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Dear Stef,
I need your help. I've been a long time listener and sought out therapy as soon as I turned 18. Between then and now I have made very limited progress chipping away at my armor and processing my childhood. I'm panicking at how long its taking when I want to cross the desert, meet a virtuous woman and maketh the babies.
I think biggest hurdle is that I'm quite split between my emotional and intellectual. I'm really strong on the intellectual side, identifying patterns, reasoning through healthy behavior, and making theoretical connections with my past. I've learned this alone doesn't work. With me, it doesn't touch my beliefs or really change how I feel or even open a door for me to explore or interact with that realm. I feel hopelessly broken.
To be more fair, I have occasionally made connections between these two worlds but only briefly a handful of times in therapy. That's not enough. I still have many dysfunctional behaviors from my near death experience called childhood. I had no bond, was not parenting and was constantly in danger of violence from my middle brother and abandonment from my sadistic mother.
I'm baffled that I can logically understand how bad I had it but still lag behind so much with my emotions and lack of empathy for myself. Typically in your call-in, once people understand, they connect. I am so fucking frustrated. No matter what I've tried with two therapists and journaling, I'm not touching it.
I am not without emotions, I can feel them strongly. I do try to suppress them until their intensity overpowers the suppression.
Talking about suppressing, I've been experiencing Chronic Fatigue Syndrome(self diagnosed) for the past 10 years. I've been to alternative, normal and specialist doctors and ruled out all kinds of illnesses, infections and deficiencies. I'm left with a "*shrug*, we don't know what's wrong with you". I have a working hypothesis that it's mental with physiological effects. I both overuse my fight-or-flight and ignore/suppress the feedback of my body. I just keep pushing through and at some point, my body has burnt out and has trouble repairing muscle damage. You are supposed to repair when you are safe!
On another note, fair warning, my mom fights with fog. Prior to writing this, I have tried to overthink this conversation you and I'll have. I kept looping in those conversations because my inner mom would lose to inner Stef. She tried fighting tooth and nail to get by with "I don't know" and 'I don't remember". When she couldn't outwit or play dumb/passive or manipulate, I felt unspeakable danger will occur, like I'd die. Contrary, I think this is when SHE dies and I can be free to be vulnerable.
In my experience, most of my past is a grand canyon chasm of fog so thick you can cut a slice of it and serve it as meringue. Only a few plateaus (memories) peek out with little sense of depth. On the same note, in a therapy setting, when I try to bring awareness to what I'm feeling, I get nothing, like going to a play with a white curtain in front of the performance the whole time. The cast is doing something behind there and no matter what, the curtains never part.
There's quite a trail of blood leading to my mother in the my present day disfunctions: Whipping myself verbally, rounding down my accomplishments, believing I'm worthless and feeling unsafe in social situations to the point where its easier to avoid most interactions, and fear of dating due to risk of abandonment.
My ACE score is 6 or 7 of 10. Not sure on the whether the one about parent being assaulted counts. There was no drug use, prison, or sexual abuse (not counting early exposure to pornography through unfettered internet access). My mother is a malignant narcissist, father a workaholic, middle brother is really fucked up, oldest brother seems kinda okay but sides with my mother.
I've been torturing myself for the past 3 weeks straight trying to ask for your help. I've been strongly avoiding and fearing it and yet strongly intent to make it happen. Something tells me that I did a good job providing enough info in this email alone to for you to help me get unstuck.
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How to understand and deal with anxiety of women?
Hey Stefan
Hope all is well
Have you and your daughter been on any adventures?
Father daughter memories?
Whatâs something youâd like to experience with your family while youâre here in this life together ?
Are you allowed in New Zealand?!
It would be nice to make a series on the Examination of the major European philosophers and philosophic movements of the 17th and 18th centuries. Particular attention paid to the transition out of the medieval period into the Age of Enlightenment.
Happy with the bitcoin price?
Why does no one talk about what happened to Rhodesia?
Do you still support fluoridation given it is now a known neurotoxin?
If you still experience pain thinking about a toxic relationship you walked away from, does this mean you havenât processed the morality properly? Iâm still thinking about my sister that I donât speak to anymore. My therapist said that it will always be a âpain point.â What are your thoughts? (asking again- apologies if you answered in a previous stream and I missed it.)
