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In this episode of Becoming Unapologetically Me, host Helen Norbury talks to relationship coach Matt Marquez in an insightful discussion on the challenges successful women face in personal relationships. Matt Marquez is a relationship coach and the founder of Grow More Joy Relationship Coaching. His job is to help married couples fall in love again. They explore the imbalance often experienced by women post-promotion and when they earn more than their partners, leading to marital distress and higher divorce rates. Matt shares his experiences and insights from coaching clients, emphasizing the importance of communication, mutual support, and understanding one's own needs. They discuss various strategies for improving partnership dynamics, such as identifying underlying needs and shifting from work-focused mindsets to home environments. Additionally, Matt shares his own journey and valuable tips for aligning career and relationship goals while fostering fulfillment and connection.
Episode Highlights:
⢠Challenges in Relationships for Successful Women
⢠Statistics and Initial Thoughts
⢠Understanding Relationship Dynamics
⢠Personal Experiences and Realizations
⢠Workplace vs. Home Dynamics
⢠Approaches to Relationship Challenges
⢠The Buried Treasure Method
⢠Cultural Expectations and Relationship Dynamics
⢠Self-Awareness and Authenticity
⢠The Importance of Relationships for Successful Women
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In this episode of Becoming Unapologetically Me, host Helen Norbury talks to Greg Fearon: an empowered entrepreneur committed to placing health at the center of success. Greg shares his early influences, including his admiration for David Attenborough and the struggle of his family members with their health, which fueled his passion for genuine, holistic wellness. He discusses the importance of living authentically, the mind-body connection, and maintaining integrity with one's clients. Greg also offers insights into resilience, the role of movement in mental health, and the importance of establishing and sticking to healthy routines. He emphasizes the power of having a clear vision, supporting system, and the value of consistent practice in achieving greatness. The conversation wraps up with a reflection on the controllable aspects of life and how they contribute to becoming unapologetically oneself.
Greg Fearon is the guy that helps women become the person they want to be both physically and mentally using his Million Dollar Body Method.
All while Travelling through South East Asia & geeking out on superheroes & humans.
Having seen his mother & sisters exposed to all of the mistruths around nutrition & exercise, The mission became clear.
You can feel like a Million Dollars and look a Million Dollars too.
From University to Gynaecology all of Gregâs time has been spent getting better at understanding the mix of mindset and strategy so that you can create your best health.
You can get started here:
7 meals to energise you: https://bit.ly/7Daymealguide
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Episode Highlights:
⢠Greg's Early Influences
⢠Living in Your Truth
⢠Overcoming Adversities
⢠Core Values and Legacy
⢠Mind-Body Connection
⢠Health Journey and Resilience
⢠Aligning Life with Values
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In this episode of Becoming Unapologetically Me, host Helen Norbury interviews Sabrina Hall, who shares her powerful journey from feeling invisible and emotionally abused to becoming an advocate for visibility and fearlessness, especially for women. Sabrina opens up about her traumatizing childhood, the defining moment of finding her father after his suicide, and her path to self-mastery and self-love. The discussion also delves into the concept of healing and moving forward simultaneously, the importance of environment and self-validation, and actionable steps listeners can take to begin their own journey toward fearlessness and authentic living.
Sabrina is a Visibility and Business Coach, Neuro-Linguistic Programming Therapist, and Self-Mastery Mentor. She helps heart-led women be unapologetically and authentically visible, be brave AF, and create epic results in their business and life. Sabrina has been supporting women in the online space since 2019 and is passionate about helping others dissolve their fears, shame, and doubts, and tap into their emotional bravery to show up fully for what they want.
Episode Highlights:
⢠Sabrina's Journey: Overcoming Childhood Trauma
⢠The Turning Point: Embracing Self-Development
⢠Healing and Moving Forward: A Dual Process
⢠Navigating Fear and Building Confidence
⢠The Power of Self-Mastery and Authentic Living
⢠Practical Steps to Fearlessness
⢠Final Thoughts and Wisdom
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In this episode, Helen Norbury returns with the Becoming Unapologetically Me podcast after a transformative hiatus. She shares insights on the importance of being genuinely yourself, even under pressure.
