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  • 026|“I Can Fix This On My Own”—The Lie That’s Costing Men Their Marriage

    026|“I Can Fix This On My Own”—The Lie That’s Costing Men Their Marriage

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    For a lot of men, asking for help feels like weakness.

    We’re taught to be self-reliant. To lead. To figure it out on our own.
    So when marriage gets hard, we do what we’ve always done—try to push through it solo.

    However, some problems don’t get solved with more effort.
    They get solved with support.

    In this episode of Better Husband, we’re diving into one of the biggest roadblocks men face in relationships—resistance to help.
    Where it comes from, how it starts in childhood, and why learning to receive support isn’t just a game-changer—it’s a requirement for growth.

    You’ll also hear a personal story from my own marriage—and why learning to stop hiding was the turning point in our relationship.

    🔑 What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why men are conditioned to avoid help—and how that affects your marriage
    ✅ How the “hero child” role shows up in adult relationships
    ✅ Why doing it alone keeps you stuck longer than you think
    ✅ The mindset shift that creates real change in you and your marriage
    ✅ What support actually looks like—and where to start finding it

    💡 Key Takeaways:

    You weren’t meant to do this alone—and you don’t have toAsking for help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you readySupport changes everything—when you’re open to receiving it

    🔹 Action Steps This Week:

    1ïžâƒŁ Think about where in your life you’re white-knuckling your way through
    2ïžâƒŁ Reach out to one person and name what you’ve been carrying
    3ïžâƒŁ Get on the waitlist for Better Husband Academy → betterhusbandacademy.com
    4ïžâƒŁ Ask yourself: What could change if I let someone in?

    🧠 Reflection Questions:

    ❓ Who do you go to when things get hard—and are they actually helping?
    ❓ What would your marriage look like if you stopped pretending to be fine?
    ❓ Are you building a relationship—or just managing it alone?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 025|The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership

    025|The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    From the outside, your apology sounds fine.
    You said the words. You admitted what happened.
    But then
 you added a “but.”

    “I’m sorry I snapped
 but you were being disrespectful.”
    “I know I overreacted
 but you started it.”

    And just like that, your ownership disappears.

    In today’s episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about the most overlooked repair skill in relationships: full ownership—without the “but.”

    đŸŽ™ïž The First Move Every Better Husband Makes: Full Ownership

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why most apologies don’t land—and how to fix it
    ✅ What “relational integrity” really means (and how to live it)
    ✅ Why waiting for her to go first keeps you both stuck
    ✅ The simple mindset shift that builds emotional safety
    ✅ A 3-question framework to guide every repair conversation

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Adding “but” to your apology cancels out your ownership
    💡 You don’t need to be wrong to take responsibility
    💡 A better husband goes first—without needing anything back

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Notice where you defend or explain instead of owning
    2ïžâƒŁ Use the 3-step reflection: What did I do? How might she have felt? What will I do differently?
    3ïžâƒŁ Practice clean ownership—no blaming, no defending, no “but”
    4ïžâƒŁ Try one repair this week without expecting anything in return
    5ïžâƒŁ Ask yourself: “Did I keep my side of the street clean today?”

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ Where do I tend to defend instead of own?
    ❓ How does my wife respond when I take full responsibility?
    ❓ What would change if I led the repair—without conditions?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

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  • 024|When You Feel More Like Roommates Than Lovers—How to Rebuild Connection in Your Marriage

    024|When You Feel More Like Roommates Than Lovers—How to Rebuild Connection in Your Marriage

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    From the outside, everything looks fine. But inside your marriage, there’s a quiet distance growing. You’re not fighting. You’re not yelling. But you’re also not really connecting.

    In today’s episode of Better Husband, we’re talking about what happens when emotional connection fades—and how to start rebuilding closeness, intimacy, and trust
 one small moment at a time.

