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  • Episode Summary:

    In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into what it really means to feel stuck, overwhelmed, and disconnected from your dreams. She talks about how patterns of people-pleasing, rescuing, and over-committing keep us from living authentically. Rita outlines three steps—Radical Awareness, Permission to Dream, and Aligned Action—to help listeners break free from survival mode and reconnect with what truly lights them up. This episode is your reminder to slow down, get Selfish with your dreams, and take small, meaningful steps toward the life you deserve.

    Notable Quotes:

    "Growth and expansion aren’t just our birthright—it’s who we are. When we resist it, life becomes painful."

    "The ego loves to keep us running in the same patterns. It will create distractions to keep you from slowing down and dreaming."

    "Radical awareness means we stop pretending not to know what’s keeping us stuck. You can’t change what you don’t see."

    "Dreaming for yourself isn’t selfish—it's necessary. When you give yourself permission to dream, you create space for your highest self to show up."

    "Your word is your wand. When you keep your word to yourself, you build self-trust. The biggest betrayal isn’t from others—it’s betraying yourself."

    In This Episode:

    |09:29| – Action step: Take an inventory of your day—Where are you over-committing or blaming?

    |19:08| – Permission to dream selfishly with a big S—Why it's essential for entrepreneurs.

    |26:20| – Self-honoring choices: Saying no to draining commitments.

    |28:45|– Wrap-up: Awareness, acceptance, and aligned action—Permission to dream again.

    Resources:

    3 Steps to Break Free from Codependent Patterns:

    Step 1: Radical Awareness – Stop Pretending Not to Know
    * Take inventory of your day: Are you over-helping, complaining, blaming, or feeling resentful? Write down one situation where you feel stuck, and ask yourself: Am I pretending not to know what’s really going on?

    Step 2: Release the Need to Rescue or People-Please – Get Clear on What You Want
    * Take a few minutes to journal: What do I want right now? Not what others need, not what you should do—what do you want? It’s okay if it feels selfish. Give yourself permission to dream.

    Step 3: Take Aligned Action – Break the Cycle by Doing One Thing Differently
    * Identify one small action that feels aligned with the life you want. It could be saying no, setting a boundary, or letting someone else handle things. Practice it today and notice how it feels.

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  • What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?
    It's actually much simpler than you think... and I'll show you how in just 3 days!

    *Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!

    Over the course of three days, I will guide you through advanced techniques to align your thoughts, emotions, and actions to bring about real, tangible change in your life and business.


    Episode Summary:

    In this episode of Stop Bending Over - Align Your Life for Radical Success, Rita dives into the power of authenticity and the importance of telling the truth, especially to ourselves. Sharing a personal story from her business life, she reflects on how showing up authentically and stepping out of codependent behaviors can lead to profound transformation. This episode is for anyone who feels stuck, frustrated, or unsure about where to start. Rita offers actionable steps for breaking free from rescuing tendencies, embracing self-forgiveness, and living a more fulfilled and authentic life. She also invites listeners to join her upcoming 3-Day Intensive to learn how to manifest their dreams.

    Notable Quotes:
    "The only way to call in and level up your life is to release the level you’ve been stuck at by telling yourself the truth."

    "When you enable someone, you’re not helping them—you’re crippling them, and that keeps you stuck too."

    "Forgiveness is my superpower. I forgive myself for what I’ve made things mean about me, and it sets me free."

    "Your past experiences don't define you. You’re a divine being with gifts, and it’s time to stop hiding them."

    In This Episode:

    00:00 Unlocking Your Dream Life
    03:02 The Power of Authenticity
    05:49 Codependency and Its Impact
    11:59 The Importance of Telling the Truth
    18:11 Releasing Past Patterns
    23:57 Self-Forgiveness and Growth
    30:02 Manifestation and Action Steps

    Resources:

    Self-Forgiveness:

    And so just have a simple practice for self forgiveness. It could just be I forgive myself for believing that I'm not good enough,I release the guilt of hiding my gifts and I choose to show up today with love and grace for myself and everyone else.

    Affirmations:

    I honor and embrace my truth. I forgive myself for the times I've stayed small or played small. I am worthy of showing up as my full authentic self. I release any fear of judgment.

    What Does It Take To Call In Your Dream Life?

    *Join me Monday 9/23 - 9/25/2024 10:00am PST for a Live FREE 3-Day Intensive!

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    Episode Summary:

    Welcome to another transformative episode of the "Stop Bending Over Podcast" with your host, Rita Marie Mendez. In this inspiring conversation, we dive deep into the journey of Shelton Wilder, a top-tier real estate agent and entrepreneur. Shelton shares her compelling story of overcoming personal challenges, including addiction, to become one of the most successful real estate professionals in the country.

