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Are you feeling a distance between you and your partner after welcoming your little one? You're not alone. In this week’s episode, we delve into the real struggles of rebuilding intimacy after baby. Parenthood brings immense joy, but it also introduces unexpected relationship changes that can leave you feeling disconnected.
Join me as we uncover the journey from exhaustion to connection. We explore why intimacy after children often takes a back seat and how to navigate these parenthood challenges without feeling hurt or misunderstood.
Discover practical steps for restoring closeness and reconnecting with your partner amidst sleepless nights and endless responsibilities. Learn how emotional connection and open communication in relationships can reignite the spark you thought was lost.
✨ In this episode, we explore:
❤️ How to understand and adapt to relationship changes after baby
🤗 Small but powerful ways to rebuild emotional connection
🗣️ The importance of open communication in overcoming intimacy issues
🌟 Steps to restore closeness without adding pressure
💞 Embracing a new normal in your relationship journey
Don't let the joys of parenthood overshadow the love story that started it all. It's time to rekindle the flame and embrace the journey of overcoming intimacy issues together. This episode is not just a new parents guide; it's a warm, yet realistic conversation about love, understanding, and the courage to rebuild.
Your relationship deserves this attention. Let's walk this path together and transform challenges into a deeper emotional connection than ever before.
Tune in and take the first step toward a stronger, more intimate relationship today.
---Full Transcript HERE.---📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: [email protected])🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Are you struggling to balance motherhood and career aspirations? You’re not alone. In this emotionally charged episode, we sit down with childbirth educator and doula, Hannah Gill, to unpack the deep identity shifts moms face. From grappling with mom guilt to redefining success, Hannah’s story speaks to anyone who has felt torn between being present for their children and pursuing their own passions.
Together, we explore:
The unspoken pressures moms face as they try to “do it all.”How unresolved childhood dynamics and birth trauma influence our adult decisions.Why compassionate self-reflection is key to overcoming internal conflicts.Hannah also shares her journey from experiencing a traumatic C-section to transforming that pain into a meaningful career helping other women. Her vulnerability will leave you inspired to navigate your own struggles with grace.
Today, we find out:🌟 Why balancing motherhood and career feels so overwhelming🍼 How birth experiences can shape our identity💔 What happens when we prioritize everyone but ourselves💡 Practical ways to reconnect with your true self
Whether you’re a mother wrestling with mom guilt, a dad seeking to understand your partner better, or someone navigating your own identity shift, this episode offers a wealth of insights.—Hannah Gill
Hannah Gill is a childbirth educator, doula, and passionate advocate for empowering women through informed birth choices. Based in Indiana, she specializes in supporting women pursuing vaginal births after cesareans (VBACs) and helping them reclaim their sense of agency during the birthing process. Through her work, podcast, and educational resources, Hannah inspires women to trust their inner strength and make confident, informed decisions.
Website: https://thehannahgill.comFree First 3 Steps to VBAC Guide: https://thehannahgill.com/firststepsVBAC Guide for Doulas: https://thehannahgill.com/newdoulatipsSelf-study version of my program VBAC Is Your Birth Right: https://thehannahgill.com/courseMotherhood Flow Podcast: https://thehannahgill.com/podcast
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Learn more about motherhood psychology by listening to Episode 1 on Matrescence and fatherhood psychology by listening to Episode 4 on Patrescence
FREE COURSE on MATRESCENCE: https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries---Full Transcript HERE.---📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: [email protected])🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Parenthood changes everything, doesn’t it? Suddenly, life revolves around the baby, and for many dads, it can feel like they’ve been pushed into the background. If you’ve ever felt sidelined, like the affection and attention you once shared with your partner has shifted entirely to the kids, this episode is for you. And moms, while this episode speaks directly to dads, it offers insights that benefit you just as much. Many women start to feel as though their husband is jealous of the baby or the kids but the truth lies elsewhere.By understanding what your partner might be feeling, you’ll discover ways to navigate these challenges together with empathy. Moms often feel overwhelmed and under-supported, and this episode will help you see how to bridge the gap, foster empathy, and reconnect as a team—without adding extra pressure to your already full plate.
👉 Today, we uncover: 💔 Why dads often feel invisible after baby 🌀 The resentment cycle that quietly builds in relationships 🛠 Tools to help dads reconnect with their partner and role ❤️ How small shifts create big changes in your connectionParenthood doesn’t have to mean drifting apart. Whether you’re a dad feeling unappreciated or a mom looking to better understand your partner’s perspective, this episode is packed with practical tips to bring you closer.