    đŸŽ™ïž When You Feel More Like Roommates Than Lovers—How to Rebuild Connection in Your Marriage

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ How emotional neglect quietly erodes a marriage
    ✅ What causes the “roommate phase” (and how to recognize the signs)
    ✅ Why being helpful and “doing your part” isn’t enough to create connection
    ✅ Three daily habits to rebuild emotional closeness
    ✅ How to lead your marriage back into intimacy—without overcomplicating it

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Disconnection rarely comes from one big moment—it’s the result of small moments missed
    💡 You can’t fix distance with chores. You fix it with presence
    💡 Leading your marriage doesn’t mean doing more—it means showing up differently

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Make one meaningful emotional bid per day (words, touch, questions, or appreciation)
    2ïžâƒŁ Create 10 minutes of “us time” each evening—just connection, no distractions
    3ïžâƒŁ Own the distance. Say, “I’ve noticed how disconnected we’ve become
 and I want to rebuild.”
    4ïžâƒŁ Catch passive patterns—like silence, avoidance, or over-focusing on tasks—and try something different
    5ïžâƒŁ Lead with presence, not perfection

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ When did emotional connection stop being a priority in your marriage?
    ❓ What habits are keeping you emotionally distant—even if you’re physically present?
    ❓ What could change if you made one small emotional reach each day?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 023|Staying Quiet Isn’t Helping—Here’s What She Actually Needs From You

    023|Staying Quiet Isn’t Helping—Here’s What She Actually Needs From You

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    You stay calm. You keep the peace. You don’t push back.

    You think that makes you a good husband.

    But what if staying quiet is actually making things worse?

    In this episode, we’re unpacking the hidden cost of passivity in marriage—and why emotional withdrawal can feel more damaging than raised voices. If you’ve ever thought, “At least I’m not making it worse,” this episode will show you what your silence might really be saying.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why “not fighting” doesn’t always mean “being safe”
    ✅ How emotional withdrawal creates disconnection
    ✅ The difference between avoiding conflict and avoiding intimacy
    ✅ What your wife is actually craving in hard moments
    ✅ How to shift from being passive to being present

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Passivity isn’t peace—it’s emotional absence.
    💡 Withholding is a form of control, just a quieter one.
    💡 Your wife doesn’t want compliance—she wants connection.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Notice your passive patterns—when you shrink, stay quiet, or say “It’s not worth it.”
    2ïžâƒŁ Pause and breathe when you feel the urge to check out.
    3ïžâƒŁ Name your emotions, even if they feel messy or incomplete.
    4ïžâƒŁ Practice staying in the room—mentally, emotionally, relationally.
    5ïžâƒŁ Choose to respond from your Wise Adult, not your Adaptive Child.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ Where have you been withholding—emotionally, sexually, mentally, or energetically?
    ❓ What are you afraid might happen if you showed up more fully?
    ❓ What would change in your marriage if you stopped playing it safe—and started being real?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 022|Why “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Working — And the 4 Steps to Real Repair

    022|Why “I’m Sorry” Isn’t Working — And the 4 Steps to Real Repair

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    You apologized. You meant it. But for some reason, she still seems distant—and nothing feels resolved.

    If you’ve ever wondered why your “I’m sorry” doesn’t seem to work, this episode is for you. Most of us were never taught how to truly repair after a rupture in our relationship. We were taught to say the right words and move on. But real repair is deeper—and it changes everything.

    In this episode, I’ll show you the 4 steps that make an apology actually count—and help rebuild the trust, safety, and connection your marriage needs.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why quick apologies often make things worse
    ✅ The 4 essential steps of a real repair process
    ✅ How to shift from relieving your shame to restoring her safety
    ✅ What a real apology actually sounds like
    ✅ The difference between saying sorry and showing change

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 If your apology doesn’t lead to change, it’s not repair—it’s relief.
    💡 Most men apologize for themselves, not for her.
    💡 Real repair is a skill—and you can practice it.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Do an “apology audit” using the 3 reflection questions shared in the episode.
    2ïžâƒŁ Practice the 4 steps: Ownership, Empathy, Accountability, and Change.
    3ïžâƒŁ Try the “Five Minute Follow-Up” to deepen your next repair.
    4ïžâƒŁ Reflect on a past apology—what would you do differently today?
    5ïžâƒŁ Show your commitment with action, not just words.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ Did your last apology focus on her pain—or your discomfort?
    ❓ How often do your words actually lead to change?
    ❓ What kind of partner do you want to be in those hard moments?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 021|Your Self-Esteem Is Hurting Your Marriage: 3 Faulty Beliefs That Keep Men Stuck

    021|Your Self-Esteem Is Hurting Your Marriage: 3 Faulty Beliefs That Keep Men Stuck

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    The way you see yourself is shaping the way you show up in your marriage—whether you realize it or not.

