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What if the things you’re most ashamed of — the things you swore you’d never tell anyone — are the very things holding you back?
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox open up the “shame files” and share the moments they’ve buried for years: the gambling, the stealing, the lying, the drinking, the secrets, the things they hoped no one would ever find out.
Together, they unpack how shame shapes our identities, how we carry guilt that was never ours to begin with, and how hiding the truth keeps us sick, small, and disconnected. From addiction and childhood trauma to money meltdowns and compulsive people-pleasing, this is a raw and honest look at what happens when we finally say it out loud.
If you’ve ever thought, “If they knew the real me, they’d leave,” — this episode is your proof that healing starts with honesty. -
“For most of my life, I thought I was just a bad person — lazy, dramatic, messy, and too much”. In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rox shares the raw truth about being diagnosed with ADHD in adulthood, and how it changed everything.
Alongside Rich, she reflects on the years of masking, people-pleasing, addiction, and breakdowns that came from not understanding her own brain. Together, they explore the emotional weight of a late diagnosis — the grief, the relief, the shame, and the transformation.
If you've ever asked yourself “Why am I like this?” — if you’ve ever felt like you’re failing at life for reasons you can’t explain — this episode will hit home. Because sometimes, a diagnosis isn’t just a label. It’s a lifeline. -
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Ever planned a total life overhaul, only to burn out in three days and feel even worse? Yeah, us too.
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox get brutally honest about why we chase fantasy fixes—like crash diets, productivity sprints, or becoming a totally new person overnight—and why those plans always fall apart. From ADHD brains addicted to dopamine and all-or-nothing thinking, to trauma-based shame spirals and the lure of a brand new notebook, we unpack the psychology behind self-sabotage.
But more importantly, we talk about the antidote: small victories. You’ll hear about money meltdowns, fantasy meal plans, unfinished wardrobes, and why building trust with yourself through micro-changes is the only sustainable way to grow.
If you’ve ever thought, “I should have my life together by now”—this one’s for you. -
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the quiet epidemic of self-hatred. We explore where it really comes from: childhood trauma, rejection, bullying, addiction, neurodivergence, and the survival strategies we learned just to make it through. Whether it's self-sabotage, choosing the wrong people, or never feeling good enough, self-hate often hides in plain sight.
We share our own stories—gambling addiction, self-harm, broken relationships, and shame—and the long, messy road toward finally learning to treat ourselves with compassion. If you’ve ever struggled with that voice in your head that says you’re not enough, this is the episode you need.
We also break down some practical ways to start changing the script: how to recognise your inner critic, track your self-talk, accept compliments without deflecting, and understand that self-hatred is something you learned—which means it’s something you can unlearn. -
We finally talk about therapy — the good, the bad, and the absolutely brutal. From Rich’s years of avoiding it to Rox’s emotional unravelling in front of multiple therapists, this episode is a brutally honest look at what happens when you actually start doing the work.
We share our personal journeys: the mismatched therapists, the awkward silences, the big breakthroughs, and the breakdowns that came with them. If you’ve ever left a session feeling worse, ghosted a therapist, or wondered if therapy even works — this one’s for you.
Whether you’re just starting out or deep in the process, we hope this episode helps you feel less alone in the mess of healing. -
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the reality of burnout — not the buzzword version, but the terrifying experience of your body, mind, and soul completely shutting down. Rox shares her personal story of chronic self-neglect, the warning signs she missed, and the breaking point where she physically couldn’t lift her own arms. Rich offers his perspective on watching it unfold, and the helplessness of seeing someone you love slowly disappear under the weight of invisible pressure.
We unpack the hidden warning signs, the toxic culture that rewards overwork, and the complicated shame that can keep you trapped in a cycle of destruction. Plus, we talk about how to actually start healing — and why listening to your body isn’t weakness, it’s survival.
If you’ve ever felt like you had to keep going no matter what, or you’re scared you're heading toward burnout yourself, this episode is for you. It’s real, raw, and hopeful — because it’s never too late to start again. -
This week on LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox talk about becoming parents... without ever planning to.
Rich became a dad at 18. Rox became a stepmum with ADHD, trauma, and zero idea what she was doing. Neither of us signed up for this, but somehow, here we are — co-parenting, healing, messing up, and figuring it out one meltdown at a time.
We talk about what our childhoods taught us (and didn’t), why parenting can trigger your deepest wounds, and how we’re trying to do it differently — with love, honesty, and the occasional family-sized panic.
If you're a parent, a step-parent, or just someone trying to break the cycle and build something better than what you had — this one’s for you. You don’t have to get it perfect. You just have to keep showing up. -
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, we’re diving into rejection sensitivity — what it actually is, where it comes from, and how it shows up in real life.
From spiraling over a single text message to assuming the worst when someone says “can we talk?”, Rox opens up about how rejection sensitivity has impacted her relationships, career, and mental health. Rich offers his perspective as someone who doesn’t experience it in the same way — but lives with someone who really does.