—Mentioned Resources1. Couples’ Communication Checklist
2. Reconnect With Her CHALLENGE ALSO, learn more about men's psychology in parenthood [Episode on Patrescence] as well as moms' psychology [Episode 1 on Matrescence]---Full Transcript HERE.---📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: [email protected])🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Resentment can be a silent weight in many relationships, and for parents, it often feels intensified. In this episode, we dive into the roots of resentment in marriage, exploring how parenthood can uncover unresolved emotional wounds that surface when life becomes busier and more demanding. Whether it’s unspoken needs going unmet or feeling like one partner is carrying more of the load, resentment can subtly shift how we view each other and impact our closeness.
Today we find out why resentment builds, especially after having kids, and how it’s often a signal that something important needs attention. 🧠More specifically, we take a look at:
💔 How resentment forms when life feels unbalanced🔍 The surprising role old wounds play in current frustrations❤️ Practical steps to address resentment and reconnect💡 Ways to build a partnership that feels fulfilling and balancedThis conversation isn’t about blame. It’s about creating a more connected, compassionate partnership and breaking free from resentment’s cycle so you both feel supported. I hope you’ll join me!
—Mentioned Resources1. Google: John and Julie Gottman - Relationship experts who research what makes a healthy relationship.2. Couples’ Communication Checklist3. Reconnect With Her CHALLENGE
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Learn more about your psychology in fatherhood [Episode on Patrescence] as well as your partner’s [Episode 1 on Matrescence]---Full Transcript HERE.---📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: [email protected])🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Curious about why your partner is so exhausted despite the help you offer? This episode delves into the unseen layers of mom fatigue and provides compassionate strategies to help you support her better whilst acknowledging the tough situation you, too, are in. We’ll explore the emotional and mental loads that weigh heavily on mothers, and how you, as a partner, can make a meaningful difference in her daily life. This episode is packed with insights to help you bridge the gap in understanding, improve communication, and bring renewed connection to your relationship.
What You’ll Discover:
Why mom fatigue goes beyond physical tiredness and how it impacts your relationshipThe reasons why you may be triggered and hurt by her exhaustionHow societal expectations and “the invisible load” affect her energy levelsPractical tips to offer meaningful support without overwhelming or triggering herWays to reconnect with empathy and strengthen your bond as co-parentsHow understanding her needs can also bring fulfillment to youDiscover small, powerful actions that can make a huge difference in how she feels — and in the strength of your partnership. Listen in for actionable insights and start building a more connected, resilient relationship.---Reconnect With Her CHALLENGE---Episode 1 on Matrescence (Apple player)Episode on Patrescence (Apple player)---Full Transcript HERE.---📩 Get in touch with me (Instagram @markella.kaplani; website; e-mail: [email protected])🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Today's episode is another coaching session, where we discuss how to mentally prepare for motherhood and the arrival of a new family member. Join me as I coach Lexi, a mom-to-be and stepmom of 2, through her journey of embracing a positive mindset and finding balance in a blended family. We discuss essential tips on managing family dynamics, staying flexible, and prioritizing mental health while preparing for a new addition to the family whilst exploring and maintaining how to be a supportive step-parent.
Whether you're about to become a new parent or are already navigating the world of step-parenting, this episode is for you! Lexi’s story will resonate with anyone who is balancing different family needs, managing a busy life, and trying to keep a positive mindset along the way. Get ready to take away real-life strategies for keeping a healthy perspective and creating a family culture filled with love, understanding, and flexibility. 💪🧘♀️👶✨
What You’ll Learn in this Episode:
🌈 How to cultivate a flexible and positive mindset
👨👩👧 Tips for managing blended family dynamics
🤔 Ways to address self-sacrifice and set boundaries
📅 Tips for preparing for motherhood
🧠 Mindfulness practices to reduce anxiety
💬 Open communication and family therapy benefits
💡 Realistic expectations when juggling multiple roles
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Lexi's Bio and LinksLexi Kelley Soderberg was burnt out beyond belief when she chose to leave the classroom. She changed her life by switching from classroom teaching to tutoring full-time and now helps other teachers change their lives too. Lexi is on a mission to improve every child's reading ability and empower every adult in the process of helping them.FREE Reading Tracker to set and achieve your reading goals:
https://poster.pages.teachertransformers.com/free-guide-1-3232Interested in seeing if Teacher Transformers is a good fit for you? Book a free call here (https://link.webbrixx.com/widget/booking/pzTgKr8KyRPr6SYZYT7w)
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Journaling Exercise
To reflect on this and find balance in your own life, here is a journaling prompt:In what areas of my life am I feeling stretched thin? What are three small steps that I could take to seek support, create flexibility, or let go of unrealistic expectations?This reflection is designed to help you see where you can introduce some breathing space and allow for a gentler approach to the challenges you're facing.---
Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: [email protected])> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”
--- Find the full transcript HERE.https://docs.google.com/document/d/11OtZvbKyBPHIUhRK86I7YczpfWJliYaMfAL3A8BtyyE/edit?usp=sharing
—🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Feeling disconnected in your relationship after having kids? You’re not alone.