Dear Stef, I am currently at a bar on a late Saturday night, I just ordered a drink and the bartender said to me after I ordered a beer, âIs that all lovely?â. It was strange to hear this but also flattering to hear a young female bartender refer to me as âlovelyâ. It made me believe that this young bartender was probably flirting with me. I donât recall any other bartender using the word lovely towards me. whilst the term âlovelyâ is often used by older women to refer to younger people, this woman was approximately in her early 20âs about 10 years younger than me. She looked reasonably attractive, blonde hair, bright blue eyes but she was also a little chubby, so I wouldnât date her to be frank, but my question still stands, if a younger woman says to a man âIs that all lovely?â. 1. Would she say that to a man she is not attracted to?
2. Would you say it is flirting to use the term âIs that all lovely?â. Iâve been to my local bar for the past 10 years and I never recall hearing a bartender say to me âIs that all lovely?â. If you do
think it is flirting, do
you think it is appropriate to ask her out as Iâm ordering or should I attempt to find her after work or when she is on her lunch break when there is a bit more privacy away from
other customers?
Dear Stef are nightclubs and bars in Canada known as a place where people meet, but the only people who meet there are generally trashy people? I ask because I am currently in a bar trying to find a girlfriend, I am sitting alone because I donât feel the need to bring male friends with me and to be frank I donât have any male friends not that that bothers me because I would just use male friends as wingman to meet women. Anyway I donât live in Canada anyway, I live in the continent of Australia, anyway Iâm listening to this terrible hip hop music playing which is strange because there arenât many African people living in Australia, I see people talking and socialising at this bar late on Saturday night and I am just perplexed by the whole experience which I find just almost miserable to be honest. Stef what chance do I have to find a girlfriend at a place like this? it may seem like a strange question but itâs not like there are alternative ideal places a man can go to meet women and ask them out? Anyway why is the West infected with this terrible hip hop music especially in Australia where there are virtually no black people, this music really infects my mind to be frank?
What do you think about Saylor starting a fund that buys so much BTC?
If youâve researched it: Is it a good thing or bad thing?
Hi Stef, I asked this question the other day? I was wondering if you had an opinion on outsourcing. Large companies sending jobs to third world countries, and paying pennies on the dollar. Its a part of the free market and capitalisms, and wonder if it could be considered predatory, or just supply and demand. The consumer loses out on jobs, but benefits on cheaper goods and services, and the third world although paid a low wage, still benefit from a better job otherwise provided by their society. Thoughts?
Also do you have any thoughts on the United Healthcare CEO being murdered. Again, there seems to be a lot of happiness over a man being murdered. People feel that he caused the deaths of many people because the company denied a lot of claims. But is that just the jealousy of the poor, who do not appreciate the value of the insurance company and want free healthcare, or again the free market at work once again?
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In this conversation, Stefan discusses marital challenges with a caller and his wife, Alice, centered around parenting three young children. The couple struggles with disconnection and resentment, particularly concerning physical intimacy since the birth of their twins. Alice shares her anxiety stemming from a difficult upbringing, while the caller reflects on his father's emotional unavailability.
Stefan emphasizes the importance of addressing unresolved traumas, mutual respect, and open communication to meet each other's emotional needs. He offers actionable advice on establishing boundaries and highlights the significance of intimacy as a vital element of their relationship. The conversation underscores the complexities of marriage and the necessity of fostering connection amid parenting challenges.
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Sunday Morning Live 6 April 2025
In this episode, I navigate a wide array of engaging topics, including the evolving economic landscape influenced by the pandemic and geopolitical shifts. I examine the role of Bitcoin as a refuge during economic instability and delve into the complexities surrounding gender identity and social constructs, addressing the nuances between subjective experiences and objective realities. I explore the societal implications of labels like "sexist" and "misogynist," emphasizing accountability in discussions. The conversation also touches on emotional integrity in relationships and the need for clear communication. I reflect on the decline of manufacturing quality and the shift to disposable consumerism, while also highlighting the importance of maintaining familial bonds. We conclude with inspiring narratives of personal growth from listeners, celebrating their resilience amid societal pressures.