    Throughout the episode, Shelton and Rita discuss the importance of accountability, radical responsibility, and how these principles have shaped Shelton's thriving real estate career. They explore the significance of consistency, mindset, and the benefits of owning property to leverage wealth creation. Shelton also candidly addresses the eye-opening realization of her own limiting behaviors and the steps she's taking to enhance her business practices using innovative tools.

    Notable Quotes:

    "I am really clear. I only want to work with people that want to work with me." - Shelton Wilder"Everything's happening for me, not to me. All of the things are just blessings." - Shelton Wilder"How you deal with the issue is the issue. It's never what we think it is." - Rita Marie Mendez

    In This Episode:

    8:49 | Sobriety, Marriage, and Career Transitions
    13:54| Radical Responsibility and Personal Growth
    |20:56| Healing Shame Through Honest Communication
    |27:40| Identifying Ideal Clients and Avoiding Codependency in Business
    |33:29| Navigating Buyer Broker Agreements and Overcoming Fear in Real Estate
    |38:33| Overcoming Victim Mentality and Embracing Personal Responsibility
    |46:00| The Importance of Homeownership and Wealth Consciousness
    |49:48| Raising Your Frequency to Achieve Success
    |53:07| Lessons in Wealth Consciousness and Financial Missteps
    |59:36| Understanding and Overcoming Learned Helplessness
    |1:02:31| Top Advice for Real Estate Agents and Entrepreneurs
    |1:15:10| Healing Old Patterns Through Awareness and Self-Love

    Resources:

    Shelton Wilder's Instagram: @sheltonwilderestatesShelton Wilder's Website: sheltonwilder.comMonday.com: Project management toolThe Work by Byron Katie: thework.comBooks Mentioned:

    Your Word is Your Wand by Florence Scovel Shinn

    The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

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    * Stay tuned for the launch of the Breakthrough Goal Academy: 90 Days To Achieve The Goal That Will Change Your Life!

    Episode Summary:

    In this episode, Rita discusses the importance of accountability in achieving goals and manifesting desires. The emphasis is on the need to trust oneself and make conscious choices. Unconscious manifesting leads to scarcity thinking and self-limiting beliefs. She provides steps for manifesting consciously, including getting clear on what you want, taking daily action steps, and staying committed. Rita encourages listeners to embrace their power and create the life they desire.

    Quotes:

    "Overthinking comes from a lack of self-trust.""You don't have to be a 20 something or a teen to do what you want to do.""Awareness is kryptonite to looping patterns.""Step number one is get clear on what you want."


    In This Episode:
    |03:45| The Power of Accountability in Achieving Goals
    |08:01| Trusting Yourself and Making Conscious Choices
    |12:20| Breaking Free from Unconscious Manifesting
    |19:28| Steps for Manifesting Consciously
    |21:22| Embracing Your Power to Create
    |23:44| Getting Clear on What You Want
    |25:38| Visualization and Embodiment
    |27:25| Setting Up a Plan
    |30:45| Taking Small Steps
    |37:18| The Power of Accountability

    Resources:
    Steps to Effective Manifestation:

    Getting Clear on What You WantCreating a Mental PictureSetting Up a PlanMeditation, Hypnosis, and Identity WorkAccountability

    Accountability Study by Association for Talent Development

    Next week's guest: Shelton Wilder - Check out her podcast!
    Wilder Possibilities Podcast

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    Episode Summary:

    In this episode, Rita dives into the concept of "competing intentions," uncovering how unconscious limits formed in childhood impact adult behavior and prevent success. She provides practical steps to identify these blocks, reframe limiting beliefs, and create effective, conscious intentions. This episode is a valuable resource for women seeking to break free from self-sabotage, embrace their true potential, and achieve radical business success.

    Key Takeaways:

    Identify Limiting Beliefs: Discover how unconscious childhood beliefs can impact your adult life and business success.Competing Intentions: Learn what competing intentions are and how they sabotage your goals.Awareness and Action: Utilize a three-step process—awareness, acceptance without judgment, and aligned action—to overcome internal blocks.Reframe for Success: Understand the power of reframing negative statements into positive, actionable affirmations.Self-Love as a Foundation: Embrace the importance of self-love and how it enhances business performance and personal well-being.


    In This Episode:

    | 0:00 - 9:00| Overcoming Self-Limiting Beliefs and Perfectionism for Success
    |10:46 - 16:39| Harnessing Childhood Coping Mechanisms as Adult Superpowers
    |17:48 - 22:20| Identifying and Overcoming Competing Intentions in Business
    |23:27 - 33:03| Overcoming Self-Imposed Limits to Achieve Personal Success
    |34:23 - 42:01| Transforming Self-Abandonment into Self-Love and Conscious Intentions
    | 42:27 | Wealth and Wisdom Program for Scaling Your Business

    Resources:

    * Register Now!
    "How To Have A Million Dollar Year" Masterclass with Million Dollar Real Estate Agent Carla Clark!
    When: Friday 7/19/2024 10:00am PST

    * Click here to grab your 3-Step Guide To Consistent Revenue!