We talk about disavowed anger, childhood wounds, confrontation fears, and the little things that can make a big difference when you’re wired to feel unsafe.
Whether you’re the one asking “are you mad at me?” or living with someone who does — this one’s for you. -
In this raw and honest episode, Rich and Rox take you to the nights they almost didn’t make it through — and how those exact moments became the catalyst for everything good that followed.
Rich opens up about his secret gambling addiction, the £7,000 lost in 11 minutes, and the night he truly believed not being here was the only way out. Rox shares the story of a 3-day bender in Ibiza that wrecked a music video shoot, broke her relationship, and finally pushed her to walk into her first recovery meeting.
They talk shame, addiction, second chances, and how the rock bottom moments — the ones where you hate yourself most — can actually lay the foundation for the life you never thought you could have.
If you’re in it right now, if you’ve ever wondered if things can change… this episode is here to say: yes, they can. You’re not alone. And this might just be the beginning. -
Are you constantly saying yes when you mean no? Feeling anxious about being liked? Putting everyone else’s needs before your own... then burning out in silence? You might be stuck in a people pleasing loop... and it’s time to break free.
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox dive deep into the roots of people pleasing, from childhood conditioning to ADHD-related rejection sensitivity. They share personal stories, relationship reflections, and how unlearning the “good girl/good boy” mindset changed everything.
Expect raw honesty, a few uncomfortable truths, and practical advice on how to:
– Stop caring what everyone thinks
– Set boundaries without guilt
– Start living for you
It’s not about being selfish, it's about being yourself! -
This week on LATE BLOOMERS, we’re having one of the most important—and difficult—conversations we’ve ever shared. In this deeply personal episode, Rich opens up about his experience of childhood sexual abuse at the hands of someone he trusted.
He talks about how the abuse happened, the grooming that led up to it, and the lasting impact it had on his life—relationships, addiction, anxiety, and self-worth. We also discuss what helped him begin to heal: therapy, sobriety, and support from the right people at the right time.
This episode is for anyone who’s lived through similar trauma, or loves someone who has. We hope that by sharing Rich’s story, it helps survivors feel less alone, and offers hope that healing is possible—no matter how long it takes.
Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of childhood sexual abuse, grooming, and its emotional aftermath. Please take care while listening. -
This week on LATE BLOOMERS, we're talking about starting again—whether it’s your career, your side hustle, or your entire life. We’re breaking down the four steps to starting over: Identity, Change, Delusion, and Commitment. Sounds simple, right? It wasn’t.
We’re sharing the messy truth about our own failures—failed businesses, flopped albums, quitting jobs, and giving up on ourselves (more than once). Rox talks about abandoning 25 business ideas (including the infamous House of Resin), and Rich opens up about staying stuck in a job he hated for 20 years before finally taking a risk.
If you’ve ever felt like it’s too late to start over, this episode is your sign. Because we did it… in our late 30s and 40s. And if we can, you can.
Topics include:Why failure isn’t the endHow identity holds you backThe power of delusion (seriously)What commitment really looks like (spoiler: it’s not 5AM gym sessions)Our personal stories of starting again… and again -
What if the reason you’re struggling isn’t you—but the environment you’re in? In this episode, Rox and Rich dive into The Cherry Tree Theory, a powerful way to reframe personal growth, self-sabotage, and why some people thrive while others feel stuck.
They break down why self-blame keeps you trapped, how past experiences shape your ability to grow, and why the right environment is more important than just "trying harder." Instead of forcing yourself to change, what if you changed the conditions around you? Taking inspiration from Mother Nature herself they reveal five surprising steps for personal thriving:
1) Stop poisoning yourself
2) Heal your roots
3) Start pruning
4) Find new soil
5) Nurture your growth
If you’ve ever felt stuck, like personal growth isn’t working, or like something invisible is holding you back—this episode might just change the way you see yourself forever. -
Why do so many people with ADHD struggle with shame? In this episode, Rox and Rich break down the cycle of self-criticism, exploring how productivity culture, masking, and forgetfulness fuel feelings of failure. Rox opens up about her own experiences with shame—from harsh self-talk and fear of judgment to the pressure to appear "put together"—and how it impacted her relationships, creativity, and mental health.
Rich shares his perspective on supporting a partner with ADHD, highlighting the importance of compassion, communication, and breaking free from unrealistic expectations. Together, they unpack the difference between shame and guilt, why self-acceptance is essential, and how reframing your inner dialogue can transform your self-esteem.