In this episode, we get real about the communication struggles that many couples face after becoming parents. Parenthood brings new challenges, and it’s common for communication issues to arise, but they don’t have to drive a wedge between you and your partner.
We explore the 3 most common communication mistakes couples make after kids, and most importantly, how to fix them. Discover practical ways to reconnect with your partner, establish healthy communication, and create a more harmonious family dynamic.
Join me to uncover how parenthood shifts the way we communicate and learn simple, effective strategies to rebuild that bond and strengthen your relationship.
Here’s the truth: You and your partner can still have a connected, thriving relationship, even in the chaos of parenthood.
My tools will help you enhance your communication and create a stronger, more connected family unit.
Today We Find Out:
🧠 3 common communication mistakes that couples make after kids🔍 How lack of appreciation creates distance in relationships💡 Practical ways to express your needs clearly👶 How parenthood affects the way we communicate💬 How to use “clear and compassionate requests”🧳 The importance of gratitude and appreciation in maintaining connection🧘 How to manage stress to avoid damaging conversations
This episode will leave you feeling ready to tackle your communication challenges and bring more balance and understanding into your relationship.
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Referenced Links
Couple’s Communication Checklistmarkellakaplani.com/coupleschecklist(Send me a screenshot of your Apple review at [email protected] and get it for FREE)
Couple’s Communication Workshopmarkellakaplani.com/CouplesWorkshopSign up for the waitlist and be the first to know when we go live!
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Journaling Exercise
As your journaling exercise this week, pick one of the strategies discussed in the episode and put it into practice.Write down in your journal whether you'll be using the daily appreciation ritual or the pausing before you snap, or whether you will be doing the weekly check ins. Each small step helps to build a stronger foundation for your relationship.
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Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: [email protected])> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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Find the full transcript HERE.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1Arefwmg49G5qXmJzzrdzR58MHqvt1zcthjgqeVHds8M/edit?usp=sharing
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🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world!📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship Coachwww.markellakaplani.com
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Feeling lost in motherhood / fatherhood? You’re not alone.In this episode, we have a warm but honest conversation regarding the struggle to keep a sense of self while being the best parent we can be. Parenthood changes everything, but it doesn’t have to erase who we are. We’ll explore how to navigate the identity shift that comes with becoming a parent and provide 6 powerful insights on how to reclaim your sense of self.
Join me so that we discuss the underlying reasons for our loss of identity in motherhood and fatherhood and how, even though you might think it only impacts you as an individual, it CAN erode both your marriage as well as your connection with your children. Here’s the truth: you don’t have to choose between being a good parent and being YOU.My 6 actionable strategies will help you reconnect with your identity and bring more balance and joy into your life.
Today We Find Out:
🧠 What it means to lose yourself in parenthood🔍 How to recognize signs of identity loss💡 Practical steps to reclaim your sense of self🧳 Balancing self-care and parenting💬 How to communicate your needs with your partnerThis episode will leave you feeling empowered to rediscover yourself while embracing parenthood fully.