    * Exciting News! WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/11/2024!
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  • 3-Day Challenge: How To Create Consistent Revenue in 3 Easy Steps
    (And Get Rich As F***) July 9th - 11th , 2024 10:00am PST

    **Click here to grab your 3-Step Guide To Consistent Revenue!

    Exciting News! WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/11/2024!
    Join the Waitlist:
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    Episode Summary:

    In this episode, Rita dives into the three-step process for creating consistent revenue, a method she reveals also aids in personal healing and growth. Achieving financial success and embracing wealth is every woman's birthright. She emphasizes the importance of self-discipline, emotional mastery, and strategic action, helping listeners to break free from limiting beliefs and self-sabotaging patterns.

    In This Episode:

    | 0:00 - 10:00| Three Steps to Creating Consistent Revenue and Overcoming Obstacles
    |10:38 - 14:00| Healing Childhood Trauma and Reclaiming Authenticity
    |14:57 - 20:00| Empowering Women to Overcome Scarcity and Embrace Wealth
    |20:27 - 26:00| Emotional Mastery, Self Leadership, and Strategic Aligned Action

    Key Takeaways:

    Clarity is Crucial: Knowing exactly what you want is the first step to achieving consistent revenue and personal success.Overcoming Obstacles: Addressing and transforming limiting beliefs and emotional blocks are essential for growth and empowerment.Aligned Actions: Strategic, aligned actions tailored to individual goals are key to moving the needle in business and life.Embrace Self-Discipline: Consistency and self-discipline in actions and thoughts create momentum and sustainable success.Self-Love and Reverence: Cultivating a deep sense of self-love and respect for one’s journey fosters authenticity and fulfillment.

    Notable Quotes:

    "Most people are not claiming what they want because there's a part of them that doesn't think it's possible.""The obstacle is not in the way. The obstacle is the way."


    Resources:

    * 3-Day Challenge: How To Create Consistent Revenue in 3 Easy Steps
    (And Get Rich As F***) July 9th - 11th , 2024 10:00am PST

    * Click here to grab your 3-Step Guide To Consistent Revenue!

    * Exciting News! WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/11/2024!
    Join the Waitlist:
    Click here: https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com/wealth-and-wisdom-2024

    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

    Episode Summary:

    Welcome to another insightful episode. This episode dives into the transformational journey of embracing your identity and the powerful impact of language in shaping your reality. I unpack the concept of embodying the woman you aspire to be and discuss how showing up authentically and confidently can significantly change your life.

    In This Episode:

    | 6:01 | Overcoming Scarcity Mindset by Closing Open Loops
    |12:59| Three Steps to Overcome Decision-Making Anxiety
    |15:13| Embracing Mistakes and Maintaining a Positive Mindset
    |25:54| Embracing Authenticity and Courage for Personal Growth
    |36:22| Embracing Authenticity and Finding Your True Identity
    |40:47| Creating a Judgment Journal for Self-Reflection
    |49:41| Creating Community and Support for Women Entrepreneurs
    |50:53| Transforming Limiting Beliefs to Achieve Wealth and Wisdom

    Key Takeaways:

    The Power of Language: Your internal dialogue shapes your reality and identity. Aligning positive, empowering statements with your goals is crucial.Embodying Your Vision: Step into the identity of the woman you aspire to be by aligning your actions, thoughts, and behaviors with that vision.Overcoming Scarcity Mindset: Reframe limiting beliefs about time, money, and possibilities to create a mindset of abundance.Creating a Judgment Journal: Document and transform negative self-talk.Importance of Community: Building a supportive network or joining communities can significantly aid in personal and professional growth.

    Notable Quotes:

    "All those things that you want in your vision are happening already right now, waiting for you to embody who that woman is.""Leave behind what you don’t want, leave it behind. That might be people, circumstances, the way of doing business, the how you talk to yourself, all of it.""Being inauthentic is exhausting. When you step into it, when you're authentic and fully expressed, you give other people permission to be the same."

    Resources:

    WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/03/2024!
    Join the Waitlist:
    Click here: https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com/wealth-and-wisdom-2024

    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

    Private Facebook group opening soon - stay tuned!

    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

    Episode Summary:

    Rita Marie Mendez welcomes special guest Heidi Stevens on the podcast. Together, they delve into overcoming codependency, balancing masculine and feminine energies in business, and navigating personal growth. Heidi shares her journey from commercial real estate to holistic living and her methods for managing stress and burnout. They also discuss the impact of authentic communication and self-leadership. Tune in for insights on creating space for success, the importance of heart-centered listening, and how to identify upper limits in personal and professional life.