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Friday Night Live 4 April 2025
In this episode, I critically analyze the Stanford Prison Experiment in light of Thibaut Le Texier's recent book and Russell T. Warne's critique, which questions the experiment's integrity and ethical violations. I challenge the notion of an inherent capacity for cruelty within humans, advocating for a more hopeful perspective on human nature.
Discussions on societal perceptions of morality and the impact of social norms on self-worth lead to an emphasis on honesty in relationships. As I critique sensationalized narratives that foster mistrust, I encourage listeners to reflect on their instincts and engage in genuine connections while advocating for moral accountability amidst life's complexities.
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Dear Stef I was recently having some fun with ChatGPT and I was asking it if various historical figures such as Kant, Schopenhauer and Churchill are sexist to which it replied âYesâ. I then asked it âIs Stefan Molyneux sexist?â to which it replied (quoting):
âYes, Stefan Molyneux, a controversial figure known for his online videos and advocacy of various far-right and anti-feminist viewpoints, has been widely criticized for promoting sexist ideas. His views on gender are often seen as regressive and aligned with traditionalist, anti-feminist beliefs.
Here are some ways in which Molyneux has expressed sexist views:
1. Misogyny and Gender Essentialism: Molyneux often promotes a rigid view of gender roles, suggesting that men and women have inherently different, and complementary, roles in society. He believes that men are naturally suited to leadership, rational thinking, and public life, while women are biologically inclined toward nurturing, domesticity, and emotional roles. These views align with an essentialist understanding of gender, where biological differences are used to justify inequalities in power and opportunity.
2. Criticism of Feminism: Molyneux has been an outspoken critic of feminism, frequently claiming that it has "ruined" society by promoting the idea of gender equality and undermining traditional family structures. He dismisses feminism as a harmful ideology, accusing it of promoting victimhood and entitlement among women, while downplaying issues like domestic violence against men.
3. Views on Relationships and Marriage: Molyneux often espouses a controversial view of relationships between men and women, promoting the idea that women are hypergamous (i.e., they are primarily interested in marrying men of higher status or resources) and that men should be wary of women's desires for financial support and social status. He has also advocated for "alpha male" behavior, claiming that men should assert dominance in relationships to maintain control and avoid being exploited by women.
4. Denial of Gender Equality: Molyneux rejects the idea that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities in many areas of society, often citing his belief in traditional gender roles. For example, he has suggested that women are not suited for leadership roles in politics or business because they are driven by emotionality rather than reason.
Molyneuxâs views are deeply controversial and are considered by many to be deeply sexist and out of step with contemporary gender equality movements. His rhetoric has been widely criticized for promoting harmful stereotypes about both women and men and for encouraging a backlash against feminist progress.â
There seems to be an acknowledgment of some of your beliefs & truthful statements you have made but there also seems to be an unusual framing of your philosophy around women. Anyhow if you believe that ChatGPT is misrepresenting your views what would be your response to it?
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Wednesday Night Live 2 April 2025
This episode covers socio-economic issues, focusing on tariffs and trade barriers, while tackling listener questions. I analyze G20 tariff rates, the implications for America's trade position, and the market response to tariff announcements. We also discuss ideological motivations behind tariff beliefs and the disproportionate crime rates attributed to a small population segment. The conversation shifts to honesty in relationships, the impact of deceit, and cultural reflections on Val Kilmer's films and media franchises like Star Wars. I emphasize the importance of fostering meaningful dialogue and encourage audience participation in future discussions.
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"Should a moralist ignore consequence and argue for UPB purely on the basis of epistemology and pure philosophical merit, while ignoring the elephant in the room, which is the question we all subconsciously ask. âHow does this benefit my survival?â
"UPB isnât validated or invalidated by its consequences, but at the same time, discussions of UPB inevitably involve consequences. How do we reconcile this? Especially since free will is in the picture and we donât want predictions about the future to invalidate choice.
"For example, when asked about your thoughts on the success of UPB close to 20 years after publication, you mentioned reductions in violence against children with the expectation that this trend would continue if UPB continues to be spread. Would the theory and observation that UPB leads to reductions in violence against children be a deterministic portrayal of human beings? If we avoid discussing consequences to avoid this issue, then if someone wants to discuss UPB on the merit of usefulness towards themselves and society as a whole, do we stick to purely philosophical merit? Or do we say there are no guarantees, but it will make a desirable outcome more likely.