    Most men are taught to base their self-worth on performance, possessions, or the approval of others. But when your self-esteem is built on shaky foundations, it creates insecurity, defensiveness, and disconnection in your relationship.

    In this episode, I’ll show you the three faulty self-esteem patterns that keep men stuck—and how to start building real, relational self-esteem that brings strength, steadiness, and deeper connection to your marriage.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ The three faulty beliefs that sabotage a man’s confidence and marriage
    ✅ How performance, possessions, and approval become unhealthy measures of self-worth
    ✅ Why men often hold their wives to the same harsh standards they hold themselves
    ✅ The truth about relational self-esteem (and how it changes everything)
    ✅ Simple daily practices to build grounded confidence and emotional presence

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 The way you see yourself affects how you see your wife.
    💡 You don’t have to earn your worth—you just have to own it.
    💡 Real self-esteem leads to more patience, connection, and trust in your marriage.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Identify which faulty self-esteem pattern you fall into (performance, possessions, or approval).
    2ïžâƒŁ Practice separating your self-worth from what you do, have, or how others see you.
    3ïžâƒŁ Try one of the at-home reflection exercises shared in the episode.
    4ïžâƒŁ Catch yourself in moments of judgment—toward yourself or your wife—and choose grace instead.
    5ïžâƒŁ Repeat the affirmation: “I am worthy, just as I am.”

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ What’s been the foundation of your self-worth—and is it working for you?
    ❓ How do your self-esteem patterns impact the way you treat your wife?
    ❓ What would change in your marriage if you started standing in your value?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 020|How to Build a Championship Marriage: 5 Winning Strategies

    020|How to Build a Championship Marriage: 5 Winning Strategies

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    The best teams in sports don’t win by accident—they follow a proven strategy. The same is true for marriage. If you want a strong, connected, and lasting relationship, you need a game plan.

    A few episodes ago, we covered the five losing strategies that keep couples stuck in conflict. But avoiding the wrong moves isn’t enough—you need to know the winning plays that create trust, intimacy, and long-term success in your marriage.

    In this episode, I’ll break down the five winning strategies that will help you and your wife communicate better, solve conflicts faster, and build the kind of marriage that feels like a true partnership.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ The five winning strategies that make marriages thrive
    ✅ Why the best relationships are built on teamwork, not competition
    ✅ How to ask for what you need without starting a fight
    ✅ The key to expressing yourself in a way your wife can actually hear
    ✅ How to empower and uplift each other every single day

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Complaints don’t create change—clear requests do.
    💡 The way you communicate matters as much as what you say.
    💡 Great marriages aren’t just about avoiding problems—they’re about building connection.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Shift from complaint to request – Focus on what you want moving forward.
    2ïžâƒŁ Speak with love and savvy – Say things in a way that strengthens your marriage.
    3ïžâƒŁ Respond with generosity – Look for ways to support and acknowledge your wife.
    4ïžâƒŁ Empower each other – Recognize and appreciate your partner’s efforts.
    5ïžâƒŁ Cherish what you have – Regularly show gratitude and invest in your relationship.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ Are you making clear requests, or just pointing out what’s wrong?
    ❓ How can you express yourself in a way that builds connection?
    ❓ What’s one thing your wife does that you could appreciate more?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 019|Why Most Men Don’t Prioritize Their Marriage (Until It’s Too Late)

    019|Why Most Men Don’t Prioritize Their Marriage (Until It’s Too Late)

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    Most men say their marriage is a priority. But when life gets busy, when work, stress, and distractions take over, do your actions actually reflect that?

    This week, I had to make that choice. My wife’s birthday, family responsibilities, and commitments to the people I love all demanded my attention. And in that moment, I had to decide—do I pour my energy into producing a highly polished podcast episode, or do I live out what I teach and put my marriage first?

    This short episode is a wake-up call. Because the truth is, marriages don’t fall apart all at once—they fade, choice by choice, priority by priority. If you don’t intentionally prioritize your marriage now, you may find yourself trying to fix things when it’s already too late.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why most men say their marriage is important—but don’t act like it.
    ✅ The everyday choices that reveal what you actually prioritize.
    ✅ A powerful lesson from Elf about choosing your family over work.
    ✅ The hard truth about why so many marriages fall apart slowly over time.