    About the Guest:

    Heidi Stevens, is a former commercial real estate agent turned spiritual coach and entrepreneur. She specializes in guiding female entrepreneurs towards embracing their divine feminine energy to achieve success in their businesses and lives. Heidi holds a master's degree in Spiritual Psychology from the University of Santa Monica (USM). Currently, she is focused on her podcast "Feet on the Grass" and plays an essential role in supporting her family-run ranch in Rancho Santa Fe.

    Resources Mentioned:
    Heidi Stevens Info:
    IG: @heidistevens
    Podcast: Feet On The Grass

    Spiritual Psychology Study Program: University of Santa Monica
    Are you a Real Estate Agent who wants to know more about Keller Williams? DM me for more info.

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    WEALTH & WISDOM - REGISTRATION OPENS 7/03/2024! Join the Waitlist:
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    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

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    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

    Summary:

    In this episode, host Rita Marie Mendez challenges listeners to delve deep into the art of receiving and confront the hurdles that hinder their progress.

    Rita boldly addresses the internal struggles many women entrepreneurs face, such as inconsistent results, burnout, and the fear of truly being seen. She emphasizes the transformational change that can occur when women step into their authentic selves and align with their divine feminine power.

    In This Episode:
    |00:00 - 14:00|Overcoming Shame and Self-Criticism
    |15:08 - 22:00|Embracing Change Despite Fear and Vulnerability
    |22:29 - 30:00|Harnessing Vulnerability to Co-Create and Prosper
    |30:03 - 39:35|Embracing Wealth and Shifting Identity Paradigms

    Key Takeaways:

    You control your life story and have the power to rewrite it for success and fulfillment.Operating from a wealth mindset is pivotal for women entrepreneurs to level up their achievements.

    Resources:

    JOIN THE WEALTH & WISDOM WAITLIST - REGISTRATION OPENS 6/01/2024!
    Click here: https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com/wealth-and-wisdom-2024

    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!
    Poem: There's a Hole in My Sidewalk by Portia Nelson
    Private Facebook group opening soon - stay tuned!

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    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

    Summary:

    In an episode that resonates deeply with female entrepreneurs, Rita Marie Mendez addresses the subtle yet destructive cyclical patterns where women find themselves rescuing others at the expense of their fulfillment. Through a detailed explanation she unfolds the unconscious practices that trap women in a cycle of underachievement and self-neglect.

    Following the revelations of the rescuing trap, Rita introduces a practical exercise to foster clarity and change. The listeners are urged to chart out their rescuing behaviors, face their true desires boldly, and reframe their realities. Rita promises that this self-inquiry leads to the power of authentically stepping into one’s aspirations, be it in doubling business revenue or enriching personal relationships.

    In This Episode:

    |00:04 - 10:43| Overcoming Codependency for Women's Success
    |10:44 - 19:40| Breaking the Cycle of Codependency and Rescuing Behaviors
    |20:02 - 28:44| Addressing Self-Abandonment and Rescuing Behaviors
    |29:01 - 35:18| Breaking Free From Past Patterns to Create a New Future

    Key Takeaways:

    Codependent behaviors, particularly rescuing patterns, lead to self-abandonment and limit women's professional and personal growth. Codependent rescuing is a vicious cycle of self-abandonment.

    Resources:

    JOIN THE WEALTH & WISDOM WAITLIST - REGISTRATION OPENS 6/01/2024!
    Click here: https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com/wealth-and-wisdom-2024
    Book: Codependent No More - by Melody Beattie

    Exercise Questions from Rita:

    1. What dream do you have in your heart that you’re ignoring?

    2. What issue, situation or challenge do you think is holding you back from your next level of success?

    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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    JOIN THE WEALTH & WISDOM WAITLIST - REGISTRATION OPENS 6/01/2024!
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    Take Rita's New Quiz: Money Magic: Find Your Financial Frequency!

    Summary:
    This episode of the Stop Bending Over podcast with Rita Marie Mendez provides an intimate coaching session with a client on overcoming her fear of reaching out to her sphere of contacts. They discuss the limiting belief that people don't want to talk to her and how it's holding her back in her real estate business. Rita helps her client recognize that this belief is not true and encourages her to approach her calls differently.

    This episode offers a glimpse into the persistent hurdles faced by women in business, such as inconsistency, burnout, and the struggle to consistently produce results.

    In this episode:

    |00:0 4 - 11:48| Balancing Work Urgency
    |11:50 - 23:00| Struggling with Consistency in Client Outreach
    |23:12 - 35:00| Overcoming Self-Created Obstacles with Courage and Action
    |35:35 - 42:53| Embracing Rejection in Business

    Key Takeaways:

    Overcoming hurrying, a scarcity of time, and self-imposed pressure is crucial for peace and success.Connecting genuinely and confidently with one's network can lead to powerful opportunities.Embracing the courage to confront and shift limiting beliefs enables personal and professional transformation


    "In order to be successful, we need to move things out of the way that we've been programmed to do or say or show up as." – Rita Marie Mendez

    Resources:
    JOIN THE WEALTH & WISDOM WAITLIST - REGISTRATION OPENS 6/01/2024!
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    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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  • Summary:

    Can healing our shame and embracing our gifts as women create a collective ripple effect that positively impacts the world?