"If we use terms such as 'more likely' in order to maintain philosophical integrity, how do we out compete those who are certain/dogmatic, benefiting from the momentum of societal norms in order to âvalidateâ their false theories.
"Regarding the first question about the relationship between moral frameworks, their consequences and free will. I was thinking that if your definition is used where free will is defined as our ability to compare proposed actions to ideal standards then UPB provides ideal standards, increasing our capacity for free will. With this increased capacity, it becomes more likely for moral outcomes to occur..."
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"I listen to you daily and have been for months now. Previously I had been an on-again, off-again frequent listener since I believe 2013 or so (started with YouTube then navigated to your website.) Your wisdom and insight is invaluable, and I have called in before now twice. I am now a subscriber and have donated before. Thank you so much.
"The reason I wish to call in this time is because my relationship with the mother of my 3 children has finally come to an end, I hope for good. That is the plan, anyway. The short version just for this synopsis is that we have been slowly drifting apart for the last few months, and finally earlier this week she broke it off with me over text. This came after we were on 'non-speaking terms' following an incident where I called her a bitch for the way she was talking to me. We can speak more about that incident, but essentially, there was a catalyst, and she called it quits after that.
"I am not against the breakup - in fact, I am happy that one of us finally decided to make it happen. I have been feeling more and more contempt towards her over the years, and I am sure I felt it in her towards me as well. As you have mentioned many a time before, contempt towards one another is the final nail in the coffin in a relationship (forgive me if I am misconstruing that.) But, the major caveat in all of this is that we have 3 children together. So for my part, I had planned to stay together for their sake at least until they were older teenagers (they are currently 8, 6 and 5), but, and this is where the reason for my call really comes in, from my perspective she is incredibly unreasonable, illogical, and narcissistic or close to it. Therefore, instead of staying together for the kids, she believes she is a 'better mom and person' when she is single, and wants to separate, including living and parenting in separate households. I will present my arguments as to why she is not reasonable during our call, should you think it necessary. I am not one of those callers who will be painting the other person as the villain - that is not the case. I have my bad sides as well, and my flaws, and I am not always reasonable either.
"Stef, I am worried how co-parenting with her will proceed. We are still living together until the New Year. I should have no issue with my income getting a medium-sized place to live in where the kids can stay with me half of the time. There school routines should not change. I have a mother who is able to assist with child care as well as an aunt, and as a last resort we could afford a babysitter. In the logistics sense, therefore, there are no 'issues.' The real problem I need guidance with is how to navigate this co-parenting scenario for the next 10 or so years while the kids do not have their own free will to choose who to live with, because my fear is that if I don't appease her craziness to a certain degree, she will turn the kids against me or try something insane like moving outside of town or wasting money on Family Court to get me less access. There are also other concerns which I will talk to you about, of a different legal nature, causing me to be weary.
"What is the sweet spot for dealing with people like this - should I stick to my convictions on everything and face what may come from her irrational mind, for the sake of raising my kids the exact way I want, or is it not 'defeat' to make concessions where appropriate to avoid 'rocking the boat' too much?
"My previous calls were #3995 from Feb of 2018 and #5113 from February 5, 2023, if you want to refresh your memory of my situation overall. For your listeners, I hope they review all of these calls if they find themselves about to enter a serious relationship at a young age or with any woman, in general, who they have doubts about / have noticed red flags in ESPECIALLY if the prospect of having children with said woman is on the table. This is how your life could turn out if you do not heed the warnings, and heed the teachings of Stefan and philosophy! I hope this is the last call I ever need to make about this topic, and I hope it helps others. Lastly, I plan to come clean on a few things that I was not honest about in the call from a year and a half ago, because I am ready to embrace full honesty and truth. The burden of falsehood is too great, but not for myself, for my children."
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Why are we here?
I missed the highest possible calling in my life. It felt like a destiny. My subconscious tried to tell me using terror, feelings of impending doom, inspiration, synchronicity & old memories & I failed to listen. Help?
What are your thoughts on the classical cynic school? Pros cons on that type of asceticism?