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Referenced Links
Episode 25 - Coaching session with Devan: Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/gr/podcast/the-parenthood-and-relationship-podcast/id1739098480?i=1000671184664 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5uYoucZEpYQpKCfosPTUzx?si=VF4LbtxDQ6SqDz4pahLK9APodbean: markellakaplani.podbean.com/e/25 FREE Self-Connect Calendarmarkellakaplani.com/selfconnectcalendar
Couple’s Communication Checklistmarkellakaplani.com/coupleschecklist
(Send me a screenshot of your Apple review at [email protected] and get it for FREE)
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DOWNLOAD THE FREE MINI VIDEO SERIES ON HOW MOTHERHOOD CHANGES USFind out why and how this happens in key areas of life, including your personality, your relationship, your work, and even your spirituality. Get it here for FREE: https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries---Journaling Exercise
Take some time to reflect on these questions to reconnect with yourself:
How am I feeling right now? Write honestly about your emotions, both positive and negative.What do I need? Identify your personal needs beyond your role as a parent.What is missing in my life? Explore areas of your life you feel disconnected from or that you want to reintroduce.What part of my old self do I miss the most? Reflect on the hobbies, passions, or personality traits you feel have faded since becoming a parent.This exercise can help you start the journey of rediscovering yourself while embracing your role as a parent.
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Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: [email protected])> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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Find the full transcript HERE.https://docs.google.com/document/d/1oRfx-ftekX7ex7T6Blyo1TkMfoUs87jYUz7N3Irkaio/edit?usp=sharing
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🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Have you ever felt unsupported as a mom?
Motherhood is tough, but what makes it even harder is when societal expectations are disguised as support. If you’ve ever asked yourself, "Am I being too sensitive?" or wondered if you’re overreacting to well-meaning advice, you're not alone. In this episode of The Parenthood and Relationship Podcast, we’ll talk about the difference between real support and the subtle pressure that often makes moms feel judged, gaslit, and even burdened by mom guilt.
Where do these expectations come from, and how can we start recognizing when advice is more about the other person’s comfort than actual help? More importantly, how do we stop passing down generational expectations and offer moms the kind of support that truly lightens their load?
🎧 In today’s episode, we explore:
The emotional toll of societal pressure and how it fuels mom guiltHow to offer healing support instead of judgmentWhy many moms feel unsupported, even by those closest to themThe role of past trauma in shaping our expectations of motherhoodHow to recognize when you’re being gaslit versus being too hard on yourselfIf you’ve ever struggled with feeling guilty or unsure whether you're receiving true support, this episode is for you. We’ll discuss the small yet powerful shifts that can help both moms and those who care about them offer support in a way that truly makes a difference.
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DOWNLOAD THE FREE MINI VIDEO SERIES ON HOW MOTHERHOOD CHANGES USGet it here for FREE: https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries---Journaling Exercise
1. If you are a mom who feels gaslit or unsupportedThink about a recent situation where you felt unsupported, judged, or dismissed. Reflect on how the interaction made you feel. Did you second-guess your emotions or decisions? Ask yourself: Were my feelings invalidated, or was I told I was overreacting? How do I usually respond in moments like these, and what impact does it have on my confidence as a mother?
Write down your thoughts and ask yourself:
"What do I need in moments like this to feel truly supported?""Is there a pattern in how I receive feedback or advice from certain people, and how does that impact my sense of self?""What boundaries can I set to protect my emotional well-being?"2. If you fear that you may be passing your own trauma as "support"Reflect on a recent time when you gave advice or support to a mom in your life. Was my advice really what she needed, or did it reflect my own unresolved experiences and fears? Was I trying to validate my own choices by encouraging her to follow my path? How can I better tune into her needs and offer support that honors her journey, not mine?
Write down your thoughts and explore:
"Am I projecting any of my past struggles or unmet needs onto others?""How can I check in with myself before offering advice to ensure it's about helping her, not validating my own decisions?""What would true, compassionate support look like from her perspective?"—-
Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: [email protected])> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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Find the full transcript HERE.
🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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In this heart-opening episode, you’ll witness a live coaching session with Devan, a mother of two young children, who vulnerably shares her struggles around juggling motherhood, work, and personal fulfillment (see her bio below!). As a grief counselor, Devan is no stranger to the emotional landscape of life’s challenges, but in her journey through motherhood, she grapples with feelings of guilt, the pressure to be an “awesome mom,” and the struggle to find balance.
Together, we explore Devan’s conflicting identities: the loving mom she wants to be, showing up in every way possible and the business she strives to keep on scaling. Through insightful coaching, we unpack her inner critic, expectations, and fears that most parents will resonate with deeply.
Will she find the balance she yearns for, or is there more to the concept of "enough"? Join us on this exploration of self-sacrifice, generational expectations, and redefining success as a parent.
In this episode, you’ll gain:
👉 Insight into the emotional struggles of balancing motherhood and career👉 Practical strategies for managing mom guilt👉 Real-life examples of handling burnout as a parent👉 Tools to connect with your children while maintaining your personal identity👉 An honest look at the internal pressures mothers feel to "do it all"
With love, vulnerability, and compassion, this episode is sure to resonate with parents navigating the complexity of modern motherhood.
