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    Whats up my friends and welcome back! This week we are welcoming back a man we know and love who has helped so many individuals as a dating coach, Evan Marc Katz. He specializes in helping smart, successful, women create lasting love. The last episode we talked about the dating game which you should DEFINITELY check out, but this week we are talking about relationships… let's get started! 



    In this episode…

    Adult romance 

    Relationships goals 

    Honesty 

    Optimism 

    Online dating 

    Safe, heard, and understood 

    Confidence 





    Quotes

    “Dating for some people is such a shitshow but online and off. So sometimes it's really hard for people to break through and feel special when we have created these systems of online dating apps where we basically dehumanize everybody to be products.” - Evan Marc Katz 

    “Good qualities come with bad qualities.” - Evan Marc Katz 

    “If I am going to be with a man for a long period of time, then I do not need to rush into anything.” - Nikki Spo

    “No man is real until he is your boyfriend. He is just hope, fantasy, projection, and potential.” - Evan Marc Katz 

    “If you don’t have confidence, nothing works. It is the umbrella in which everything resigns.” - Evan Marc Katz 



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 3:20 | Intro 
    3:20 - 7:05 | Adult romance  
    7:05 - 8:55 | Creating your own paradigm 
    8:55 - 11:25 | Honesty 
    11:25 - 13:10 | Optimism
    13:10 - 17:40 | Online dating 
    17:40 - 27:00 | Good qualities come with bad qualities 
    27:00 - 32:26 | Dealing with uncertainty 
    32:32 - 36:15 | Being present while keeping an eye on the future 
    36:15 - 41:30 | Compromise 
    41:30 - 45:55 | Collaboration 
    45:55 - 47:25 | Handling conflict 
    47:25 - 52:10 | Having the hard convos 
    52:10 - 58:20 | Recommendations for dealing with self doubt 
    58:20 - 1:00:25 | What makes relationships last 
    1:00:25 - 1:02:27 | Outro 





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  • Jamie Ruiz is back for more. If you don’t already know, Jamie is my Lifey….For Lifey. This week we talking about spirituality and co-creation and how we each became expert manifestos and magical AF. It was a weird, wonky road but WE HERE NOW!

    Tune in! 



    In this episode…

    The evolution of spiritual experiences 

    No religion or belief judgment 

    Co-creation of life 

    Demanding control 

    Freedom 

    A power greater than yourself 

    Traditional & non-traditional beliefs 

    Different connections 




    Quotes

    “There's no shade of what you believe in. You believe in what you want to believe in.” - Nikki Spo 

    “What Gd was to me before is what the universe is to me now.” - Jamie Ruiz 

    “The universe is not something outside of me. It is me, it’s within me, and it is without me.” - Jamie Ruiz 

    “I think that the miracles and catastrophes that we experience here are hellish and heavenly.” - Nikki Spo

    “I believe that we’re all communicating and connecting to the same Gd, we just have different language, different ways of connecting, different relationship dynamics to it, and different organizations to do that through and if we could stop judging each other for whose is right and whose is wrong, we would be living in more of a heaven than a hell.” - Jamie Ruiz



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 1:20 | Intro 
    1:20 - 20:30 | The evolution of Jamie’s spiritual experiences 
    20:30 - 32:05 | The evolution of Nikki’s spiritual experiences 
    32:05 - 34:00 | Hellish & heavenly 
    34:00 - 35:00 | Studying religion 
    35:00 - 36:35 | No right or wrong beliefs 
    36:35 - 37:43 | Outro 





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    Welcome back to The Know! This week we have Lauren Brill joining us for a powerful conversation. Lauren has fearlessly told her story of sexual assault and has dedicated her career to creating a space through writing and poetry to amplify healing journeys through relationships, trauma, discrimination, addiction, mental health, illness, and grief with the goal of inspiring thousands of individuals to discover their superpowers so that they can live fulfilling lives. 




    In this episode…

    Sexual assault 

    Haters

    Facing the bullies

    Becky Hammond outworking folks at NBA summer league

    The power of storytelling

    Mind & body connections 

    The power of hope

    Secrecy 




    Quotes

    “Part of what I try to do with people is make sure that through storytelling we see the humanity in everyone.” - Lauren Brill 

    “Once I started talking about my traumas being okay with my position, is when the awakening really, really happened for me.” - Nikki Spo

    “Once I got through the anger, then I was able to be like, oh, I'm the toughest bitch I know.” - Nikki Spo 

    “Your body remembers what your mind forgets. And if you don't heal the mind, you'll feel it in your body.” - Lauren Brill 



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 4:45 | Intro 
    4:45 - 10:25 | Connections (NBA) 
    10:25 - 15:30 | Standing up for yourself 
    15:30 - 19:00 | The Unsealed 
    19:00 - 25:36 | Pushing through the hardships 
    25:36 - 28:30 | Shared community 
    28:30 - 34:50 | Secrecy & hope 
    34:50 - 40:30 | Lauren’s writing story 
    40:30 - 43:00 | Speaking up 
    43:00 - 44:55 | It’s all worth it 
    44:55 - 46:21 | Outro 





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    Welcome back to PART 2 with the STUD of all studs, Jackson Hightower. Enjoy! 