    In this episode, Rita is the guest of Brooke Jean, host of the Un-Perfected Pod. Rita shares her journey of overcoming trauma and shame, and how it has led her to work in helping women step into their full potential.
    The conversation delves into the ways perfectionism and overachieving serve as trauma responses, and how codependency can manifest in women's lives. Rita breaks down the drama triangle and offers insights on how to shift from a victim mentality to an empowered state of being. Throughout the episode, Brooke and Rita emphasize the importance of women healing their shame, remembering their gifts, and embracing their strength to create a powerful collective impact on the world.
    She also explores the concept of codependency and how it can show up in women's lives, leading to a lack of boundaries and self-care. Rita encourages women to ask for what they want, release shame, and step into their power.

    In this episode:

    |00:01 - 12:00| How childhood experiences shape coping mechanisms

    Why women are good at forgetting Safety and security are important when childhood is filled with chaos and drama

    |12:06 - 25:23| Despite making $ can your holding frequency for money be zero?

    Rita shares the concept of emotional sovereignty and personal powerBrooke and Rita discuss the awakening and empowerment that comes from taking personal responsibility

    |26:23 - 40:00| The importance of commitment and willingness to change

    The need for perfectionism to not be like your familyPerfectionism and overachieving are trauma responses


    |40:01 - 1:01:00| Betrayal, abandonment issues, codependency and enabling

    Shifting from relying on external achievements to finding worthiness within oneselfHiding trauma behind achievements

    |1:01:02 - 1:26:54 | Becoming who you are by undoing misunderstandings

    Codependency: saying yes when we mean noThe cycle of shame and victimhood perpetuated by self-sabotageShift your energy and life by asking "What else might be possible?"

    You can find Brooke Jean in all of these places!
    Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-un-perfected-pod/id1668818982

    Website: Brooke Jean LLC

    fb: Brooke Jean

    Twitter: Brooke Jean

    IG: @brookejeanunperfected

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  • Summary:

    How can gaining clarity support us in creating the life we truly want?

    In this episode, host Rita Marie dives deep into a personal coaching session with her client, showcasing a vulnerable journey from fear to clarity. The episode opens a window to the transformative power of coaching, drawing listeners into a narrative of self-exploration and breakthrough. Rita's personal approach resonates with women seeking to address limiting beliefs and step into their fullest potential, making it a must-listen for anyone on the path to personal and professional fulfillment.

    The key themes revolve around overcoming fear-based decision-making, leveraging personal power, and embracing an abundance mindset success.


    In This Episode:
    | 00:04 - 10:47 | Choosing between fear and alignment

    Fear-based decisions and lack of trust Fear of making mistakes and failure

    | 10:48 - 20:16 | Trusting oneself and embracing the unknown

    Running away from responsibilitiesThe battle between limiting beliefs and possibilitiesLooping thoughts and the need to trust oneself

    | 0:20:17 - 31:04 | Rita advises B to take a stand for having it all

    The importance of being fully resourcedRita encourages client to not get caught in emotional theatricsRita discusses the manifestation process Rita emphasizes the importance of choice instead of feeling limited

    | 31:05 - 36:01 | Rita explains that familiarity doesn't equal safety and encourages client to embrace the unknown

    Breaking free from the hypnotic trance of negative thoughtsRecognizing the victim and bully roles in our own negative internal dialogueEscaping the drama triangle through awareness and empowered actions

    |36:02 - 40:00 |Finding ways to support and nurture oneself in challenging moments

    Choosing expansive beliefs over limiting beliefsThe transformative power of additional support and accountabilityClosing segment

    Key Takeaways:

    Fear-based decision-making can lead to patterns that limit personal growth and opportunities.Recognizing and working through mental blocks can empower individuals to make aligned life choices.The importance of trusting oneself and tapping into inner wisdom for guidance and clarity.

    Notable Quotes:

    "Most people don't know what alignment feels like because we're so used to being driven by fear and making decisions and choices from limiting beliefs." – Rita "Familiarity does not equal safety, and you manifest at the speed of safety." – Rita

    Resources:

    JOIN THE WEALTH & WISDOM WAITLIST - REGISTRATION OPENS SOON!
    Click here: https://www.ritamarieconsulting.com/wealth-and-wisdom-2024

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  • Summary:

    In this episode, Rita delves into the challenges of overcoming burnout, fostering consistent results, and eradicating the pervasive fear of visibility that hampers potential success. She emphasizes the vital role of unshackling oneself from limiting beliefs and the ingrained patterns holding women back from realizing their business dreams.