Delving into her journey towards authenticity, Helen talks about her experience with a form of functional fitness race called Hyrox & how it helped shape her identity. She explores the concept of self-leadership, focusing on self-awareness, self-motivation, goal-setting, positive self-talk & intrinsic motivation.
Helen emphasizes living in alignment with oneâs values & warns against the pitfalls of hustling culture. She discusses the importance of understanding your own code & staying true to yourself for achieving both personal & professional success.
Episode Highlights:
⢠Understanding Unapologetic Authenticity
⢠The Journey to Self-Discovery & Embracing Your Superhero Identity
⢠Transformational Fitness Journey & Balancing Success & Health
⢠The Importance of Self-Leadership & Building a Resilient Identity
⢠Key Aspects of Self Leadership & The Power of Self Motivation
⢠Self Regulation & Goal Setting
⢠Positive Self Talk & Growth Mindset
⢠Intrinsic Motivation & Personal Mission
⢠Continuous Self Improvement
⢠Embracing Change & Personal Transformation
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Welcome back to Becoming Unapologetically Me with Helen Norbury!
In this trailer episode, Helen opens up about her transformational hiatus from the show and what she plans to do now that she's back in full force!
Make sure you're subscribed to the podcast so you never miss an episode as we explore the marvellous journey of becoming our true and unlimited selves.
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In this final episode of this season, host Helen Norbury talks to Nzinga Orgill, a Race and Culture Expert (RaCE) who is passionate about people and successful in delivering transformational change to benefit individuals and organisations. Nzinga is a thought leader with over 16 years experience in the Transport industry in various roles within Strategy, Governance, People Change, Data and Analytics , Project Management, Innovation and Automation and Creative Problem Solving.
Nzinga is experienced in leading a company-wide Diversity and Inclusion network that focuses on Culture and Ethnicity engaging with all levels of the organization from C-suite to front line colleagues creating strategies and plans to deliver and meet targets.
By influencing Senior leaders, Nzinga has successfully driven positive change, moving the dial for Black Asian Minority Ethnic colleagues in areas such as representation and progression. As a disruptor and by challenging the status quo, her recommendations and initiatives have resulted in increased organisational efficiency and embedded sustainable change.
In this conversation, Nzinga shares the importance of positive role models. Nzinga grew up in a world that didnât show her people who looked like her in aspirational career positions. Were it not for a mother who instilled a value of you can be anything you set your heart on, Nzingaâs future may have taken a very different direction.
This is SUCH an important conversation. Helen and Nzinga also discuss the cumulative effect of many daily micro-aggressions and the result of these on the mental health of people in ethnic groups and how each person can support themselves whilst the ocean liner of organisational and institutional culture change is turned.
Key Takeaways
Are you jumping on band wagons, such as unconscious bias training, or have you deeply understood the needs and inequities that currently exist in your sphere of influenceWe canât necessarily change society on our own, but we can change an organisationâs culture in respect of racial inclusion so everyone can thriveFind the courage to do the right thing, even if you donât feel the courage now or fear what others will think, say or do. Your courage is infectious.It is crucial to develop a mindfulness practice to deal with the physical and mental exhaustion resulting from daily, regular chippings at your resilienceDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
In this episode, host Helen Norbury speaks to the amazing Dion Johnson. She shares how she is a woman in a manâs world; a black woman in a white manâs world; a Christian in a secular world. And facially different in a beauty conscious world.
Dion was born with a pronounced facial disfigurement and spent a lot of time in hospital having corrective surgery. At the age of four she was gifted an artificial eye and dark glasses. Not to help her see - she is blind in her left eye - but to help her blend in, to look more "normal". To be apologetic for who she is.
At the age of 4 Dion learnt a powerful lesson; that if something is wrong with you, or broken, or different or flawed, you hide it, put it away, keep it out of sight.