    In this episode…

    Being a team 

    Healthy sex life 

    Discipline 

    Foreplay 

    A CLEAN space to be DIRTY 

    Respect 

    Divine masculinity & femininity 

    Does size matter?! 




    Quotes

    “A lot of us do attach our self worth to what we are able to produce and what we do for a living and the outcome.” - Nikki Spo

    “If you’re not a disciplined human, I just don’t think that you’re  exercising your full potential.” - Jackson Hightower

    “We're here as humans so that the universe can express itself through us and whatever skills we have.”  - Jackson Hightower



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 4:25 | Intro 
    4:25 - 8:10 | Healthy relationship sex life 
    8:10 - 12:20 | Discipline for men 
    12:20 - 17:15 | Foreplay 
    17:15 - 21:15 | The sacredness of intimacy 
    21:15 - 25:40 | Respect 
    25:40 - 28:20 | Men need to be leaders 
    28:20 - 29:15 | Does size matter?! 
    29:15 - 31:40 | Smaller and harder? Or bigger and not as hard?
    31:40 - 33:00 | STD test 
    33:00 - 34:05 | D**k pics?! 
    34:05 - 37:00 | Communication 
    37:00 - 38:25 | Outro 





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    It’s getting hot in here. Are your hips all stretched out? Are you ready? Bc this week we have Jackson Hightower joining us… and girly pops, you need to hear thisssss.

    Jackson Hightower is a pioneer in redefining masculinity. He advocates for a holistic and fulfilling approach to male sexuality. This is a two part series so in Part 1 we are chatting about being a content creator in our respective spaces and then we go real… um… deep when it comes to porn’s impact on men and relationships.

    Send this to your boo. BOO.



    In this episode… 

    Expectations for public personalities

    Haters & negativity 

    Parasocial reality 

    Semen retention and… WHYYYYY TF would anyone do that

    Porn’s impact on men and their intimate performance

    Addiction to watching porn




    ļ»æQuotes

    “If you are continuously releasing multiple times a day you are getting rid of your life force energetically, it's your power.” - Jackson Hightower 

    “Guys are addicted to porn. It's an addiction and it's nasty because you can’t see it.” - Jackson Hightower 

    “The most difficult part for people who have an addiction problem is delaying the gratification and then continuing to delay the gratification and stay in the moment.” - Nikki Spo 

    “When it comes to addiction you lose your power, and your life force, and creative drive, and your edge.” - Jackson Hightower 



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 4:30 | Intro 
    4:30 - 8:05 | Expectations 
    8:05 - 10:45 | Social media haters 
    10:45 - 13:30 | How Nikki & Jackson met 
    13:30 - 14:45 | Parasocial reality 
    14:45 - 20:51 | Jackson's buildup 
    20:51 - 23:20 | Energy release & preservation 
    23:30 - 29:35 | Freedom from porn 
    29:35 - 34:30 | How to bring up the porn addiction to your partner 
    34:30 - 39:00 | Swallowing your pride 
    39:00 - 40:37 | Outro 




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    I am so excited to host the goddess herself Jayne Gottlieb. She is Aspen Shakti's owner
    and founder and the creator of Shakti Method. She and I are talking about SHAKTI
    ENERGY: what it means, the fact that you have it and how you can harness it, live it,
    love it, and let it guide you home to your inner goddess so that you can walk in the
    physical world with that gorgeous, potent, powerful, feminine, female presence.

    In this episode...
    ā— Shakti energy
    ā— Anxiety & Fear
    ā— Courage
    ā— Next right step
    ā— The illusion of self
    ā— Sharing your gift
    ā— Rebalancing

    Quotes
    “I've come to define shakti as the divine creative energy of the universe. Shakti is alive,
    luminous and desirable. It’s that inner magnetism, that inner sparkle, that inner thing
    that we can't quite touch, but we can see it and smell it and hear it in the way that
    people speak.” - Jayne Gottlieb
    “I think a lot of us long to feel at home within any space. Not from an egotistical
    standpoint where we want other people to notice it in us, but for us to realize it within
    ourselves.” - Nikki Spo
    “Shakti is walking the talk of what is the truth of your soul.” - Jayne Gottlieb

    Timestamps:
    0:00 - 3:40 | Intro
    3:40 - 8:45 | What is shakti energy?
    8:45 - 13:05 | Times without shakti energy
    13:05 - 16:00 | Open and honest conversations
    16:00 - 17:25 | God is a woman
    17:25 - 19:40 | Shifting responses
    19:40 - 21:30 | Marianne Williamson
    21:30 - 24:55 | Why is shakti so dormant
    24:55 - 26:30 | Sharing your gift
    26:30 - 29:30 | Rebalancing
    29:30 - 31:00 | The responsibility to be yourself
    31:00 - 34:20 | Life force energy
    34:20 - 41:05 | Aspen shakti
    41:05 - 44:42 | Outro

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    This week I am spearheading a LOADED conversation with Lauren LaRusso About ROMANTIC AFFAIRS šŸ˜

    We are here to talk about all the things that no one wants to talk about… and we are going to answer the questions that have probably crossed your mind when it comes to ROMANTIC AFFAIRS.