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Your priorities aren’t what you say they are—they’re what your actions prove.
    💡 Every small decision you make either strengthens or weakens your marriage.
    💡 If you don’t take action now, you might be forced to later—when it’s almost too late.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ Are your daily actions proving that your marriage is a top priority?
    ❓ What distractions are pulling your time and attention away from your wife?
    ❓ If nothing changes, where will your marriage be in five years?

    Final Thought:

    This week, pay attention to the small choices you make. When the moment comes, choose your marriage.

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 018|Why Your Arguments Never Get Resolved—And What to Do Instead

    018|Why Your Arguments Never Get Resolved—And What to Do Instead

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    Do you and your wife keep having the same arguments over and over? Do your conflicts feel like a frustrating loop, leaving you both unheard and disconnected?

    That’s because most couples fall into losing strategies—default behaviors that keep conflicts alive instead of resolving them. The worst part? These patterns feel right in the moment, but they actually push your wife further away.

    In today’s episode, I’ll help you identify the five losing strategies, recognize when they’re happening, and give you the tools to break free—so you can stop fighting in circles and start actually solving problems in your marriage.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why certain conflicts never seem to get resolved
    ✅ The five losing strategies that are sabotaging your marriage
    ✅ How these behaviors stem from your Adaptive Child
    ✅ What to do instead to create real connection
    ✅ A step-by-step way to change your response in the moment

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Your instincts in conflict might be making things worse.
    💡 Defensiveness, control, and shutting down push your wife further away.
    💡 You can retrain yourself to respond differently and transform your marriage.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Recognize your go-to losing strategy – Which one do you default to?
    2ïžâƒŁ Pause in the moment – Take a breath before reacting.
    3ïžâƒŁ Shift your focus – Is your response helping or hurting?
    4ïžâƒŁ Try a new approach – Validate instead of defending, ask instead of controlling.
    5ïžâƒŁ Practice daily – Small shifts over time lead to major relationship changes.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ What’s your biggest trigger that leads to conflict?
    ❓ Which losing strategy do you find yourself using the most?
    ❓ How would your marriage change if you responded differently next time?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 017|Defensiveness Is Ruining Your Marriage—Here’s How to Fix It

    017|Defensiveness Is Ruining Your Marriage—Here’s How to Fix It

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    Ever feel like every conversation with your wife turns into a debate? Like no matter what you say, you’re under attack—and your first instinct is to defend yourself?

    Defensiveness is one of the biggest communication killers in marriage. It shuts down connection, escalates conflict, and pushes your wife further away. The good news? You can learn to respond differently—and completely change the dynamic of your relationship.

    In today’s episode, I’ll show you exactly how to break free from defensiveness so you can communicate with confidence, listen without reacting, and build a stronger connection with your wife.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why defensiveness is a natural reaction—and why it’s keeping you stuck.
    ✅ The hidden triggers that make men feel attacked (even when their wife isn’t trying to).
    ✅ A 4-step strategy to respond without shutting down or fighting back.
    ✅ How to handle conflict in a way that makes your wife feel heard and respected.
    ✅ What to do when it’s your wife who gets defensive.

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Defensiveness might feel like self-protection, but it actually creates more conflict.
    💡 Your reaction is your responsibility—you don’t have to defend yourself every time.
    💡 Slowing down, validating, and staying present leads to better outcomes.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Recognize the Pattern – Catch yourself in the moment before you react defensively.
    2ïžâƒŁ Pause & Breathe – Give yourself space to respond instead of react.
    3ïžâƒŁ Validate, Don’t Explain – Acknowledge your wife’s feelings without needing to prove your point.
    4ïžâƒŁ Stay Present & Curious – Shift from self-defense to real connection.
    5ïžâƒŁ Practice This Daily – The more you do this, the easier it becomes.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ When was the last time you got defensive in a conversation with your wife?
    ❓ What triggers make you feel like you need to defend yourself?
    ❓ How would your marriage change if you responded with curiosity instead of defensiveness?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

    📅 Book a Coaching Call → angelosantiago.com
    🎯 Download the Better Husband Toolkit → betterhusbandtoolkit.com
    đŸ“ș Subscribe on YouTube → Better Husband Channel
    đŸ“© Email Me → [email protected]

  • 016|How 10 Minutes a Day Can Transform Your Marriage

    016|How 10 Minutes a Day Can Transform Your Marriage

    · Better Husband

    đŸ”„ Want to Be a Better Husband? đŸ”„ Download the Better Husband Toolkit—a short, powerful guide with three essential skills you can start using today to improve your marriage. Get yours now at www.betterhusbandtoolkit.com.