#MomGuilt #ParentingBalance #WorkingMomStruggles #HealingGenerations #MomBurnout #MotherhoodJourney
DOWNLOAD THE FREE MINI VIDEO SERIES ON HOW MOTHERHOOD CHANGES USFind out why and how this happens in key areas of life, including your personality, your relationship, your work, and even your spirituality. Get it here for FREE: https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries---Journaling Exercise
Take some time to reflect on the emotions that surfaced while listening to this episode.
How do you relate to the experiences of balancing motherhood, career, and personal identity? Consider any guilt, expectations, or pressure you feel. What might help you feel more at peace in these areas of your life?How can you balance your identity as a mother or father with your other roles and passions?—More on Devan and her incredible work:Devan, MCP, RCC, is a Registered Clinical Counsellor, owner of DevanCecilia Counselling, and mom of two toddlers. After experiencing 20 deaths before the age of 20, Devan felt called to sit and support others who needed help and connection. With over a decade of clinical experience in grief and loss, end-of-life, caregiving support, and mental health, Devan believes no stories or thoughts are too scary, too much, too big, or too soon to talk about.
After working with and supporting others in their grief, Devan felt called to help create a better experience for grievers before life-altering losses. She created The Grief Kit, and Gather Before Goodbye, an online guide to collecting as much as possible about your loved ones before they die. A four-step collection method to memorialize and celebrate a loved one’s life in advance of their death.
https://devanceciliacounselling.com/Facebook and Instagram: @devanceciliacounsellingLinkedIn: Devan Christian-Vermeer
Podcast guest links:https://www.griefdreams.ca/podcast/98?rq=devanhttps://www.youtube.com/live/PxVJs4uBcGs?si=WkQzsDGlwBv3jTpF
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Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: [email protected])> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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Find the full transcript HERE.
🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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In today’s episode, we dive deep into the fascinating topic of the 'othering' of mothers, exploring how motherhood often creates a distinct separation from womanhood and even fatherhood.
Inspired by a conversation I recently had with Jennifer Peterkin on her podcast The Human Experience, I question why society separates moms from other women and why similar spaces for dads are rare.Join us as we explore: 🌸 The difference between motherhood and womanhood and how becoming a mom often alters your social identity. 🤔 Why fathers aren't grouped or supported in the same way, and what that says about gender roles. 💡 How loneliness in motherhood may be a result of creating “special” mom groups. 🧠 The emotional impact of being defined by your role as a mom, and the grief many mothers feel for their previous selves. 🎙️ Allyson Felix’s story with Nike, highlighting the societal expectations placed on women post-pregnancy. 👨👩👧 How we can better support both moms and dads, so parenthood enriches rather than confines.If you’ve ever questioned how parenthood shifts societal views on women and men, this episode is for you! Tune in to learn how we can create inclusive spaces for parents that allow them to embrace all aspects of their identity. 💕
DOWNLOAD THE FREE MINI VIDEO SERIES ON HOW MOTHERHOOD CHANGES USFind out why and how this happens in key areas of life, including your personality, your relationship, your work, and even your spirituality. Get it here for FREE: https://www.markellakaplani.com/videoseries*Be sure to check out Jennifer Peterkin’s podcast The Human Experience and follow her on Instagram @thehxpod.---Journaling Exercise
Reflect on Your Identity in Parenthood
How has parenthood shaped your identity? Do you feel that your role as a mother/father has changed the way you see yourself, or the way others see you?Do you feel 'othered' or separated from certain aspects of your identity? What parts of yourself, such as hobbies, work, or friendships, feel neglected or overshadowed by parenthood?What does support look like for you? Reflect on whether you feel supported as a parent and what kind of spaces or communities you’d like to see for yourself and your partner.What roles do you see for moms vs. dads in your community? How are fathers acknowledged, or not, in the spaces you navigate as a parent? How are mothers?What steps can you take to reclaim or integrate the parts of yourself that feel distant? How can you balance your identity as a mother or father with your other roles and passions?---
Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail: [email protected])> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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Find the full transcript HERE.
🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.---
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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In this heartwarming episode, I welcome special guest Holly Logan, a master’s prepared nurse and family nurse practitioner, to explore the vital topic of nervous system regulation in parenthood.Holly is an advanced practice nurse by education who is currently a stay-at-home mom to three boys. Through her own personal health struggles and transitions into parenting, she grew a passion for family wellness and nervous system health.Our conversation is powerful and insightful as it touches on the importance of managing stress, trauma, and overwhelm as parents, especially when navigating the challenges of parenthood.
Holly dives deep into how personal and generational trauma affects our parenting styles, offering practical tips for regulating the nervous system and balancing mental and physical wellness in daily life.
Key discussion points include
trauma, stress management, mother guilt and shame, recognizing emotional triggers, and how small practices like journaling can help create a more compassionate parenting experience.⚠️ Content Warning: This episode mentions sensitive topics such as substance abuse, addiction, suicide, and loss. It’s best listened to with earbuds if you’re around children or need a gentler space for these discussions.Be sure to check out Holly Logan’s podcast Lead with Empathy and follow her on Instagram @hollylogan_health.---Journaling Exercise
Sometimes, developing greater self-awareness requires consistent practice and thoughtful reflection. For those of you who may be struggling to recognize patterns in how stress or triggers affect your day-to-day life, I’d like to offer a practical journaling exercise. Take a few days to simply observe yourself. Pay attention to the physical, emotional, and cognitive cues that may lead to feelings of frustration, overwhelm, or emotional withdrawal.You don’t need to immediately associate these moments with deeper triggers—just notice them. What does a typical week look like for you? Write down instances when you may have snapped, felt disconnected, scrolled for longer than you intended, or reacted in a way you weren’t proud of. By observing and documenting these moments, you may begin to uncover patterns that have gone unnoticed due to the routine nature of daily life. This exercise allows you to step back and reflect as an observer, gaining clarity by reviewing your week with fresh eyes. Sometimes, it’s only when we see things on paper that we truly begin to connect the dots.
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Related Resources and Links
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Join me in this episode as we discuss how we can establish healthy family dynamics based on sturdy and explicit family values.Learn how to create a positive family environment that nurtures emotional wellbeing and strengthens your parent-child connection.Discover how parenting with compassion can impact your family culture and lead to healthier relationships. What we’ll cover:
The benefits of compassionate parentingHow to use family rituals to build stronger bondsEffective strategies for managing conflict resolution for kidsUnderstanding the importance of the mother-father relationship in maintaining a supportive family environmentCreating the foundations for parenting with compassionSo tune in to Episode 22 id you’d like a guide to raising a happy, emotionally healthy family while overcoming the common struggles of modern parenting.---Journaling Exercise
Consider how it is that you want to foster compassion in your family culture. What values it is that you and your partner share and that you want to instill in your children?What kind of ritual or tradition you can start setting up so that you foster openness in communication and in the expression of feelings, trust, compassion, and kindness?---
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*Love Language Quiz: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Do you ever wonder how to teach your child to be more compassionate and kind?
In this episode, we dive into the heart of raising empathetic children by exploring the powerful role modeling plays in their development. We'll talk about how the simple, everyday actions you take can shape your child’s understanding of empathy, kindness, and compassion — without needing to be perfect.
Using relatable stories, we’ll look at how even small acts of kindness can have a big impact. Plus, I'll share some easy, practical ways to encourage compassionate behavior in your kids, even when life gets hectic.
Here’s a quick peek at what we’ll cover:
🌟 Why modeling compassion is more powerful than simply teaching it 📚 How books about compassion can help your child learn empathy 💬 Simple ways to talk to your child about kindness and feelings 🤝 Tips for handling negative behavior with compassion instead of punishment 🌱 The long-term benefits of raising a compassionate child
Whether you're trying to teach your child good manners or wondering how to encourage kindness and empathy, this episode is packed with insights to help you on your parenting journey. Tune in to Episode 21 to discover how you can foster a home environment where compassion thrives!---Journaling Exercise
Reflect on a Recent Moment:Think of a recent time when either you or your child showed kindness or compassion. Write one or two sentences about what happened.How Did It Feel?Jot down a word or two about how that moment made you feel.Set a Simple Intention:Write one small way you can encourage or model compassion in your family this week.---
Related Resources and Links
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar|> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail)> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Do you ever feel like parenthood has impacted how you connect with your partner? In this episode, I break down how we can foster compassionate communication in our relationship, even when we’re exhausted and juggling a million things at once.We chat about why it’s so easy to lose sight of our partners when we’re in the thick of parenting, and I’ll share some practical tips on how to keep that connection alive. Using real-life examples we see how small shifts in communication can make a big difference.Here’s a quick rundown of what we’ll cover:🌟 The impact of self-compassion on your relationship 👂 The art of active listening and why it matters 💬 How to express your needs without blame or judgment 💞 The importance of empathy and understanding your partner’s perspective 🧠 Why regular check-ins can keep your relationship strong 🤝 Tips on navigating tough conversations with kindness and care---LINKS MENTIONEDEpisode #1: MatrescenceEpisode # 4: PatrescenceEpisode # 9: Communication Skills in ParentingCouples Communication Checklist
Get it for FREE by leaving an Apple Podacst review and sending me a screenshot HERE.---Journaling Exercise
Go to your journal and think about one thing that you want to discuss with your partner. Don't pick the most difficult one. Don't pick one that is going to create a lot of tension. Pick something lighter that you think is not resolved that you still think needs a little bit of work. And as a first step, just write it down in your journal. Write down the emotions that you feel and how you would turn the conversation into I statements.