    Lauren is a psychotherapist specializing in marital affairs. She has helped countless individuals and couples process the unexpected and inalterable impact of infidelity on their lives. Let’s jump right in!



    In this episode… 

    Inflection points 

    Seeing the signs

    The TRUTH behind infidelity 

    Shame, silence, & secrecy 

    Non monogamy 

    Entitlement, vulnerability, boundaries 




    Quotes

    “As betrayed spouses, we become complicit sometimes because we adjust our expectations based on the slow creep of changes in our partner.” - Lauren LaRusso

    “As humans, we always want what we can’t have.”  - Lauren LaRusso

    “You have to be hyper vigilant for yourself. You need to be connected and in tune to yourself enough to be looking outside and sending the signals of unavailability of loyalty to your primary relationship.”  - Lauren LaRusso

    “I would recommend handling your shit as soon as you possibly can.” - Lauren LaRusso

    “I think that the affair itself removes the power of choice for the person who doesn’t know about it.” - Nikki Spo



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 -  6:00 | Intro 
    6:00 - 9:40 | Does everyone have a role in affairs? 
    9:40  - 11:15 | Inflection points 
    11:15  - 15:00 | Laurens background 
    15:00 - 18:20 | Shame, silence, & secrecy 
    18:20 - 19:40 | Ethical or consensual non monogamy 
    19:40 - 22:15 | Secrecy can be enticing 
    22:15 - 27:30 | The main reasons affairs occur 
    27:30 -  32:55 | The betrayed spouse 
    32:55 - 36:00 | Can marriages be saved after affairs?
    36:00 - 38:00 | How do we get to being happy? 
    38:00 - 41:05 | Making a choice for YOURSELF 
    41:05 -  43:50 | Forgiveness & unavailability 
    43:50 - 46:45 | Being strung along 
    46:45 - 49:25 | The power of choice 
    49:25 - 51:35 | Honesty & integrity 
    51:35 - 54:30 | People who stay in their marriages 
    54:30 - 57:11 | Outro 




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    Jamie Lee Ruiz is BACK, baby, and this time we are talking about… AGE DIFFERENCES IN RELATIONSHIPS LFG šŸ‘€ 



    In this episode…

    The ”50 shades of grey” guys 

    Open communication 

    Safety 

    Inappropriate age gaps and what makes them inappropriate…

    When age gaps are good

    Settling into adulthood

    The magic of being young, wild, and free 

    Losing your light and reclaiming it. 




    Quotes

    “Women have to get a lot more comfortable in their own skin to understand what they want, what they like, and what they expect.” - Nikki Spo

    “Men don’t know what they don’t know. They don’t know what you like or what you want if you don’t say it.” - Jamie Lee Ruiz 

    “I had to grow up very quickly and because of that I’ve learned that children should never be placed in adult roles. Parents sometimes emotionally dump on their children when it's not a child's responsibility to hold the emotional or physical capacity or weight of an adult.” - Nikki Spo

    “There are men that have healing to do and either don’t know that they have to do it, or don’t want to do it and so it’s easier to get a young woman who is easily manipulated or molded that isn’t going to challenge them to grow.” - Jamie Lee Ruiz  





    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 3:05 | Intro 
    3:05 - 7:30 | The 50 shades of grey guys 
    7:30 - 9:00 | Open communication 
    9:00 - 10:30 | Age differences 
    10:30 - 12:35 | A sense of maturity 
    12:35 - 13:55 | Emotional and physical parenting as a child 
    13:55 - 21:43 | What age is the age gap okay?
    21:43 - 24:35 | Jamie’s POV on age differences 
    24:35 - 26:45 | Dating older men 
    26:45 - 30:30 | Young women 
    30:30 - 34:05 | Losing your light 
    34:05 - 36:10 | Do we still love older men? 
    36:10 - 39:35 | What does dating look like with kids? 
    39:35 - | Outro 







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  • What is up my friends and welcome back to The Know! Today we have Marni Battista who is the founder of Dating with Dignity and the Institute for Living Courageously. Marni is one of those women who is walking the talk, she's just doin it all! We have so much to cover today but some of the heavy hitting topics you can expect from this episode is dating after divorce in today's complex social environment, were talking about why women date unavailable men, and how we can move away from suffering through unfulfilling relationships and into relationships that are fulfilling, love centered, want based, happy, and safe. With that, let's get started!  

    I also have some exciting news to share…I know first hand the power of community and shared experience and I am so honored to announce that I have created an online women's community where we talk about all of life's topics. In my group Becoming HER, we are striving to become the best versions of ourselves and realize that SHE is ME and that we can become the her of our highest desires. I have a special promotion for my podcast audience and I want to welcome you all to becoming her where we will do great things together! 