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    Most couples struggle to find quality time together. You live under the same roof, but between work, kids, and distractions, you barely connect. The good news? Just 10 minutes a day can completely transform your marriage.

    In today’s episode, I break down why distraction-free time is the easiest and most powerful way to reconnect with your wife—and why so many men hesitate to do it. You’ll walk away with a simple, actionable plan to start seeing results in your relationship right away.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    ✅ Why most couples struggle to find time for real connection.
    ✅ The shocking amount of time we spend on screens instead of our marriage.
    ✅ How just 10 minutes a day can create intimacy, trust, and deeper connection.
    ✅ What to do if sitting in silence with your wife feels awkward at first.

    Key Takeaways:

    💡 Time isn’t the issue—prioritization is.
    💡 Small, daily moments of connection make the biggest impact over time.
    💡 You don’t need the perfect words; simply being present is enough.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Commit to 10 Minutes a Day – Schedule it like a meeting and follow through.
    2ïžâƒŁ Make It Distraction-Free – No phones, no TV, no multitasking.
    3ïžâƒŁ Find What Works for You – Talk, walk, meditate, or just sit together.
    4ïžâƒŁ Let It Grow Naturally – These moments will lead to deeper connection over time.
    5ïžâƒŁ Communicate with Your Wife – Let her know this is important to you.

    Reflection Questions:

    ❓ How much time do you actually spend in meaningful conversation with your wife?
    ❓ What distractions are keeping you from deeper connection?
    ❓ What’s one small step you can take today to start this habit?

    đŸ“Č Send Angelo a Text

    Ready to Take Action?

    If you’re serious about prioritizing your marriage and making real changes, I’ve opened up coaching spots for men who are truly ready to commit to growth.

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  • 015|The Secret to Handling Your Wife’s Emotions Without Feeling Overwhelmed

    015|The Secret to Handling Your Wife’s Emotions Without Feeling Overwhelmed

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    Do you ever feel lost when your wife is upset? Do you freeze up, try to fix the problem, or just hope it passes? You're not alone. Many men struggle with emotions—both their own and their wife’s. But here’s the truth: the key to handling your wife’s emotions is first learning to understand your own.

    In today’s episode, I break down why emotions feel overwhelming, how we’ve been conditioned to suppress them, and simple steps to build emotional awareness so you can show up for your wife in a way that strengthens your marriage.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why many men struggle with emotions and how it impacts their marriage.The 7 core emotions you need to recognize to better connect with your wife.Why emotional numbing leads to distance in relationships.Simple, actionable steps to get comfortable with emotions without feeling overwhelmed.

    Key Takeaways:

    Avoiding emotions doesn’t make them go away—it creates disconnection.Understanding and naming your emotions helps you handle your wife’s emotions with confidence.Small, intentional steps toward emotional awareness will transform your relationship.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Recognize the 7 Core Emotions – Anger, joy, pain, fear, guilt, shame, and love. Start identifying what you’re feeling throughout the day.
    2ïžâƒŁ Daily Emotional Check-Ins – Ask yourself, What am I feeling right now? This builds awareness and emotional strength.
    3ïžâƒŁ Journaling – Write down your emotions and patterns. This helps you notice what’s really going on beneath the surface.
    4ïžâƒŁ Seek Support – Join a men’s group, talk to a coach, or work with a therapist to develop emotional intelligence.
    5ïžâƒŁ Communicate with Your Wife – Let her know this is new for you and that you’re working on being more present for her.

    Reflection Questions:

    How do you typically react when your wife is emotional?What’s one small step you can take this week to build emotional awareness?How can you start practicing emotional presence in your marriage today?

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  • 014|How to Use Valentine’s Day to Build a Stronger, More Connected Marriage

    014|How to Use Valentine’s Day to Build a Stronger, More Connected Marriage

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    Many men see Valentine’s Day as a commercial scam, an obligation filled with overpriced flowers and chocolates. But what if you could use it to strengthen your marriage instead of just checking a box?

    In today’s episode, I share how to reframe Valentine’s Day from a meaningless Hallmark holiday into a powerful reminder to cherish your wife—not just on February 14th, but all year long.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why ignoring Valentine’s Day might be hurting your marriage (even if your wife says she doesn’t care).The surprising history of Valentine’s Day—how it started and why it became so commercialized.The science behind expressing love and why it’s essential for a thriving marriage.How to use Valentine’s Day as a tool to strengthen your relationship instead of an obligation.