That lesson followed her throughout her life until her forties when, through a random set of events, she found herself at rock bottom, with her hands in the air, crying out to God to tell her what the heck was going on.
Over the years Dion has come to see how masking and hiding those parts, as so many of us do in order to fit in and be acceptable in senior leadership, is not just energetically expensive and draining personally, it saps our power to lead and influence.
In this powerful episode, Helen and Dion discuss the importance of women rising above the challenges of senior leadership, to quit hiding and backing away from the work that we are being called to take on, and to truly show up as the initiators, innovators and influencers of the kind of change that really matters in our ailing world.
Key Takeaways
The vulnerability and power of women in the delivery room parallels leadership and the board room. Authenticity carries great responsibility.There is no greater gift than to know yourself and to be yourself; and no greater joy than to stand in this truth.When we can recover from centuries of abuse, silencing, scrutiny and being treated as second-rate citizens, then women can rise up and connect to creating a change for the greater good.We need to work to address the misunderstanding of womanity - the elegance, potency, love and need for women to continue standing for the greater good. Letâs rewrite what a strong executive is to bring in womanity.We are the stewards of the feminine - thatâs our superpower.Donât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Gain the support you need to set up your business online, and start to optimise it to attract leads and sales. Or, take your business further with Nurtured Growth, Paulâs one-on-one online marketing program for advanced coaches, therapists and consultants.
Paul has over 20 years experience in the digital marketing world, helping small businesses to large corporations, such as Simply Be and JD Williams.
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
In this episode, host Helen Norbury talks to Lucy Power about diversity and inclusion, particularly with reference to neurodivergence and LGBTQ+. Lucy is a qualified and ICF professional certified Coach with a postgraduate qualification in Personal and Business Coaching from the University of Chester. She is also extensively trained and experienced in Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy and integrates this with her coaching practice.
Following a complex childhood drenched in overwhelm, Lucy has spent all of her adult life searching for meaning and gathering knowledge about how we operate in our hardest and in our best times. Lucy has studied psychology, philosophy, business administration and leadership, psychotherapy, group psychology, interpersonal neurobiology and complex trauma.
She has a Masters in Social Work and has worked with marginalised and traumatised people with complex mental health struggles for years. Lucy, a Global Woman of Choice award winning community builder, is committed to equity and belonging, recognising and working to change social marginalisation, Lucy is a proud member of the LGBTQI+ community.
Find Lucy at @iamlucypower and www.the-power.institute.com
In this conversation that covers a wide-range of topics, Lucy and Helen talk about how shame grows in the darkness and prevents us from becoming an unapologetic version of ourselves. The biggest blocker to equity is actually the misconception that ânormalâ even exists. No-one is easy to group and we are all multi-dimensional beings, differing in our age, race, gender, sexuality, needs, wants, desires and more. Maybe that in itself is where we find the place to belong - we are all worthy, loveable, enough and important and that is a great place to find connection.
Key Takeaways
âWe are born princes and the civilizing process makes us frogsâ - Eric BerneShame and apology prevent intimacy and vulnerability and ultimately block you from becoming the unapologetic version of youFitting in by pretending to be like your oppressors gets in the way of true belongingâThe greatest burden a child must bear is the unlived life of its parentsâ - Carl JungSelf awareness and not betraying yourself is the greatest self-care you can offer yourself. Showing honesty and integrity to yourself, and being impeccable with your language towards yourself is crucialDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Paul Culshaw offers group and private one-on-one coaching, enabling you to go from stressful confusion to empowering clarity with a step-by-step organic marketing strategy and plan.
Gain the support you need to set up your business online, and start to optimise it to attract leads and sales. Or, take your business further with Nurtured Growth, Paulâs one-on-one online marketing program for advanced coaches, therapists and consultants.
Paul has over 20 years experience in the digital marketing world, helping small businesses to large corporations, such as Simply Be and JD Williams.