    In this episode…

    Self worth 

    Shame & embarrassment 

    Dating with DIGNITY 

    Dating from a place of insecurity  

    True self love 

    Your soul's journey 

    Core values & Non-negotiables 

    NOT being a pick me 




    Quotes

    “Dating with dignity is waking up the next day feeling great about yourself. It's about not taking rejection personally, it's about having an abundant life, it's about setting boundaries and acting on the behalf of your highest self and knowing your value.” - Marni Battista 

    “In this new dating scene post divorce I have had to rediscover who I am as a single woman and what I want in a new relationship moving forward.” - Nikki Spo

    “If you have dignity, self worth, and self respect and you have the actual tools to communicate appropriately, dating is actually kind of fun.” - Marni Battista 

    “At this point in my life, men now are competing with my peace. I love myself so much and so if somebody else loves me, that's just icing on the cake” - Nikki Spo 

    “You’re creating your soul's journey for a reason, wake up and listen. - Marni Battista 

    “People tend to rule out before they rule in and my invitation is to rule in before you rule out. Let a guy rule himself out.” - Marni Battista 




    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 3:55 | Intro 
    3:55 - 5:35 | What is Dating with Dignity 
    5:35 - 10:05 | What damages our dignity 
    10:05 - 15:15 | Finding your self worth 
    15:15 - 19:25 | Learning the lessons 
    19:25 - 21:17 | Deep reflection  
    21:17 - 27:05 | Core values & Non-negotiables 
    27:05 - 30:40 | The checklist 
    30:40 - 33:45 | Re-entering the dating world 
    33:45 - 37:00 | NOT being a pick me 
    37:00 - 42:50 | Living courageously 
    42:50 - 45:00 | Outro







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  • Welcome back to part 2 with Dr. Kat Vigo. Today we are talking about the thing no one really talks about: sex after you have a baby… Tune in to find out more! 



    In this episode… 

    Sex life after a baby 

    Societal pressures 

    Perception vs. reality 

    Progesterone & estrogen 

    FOREPLAYYYYYYY FTW 

    A healthy vagina :)

    Health concerns 




    Quotes

    “Returning to intimacy after having a baby does not necessitate penetration and everyone thinks that.” - Dr. Kat Vigo 

    “There are plenty of reasons why a postpartum vagina is not set up for success sexually.” - Dr. Kat Vigo 

    “Our brains are largely rewired during and after pregnancy and it’s 100% focused on keeping that new baby alive.” - Dr. Kat Vigo

    “We as women should be having the best sex of our lives throughout our lives.” - Nikki Spo

    “The more we talk about these things the more people are able to ultimately come home to themselves, to feel happy and secure in their bodies and minds, and so that they can go and thrive and be the best versions of themselves.” 




    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 1:25 - | Intro 
    1:25 - 2:50 | Sex after having a baby 
    2:50 - 4:35 | Societal / male pressure 
    4:35 - 5:40 | Postpartum changes 
    5:40 - 9:45 | Progesterone & estrogen 
    9:45 - 13:20 | A healthy vagina for intercourse 
    13:20 - 16:46 | Rest & digest postpartum 
    16:46 - 21:55 | Do vaginas go back to normal?
    21:55 - 24:20 | Making sense out of a postpartum vagina 
    24:20 - 28:15 | Health concerns 
    28:15 - 29:20 | Hope & healing 
    29:20 - 31:50 | What holds women back from having these hard convos 
    31:50 - 34:13 | Outro 






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  • Welcome back fam to PART 2 of Divorce & Co-parenting with Michelle Dempsey-Multack. If you have not checked out part 1 it is sooo good. Anybody who is going through a divorce or separation or if you know somebody who is, I highly recommend you checking out part 1. Today we are getting started with part 2 so let's do this!



    In this episode…

    Rediscovering what you like and who you are

    Becoming a better parent 

    Guilt vs. shame 

    Social media hate 

    Creating your own identity 

    Finding your co-parenting groove 

    Introducing new partners to your children 





    Quotes

    “You gotta make sure you’re with somebody you want and not somebody you need.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack

    “Co-parenting is underrated, it's made me a better parent.” - Nikki Spo

    “You really have to understand the difference between guilt and shame. Are you guilty of doing something bad or do you feel ashamed because somewhere along the line you believed you weren’t allowed to have your own identity as a mother or a person.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack

    “Social media has become so black and white but when it comes to divorce you have to live in the gray. Get comfortable in the gray as a co-parent because that's your life” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack

    “What good co-parenting is is supporting your child's relationship with the other parent, staying in your lane and letting them be the parent they need to be, and following your parenting plan. It doesn’t need to be more difficult than that.” - Michelle Dempsey-Multack




    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 1:25 | Intro 
    1:25 - 6:05 | Staying empowered 
    6:05 - 11:40 | Co-parenting is UNDERRATED 
    11:40 - 21:05 | Addressing social media hate 
    21:05 - 25:55 | Finding your co-parenting groove 
    25:55 - 30:15 | The importance of introducing new partners to your children 
    30:15 - 32:33 | Outro 







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    Connect with Michelle 
    https://momsmovingon.com/about/ 
    @themichelledempsey  





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  • Fam fam. This week we are joined by Michelle Dempsey-Multack who has helped me come to my own sense of deep inner knowing as a divorced woman and co-parenting mother. 