    Key Takeaways:

    Small, consistent acts of love create trust, security, and intimacy in your marriage.Ignoring opportunities to cherish your wife—even if you dislike the holiday—can cause disconnection.Valentine’s Day can be like Thanksgiving for gratitude—a reminder to prioritize your marriage, not just a one-day event.

    Practical Action Steps:

    1ïžâƒŁ Identify Her Love Language – Ask your wife what makes her feel most loved. If she’s unsure, take a quiz together.
    2ïžâƒŁ Make a Plan for February 14th – Even something simple, like a handwritten note or her favorite meal, can make her feel cherished.
    3ïžâƒŁ Schedule Weekly Acts of Love – Set reminders to consistently show affection through words, touch, gifts, time, or acts of service.

    Reflection Questions:

    Have you ever ignored Valentine’s Day? How did it make your wife feel?What’s one small way you can show your wife she matters this week?How can you carry this mindset beyond February 14th into the rest of your marriage?

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  • 013|Choosing Comfort Over Connection is Sabotaging Your Marriage

    013|Choosing Comfort Over Connection is Sabotaging Your Marriage

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    Are you prioritizing comfort over connection in your marriage? Many men fall into the trap of avoiding conflict to keep the peace, but this avoidance creates distance and erodes intimacy. In today’s episode, I share why choosing comfort over connection is sabotaging your marriage and how to break free from the comfort trap to build a deeper, more fulfilling relationship.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why avoiding conflict doesn’t create peace—it creates disconnection.The role of discomfort in fostering intimacy and connection.How modern marriages demand new relational skills for lasting intimacy.

    Key Takeaways:

    Intimacy thrives when we embrace vulnerability and navigate discomfort together.Relationships naturally go through cycles of harmony, disharmony, and repair. Success depends on how you handle the repair process.Avoiding conflict (the comfort trap) keeps you stuck and prevents deeper connection.

    Practical Action Steps:

    Daily Check-Ins: Spend 5 minutes each day asking your wife, “How are you feeling? What do you need?” Practice active listening.Repair Rituals: After disagreements, reflect on your part and take accountability. Use phrases like, “I see how I hurt you. How can I make it right?”Cherishing Challenge: Commit to three small gestures of love each week, like writing a note or planning a surprise.

    Reflection Questions:

    When was the last time you avoided conflict for the sake of comfort?How can you lean into discomfort this week to foster connection in your marriage?

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  • 012|Navigating Sexual Frustration in Marriage—And How to Fix It

    012|Navigating Sexual Frustration in Marriage—And How to Fix It

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    Do you and your wife seem to be on different pages when it comes to sex? Whether you’re the one wanting more intimacy or the one pulling back, differing sex drives can create frustration, hurt, and even resentment in a marriage. But it doesn’t have to stay that way.

    In this episode of Better Husband, we dive into one of the most common—and sensitive—issues in marriage: sexual desire differences. I’ll unpack why this happens, how it impacts your relationship, and what you can do to reconnect with your wife emotionally, physically, and sexually.

    By the end of this episode, you’ll know how to:

    Understand the root causes of differing sex drives.Rebuild emotional intimacy as the foundation for a better connection.Shift your focus from pressure to presence with actionable steps.Communicate with curiosity and empathy to deepen trust.Explore ways to reignite desire and intimacy through fun and playfulness.

    I’ll also share a personal story about a client who felt stuck in his marriage and how we used the different categories of intimacy—emotional, relational, physical, and more—to rebuild connection and trust.

    Practical exercises you’ll learn include:

    Practicing empathy by listening without defending.Establishing a reconnection ritual to nurture your relationship.Reflecting on your role and committing to positive change.Engaging in non-sexual physical intimacy to foster closeness.

    Sexual frustration doesn’t have to be a roadblock in your marriage. With understanding, intention, and a focus on emotional connection, you can bridge the gap and create a fulfilling relationship for both of you.

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  • 011|The Secret to Ending Arguments in Your Marriage: Yield, Don’t Defend

    011|The Secret to Ending Arguments in Your Marriage: Yield, Don’t Defend

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    Arguments in marriage can feel like a never-ending cycle, but there’s a way to break free. In this episode of Better Husband, I uncover the secret to ending arguments in your marriage: learning how to yield instead of defend. When you make your wife’s experience the priority instead of rushing to explain yourself, you can create deeper trust and connection.