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
In this episode, host Helen Norbury speaks to the passionate and energetic Tina Brigley. Tina is a 4x Globee Business award winner; TedX speaker and authentic leadership coach. She has been in Forbes; Global Woman and Thrive Global magazines. She is passionate about helping people to uncover their invisible chains and help them break free of the box they put themselves in, so they can live a life of creation. Tina believes that Who we were before life happened is who we get to be - Free, Loving and Courageous.
When we notice that life is made up of a series of patterns and habits, it opens the door to so many possibilities. The personal development journey is really - at its heart - about growing our own self awareness so that we can choose to feel enough in every sense of the word. In this episode, Tina cautions about the role of social media in creating the rabbit hole of compare and despair, particularly where young people are concerned. It can become a self-fulfilling prophecy where we believe we are not enough and then via social media seek out the evidence of where this is true. When we follow creators rather than influencers, we are shaping our possibilities in the direction of leadership.
Tina shares in this episode how she was a former âlone wolfâ and didnât trust anyone to match up to the extremely high expectations she had of herself. What Tina recognised was that she used her childhood stories and beliefs of âpeople let me downâ to keep others at distance and feel the need to do everything herself. Recognising this habit and pattern - and healing the roots of it - offered Tina so many choices to become the amazing woman she is today. She is no longer a lone wolf and knows when to ask for help so she can continue the journey of supporting women to Reclaim their Feminine Power and Boss their Business!
Key Takeaways
What if we could see our own blindspots and learn to get out of our own way?Personal awareness is the key to solving all of our problems. Without this we act based on triggers and our comfort zone.You can choose to step into your power and choose who you get to be right now; or you can allow yourself to choose to be a victim, stay in your comfort zone and be less than the best version of yourself.We get to be courageous through our lived experience of being fearful.Followers donât produce leadersDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Gain the support you need to set up your business online, and start to optimise it to attract leads and sales. Or, take your business further with Nurtured Growth, Paulâs one-on-one online marketing program for advanced coaches, therapists and consultants.
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
In this episode. Host Helen Norbury speaks to Shamoni Gilani - a world leading niche and messaging coach. Shamoni helps people who have traumatic and challenging stories to clarify their soul aligned niche from what they have been through. She is able to do this at the level of depth and skill she does, due to what she has experienced in her life.
When we can find purpose and meaning in our suffering and alchemise that into something that allows us to give back through what we have been through, thereâs nothing more healing and nourishing for our mental and emotional health.
Following a period of bullying at school, where Shamoniâs creativity came out to help her find ways to avoid going to school, Shamoni later found herself housebound and bed bound for many years due to illness.
Now in much better health, Shamoni has turned the approach to client acquisition on its head by finding 19 levels of alignment for her clients between their passion and purpose with their business. This helps business owners avoid shiny object syndrome as they constantly look for that holy grail of an otherwise elusive alignment.
Shamoni advocates laughter, fun and playfulness as key ingredients for self care and recommends that you are very intentional about surrounding yourself with people who allow you to be Unapologetically You.
Key Takeaways
Passion is the key to success and allows specificity and articulation of our purposeClarity creates confidenceOur life story holds the seed of our purposeEverything that we experience is part of the divine plan - understanding this can help us gain a lot of peaceLet your vibe attract your tribeDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Gain the support you need to set up your business online, and start to optimise it to attract leads and sales. Or, take your business further with Nurtured Growth, Paulâs one-on-one online marketing program for advanced coaches, therapists and consultants.
Paul has over 20 years experience in the digital marketing world, helping small businesses to large corporations, such as Simply Be and JD Williams.
Book a free discovery call with Paul today at paulculshaw.com
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
In this episode, host Helen Norbury shares her personal journey with spirituality as part of the road back to hope and freedom.
Following her parentsâ untimely deaths in 2007 and 2008, Helen felt very alone and had a sensation that she would have to smash her own path through life if she wanted to be successful. As a highly ambitious woman, she committed to pushing harder and battling more, in order to create the life she desired for herself and her children.
However, it wasnât long before she started to recognise a monotony of the same tape playing over and over as unwanted patterns kept showing up in her life, whether it be in finances, health, relationships, work or any other area of Helenâs life.