    Michelle is a certified divorce and co-parenting specialist, a best selling author of “Moms Moving On,” and is an educator for divorce coaches. She is known for her ability to inspire and empower moms through their divorce and co-parenting journeys.

    This is a two part series you don’t want to miss out on. 



    In this episode…

    Not repeating patterns 

    Explaining co-parenting to children

    Moms moving on 

    Putting the children first

    Seeing past the pain 

    Modifying vs. enabling 




    Quotes 

    “We paint people to be the villains and we want to be the victim ourselves because it’s so much easier.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack 

    “My mission is to keep the child at the center and not put them in the middle.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack

    “The parenting plan is not for the parents and that’s what everyone forgets.” - Michelle Dempsey Multack

    “To see parents who might not have been as involved during the marriage show the f*** up and rally in parenthood is truly amazing.” - Nikki Spo 


    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 5:30 | Intro 
    5:30 - 9:30 | Michelle’s divorce journey 
    9:30 - 11:10 | Separating 
    11:10 - 14:44 | Explaining co-parenting to children 
    14:44 - 16:35 | Moms moving on 
    16:35 - 19:40 | Keeping your child in the center and not the middle 
    19:40 - 21:05 | Helping people see past the pain 
    21:05 - 24:20 | Modifying expectations 
    24:20 - 28:25 | Mom & dad 
    28:25 - 29:34 | Outro 








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    Connect with Michelle 
    https://momsmovingon.com/about/ 
    themichelledempsey  




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  • What’s up fam! I am sooo excited to share some news with you guys. I am going to be hosting a mastermind with my good friend Jamie Ruiz this Friday, August 2nd at 12pm EST. Jamie is a manifestation and life coach and is now helping thousands of women achieve their life goals and dreams.
    https://www.alchemic-acquisition.com/nikkispo881844
    Now for today's episode of The Know, we have Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri and I diving deep into narcissism and its effects within a family dynamic. Tune in to find out more!



    In this episode…  

    Family roles 

    The Golden Child 

    Narcissism legacies 

    The Scapegoat Child 

    IFS & EMDR 

    The Peacekeeper Child 

    The Personal Assistant Child 

     The Invisible Child 

    The Truth Seer & Truth Teller Children 

    The Adherent Child 




    Quotes

    “You can not have an identity for yourself if you want to be a part of a family that is narcissistic.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “I feel that narcissists would like to believe they are immortal. Cognitively they know they are going to die so they need somebody who can continue their legacy which falls onto a child.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri
     
    “The scapegoat children are most likely to wind up as victims in relationships and are prime to be a partner of a narcissist because of their upbringing.” - Nikki Spo 

    “Let’s not keep revisiting the trauma. Let's really heal from the emotions that the trauma left behind.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri

    “The peacekeeper child becomes a people pleaser and learns to put themselves last and never take care of themselves.” - Nikki Spo

    “We should not be placing adult responsibilities, emotional or physical, on children.” - Nikki Spo 



    Timestamps:
    0:00 - 2:45 | Mastermind
    2:45 - 4:35 | Intro
    4:35 - 9:00 | Family roles
    9:00 - 13:25 | The Golden Child
    13:25 - 20:15 | The Scapegoat Child
    20:15 - 25:30 | Trauma from family origin & IFS
    25:30 - 29:15 | The Peacekeeper Child
    29:15 - 32:10 | The Personal Assistant Child
    32:10 - 35:05 | The Invisible Child
    35:05 - 41:25 | The Truth Seer & Truth Teller Children
    41:25 - 43:00 | The Adherent Child
    43:00 - 46:35 | Moving away from making choices out of habit
    46:35 - 49:07 | Outro




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    @bruxanicare 




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  • What is up fam! Today I am welcoming back Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri who we have heard from a few times now on the topic of narcissism. This is part three of a multi-part series in which Dr. Rachna and I are discussing the topic of narcissism. I am really honored to be able to chat with an expert like her and today we are going to be answering some of the spicy Q & A’s that have been sent in after our first two initial episodes. Let’s jump right in!  