Can you justify Jesus as a gate keeper of jungian collective unconsciousness?
What's the proper balance of personal ambition (that is virtuous), and family life (including waged and home work for the family)?
How would ancapistan build mUh rOaDz? đ§
#checkmate
How can therapy help you change that damn profile pic bro.
At times it seems philosophical thought is a form of neuroticism. Neuroticism is built into nature. Itâs that part of a living organism that realizes if it doesnât engage in a consciousness that connects itself to survival followed by precise behavior to assure that survival, it will perish. Thought that goes beyond that is mostly superfluous. But with exception it leads to discovery and invention, some of which can become a means of exchange. This further assuring oneâs survival. Whether this thought leads to great truth, or if itâs ever in our scope to comprehend truth, vs. âtruthsâ, is yet to be seen. We always seem aware we can deduce more, and believe despite the jarring solitude of our life filled planet in a barren universe, everything is in our environment and minds to solve all our problems beyond the marvel of us existing in the first place. Iâm sure AI will give us the tools to see ourselves and beyond ourselves. It seems our belief there is more is always proving âitselfâ. The next few decades will be profound in that regard.
Is it completely unreasonable if I keep falling or getting involved with women already in relationships? on my mind it makes some sense that the most interesting and attractive women are "taken"... apparently bored and unfaithful, but taken in the end. Maybe after a certain age ppl just cling to loveless relationships. Maybe when I turn 40 they will all be divorced and I will be like 'Pass, it turns out I liked you better when you were just a fling'
What is the philosophy of the song âThe Logical Songâ by SuperTramp? (Lyrics follow):
âWhen I was young, it seemed that life was so wonderful
A miracle, oh, it was beautiful, magical
And all the birds in the trees, well they'd be singing so happily
Oh, joyfully, oh, playfully watching me
But then they sent me away to teach me how to be sensible
Logical, oh, responsible, practical
Then they showed me a world where I could be so dependable
Oh, clinical, oh, intellectual, cynical
There are times when all the world's asleep
The questions run too deep
For such a simple man
Won't you please, please tell me what we've learned?
I know it sounds absurd
Please tell me who I am
I said, now, watch what you say, they'll be calling you a radical
A liberal, oh, fanatical, criminal
Oh, won't you sign up your name? We'd like to feel you're acceptable
Respectable, oh, presentable, a vegetable
Oh, take, take, take it, yeah
But at night, when all the world's asleep
The questions run so deep
For such a simple man
Won't you please (oh, won't you tell me)
Please tell me what we've learned?
(Can you hear me?) I know it sounds absurd
(Oh, won't you tell me) please tell me who I am
Who I am, who I am, who I am
What is your best advise on how to talk to small children about "defoo:ed" grand parents and aunts?
My kids (2 an 4) have had a relationship with my parents and my sister before I finally quit contact with them this year, after they tried to actively ruin my marriage. The kids have happy and fun memories of my family members, and occasionally say that they miss them and want to visit them - although it becomes less and less frequent as time goes. Once, during the first month of quit contact, I over-heard my 4 year-old playing with two stuffed animals, pretending that they were grandma and grandpa... and that they were dead. She was very neutral, and matter-of-fact in the tone of her voice. No hint of sadness or distress.
I have explained to my kids that my family have done bad things in a manner that I think is understandable for their age, without trying to take away the fun memories they have. I usually will say something like "I understand that you miss Grandma. But she was not very nice to me when I was a child like you, and she made me feel really bad by not listening to me when I was sad", or "I know Auntie was really fun to play with, but Auntie is jealous, and have tried to destroy my relationship with dad". And sometimes I will just acknowledge their feelings, and not say anything more. "I understand that you miss Grandma and Grandpa, how does it feel to miss them?"
How do I best balance this? I don't want to put too much focus on it, or transfer my feelings onto my kids... but I also thinks it's really important that they fully understand why we don't see my family anymore. And of course why I was not able to fully quit contact with them as soon as I turned 18, or at least before my kids were born, is a life-lesson that caused me a lot of pain, but that I hope can be of value to them as they grow older. But I don't want to diminish their feelings, which might be that they genuinely miss my family. I understand this is a dilemma caused by my bad choices, and I take full accountability- which is why I am writing this.
