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How often does the phrase, "I don't know," come to mind or out of your mouth?
I don't know how to get my teen to listen.
I don't know why my daughter is always angry.
I don't know whether I should get involved.
I don't know what I should do next.Sound familiar?
There are some times where you literally don't know. In other words, there are facts that you don't have. Other times, we fall into what I call the "I Don't Know" mindset....when we tell ourselves that we don't know because we want to protect ourselves from pain. The problem is, when we tell ourselves "I don't know", and we fear the possibility of pain, what we're actually doing is staying stuck in pain.
In this weekâs episode of the Small Jar Podcast, I dive into how to understand the "I Don't Know" mindset...and how to empower yourself to decide how to move forward.
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If you've ever found yourself caught in a whirlwind of frustration, resentment, or feeling out of control because of how others are behavingâwhether it's your kids, your spouse, or others in your lifeâyou are not alone. Most of us give away our emotional power waiting for others to behave a certain way so we can feel okay. The problem is, this keeps us dependent on the circumstances of our lives going perfectly, and when they inevitably don't align with our hopes and expectations, we find ourselves stuck in painful emotion. Join me in this episode as I share how to create emotional intention so you can show up in your life with strength and peace, regardless of what's happening around you.
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One thing I love about being a mom is that I get to believe my in boys' potential, even when they can't see it. In fact, I am so fiercely dedicated to my belief in their potential, that there is nothing that can convince me they don't deserve all of the happiness and success their hearts can hold. But with ourselves, we're pretty quick to give up on our own potential. Or we wait for evidence to help us believe it. Whether we're looking for validation from others, or proof of our progress. The result is frustration and disappointment. And even worse, staying stuck. In this episode, I take a fresh look at the Mentor Mindset and how the skillset we have as we champion and coach our own kids is exactly the same mindset that can empower us to reach our own potential.
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As moms, we have really good advice. We want the best for our kids and we have a lot of experience in life that our kids don't have. But what's interesting is that the advice we give our kids is often the very same advice we need to hear ourselves. But how often do we actually take our own advice? In this episode, I share my personal experiences and examples from my coaching practice to help you see the wisdom you already have within you. Join me as we reflect on this sage advice and discover how to step into a more empowered and compassionate version of yourself.
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As a mom entering your childâs senior year of high school, you feel deeply the weight of the change to come. With each micro-goodbye, each "last", you feel closer to that time when you will have to say goodbye to your child. I've been down this road before with my older son, and as I approach my baby's senior year, I thought I would share the intentions I am going into this year with to be sure that I stay in the moment and support my son in the best way I can. I have learned that by becoming more intentional about your thoughts and how they shape your emotions, you harness the power to create any even deeper and more impactful connection with your child and also with yourself. This year is a pivotal time, full of bittersweet moments. Join me as we embrace all of it together.
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It's an emotional rollercoaster, this business of raising and launching teens. There are so many beautiful highs, but the lows are rough. We've been supporting our kids, helping them be safe, happy and successful, for so long, it's instinctual at this point. In fact, caring for our kids is as important to us as our own survival. So often we think of our emotions as being caused by people or situations in our life, but in this episode I explore how this isn't true. And why this is really good news! Look, in life, there will no doubt be triggers...situations that fire up our fight or flight response. Times that we have to navigate complicated decisions. Questions about how best to parent and support our kids. Life is always going to offer up new circumstances. But could you imagine understanding your emotions, and knowing how to be in control of them, so that you knew you could handle whatever comes your way? Check this episode out to learn how.
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Some of us dread the empty nest...others of us embrace it. No matter your perspective about that moment when your last child leaves home, us moms actually start the process of letting go much earlier. As soon as our kids hit puberty, we start to have to grapple with the reality that we can no longer have control over their safety, happiness or success. And in truth, balancing our at times conflicting desires to support our kids, help them thrive, and to feel like our role matters...this challenge can continue through the time when our own babies start having babies. In this episode, I reframe the conversation about the empty nest and share the three lessons that you have the opportunity to embrace so that you can step off the emotional roller coaster and create more peace, confidence, joy and fulfillment in your life. Where ever you are on your journey through the open nest, consider that although your birds might eventually leave home, they will come backâŠ.and as they seek their own happiness and successâŠthat invitation is open to you as well.
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"Stay positive!" "You just need to learn to let go." "Find new purpose." "Learn pickleball!" It's not that this advice isn't well-meaning...the problem is that this advice doesn't address the root cause of the problem you're facing. Namely, that the transition when your kid goes to college can be really hard. We'd love to believe everything will be fine. Our kids have been telling us to let go for years. Find new purpose? How do I do that? The typical advice we new empty nesters hear sounds simple, but it's not easy. So in this episode, I'm not going to give you more advice. But I am going to do a mindset audit of some common tips people give moms of new college kids...and I'm going to show you exactly why it's not easy to follow. And spoiler alert: it's NOT your fault!
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Forget big goals, sometimes we just want to feel better in our life. But have you ever stopped to think about what that looks like? How do you want to feel? What if that is actually the goal - to feel better? In this episode I explore the positive impact of creating more peace, confidence and joy. It's actually not only about feeling better. The impact of these emotions is that you actually show up to your life in a whole new way.