    In this episode… 

    Rigid personality traits 

    Vulnerable narcissism 

    Insecurity, shame, rage  

    Narcissism with a friend 

    Narcissistic boss 

    Setting boundaries for YOURSELF 

    Victimizing

    Co-parenting with a narcissist 

    Building a sense of self 




    Quotes 

    “Not everybody who’s divorcing a narcissist knows that the person is narcissistic.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “A lot of narcissistic characteristics are reinforced by society.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “Narcissism inherently comes from insecurity, insecurity brings shame, and shame takes a form of rage.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “There is no way to have a healthy relationship with a narcissist.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “I think it takes a lot of self-reflection to ask yourself what you are really longing for in friendships and in general. Ask yourself what gives your life meaning, what gives your life purpose, and what makes you feel happy and fulfilled out of your interpersonal relationships.” - Nikki Spo  

    “The boundaries you set are really for yourself and not for them.” - Nikki Spo 

    “You have to not exist to be a part of these narcissistic relationships.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 3:00 | Intro 
    3:00 - 4:50 | How do narcissists react to divorce? 
    4:50 - 7:30 | Therapy with a narcissist 
    7:30 - 10:15 | How to treat someone with narcissistic personality traits 
    10:15 - 12:20 | Self confidence 
    12:20 - 15:45 | Insecurity, shame, rage 
    15:45 - 18:30 | Experiencing narcissism with a friend 
    18:30 - 21:30 | Setting boundaries for YOURSELF 
    21:30 - 26:55 | A narcissistic boss
    26:55 - 28:10 | The word “charming”
    28:10 - 32:15 | Victimizing 
    32:15 - 35:30 | How do you deal with narcissists who body shame you 
    35:30 - 40:15 | What is it like to co-parent with a narcissist 
    40:15 - 47:45 | How to get a narcissist to apologize 
    47:45 - 49:28 | Outro 





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    Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 
    https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/ 
    @bruxanicare 




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    www.nikkispo.com  
    @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo 


     
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  • Welcome backkkk ladies and gents- I am so excited to host somebody who I have worked with for a long time and who has become one of my close friends over these past few years, Dr. Kat Vigo.

    Dr. Kat is the founder of Painless Pregnancy, which provides physical therapy to women throughout every stage of their motherhood journeys. Dr. Kat earned a bachelors and doctorate of physical therapy degrees from the University of Florida and has worked in the hospital setting for the first decade of her career. Get ready because we are going to talk about it ALL! 



    In this episode…

    Having a painless pregnancy 

    Changing the pregnancy narrative 

    Pitocin and inducing labor

    Postpartum mental health 

    Pregnancy awareness 

    Healing our female bodies 

    Giving moms hope 




    Quotes

    “For a pregnant body, we should have the same expectations that a man does. You can be fit and healthy and do what you wanna do while being pregnant.” - Dr. Kat Vigo

    “A female body is made to grow a baby.” - Dr. Kat Vigo

    “If you’re experiencing postpartum anxiety or depression you are in this dark cloud that you don’t even know you’re in.” - Nikki Spo 

    “When it comes to a first time post pregnancy experience, you don’t know what you don’t know until you figure it out or until somebody tells you, and that's no one's fault.” - Nikki Spo 

    “I think that when women and men and parents in general are more informed they can make better decisions about their future and their birth plans.” - Nikki Spo



    Timestamps:
    0:00 - 3:15 | Intro 
    3:15 - 7:40 | Can pregnancy really be painless? 
    7:40 - 10:40 | Alleviating discomforts 
    10:40 - 17:25 | Pitocin
    17:25 - 22:20 | Kat’s birthing experience 
    22:20 - 25:35 | Postpartum 
    23:35 - 31:45 | How to heal our female bodies 
    31:45 - 35:25 | Disassociating from your vagina postpartum 
    35:25 - 43:45 | A correct way to push for vaginal deliveries 
    43:45 - 45:20 | Involving the baby daddies 
    45:20 - 51:55 | When to start physical therapy after delivering a baby 
    51:55 - 53:22 | Outro 







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    Connect with Dr. Kat Vigo 
    https://painlesspregnancy.com/ 
    @painlesspregnancy  




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    @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo 
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  • Welcome back! I’ve been thinking a lot about social media, its impact on my life, its potential future impact on my kids' lives, and how to navigate life in a more intentional and less distracted way. So today I'm really excited for my chat with Palak Dave who is a versatile entrepreneur, speaker, and the author of "Beautiful Every Days," a guidebook to living in the here and now. I'm excited to join Palak today to discuss her transformative journey where each day offers the chance to live beautifully here in the now. 



    In this episode…

    Digital distractions 

    Face to face interactions 

    Human connections 

    Passive connection 

    Community & Connection 

    The nitty gritty 

    Hustle culture  




    Quotes 

    “My goal is to get people to see that we don't have to completely remove the digital parts of our lives, we have to lean into things so that we can fill our cups with more of what we love and what we know we need, but we might not be doing for ourselves.” - Palak Dave 

    “Chances are if you're going through something there are other people going through the same thing and it's just a matter of acknowledging it and raising those topics so that people feel like they can be connected.” - Palak Dave 

    “Ask deep questions from a place of curiosity instead of having an outcome that you're trying to get to.” - Palak Dave 

    “I think that curiosity is a solution to a lot of things, even arguments. Asking for clarification for things can solve so much.” - Nikki Spo