Then, you can go and download my communications checklist for couples, review it a little bit, and see how you can incorporate those I statements that you have in your journal into a conversation that you can have with your partner.
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Resources and Links Mentioned
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar|> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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JOURNALING EXERCISE:
Pick one of the suggestions that I made, whether that be the self-connect calendar (markellakaplani.com/selfconnectcalendar), whether it be a meditation with a body scan or mindful breathing, whether it's taking a walk, practicing self-forgiveness, etc… take one of these and write how you're going to be implementing it in your journal.
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Do you find that though you may be quite good at comforting friends, you are very harsh on yourself and your perceived parental failings?Might you possibly be carrying the belief that if you are hard on yourself for your shortcomings, you are helping yourself improve?If the weight of perfection and high expectations has got you down in parenthood, you are not the only one.Being a perfectionist is one thing.Being a parent and a perfectionist is a whole different ballgame. |Motherhood and fatherhood are calling you to transform; to learn a different path toward self-improvement - one that involves self-compassion at its core.
In today’s episode, you will
learn practical techniques to cultivate self-compassion, even amidst the challenges of parenthoodexplore common barriers like perfectionism, parental guilt, and societal expectations — and how to overcome themunderstand the importance of mindfulness in parenting and how to incorporate simple, parent-friendly self-care practices into your daily routine.Whether you're a new parent or navigating the complexities of raising children, this episode offers valuable insights to help you nurture yourself and those you love. Don't miss out on the tips and tools to create a more compassionate and fulfilling parenting journey.
🔗 Tune in now and share with other parents who might benefit!
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Resources and Links Mentioned
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar|> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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JOURNALING EXERCISE:
Pick one of the suggestions that I made, whether that be the self-connect calendar (markellakaplani.com/selfconnectcalendar), whether it be a meditation with a body scan or mindful breathing, whether it's taking a walk, practicing self-forgiveness, etc… take one of these and write how you're going to be implementing it in your journal.
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Do you ever find yourself overwhelmed with guilt, feeling like you’re too hard on yourself as a parent or partner? Trust me, you’re not alone. In this first episode of the special August series on Cultivating Compassion in Parenthood, we break down what compassion is, its benefits, and how to take baby steps in developing it more authentically.We’re not just talking about compassion for others, but for yourself, too. Imagine what it would feel like to have that harsh inner critic embrace you, to give yourself a break, and to truly nurture the relationships that mean the most to you.In this episode, I share personal stories, practical tips, and a whole lot of heart about how compassion can soften the edges of those tough parenting days. We’ll explore how being kinder to yourself can ripple out and transform your relationships with your partner and your kids.Parenting isn’t about being perfect—it's about showing up with love, even when things get messy. So grab a cup of coffee or tea, get comfy, and let’s chat about how you can embrace compassion and make your journey a little lighter, a little kinder, and a whole lot more fulfilling.You deserve this!
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Resources and Links Mentioned
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar|> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
JOURNALING EXERCISE:
Take your journal and write down something that you did today that was a proud parenting moment or something that was compassionate toward yourself or someone else.This will help you start to notice those positive and beautiful things that happen throughout the day. Our brain has the tendency, it's its natural tendency, to focus on the negatives. Through this exercise, we retrain it so that it can start to focus on the positives as well.
Find the full transcript HERE.