A turn of âfateâ in March 2019 meant Helen found herself at a workshop in London. Helenâs evidence of all the ways in which the universe has her back, started on the train ride into London and continued throughout the day until the embryo of her business today was born, and included a chance meeting with someone who is today one of her longest standing clients.
In this episode, Helen shares the impact of this spiritual journey on her life and the intense peace she now feels at her core. This journey allows Helen to constantly be guided back to LOVE, which is now how her life is shaped - a far cry from the rock bottom she experienced in 2018.
Key Takeaways
Our fears allow us to see our wounds and direct our healingâI release the outcome and surrender to a plan far greater than mineâ - Gabby BernsteinWhen we can honour the wound, then the healing can startWhen we feel the connection from our tribe, we can let go of what should be and lean into what will beLearn to accept, trust, surrender and know the universe has your backDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Gain the support you need to set up your business online, and start to optimise it to attract leads and sales. Or, take your business further with Nurtured Growth, Paulâs one-on-one online marketing program for advanced coaches, therapists and consultants.
Paul has over 20 years experience in the digital marketing world, helping small businesses to large corporations, such as Simply Be and JD Williams.
Book a free discovery call with Paul today at paulculshaw.com
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
David Redbord, MA, MPH is a #1 International Bestselling author on trauma, a self-worth coach, and a practicing therapist in Boulder, Colorado. He has created a step-by-step framework to help folks improve their self-worth by knowing themselves better, connecting with others, practicing self-compassion, and living in integrity. David has been doing his own inner work for more than 10 years and supports others in showing up as their most authentic selves by stepping into more presence and connection.
In this episode we discuss many elements of SELF but reflecting on the fact that it is always self-worth that sits at the core of this. David works extensively in the links between trauma and self-worth and the embodiment of healthy feelings.
Starting from a childhood rife with criticism and correction, David found a sense of never being able to do the right thing and eventually internalised that as him not being good enough and in some way inherently bad. We know that there is no such thing as a âbadâ person at birth so it is always deeply saddening to hear of yet another child who forms this belief.
Although growing up with the cultural lens to avoid and suppress emotions, thankfully David found the way to truly embody and become present with his emotions. By setting aside time to feel and express your emotions, then the trauma WILL move through your body, but it needs to have the chance to be seen, felt and expressed without judgement and censorship.
Key Takeaways
The Wound is the place where the Light enters you - RumiWhen we put on the mask and not show emotion, in order to keep ourselves safe, we create disconnectionWhen you are fighting what is here, now; you can never move forwardsSo often we show up in life in the roles of the drama triangle: the victim, the persecutor or the rescuerConnection concretely improves self-worth. We disconnect when we feel shame but the tribe is so healing.Donât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Resource Guide - 5 Ways to Increase Your Self-Worth by 25%
https://seeyourworthchallenge.com/guide/
Free 5 Day Challenge - Uncover your Top 5 Superpowers and Use Them to Improve Your Self-Worth
https://seeyourworthchallenge.com/
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it.
Louis Weinstock is a psychotherapist who works with children and the child inside us all. He helps people find a light in the darkness â in the things that are unseen, unheard and unspoken. For over 20 years, he has expertly guided children and grown-ups through some of the toughest challenges life can throw at us â loss, trauma, divorce, burnout and breakdowns.
He is also co-founder of Apart of Me, a multi-award-winning charity that helps young people transform their grief into compassion. His work has been featured on the BBC, ITV, and in the Guardian newspaper. He lives in Manchester with his wife and daughter.
In this episode, Helen and Louis talk openly and from the heart about the mental health crisis in children and those who care for them. Louis shares anecdotes and examples from his recently published book âHow the World is Making our Children Mad - and What to Do About Itâ
Helen and Louis talk about a wide variety of subjects, before Louis reads in such a heartfelt way, the opening page of his book.
