbians have not been quite so lucky. Our biggest rep this year was probably Hunting Wives and we’re not really sure how to feel about that.
On a personal level, Leigh spent 2025 picking up hobbies like camping now that the girls are old enough, tennis, and crochet. Ellie has had a whirlwind year of travel, working on her upcoming EP with Leigh, and getting engaged. As we look ahead into 2026, we have a few dreams. Firstly, we want the lesbian version of Heated Rivalry. How is it 2026 and we still don’t have a modern Imagine Me & You? On a more personal level, we’re working to find more ways to foster queer community with in-person events and starting to think about our next musical venture. Overall, we really just are focused on finding little pockets of joy in between the constant state of horrors that we are all currently living through.
Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @[email protected]. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster).
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