    I’ll share relatable examples—including one from one of my favorite movies, The Dark Knight Rises—to highlight how defensiveness erodes relationships and what it looks like to respond with empathy and generosity. Plus, I’ll teach you the exact steps to take when your partner is upset, including a powerful question to ask that can instantly de-escalate tension.

    By the end, you’ll know how to:

    Respond to your wife with compassion instead of defensiveness.Listen deeply to her experience and reflect it back.Ask empathetic questions that prioritize her needs.Build trust and connection, one small moment at a time.

    This episode is packed with practical advice to help you show up as the husband you know you can be.

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  • 010|Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage: 5 Essential Steps After Breaking It

    010|Rebuild Trust in Your Marriage: 5 Essential Steps After Breaking It

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    Repairing your marriage after breaking trust can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t have to be. In this episode of Better Husband, I walk you through five essential steps to repair the damage and rebuild trust with your wife. From taking ownership of your mistakes to meaningful apologies backed by action, these steps are designed to help you create a stronger, more connected marriage.

    I also share a personal story about how I let my wife down by failing to prioritize date nights—and what I did to turn it around. Whether you’re navigating a major breach of trust or smaller day-to-day frustrations, this episode has practical advice you can start using today.

    By the end, you’ll know how to:

    Own your mistakes without defensiveness.
    Truly listen to your wife’s perspective.
    Apologize in a way that rebuilds trust.
    Follow through on your commitments.
    Give your wife the time and space she needs to heal.

    Mistakes don’t have to define your marriage. What matters is how you respond.

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  • 009|Create the Marriage You Want in 2025: 8 Powerful Questions for Husbands

    009|Create the Marriage You Want in 2025: 8 Powerful Questions for Husbands

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    Download the Better Husband Questions PDF at http://www.betterhusbandquestions.com

    Are you ready to create the marriage you and your wife truly want in 2025? In this episode of Better Husband, I’ll guide you through eight powerful questions to help you set a clear vision for your relationship.

    These questions are split into two categories:

    Four for you to reflect on individually to identify what you want, how you can show up better, and how to align with your wife’s needs.Four to answer together as a couple, to create a shared vision for your future.

    Visioning is a proactive act of intention, a way to strengthen your marriage by identifying what’s working, what needs attention, and what you both want to build together. I’ll share a personal story from a trip to Belize that sparked transformative conversations in my own marriage, and explain why creating a vision for your marriage can be a game-changer.

    This episode is packed with actionable insights and practical steps to help you design the marriage you and your wife deserve in 2025. Don’t wait for things to improve—take the reins and make it happen.

    What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

    Why visioning is critical to building a stronger marriage.The eight key questions to guide your reflection and conversations with your wife.How to align on shared goals and dreams to create a meaningful partnership.Why being intentional in your marriage leads to greater intimacy and connection.

    Take the first step—download the Better Husband Questions PDF to start your journey: http://www.betterhusbandquestions.com.

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  • 008|What Every Husband Should Know About Forgiveness and Trust with Dr. Bruce Chalmer

    008|What Every Husband Should Know About Forgiveness and Trust with Dr. Bruce Chalmer

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    In this episode of Better Husband, I am joined by psychologist Dr. Bruce Chalmer. We explore the critical issues in marriage when trust has been broken. Dr. Chalmer shares insights from his book 'Betrayal and Forgiveness,' discusses common misconceptions about trust, and offers practical steps for maintaining strong, trusting relationships.

    Connect with Dr. Bruce Chalmer
    Website: https://brucechalmer.com/

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  • 007|How to Avoid Conflict in Your Marriage By Asking This One Question First

    007|How to Avoid Conflict in Your Marriage By Asking This One Question First

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    When conflict arises in your marriage, the words you choose can either help or hurt your relationship. In this episode of Better Husband, I explore the crucial question you must ask yourself during conflicts: Is what I'm about to say going to help or hurt my marriage? I'll share a simple four-step framework, CALM (Clarify, Acknowledge, Look, Manage), designed to help you handle conflicts in a way that strengthens your relationship. Using real-life examples, including my own experiences, I'll demonstrate how to communicate clearly, empathize with your partner, focus on what’s best for the marriage, and manage outcomes without resentment.

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