    Drawing from her personal experiences and her passion for transformational consciousness, Rita Marie offers insights on embracing the divine feminine and boosting one's capacity to receive. This episode is not just about financial prosperity but about embracing emotional sovereignty and self-leadership as means to a fulfilling life. The core message centers on the willingness to change and step into a space of clarity, accountability, and alignment.


    Key Takeaways:

    Rita Marie proposes a four-question technique, inspired by Byron Katie's work, to tackle limiting beliefs, focusing on questioning the belief's truth, the impact of believing in it, and flipping it into a positive statement.The importance of emotional sovereignty and self-leadership in receiving abundance and in manifesting a successful business.Rita Marie encourages writing a future-focused financial goal and embodying the identity of someone who has already achieved that success.

    Notable Quotes:

    "Nothing changes unless you change. Changing your mind changes your life.""The mind will argue for its own limitations.""You can't get to better until you get to different."

    In This Episode:
    | 0:04:51 | The mission of transformation of consciousness and the importance of wealth and freedom
    | 0:07:21 | The significance of emotional mastery and self-leadership in effective leadership
    | 0:12:43 | The connection between receiving, abundance, and leadership
    | 0:15:24 | Breaking limiting belief patterns through pattern interrupt and new perceptions
    | 0:19:58 | Working with the limiting belief that it's hard to make more money
    | 0:22:27 | Understanding the resistance and deeper patterns behind the belief
    | 0:27:12 | Finding evidence in the past and feeling stuck in the future
    | 0:29:04 | Treating yourself and others poorly
    | 0:30:02 | Who would you be without that thought?
    | 0:33:48 | Recognizing drama and victim language
    | 0:36:22 | Importance of seeking support and having high-level people in your life
    | 0:41:50 | Adopting a beginner's mind and treating everything with curiosity and openness.
    | 0:43:08 | Emphasis on the importance of questioning thoughts and taking actions that align with desired outcomes.

    Resources:

    Wealth & Wisdom waitlist is open!

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  • Summary:

    In this episode, Rita discusses the power of mindset and how it influences our beliefs, thoughts, and behaviors. She emphasizes the importance of uncovering and questioning our dominant beliefs to create a shift in our mindset. Rita also introduces the concept of manifesting at the speed of safety and the role of consistency in achieving our goals. With a focus on self-leadership and receiving, she encourages listeners to challenge their beliefs and embrace a growth mindset. Tune in to gain insights on transforming your mindset and manifesting a life of abundance.


    In This Episode:

    | 0:06:49 | The impact of childhood experiences on mindset
    | 0:10:39 | Difficulty of shifting from a closed mindset to a growth mindset
    | 0:12:55 | Your beliefs drive your behaviors and create your reality.
    | 0:17:55 | Childhood experiences and family influence shape our mindset.
    | 0:19:24 | Women have a collective consciousness of persecution and invalidation.
    | 0:22:06 | Notice your behaviors and their impact on yourself and others.
    | 0:23:30 | Questioning the purpose of behaviors and beliefs
    | 0:24:46 | Keeping a judgment journal to explore behaviors
    | 0:26:22 | Manifesting at the speed of safety and the role of the nervous system
    | 0:30:34 | Increasing the thermostat of success and consistency
    | 0:34:16 | Beliefs determine your vibration and frequency.
    | 0:37:14 | Resonance is a universal law that cannot be argued with.
    | 0:39:37 | Beliefs are like a table with legs of evidence.
    | 0:40:55 | Question your beliefs to create space for new possibilities.

    Resources:

    Wealth & WisdomMindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carolyn DweckJohn Maxwell Foundation iLeadJohn Maxwell books on AmazonErik Erikson's 8 Stages of Development (Wikipedia)

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  • Summary:

    In an empowering episode of the "Stop Bending Over" podcast, Rita Marie Mendez dives into the ingrained patterns that oftentimes hold women back from achieving their desired level of success. Rita identifies common barriers such as a lack of consistency, structure, and old behavioral patterns and explores why individuals avoid facing their challenges head-on.


    Rita Marie emphasizes the importance of becoming aware of one’s inner dialogue and patterns to overcome these obstacles. She points out that the conscious mind only represents a small fraction of our behavior, which is why it's critical to delve into the unconscious motives driving us. Rita Marie further unpacks potential solutions and introduces the concept of a "big leap" for personal and professional growth, underlining the power of open-mindedness and curiosity.


    Key Takeaways:

    Recognize common factors that prevent women from reaching their next level of success, including absence of structured routines and avoidance of difficult tasks.Understanding the relationship between surface-level problems and underlying avoidance behaviors is essential.Developing awareness and non-judgmental acceptance of one's actions is the first step to realignment and progress.Rita Marie highlights the significance of external accountability and adopting a solutions-oriented mindset for overcoming barriers to success.The episode encourages implementing intuitive guidance and seeking opportunities for growth during challenging moments.