    “You can reclaim your time and have it be so it's not controlling you.” - Nikki Spo

    “You can be really intentional without it having to be the f***ing Pinterest board.” - Nikki Spo

    “I think a lot of us don't know what our deep inner knowing is. Like we have it, but we can't identify it. But for me it's been like a constant pull trying to pull me back home to myself.” - Nikki Spo




    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 2:20 | Intro 
    2:20 - 4:45 | Managing digital distractions 
    4:45 - 7:15 | Embiria 
    7:15 - 9:45 | Taking steps to be more social 
    9:45 - 14:35 | Passive connection 
    14:35 - 15:50 | European lifestyle 
    15:50 - 20:44 | Loneliness 
    20:44 - 22:50 | The nitty gritty 
    22:50 - 24:40 | Curiosity
    24:40 - 32:35 | Hustle culture  
    32:35 - 36:25 | Strategies to stay unplugged 
    36:25 - 40:15 | The pinterest board stigma 
    40:15 - 43:30 | Nest, nourish, nature, nurture 
    43:30 - 44:51 | Outro 





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    https://www.embiria.ca/ 
    @embiria / beautiful everydays  



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  • We are backkkkk my friends with Part 2 of Bagā€¦ SECURED featuring my bestie Jamie Ruiz. Tune in to hear the rest!In this episodeā€¦Modern dating Age differences in romantic relationships Secret relationships Being a girls girl The Miami Heat Dating after divorce Dating with kids Finding peace Ignoring the haters Quotesā€œWomen should be dating and getting to know multiple people. Dating doesnā€™t mean sleeping with people or hooking up with everybody. When I say Iā€™m dating, Iā€™m getting to know multiple people and I think that it;s really important to clarify that dating doesnā€™t mean sleeping with.ā€ - Nikki Spoā€œItā€™s not the trauma that the relationship brought you, it's the trauma that led you to that relationship.ā€ - Jamie Ruiz ā€œFeeling not good enough while growing up transferred into all my romantic relationships for a while.ā€ - Nikki Spo ā€œI have this theory that if you can take my man, have him. If my man is snatchable, take him. I donā€™t want that.ā€ - Nikki Spoā€œDating since divorce has revealed to me that I still have a huge capacity for love. It did not ruin me.ā€ - Nikki Spo ā€œThere's something so cool about learning yourself and experiencing yourself through new people post divorce.ā€ - Jamie Ruizā€œIā€™m living by this new quote now and it's that ā€˜Iā€™m easy to please but hard to impress.ā€™ā€ - Nikki Spoā€œI believe we can have it all when it comes to how we feel.ā€ - Jamie Ruiz Timestamps: 0:00 - 7:40 | Are you dating?! 7:40 - 11:20 | Age differences in romantic relationships 11:20 - 12:20 | Secret relationships 12:20 - 13:45 | Girls girl 13:45 - 19:35 | The Miami Heat 19:35 - 23:25 | Being in love since the divorce 23:25 - 27:05 | Dating with 3 kids 27:05 - 28:55 | More kids?!28:55 - 35:10 | Going through a traumatic time period to heal35:10 - 37:35 | Money 37:35 - 40:00 | Finding the good men 40:00 - 43:55 | What does Nikki want the people to know about her43:55 - 50:05 | Jamieā€™s tarot reading 50:05 - 51:12 | Outro ā€“SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.Connect with Jamie https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/ jameslee4 Connect with Nikki www.nikkispo.com @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo Support this podcast at ā€” https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacyLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

  • Okay so. This week is a little different. My girl, Jamie Ruiz is here interviewing ME to get all the TEA… Jamie and I have been besties for forever and she has been a guest on The Know a few times now. She is a life coach and is helping hundreds of women achieve their goals and dreams and live the life that they have always wanted to live. But yeah. Um… she’s going in on me this week and she’s not holding back. 



    In this episode…

    “Fumbling the bag”

    I ain’t sayin she’s a gold digger. 

    Social media haters 

    The struggle bus of money 

    Life experiences 




    Quotes 

    “I don't think I fumbled any bags because my bag is peace, and when peace is involved I don’t think you’re fumbling any bags.” - Nikki Spo 


    “I’m interested in coming home to myself and I think a lot of people want that but they don’t know that they want it.” - Nikki Spo 

    “Life can be good on the other side of a sad experience.” - Nikki Spo 

    “Sometimes you start relationships as one version of yourself and either one person changes or both people change and you’re no longer an energetic match for each other. And that’s okay.” - Jamie Ruiz

    “Things last however long they need to last and we grow into the versions of ourselves that we need to be and we make our exits where we need to make our exits.” - Jamie Ruiz 



    Timestamps:
    0:00 - 3:20 | Intro 
    3:20 - 5:20 | Why Jamie is interviewing Nikki 
    5:20 - 12:10 | Answering the haters 
    12:10 - 22:29 | The struggle bus of money 
    22:29 - 26:40 | The Know 
    26:40 - 28:45 | Podcast content changing post divorce 
    28:45 - 34:35 | Dating 
    34:35 - 41:20 | Finding an outlet  
    41:20 - 42:36 | Outro 



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    Connect with Jamie 
    https://www.jamieleeruiz.com/ 
    jameslee4 



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    @nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo 
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  • Welcome to The Know! We are on that continuous healing journey vibe so today I am excited to introduce you to Cari Fund who is a passionate advocate for women's empowerment and emotional healing. With a mission to inspire women to turn their pain into potential, Cari encourages them to be the women they were born to be and the parents that they never had. Tune in!