The subject of learned helplessness is discussed, in the context of how different this is to when Louisâ daughter showed resilience when learning to walk. When we feel a lack of safety, it triggers our nervous system to learned helplessness. Seeking safety and connection are two key areas in neuroception, as discussed by Stephen Porges; the absence of which compounds trauma.
As always, this episode draws on the practical ways we can support the children in our lives (including our own inner child) to build resilience, and Louis shares some of the ways he personally is able to journey towards radical self-care and how he tunes into what his body needs in any moment.
Key Takeaways
It is so important for adults to heal themselves - you canât give to children what you have not yet accessed yourselfAdversity becomes trauma when you add lonelinessWe all have an inner drive for mastery. This is connected to our pleasure signals.âIn the beginnerâs mind there are many possibilities, in the expertâs there are fewâ - Shunryu SuzukiHumans have an innate ability to heal from trauma; it is our family, social and cultural conditioning that can get in the way of thisDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it. In this episode, host Helen Norbury is joined by the awesome Jessie Shedden.
Jessie Shedden is a lightworker in the field of relational dynamics â specifically profound romantic love and core badass confidence. Her mix of intuitive divinity with practical badass strategy is showcased in The School of Authentic Badassery where she guides women through accessing the deep levels of true love and fundamental confidence their truest selves desire, in order to break cycles of generational traumas and bring healing into the world by sharing their gifts.
After growing up in an environment that was not conducive for freedom of expression, empowerment or truly respectful connections, Jessie has studied extensively on how to cultivate authentic confidence and heart-based dynamics that unlock the passions of the women who learn and apply them.
In this episode, Jessie shares about her early life, growing up in a religious cult, where she sadly came to know a life of emotional abuse, coercive control and later, sexual abuse too. Jessie had an intense loneliness in her early life and tried various cries for love and to be seen.
Trying to leave at 18 years old, she found herself not ready and returned to the only environment she knew. But her truth would not go away - the flame refused to be extinguished. Finally Jessie did leave, and that meant leaving behind her family, her friends - everything she had ever known.
Finding freedom was too much of a draw.
Jessie shares her journey of learning who she is and how to express that and how that has created opportunities in her life to explore conscious loving.
Key Takeaways
Learning to take off the load of guilt, shame and judgment is crucial to find your true selfWe always have the opportunity to change ourselves to choose who we want to be in our relationshipsWe are in a relationship with our partnerâs nervous system so we need to learn together how to create safetyThe journey of self-discovery is seeking the gemstone under the traumaLove is the answer to basically anythingDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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www.jessieshedden.com
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know there is more stuck inside them and they want to find a way to release it. As season 2 starts, host Helen Norbury shares her excitement for the upcoming season as well as some reflections on season 1. The brief break between seasons has felt like the longest time but finally Helen is excited to introduce even more amazing guests who are joining her throughout the season to dive DEEP into the subjects of trauma, clarity of purpose and leadership.
Helen reflects that the impact of trauma on children was a key reason for her getting into business and how she personally made the decision to be a cycle breaker in her family so that trauma would not continue to be passed from generation to generation, as otherwise happens. Helenâs first three guests dive deep into different aspects of trauma, each impacted from childhood in their own particular ways. As always, Helen likes to focus on how those childhood experiences can be alchemised into a positive adult life, which gives the perfect segue way into the subject of SELF. With her guests, Helen gets deep into the subjects of self-worth, self-love, self-acceptance, self-trust, self-awareness and many more aspects of SELF as an unapologetic expression of who you are.
The other four guests through season 2 help Helen explore clarity of purpose and leadership. The inner critic voices still pop up - do they ever totally leave! - even for kick-ass leaders. Helen talks excitedly about her upcoming conversations with some powerful female leaders and starts to mention about the new style of leadership that she will explore in a later episode - Loving Leadership. This could not be further away from the command and control style of yesteryear. This is yet another manifestation of Helen Becoming Unapologetically Me and her hope is this season will inspire you even more deeply to find and become the unapologetic version of YOU too. These conversations have the potential to change your life in ways you canât yet fathom.