Any advice and thoughts on this would be most helpful đ Thank you so much!
How do somewhat, inalterably-poor (I have a Mental Disability), conservative-leaning white men, find datable white women, especially if they live in a city?
Been in this pickle for over a decade.
should i just accept being alone and give up hope if I can't change from being poor - crypto may change my future, but I don't like spending money on stuff other than essentials, except when it comes to food)
there is a long waitlist for Community activities for people with similar disabilities and most of the women that attend are significantly older,
so that option while I'm looking into it, isn't exactly realistic.
Hello. How can philosophy help me? I have many questions for your thoughts, however one is always on my mind and tears at me constantly. How are so many people able to torture animals? I grew up in the 70s watching Public Television during a time when censorship was more lax and feelings or empathy and snowflakes were not a consideration. There I witnessed as a child torture to lab animals - the attendants were having fun so brutally torturing baboons to death. I am sickened constantly, every day, by how those lab students (they sounded like college students) laughed and laughed and had so much fun, I cannot tell you what they did and I've never told anyone and I never will. I also have seen horrible torture of animals in The Daily Mail UK of dogs, a greyhound in particular, that was lifted and put into a gigantic boiling pot. It tried to get out but couldn't and was boiled alive. This and much more graphic torture to dogs shown in The Daily Mail UK Yulon festival in China. Most of my life I have been involved with spreading the word through letters and informing some people in conversations if there was a moment that it actually would fit in (doesn't come up much). I've been involved on twitter about all this. I'm now also on instagram trying to spread this information. I've seen horrible pictures of bears being tortured to death, after they had their teeth pulled out, tied up as pit bulls bit and tore at it as entertainment at an Asian wedding - it's seen as fun and what a grand wedding it was. This is all normal stuff, by the way, this is not unusual as I've seen and researched and wrote letters to whomever I could that might help and helped charities when I could, etc etc. All this (animal torture) and so much more I've seen (horrible chicken farms during elementary class trips even) throughout my long life, most recently torture of wild caught dolphins from disgusting Finland hunters while children watched and participated on the beach. I hate humanity. Talking to me in person, you would never know that fact - of course not. I tried counseling, 4 times over many years, and each therapist left me with more trauma then when I entered their doors. They were so uncomfortable when I said I hated people. People, as generally, not everyone! I like good people and I hate bad people = duh! They were not interested in my deep feelings, they were only interested in helping my self-esteem, as if that was truly what was always wrong with me! I never told any of them that I wanted help with my self-esteem. Maybe they saw me as a lost cause and figured it was a self-esteem issue. I know it sounds like a lot. Your philosophical thoughts please, not about me, but the human/torture/animal stuff.
As a former white-collar business owner, could you offer some insights into why so many white-collar business owners nowadays expect swiss army knife employees for salaries commensurate with only one of their skills? For example, I might see a job posting for a senior-level marketing copywriter, but required qualifications will also include social media management, several graphic design and video editing programs, coding knowledge, project management software, etc. Often, these roles will advertise below the average salary for someone who is solely a copywriter, despite their desired candidates filling the shoes of multiple employees. As a senior-level professional in my field, I've tried my best to keep up with these qualification expectations rather than complaining because I know they'll make me more competitive, but I've had to turn down several offers by people who lowballed my already lowball salary expectations while expecting me alone to BE the team. Speaking only from the employee side, I cannot see the rationale for why an employer would expect someone to accept these terms.
You have mentioned that you, as a child, thought that most other people was more moral and more reasonable. Then you started to realize they weren't.
How did you deal with your disappointment when you left childhood behind and realized that the world wasn't the nice place you expected it to be?
How do you raise daughters to not be promiscuous or Instagram-obsessed?
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In this episode, I discuss Universally Preferable Behavior (UPB) with a caller looking to deepen their understanding of ethics. We define UPB as a systematic method for evaluating moral rules and explore its application through real-life scenarios, such as the ethics of assault. As we examine complex issues like fraud and societal responsibilities, we highlight how UPB addresses objections and reinforces the universality of truth. The conversation concludes with a focus on UPB's potential to reduce societal violence and its implications for parenting, encouraging listeners to reflect on the relevance of these ideas in their own ethical lives.