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Are you struggling with mom guilt or dad guilt and finding it hard to be kind to yourself even though you are kind to other parent friends? In this episode, I dive deep into:
🔹 The roots of parental guilt and why it persists
🔹 How societal expectations shape our self-image
🔹 The powerful role of the inner critic and how it formed
🔹 Practical steps to embrace self-compassion
🔹 The journey of reparenting and inner child healing
Tune in to uncover the profound impact of self-compassion on your parenting journey and learn how to healthily lower the volume of your inner critic. Your children deserve the best version of you, and so do you!
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Resources and Links Mentioned
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar|> FREE Guide: Calm Parent Calm Child> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail) > Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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JOURNALING EXERCISE:
Write a letter to your inner critic and express your gratitude for the fact that it had to play this harsh role in order to make sure that you are well off, that you are accepted, that you're part of the tribe, that you survive.
And then in a second paragraph, tell your inner critic that you forgive them for having to be this harsh with you, for using this strategy in order to get through to you, even though it was very painful.
And then recognize how painful it may have been for your inner critic to have to take on this role and end the letter with the main theme being that your inner critic can let go of this role now; that they can be who they want to be, that they can contribute to your well being in a different manner because they no longer have to protect you in this way.
Let them know that you are stepping up as the healthy adult to reparent and protect your inner child and that your inner critic doesn't have to step in. Reassure it that you're there. Explain how you're going to do things differently and welcome the inner critic in your life in a different capacity this time.
Now this is a profound exercise and it is very, very impactful, but you're not going to see results overnight. So take it one step at a time. Start noticing the little things that your inner critic is able to let go of. Note them down, and continue journaling. And in time, as you keep at this, you're going to see how your inner critic's voice will gradually lower and lower.____________________________________________________
Find the full transcript HERE.
🎧 Listen, share, and leave a review! Your support means the world! 📲 Follow me on Instagram @markella.kaplani for more insights and updates.____________________________________________________
Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Do you have a voice in your head telling you are not enough?Do you, too, have these days where you feel like you are failing at parenthood?Are there days that you feel you were not cut out to be a mom; not cut out to be a dad?In this heartfelt episode, we dive deep into the struggle of facing our inner critic, especially as parents.If you've ever questioned your abilities, felt overwhelmed by parental guilt and shame, or wondered if you're doing enough, you're not alone.Join me as I share my personal experience of overcoming guilt and shame as a parent, and discover practical strategies to validate and normalize your emotions.Learn how to recognize and dissociate from the critical voice, practice self-compassion, and focus on the present.Find out why it's okay to have bad days and how to turn them into opportunities for growth and connection.This episode is packed with insights and tips to help you navigate the ups and downs of parenthood, reclaim your balance, and embrace your true self.Don't miss out on this empowering conversation that promises to offer comfort, guidance, and a sense of solidarity.
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Resources and Links Mentioned
> FREE Self-Connect Calendar
> (Re)Discover Your Identity in Motherhood [waitlist]
> Get in touch with me (Instagram; website; e-mail)
> Leave a Podcast Review HERE 😀
> FREE Motherhood Coaching Session: Send an e-mail to [email protected] with the subject line “Podcast Guesting”
> Join our community on Facebook: Parenthood and Relationship Group
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JOURNALING EXERCISE:
Write down what your inner critic tells you. consider how it may be trying to protect you from something (e.g. failure, loss of love/acceptance) by being so harsh Thank your inner critic for its efforts and tell it that it is no longer needed. Respond to the harsh comments with compassion, like you would with a friend who is being hard on her/himself.--Find the full transcript HERE.
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Markella Kaplani, M.A.Clinical-Counseling PsychologistParenthood & Relationship CoachMatrescence Coach, Facilitator, & Activistwww.markellakaplani.com
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Remember when we had a village to support us in our parenting journey?
Do you, too, wonder how the tables have turned so that we are now shamed for wanting help from our kin, being told that "It's our child, so it's our responsibility?" and "You chose this."?
How did we go from "it takes a village to raise a child" to parenting in isolation?
Based on a post and its respective comments on Facebook, I discuss how societal and cultural shifts toward individualism have led to the near-extinction of our support systems and the community previous generations enjoyed as parents.
However, I also note how we, too, may have inadvertently pushed our village away, rejecting help and support even when it is offered, due to fear, generational trauma, rigid parenting, and egoism, thus leading to parental burnout.
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#ittakesavillage #parentingjourney #motherhoodislonely #selfsufficiency #independence #whereisthevillage
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