Key Takeaways
Diving deep into the shadows of ourself can have a fundamental impact on our self-love and self-acceptanceKeeping connected to the truth, rather than our stories, helps create a deep inner peaceAre we doing everything today to create the future legacy we want to leave for our childrenLoving Leadership is a new powerful model of leadership combining dynamic and magnetic energiesLearn to let go and embrace welcoming great things into your lifeDonât forget to subscribe and rate us so we can grow and help more people.
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Welcome back to Becoming Unapologetically Me!
Weâve had a summer break and now weâre back - with bigger dreams, higher hopes and a deeper resolution than ever to be unapologetic about the amazing people we are.This podcast is all about gaining confidence through mindset and energy - and how to use that to live your best life and succeed in business.
I am all about helping people to have the confidence to alchemise their lifeâs experiences into a purpose-led business so that they can live with passion and lead a powerful legacy.
This season we are diving deeper - into trauma, clarity of purpose, and leadership. I am talking to best-selling authors, TED-X speakers and powerful women leaders. I have a no-holds barred approach so I ask the questions that others fear.
We are going all in!
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know that they have more inside them and want it to come out. In this episode, host Helen Norbury is joined by mindset coach and growth mentor Sabrina. Ever since she was young, Sabrina dreamt of making a difference - a dream she fulfills everyday as she helps others achieve theirs. Sabrina shares insights about stepping outside of the labels youâre assigned, and how coaching can help. She discusses how we can create environments where all genders can thrive.
Itâs in our nature to put labels on things and people - in fact, many of these labels are put on us even before weâre born. But we donât have to let them hold us back, Sabrina says. You can escape the boxes people place you in, and even use them to your advantage. We do ourselves a disservice when we just accept what people say about us as the truth, and subconsciously sabotage our own lives by acting on those limiting beliefs.
Coaching is a good way to pull back the curtain on who you really are and what youâre really capable of. Sometimes it takes a coach to guide you through the process of seeing yourself objectively, without well-intentioned people projecting their own fears, concerns and values onto you.
Sabrina comments on how we can cultivate environments where all genders thrive. Itâs very common for gender-based messages to be directed to the male gender, but the responsibility of unity falls on all of us. We each have to take responsibility for our own biases.
Key Takeaways
You donât have to be what people say you are - you are capable of anything you set your mind to!Coaches help you see yourself objectively, independent from the limiting beliefs of others, and even yourself.We are all responsible for unity.Resources
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know that they have more inside them and want it to come out. In this episode, host Helen Norbury discusses the truth about creativity. Creativity isnât limited to art - it manifests in many ways. Helen unpacks the importance of creativity and self-expression, and discusses how they intersect with courage and confidence.
Clarity precedes courage, Helen shares. When you have a clear idea of what you want to achieve, courage becomes easier - as your clarity goes up, your fear goes down. âWhen we recognize our fears, we can start to dissolve them⌠they donât hold power anymore.â To Helen, courage is foundational in creative expression. The joy of living a self-expressed life should not be underestimated, she remarks; the feeling of being alive everyday, feeling engaged and inspired by everything is like seeing color in a monochrome world.
âThis isn't about taking the shiny, socially-acceptable, nice bits leaving the rest behind,â Helen shares, âThis is a full expression of all of the parts of you.â An important thing to acknowledge is the popular discussion about left brainers and right brainers - creativity versus implementation. Without creativity, thereâd be nothing to implement, and without implementation, creativity would have no outlet. Both play equal parts in the world. In fact, creativity fosters methods of implementation.
Once weâre fully expressed and being very creative, how do we now build confidence? It begins with not tying confidence to anything external. External things can change at the drop of a hat, and you need your confidence to be there regardless. The next key is to reward the effort, not the outcome. Ultimately, confidence stems from a belief in yourself that you can figure things out.
Key Takeaways
By acknowledging your fears, you give them less power over you. Creativity and implementation are equally important and exist in balance with each other.Donât tie your confidence to external things like money or good looks - those things can change.