References
Universally Preferable Behaviour: A Rational Proof of Secular Ethics (2007)
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Essential Philosophy (2018)
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New UPB Category! (2022)
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Sunday Morning Live 30 March 2025
In this episode, I engage with our community, addressing personal dilemmas ranging from guilt stemming from impulsive reactions to the interplay between anxiety and suppressed anger. We explore the implications of recent financial market trends, particularly in gold and cryptocurrencies, and how these shifts reflect broader economic sentiments. The discussion delves into the complexities of navigating toxic dynamics in personal relationships, emphasizing the importance of honesty for the well-being of children involved. I advocate for authenticity amidst societal pressures and reflect on the dual desires for connection and integrity. Additionally, I share insights into my upcoming literary work, introducing a character grappling with addiction and existential struggles. The episode concludes with a contemplation on the influence of societal structures on individual identity and the lessons learned from personal experiences.
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In this episode, I tackle the complex topic of human value, discussing its subjective nature and how it fluctuates based on relationships and context. I challenge the idea of universal worth, prompting listeners to reflect on historical figures and their actions. The conversation also addresses navigating family dynamics post-trauma and the intricacies of obligation versus desire in marriage, emphasizing the need for communication to avoid manipulation. Overall, the episode encourages deeper reflection on valuing oneself and others within relationships.
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Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Love never fails. But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13:4-13
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In this episode, we examine a caller's challenging journey through a tumultuous marriage marked by his wife's declining mental health and the complications of expanding their family. He reflects on red flags and chaotic incidents stemming from her struggles with emotional stability and substance use, leading to police involvement. The discussion highlights themes of accountability, self-awareness, and the importance of navigating relationships with clarity to protect their children from repeating past mistakes.
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Wednesday Night Live 26 March 2025
In this episode, we discuss the evolving dynamics of modern relationships, focusing on changing perceptions of male attractiveness among women and the impact of societal pressures. We explore how prioritizing social validation affects romantic connections and emphasize the importance of emotional bonds in courtship. Additionally, we analyze the influence of economic pressures on family structures and community support, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own experiences and values in navigating todayâs relationship landscape.
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In this episode, I tackle listener questions about the rise of single motherhood, examining how state-supported wealth redistribution has shifted children from financial burdens to economic assets. This change empowers women to raise children independently, altering traditional family dynamics and mate selection.
We discuss socio-economic factors shaping family structures and critique the divisive nature of the 'woke' movement, emphasizing its impact on societal discourse. I also highlight the importance of personal accountability and stability in fostering healthy relationships. The conversation underscores the evolving challenges within society, encouraging listeners to reflect on these themes.
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This lecture examines the strategies for overcoming negative emotions through two main theories: the theory of stimulus and the theory of opposites. The speaker discusses how external factors can influence emotional well-being, emphasizing the need to identify and eliminate negative stimuli from one's environment. Personal anecdotes illustrate the impact of unsupportive relationships on issues like depression and social anxiety.
Transitioning to the theory of opposites, the speaker advocates for actions that counteract past negative experiences, promoting growth and independence. Practical strategies for applying these theories are offered, encouraging listeners to assess their influences and reclaim their emotional power. The lecture concludes with an empowering message about the journey of emotional healing, highlighting the importance of self-awareness and deliberate actions for personal growth.
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Topic : Dating crazy women.
Topic Detail: Hi Stef. Hope youâre well. Stef I keep dating crazy women and feeling intense pain for too long afterwards. I need your help please. Can we do a call in please. Weâve spoken once before.
Number of years as a listener: 10 years
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Sunday Morning Live 23 March 2025
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In this episode, I explore the implications of government welfare programs on personal health choices, highlighting how a substantial portion of Coca-Cola's revenue comes from assistance. I critique the ethical concerns of promoting unhealthy foods, questioning the freedom versus responsibility dynamic within welfare systems.
The discussion also examines anger as a form of hope in human relationships, using a listener's experience to illustrate how unresolved issues can perpetuate dysfunction. I critique cultural narratives that oversimplify emotional breakthroughs and urge listeners to confront painful realities instead of pursuing unrealistic hopes. The episode concludes with a call for deeper exploration of these themes through listener questions.
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