    In This Episode:
    | 0:01:11 | The biggest problems holding women back from their next level
    | 0:03:01 | What do you do when things get hard?
    | 0:04:25 | Avoidance behaviors and their underlying wisdom
    | 0:09:07 | Noticing and observing your own patterns of behavior
    | 0:14:06 | The detrimental effects of pushing oneself from a place of scarcity and lack
    | 0:17:03 | Tying value and worth to results leads to overwhelm and exhaustion
    | 0:20:38 | The pressure to produce results and the negative impact on quality of life
    | 0:21:31 | Finding a better way to create a fulfilled and connected life
    | 0:23:54 | Motivating oneself through intention, accountability, and external support
    | 0:27:30 | Example of someone afraid to move to the next level
    | 0:29:17 | Fear of being seen and heard is common

    Resources:

    Take Rita's New Quiz: What's Your Intuitive Superpower?"The Big Leap" by Gay Hendricks – a recommended book for personal and professional growth.New Money Masterclass coming soon - stay tuned!

    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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  • Summary:

    In this episode of the Stop Bending Over Podcast, host Rita Marie Mendez dives into a coaching session with a woman in her group program, offering insights into the universal challenges that many women face. With her expertise in fostering self-reliance and personal growth, Rita provides a space where significant life changes are not only discussed but set into motion. This episode uncovers the roots of self-doubt and the journey towards self-trust, encouraging women to honor their own needs and desires.
    Rita Marie Mendez's conversational coaching uncovers the emotional undercurrents that drive behavior, pinpointing the impact of past relationships and the challenging dance of parenting adult children. With compassion and clarity, she addresses the tendency to project our own frustrations onto our loved ones, ultimately guiding her client towards the realization that creating change in life begins within. The client's vulnerable sharing and Mendez's astute observations make for an elucidative discussion that many listeners may find reflective of their own experiences.

    Key Takeaways:

    Recognizing and working through codependency can have a profound effect on personal relationships and self-trust.
    The importance of setting boundaries with loved ones, to foster healthier dynamics.

    In This Episode:

    0:12:00
    Client feels like she doesn't have the space to figure things out.
    0:18:25
    Rita discusses the dynamics of narcissistic and codependent relationships.
    0:20:37
    Rita acknowledges that healing takes time and that it's important to take baby steps in forming healthy relationships.
    0:23:14
    Rita explains the exhausting nature of codependency and the importance of self-care.
    0:24:06
    Client realizes that she may be trying to find something external to fix her problems.
    0:28:26
    Learning to say no and prioritize oneself
    0:36:09
    Client reflects on her own victim mentality and desire to let go.
    0:37:38
    Rita emphasizes that client is responsible for her own happiness.
    0:40:45
    Rita reassures client that there are no mistakes and she is exactly where she needs to be.
    0:42:07
    Client expresses feeling caged and pressured by societal expectations.
    0:44:09
    Rita explains how childhood coping mechanisms can become ineffective as adults.

    Resources:
    Take Rita's New Quiz: What's Your Intuitive Superpower?
    New Money Masterclass coming soon - stay tuned!

    Encourage your self-discovery and experience the enlightening discussions offered in the full episode of the Stop Bending Over Podcast, "Align Your Life for Radical Success." Join Rita Marie Mendez as she navigates the intricacies of life coaching with authenticity and wisdom. Don't miss out on future episodes that promise to illuminate the path to self-empowerment and radical success. Stay tuned for more transformative content.

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  • Episode Summary:

    In this empowering installment of the "Stop Bending Over" podcast, Rita Marie Mendez invites women to discover psychological and behavioral patterns that may inhibit their ability to achieve desired success in business, relationships, and personal growth. Engaging in self-inquiry, Rita guides listeners through a transformative process to challenge their repeating negative patterns, often referred to as "stackers."

    Rita Marie delves into the roots of habitual thoughts and behaviors, examining the stories that dictate our perceived limitations. By incorporating principles of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), she uncovers the narratives that shape reality through language and meaning. This episode is a call to action for women to pause, reflect, and give themselves the grace to engage with their inner wisdom, reprogramming their mindsets to align with their most authentic selves.

    Notable Quotes:

    "How you deal with the issue is the issue."
    "Whatever you don't deal with, will deal with you."
    "You have 100% control of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. That's your entire locus of control."