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know that they have more inside them and want it to come out. In this episode, host Helen Norbury is joined by coach and former perfectionist Rebecca Ann. Rebecca has struggled with perfectionism and burnout throughout her corporate career. Every day was an endless cycle of trying to fill an internal void with external things - financial rewards, accolades, and professional respect. Grief from her fatherâs death became a catalyst for change in her life. Rebecca shares how she broke through the shackles of perfectionism. She talks about getting to the heart of it, the different ways it can show up in your life, and how she helps her clients recover.
Prior to her fatherâs passing, Rebecca was a paragon of achievement. She had all the external markers of success including an enviable career and financial security. Yet she felt hollow on the inside. She kept wondering, âWhen am I going to feel successful? When am I going to feel happy?â Rebecca rationalized that satisfaction and happiness would come when she hit the next level, but after each accomplishment she still felt empty. âWhen weâre looking externally, thereâs never enough to fill that void inside us,â Helen explains. âThe hole is insatiable,â Rebecca agrees, âit never shrinks, it grows.â Not only did she feel trapped, but she was also burdened by the guilt of feeling unhappy with her life, and so began a vicious cycle.
Rebecca was unconsciously seeking for external guidance, and a situation occurred at work where she had a choice to take a settlement, which she did. Now out on her own, she felt as if this was the evidence that proved she was an imposter, unworthy of the success people thought she had, and that everyone now knew the truth that she wasnât good enough. Losing the identities and external factors that fed into her perfectionism spurred Rebecca on even more. It all came to a head when her father got ill, and subsequently passed away. The loss put things into perspective and triggered her personal development journey.
Rebeccaâs perfectionism stemmed from a fundamental belief that she could only be worthy of love if she was perfect. Acknowledging that was a challenge, but it was the first step in her road to recovery. âI cannot describe how peaceful it is without that constant narrative [and] inner critic [ruling] your life,â she admits. She advises listeners whoâve started noticing perfectionist traits in themselves to have self-compassion. âSo much about being a perfectionist is making yourself wrong and holding yourself to an unrealistic standard⌠if you [donât] give yourself space, youâre adding [another] layer.â
Key Takeaways
External things donât fill internal holes - the key to happiness is found within.Grief often acts as a catalyst for change and an opportunity for reflection.Treat yourself with compassion when acknowledging your perfectionism - you canât be perfect!Resources
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Becoming Unapologetically Me is the podcast for people who know that they have more inside them and want it to come out. In this episode, host Helen Norbury discusses how codependency and burnout relate to loving yourself, or a lack thereof. She shares how they affected her, and how she learned to put herself as a priority.
When Helen was growing up, the concepts of loving yourself and being humble seemed to exist as opposites to each other. How could you love yourself first without being cocky or arrogant? For many years she thought self-care was for the self-absorbed, which feeded into her dangerous work ethic. She would never say no to work, to the point where she went into labor and didnât tell her husband because she knew he would give her a hard time about her working through it. At the time she was patting herself on the back for her resilience, but this wasnât good in any way. It was coming from an incredibly unhealthy need for recognition and approval, and resulted in total burnout.
Working was a coping mechanism to block out unwanted thoughts and feelings - a distraction from all the limiting beliefs she wanted to ignore or prove wrong. This was all happening at a subconscious level in her everyday life. When she started bringing awareness to it, suddenly so many things in her life made sense - especially the type of people she attracted. Self-care became a cornerstone in her recovery from trauma and her addiction to codependency, and she learned that it was not synonymous with arrogance or cockiness. Rather, self-care was the best form of care; not only for her, but for the people around her as well.
Thereâs far more to self-care than candles, massages, or spending money on yourself. Self-care is not about the external things - the key to self care is inside of us. Itâs not easy, and it doesnât happen overnight, but itâs definitely worth the journey.
Key Takeaways
When healing from an addiction, take special care in healing the cause, or it may just pop up again in another form.Self-care is not synonymous with arrogance or cockiness - rather, itâs one of the best ways you can love yourself and love others.You can have a much bigger impact on the world and those around you if you look after yourself.
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