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Life is messy. Life with teens, riding the roller coaster of emotions as they grow up...for us moms, it's particularly messy. Learning how to redefine ourselves as we approach the next chapter...messy. We often tell ourselves that "it doesn't have to be perfect". But how often are you satisfied with "imperfect." In this episode, I share the four lessons I was reminded of as I tackled my garden. Join me if you're ready to find the beauty in imperfection.
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Episode 111. The work of becoming who you want to be is not simply about thinking happier thoughts and trying to manifest a better life. You most likely don't even realize how many ways your own mind is holding you back. Sometimes it's simply a thought that you canât be satisfied with your life until you fix something about yourself or about the world. Join me in this episode as I share three examples of women who empowered themselves to step into who they really want to be...without needing to change anything about their lives.
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Episode 110. Anxiety seems to go hand in hand with raising teens. All that you want is for your child to be safe, happy and successful...but when any of these goals is in jeopardy, we moms can't help but feel anxious, right? It's hard to trust that everything will be ok, especially when we feel such a deep responsibility to help guide and support our teens. On top of that, our minds are really good at dreaming up worst case scenarios that keep us up at night! In this episode, I share the two steps you can take right now to help you let go of your anxiety and find peace.
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Episode 109. Small Jar's "mom archetypes" celebrate the many strengths and gifts that we bring to this beautiful and crazy journey of motherhood. We love our kids so much, and we want them to be safe, happy and successful. "The Mentor" is her kids' champion and cheerleader. She is the one who believes in her child's potential, and she shows up, in every conceivable way to help them be everything she knows they can be. Safe. Happy. Successful. We should all be so lucky to have this mom in our corner. There is a Mentor Mom in all of us moms who love our kids. But these same strengths can make the Mentor vulnerable to frustration and judgment as her teen veers from her view of who they have the potential to be.
The Guardian. Achiever. Nurturer. Mentor. Which type do you lean into?
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Small Jar's "mom archetypes" celebrate the many strengths and gifts that we bring to this beautiful and crazy journey of motherhood. We love our kids so much, and we want them to be safe, happy and successful. "The Nurturer" is a mom who loves her children unconditionally. She has a high degree of empathy and provides a safe space for her children. She loves the purpose and fulfillment that comes with this role. There is a Nurturer in all of us, and these strengths have been a gift to our children. But these same strengths can make the Nurturer vulnerable to sadness as she feels her identity shifting as her kids grow up.
The Guardian. Achiever. Nurturer. Mentor. Which type do you lean into?
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Small Jar's "mom archetypes" celebrate the many strengths and gifts that we bring to this beautiful and crazy journey of motherhood. We love our kids so much, and we want them to be safe, happy and successful. "The Achiever" is a woman who is committed to helping her child live up to their potential. In so many ways, this has been a gift to her kids. I see the Achiever in all of us moms, and whether you feel successful right now or not, your Achiever mindset has also benefitted you throughout your life. Join me as I explore how the strengths and vulnerabilities of the Achiever.
The Guardian. Achiever. Nurturer. Mentor. Which type do you lean into?
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START HERE! This episode is an insider's guide to the Small Jar Podcast to help you get the most out of these tools. I share my perspective on the purpose of this podcast and my work as a master coach, and I'll also tell you about me and how I got here. If youâre a mom, whose kids are growing up and you are navigating the road to the empty nest, this episode will help you on your journey trust yourself as you decide how to move forward - both as a mom and as a women embarking on her next chapter.
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Is it just me, or do we moms bear the brunt of the responsibility for the end of year celebrations and our kids' transition to summer? Your kid might be taking final exams and you're supporting them through that stress. Your child could have just graduated, and you've planned countless celebrations, hosted family, and attended endless "lasts". Or maybe your college kid is back home and suddenly there's more laundry, more mess, more groceries needed. There is so much to celebrate and look forward to, but as a mom, you might also be feeling a lot of stress, anxiety, and frustration. If this is you, you're definitely not alone. Join me as I work through my own end of school year overwhelm.
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Last week I shared my own version of "mom archetypes", celebrating the many strengths and gifts that we bring to this beautiful and crazy journey of motherhood. We love our kids so much, and we want them to be safe, happy and successful. At different times and stages, any of us moms could lean on the fearless protective power of what I call "The Guardian." Join me as I explore how there is a Guardian in every one of us as moms, and how that's actually been an incredibly helpful gift--both to us and our children.
The Guardian. Achiever. Nurturer. Mentor. Which type are you?
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I want to celebrate how beautiful and powerful we are as moms. But we are all also unique in how we approach motherhood. So I thought Iâd put together a bit of a Myers-Briggs or Enneagram-style view of Mom Archetypes that offers a more holistic view of who we are as moms...not defined by our challenges, but rather by our strengths. With each of these Mom Archetypes, I am taking as a given that every one of these âtypesâ are the kind of mom who loves her kids and tries her best. And like with any archetypal model, while we might lean in the direction of one of these particular types, we all have the potential to have an element of any of these types. The Guardian. Achiever. Nurturer. Mentor. Which type are you?
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I have learned two incredibly important lessons over the past few years. And these lessons have made my own transition to having a child in college so much easier. Raising teens can feel challenging. We simply want to help them be safe, happy and successful...and yet, this seems to become increasingly difficult as our teens grow up. But even when our kids don't want our help, or when we recognize that there is little that we can do actually make them happy when they're struggling, it can be terrifying to let go of our desire (maybe even our need) to make things better. In this episode, I explore two lessons that changed everything for me...and they may surprise you.
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