You’ll also hear practical tools for overcoming shame, including:
Rewriting negative narratives about yourselfLetting go of perfectionism and over-apologizingDoubling down on your strengths instead of fixating on your strugglesSurrounding yourself with people who see and accept the real youIf you've ever felt like you're "not good enough" or that your ADHD makes you a failure, this episode is a reminder: You are not broken. And it's time to start believing that. -
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—especially when ADHD is in the mix—is where the real work begins. In this episode, Rox opens up about her relationship history: falling fast, struggling with communication, and repeating patterns she didn’t understand until her ADHD diagnosis. She shares why celibacy, sobriety, and therapy helped her break free from the cycle of intense romance and heartbreak—and how meeting Rich changed everything.
Rich dives into the three biggest challenges of loving someone with ADHD:
Communication: How direct vs. emotional communication styles lead to frustration—and why “out of sight, out of mind” doesn’t mean “out of love.”Forgetfulness: The impact of forgotten promises and messy environments—and why tone matters when asking for help.Emotional Intensity: Navigating Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD), why ADHD is rooted in sensitivity, and the challenge of feeling “too much.”But it’s not all hard work—there’s beauty in ADHD, too. Rox and Rich explore the superpowers of empathy, creativity, and humor that have strengthened their bond. Through honesty, kindness, and a whole lot of trial and error, they've learned that curiosity—not judgment—is the key to making love last.
If you've ever felt like your emotions are too big, your forgetfulness is too frustrating, or your relationships are too chaotic—this episode is for you. -
Sex is everywhere—movies, TV, social media—but it’s always the honeymoon version. No one talks about what happens when the obsession fades, when life gets in the way, or when desire feels more like a pressure than a passion. In this episode, Rox and Rich dive into the unspoken struggles of long-term intimacy, from the countdown clock of “how long it’s been” to the shame of lower desire and the weight of unrealistic expectations.
They unpack the pressure society puts on both men and women—why Rox feels hyper-aware of when they last had sex, and why Rich worried he wasn’t "good enough." They get real about sober sex, the anxiety that comes with it, and how neurodivergence (like PDA struggles and black-and-white thinking) can make intimacy even more complex.
How often should couples be having sex? Is there a magic number? And most importantly, how do you build intimacy without making it feel like a chore? Spoiler: it’s all about communication, trust, and ditching the expectations.
This one’s raw, real, and maybe a little too honest. But no one’s alone in this—so let’s talk about it. -
In this episode, Rich interviews Rox about her journey to becoming RØRY, the rock star she always dreamed of being. Rox opens up about the 20-year battle with trauma, addiction, and imposter syndrome that kept her dreams on hold. She shares why chasing success later in life is powerful, how sobriety became her turning point, and why a creative pursuit is perfect for ADHD brains craving constant novelty.
Rox explains how she overcame the fear of failure, lost everything with her first album, and built herself back up with audacity and confidence. They discuss the realities of pursuing big dreams when you've faced trauma and don't have a stable safety net. Rox leaves listeners with three pieces of game-changing advice for creatives: fail forward, be audacious, and act as if you already are who you want to be.
Whether you're a dreamer, a late bloomer, or someone searching for the confidence to take your shot, this episode is for you. -
In this episode, Rox and Rich get brutally honest about their financial journeys, sharing how debt, addiction, and shame shaped their lives. Rox opens up about hitting rock bottom with debt, the overwhelming shame of a poor credit rating, and the challenges of climbing out of financial chaos. Rich reveals how his past struggles with poverty and gambling addiction made him hyper-cautious with money—and how they’ve found balance together despite their very different approaches.
They also explore the link between ADHD and overspending, the mental health impacts of financial stress, and why it’s so important to break the stigma around money struggles. Packed with raw honesty, hope, and practical advice, this episode is for anyone who’s ever felt trapped by their finances. You’re not alone—and there’s a way forward. -
Falling in love isn’t all butterflies and romance—it’s awkward, messy, and sometimes downright hilarious. In this episode, Rox and Rich get real about the unspoken struggles of new relationships, from the anxiety of those early days to the dreaded moment you finally let one slip. Rox opens up about how anxious she was when they first met—so much so that she couldn’t even be in the same room as Rich—while Rich shares his experience with anxious attachment and, of course, the belly aches that come with holding everything in (literally).
From silent farts to full-blown panic, this episode dives into the reality of love beyond the fairytales, proving that even the messiest beginnings can lead to something beautiful. -
In this episode of LATE BLOOMERS, Rich and Rox share their personal stories about mental health medication—the good, the bad, and the unexpectedly funny. Rich talks about his journey with antidepressants, including some awkward and memorable side effects, while Rox reflects on being prescribed antidepressants after losing her mum, how it shaped her grief, and why her sobriety influences her decisions around ADHD meds.
It’s an honest, relatable, and often hilarious discussion about the realities of mental health meds. Whether you’re on meds, off meds, or just curious, this episode dives into the messy truth of finding what works (or doesn’t) and embracing your own journey.
Quick disclaimer: We’re sharing our experiences, not medical advice. For real help, talk to someone with a stethoscope! - Mehr anzeigen