    In this episode…

    Leading by example 

    Learning from trauma 

    Healthy mom vs. toxic mom 

    Being your true self 

    Generational trauma 

    Ongoing healing journey 

    Toxic upbringing 




    Quotes

    “Pain keeps you silent and shame keeps you so silent .” - Cari Fund 

    “It's all about the tiny little shifts. Get a therapist, talk to your friends, don't carry shame, secrets, disappointment, and pain with you because it's going to come out in everything in your life and it's going to take away your joy.” - Cari Fund

    “If you're a mom and you have kids, your past is going to parent your children if you let it.” - Cari Fund 

    “It's really interesting and fascinating to see who sticks around when you start to speak your truth, because some people really don't like it.” - Nikki Spo 

    “I think about anxiety a lot because I wonder if I’m anxious or am I just operating from a place of fear in my upbringing? Like, am I anxious or is my environment genuinely stimulating this anxiety?” - Nikki Spo 

    “It feels good to feel good so do what makes you feel good.” - Cari Fund 



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 1:20 | Intro 
    1:20 - 6:10 | Facing challenges 
    6:10 - 7:50 | Cari’s accomplishments 
    7:50 - 10:50 | Toxic mom vs. healthy mom 
    10:50 - 14:25 | Not hiding behind a character 
    14:25 - 18:40 | Finding people and things that support you 
    18:40 - 22:13 | Leading by example 
    22:13 - 29:30 | Recovering 
    29:30 - 34:40 | Balancing motherhood while healing 
    34:40 - 40:05 | Sharing family and relationships on social media 
    40:05 - 41:47 | Outro 




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    https://www.cari.fund/ 
    @cari.fund  



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  • What’s up fam! Today we are welcoming back Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri for another conversation about narcissism and how to navigate it. This is part two of a multi-part series that we are doing and I'm really honored to have this opportunity to chat with her again. In our previous episode together, we talked about some of the different types of narcissism and narcissism in general and today we are focusing on the effects of being in a relationship with a narcissistic person. Tune in!



    In this episode… 

    Spectrum of personality traits 

    Relationship patterns of narcissism 

    Love bombing 

    The 3 C’s

    Red flags 

    Trauma bonding

    DIMMER - what it means and what to look for

    Gaslighting 




    Quotes:

    “Narcissists come across as being really curious about you, but really what they're doing is they're collecting as much information so that they can use it against you.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “Trauma bonded is trauma occurring within the relationship and that is the bond between the two.” - Nikki Spo 

    “Gaslighting mostly occurs by a person who you trust.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “Lying is a denial of reality and gaslighting goes on to dismantle the target.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “I've learned over the years that I can't control how other people treat me or what they do to me or what they say to me or how they try to make me feel. I can only control my reaction to things and how I respond to those situations.” - Nikki Spo 

    “You can't gaslight me because I know myself. I know who I am. But when you are in a space of not knowing who you are and slowly your self-worth is being chipped away at and that breaks down over and now you feel like your self-worth is completely diminished, that person is easy to gaslight.” - Nikki Spo 

    “Gaslighting is the pathologically insecure person who's preying on the conventionally insecure person.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 

    “Let's not blame the victim. Let's give them the support that they need. Let's give them the understanding.” - Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 



    Timestamps: 
    0:00 - 2:10 | Intro 
    2:10 - 5:20 | Relationship patterns of narcissism 
    5:20 - 8:25 | Breakdown of narcissistic relationships: Love bombing  
    8:25 - 11:55 | Identifying the red flags 
    11:55 - 14:05 | Trauma bonded 
    14:05 - 15:55 | The devaluing phase 
    15:55 - 22:40 | Manipulation 
    22:40 - 34:05 | Gaslighting
    34:05 - 39:45 | The D and R of DIMMER 
    39:45 - 42:40 | Hoovering 
    42:40 - 46:05 | Having a narcissistic partner 
    46:05 - 48:55 | Cognitive fallouts 
    48:55 - 51:15 | Emotional or interpersonal fallouts 
    51:15 - 52:10 | Fallout of identity 
    52:10 - 53:25 | Physical and behavioral fallout 
    53:25 - 55:50 | Giving support 
    55:50 - 57:44 | Outro 










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    Connect with Dr. Rachna Buxani-Mirpuri 
    https://buxanicare.com/rachna-buxani-mirpuri/ 
    @bruxanicare 




    Connect with Nikki 
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