    In This Episode:

    0:03:21
    The concept of "stackers" and how they hinder progress
    0:04:37
    The power of language and meaning in shaping reality
    0:05:44
    The role of past upsets and trauma in repeating patterns
    0:09:37
    The resistance to moving forward and facing buried issues
    0:13:20
    Questions to reflect on: What do you focus on? What are your dominant thoughts?
    0:16:50
    The power of knowing our top three to five values
    0:19:30
    Exploring the purpose of negative dominant thoughts
    0:23:34
    Dismantling the resistance of limiting stories and expanding our possibilities
    0:24:30
    Reflecting on the payoff of our dominant thoughts
    0:26:02
    How we form meaning through language and the importance of untangling misunderstandings
    0:28:53
    The choice to stop suffering and give oneself grace
    0:30:46
    The shift from "have to" to "get to" and allowing goodness
    0:31:55
    The purpose of dominant thoughts and the victim mindset
    0:36:22
    The shift from unconsciousness to conscious self-mastery
    0:39:16
    Mindset alone is not enough for lasting change


    Resources:

    Bob Newhart Video - STOP IT
    Take Rita's New Quiz: What's Your Intuitive Superpower?
    New Money Masterclass coming soon - stay tuned!

    Tune in to the full "Stop Bending Over" podcast episode to embark on a journey of self-awareness and transformation with Rita Marie Mendez. Stay connected with the community and don't miss out on future episodes that will continue to inspire and guide you towards a life of authenticity and radical success.

    Please be sure to tag me @RitaMarieMendez on Instagram and share this episode with your community to spread the word if you or someone you know has benefited from this episode! I'd love to hear about your experience!

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  • Summary:

    In this transformative episode of the "Stop Bending Over Podcast," host Rita Marie Mendez, offers listeners a deep dive into overcoming limiting beliefs and negative internal dialogues. Known for her no-nonsense guidance towards radical success, Rita provides insights into an area that many find elusive: the mental barriers that constrain our personal and professional potential.
    Rita coaches a real estate agent who has faced challenges in her business, showcasing a powerful session centered on dissecting and resolving underlying issues of self-worth and productivity. Through a candid discussion, we uncover the guest's struggles with maintaining a work-life balance and an internal push to produce results that have inadvertently led to burnout. Rita skillfully navigates the conversation to reveal the roots of these issues, offering actionable advice and reflective exercises to foster personal healing and development.

    Key Takeaways:

    Identifying Limiting Beliefs: The episode delves into how negative internal dialogues and limiting beliefs can manifest in various aspects of life, often disguised as different problems.

    Impact of Childhood Experiences: Rita explores the connection between the guest's childhood experiences and current patterns of self-pressure.

    The Power of Self-Kindness: A significant focus is placed on the importance of self-care and treating oneself with kindness as a way to undo self-imposed pressures and unrealistic expectations.

    Emotional Expression and Healing: Rita encourages the guest to embrace vulnerability and emotional expression as a form of strength, moving away from feelings of guilt and inadequacy.

    Habits for Personal Growth: The conversation concludes with actionable steps for the guest, involving journaling and intentional self-reflection, aiming to align her actions with a more nurturing approach to success.

    In this episode:

    0:08:11
    Rita challenges the client's excuses and invites her to explore the real reason for her low results

    0:13:26
    Client acknowledges her weakness of not being able to shut off work

    0:15:11
    Rita challenges the client's justification and identifies the sense of urgency as coming from a place of lack

    0:18:46
    Client reflects on being pushed to produce results since childhood

    0:22:14
    Rita connects the client's current behavior with the coping mechanism from childhood

    0:30:23
    Allowing emotions and tears without suppressing them

    0:32:42
    Reflecting on what kindness to oneself would look like

    0:38:30
    Rita advises client to remember when she says unkind things to herself

    We invite you to embrace the wisdom found in this episode and invite further enlightenment by listening to the full conversation. Discover more about the transformative journey that awaits by tuning into the "Stop Bending Over Podcast" for more episodes that promise to align your life for radical success.

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  • Summary:

    In this episode of the "Stop Bending Over" podcast, host Rita Marie Mendez explores the importance of setting intentions, manifestation, and receiving. She discusses the common struggle many women face in their capacity to receive and how shame can hinder this process. Rita emphasizes the power of planting seeds of intention and nurturing them to manifest desired outcomes. By questioning limiting beliefs and becoming conscious of unconscious patterns, listeners can unlock their full potential and create a life of radical success. Tune in for insightful guidance on transforming consciousness and embracing your divine potential.

    In this episode:

    0:01:52
    Money manifestation is not hard; stories and beliefs make it hard.

    0:10:48
    The transformative power of vulnerability and releasing shame.

    0:15:46
    The impact of shame and how it affects the capacity to receive.

    0:24:11
    The importance of taking aligned action and not giving up

    0:26:13
    Tuning your radio to the frequency of your seed of intention

    0:29:22
    Reprogramming the mind and returning to a natural state

    0:33:49
    Recognizing limiting language and beliefs

    0:34:47
    Identifying areas where the radio is tuned to the wrong channel

    0:39:31
    Living half in, half out is harder and takes a toll

    0:41:19
    Surround yourself with like-minded people for support

    0:44:22
    Notice where you go unconscious and question limiting beliefs

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