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In this episode, I thoughtfully explore the importance of making peace with our past selves as a key element of self-love and personal growth. Through my own personal experiences and insights, I share how embracing compassion toward past versions of ourselves, rather than judging or rejecting them, allows for genuine healing and deeper self-understanding. Recognizing our past selves as doing their best with the knowledge and resources they had at the time helps free us from lingering regret or shame. Ultimately, cultivating this understanding creates a more authentic, peaceful, and fulfilling life.
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Even in paradise, self-judgment can follow us. In this short and honest episode, I share insights Iâm having while in Hawaiiâabout why being somewhere beautiful doesnât automatically make self love easier, and how we often carry our inner critic with us no matter where we go. I talk about what real self love looks like, how to practice it in everyday moments, and why your circumstances are never the key to your happiness.
đ Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] â Welcome from Hawaii + the surprising truth about not always feeling good in beautiful places[01:30] â Why paradise doesnât fix self-judgment or negative self-talk[02:20] â Self love is a choice you make in the momentânot something that comes from the outside[03:40] â Real examples from my own life: body image, nervous system, and family tension[05:10] â The myth that self-criticism creates accountability or growth[06:15] â What practicing real-time self love actually looks like[07:20] â Emotions donât last forever: how to ride the wave instead of resisting it[08:00] â Why your brain comes with youâwhether it's to Hawaii, weight loss, or success[08:40] â An invitation to join the Love Yourself No Matter What Membershipâš If this episode resonated with you, click HERE to learn more about my brand new membership, or come chat with me on Instagram or TikTok @theamandahess.
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In this episode, I dive into the challenges of meeting your emotional needs as a sensitive or neurodivergent woman. If youâve ever felt unseen, misunderstood, or emotionally drained from constantly giving without receiving, this conversation is for you. I share my own journey with masking, people-pleasing, and emotional exhaustionâand why so many of us struggle to get our needs met. Youâll learn how to recognize, advocate for, and meet your own emotional needs in a way that fosters emotional empowerment rather than resentment. This episode is about stepping into self-acceptance, setting boundaries, and creating the emotional safety you deserve.
If you're ready for deeper support, join my Love Yourself No Matter What membership for weekly coaching, a private daily podcast, and community support at Amanda-Hess.myKajabi.com/loveyourself . And if you need personalized coaching, book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall.
Detailed Episode Breakdown:[0:00 - 2:30] Introduction & Why This Matters
Why so many sensitive and neurodivergent women struggle to have their emotional needs met.If you feel like youâre constantly giving without receiving, you are not alone.[2:30 - 7:45] Why Emotional Needs Often Go Unmet
The impact of masking and people-pleasing.How ignoring your needs leads to exhaustion, resentment, and disconnection.My personal experiences with discovering my own emotional needs and the consequences of suppressing them.[7:45 - 12:30] The Root Causes of Emotional Struggles
Masking & People-Pleasing: Why saying yes when you mean no makes it harder for people to meet your needs.Emotional Intensity & Deep Processing: The stress response cycle (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and how it impacts emotional regulation.Sensory Overload: How our modern world bombards us with too much information, leading to burnout.[12:30 - 16:45] Identifying Your Core Emotional Needs
The difference between emotional wants and emotional needs (and why understanding this is so important).The four core emotional needs:Feeling seen and understood (not just tolerated).Deep and meaningful connections.Emotional safety and acceptance.Balancing predictability with freedom and spontaneity.Reflection prompts to help you identify where your emotional needs are not being met.[16:45 - 22:00] How to Start Meeting Your Own Emotional Needs
The first step: Grounding yourself and regulating your nervous system.Sensory-friendly self-care strategies to help you reset and feel safe in your body.How I plan to create emotional safety for myself while on my upcoming family trip to Hawaii.[22:00 - 27:15] The Importance of Finding the Right Community
If you feel misunderstood, it may be time to expand your social circle rather than expecting others to change.How to find like-minded people online and in-person.Why deep conversations are essential for emotional fulfillment.[27:15 - 31:00] Asking for Help & Setting Boundaries Without Guilt
Overcoming the fear of being a burden.How to approach conversations about your needs without resentment.Scripts for clearly communicating your needs in a way that invites support rather than resistance.[31:00 - 34:00] How to Set Healthy Boundaries & Accept Support
Boundaries arenât about controlling othersâtheyâre about protecting yourself.Learning to accept support from the right people instead of assuming no one wants to help.How to tolerate the discomfort of disappointing others when necessary.[34:00 - 36:00] Final Thoughts & Next Steps
Journaling prompt: What emotional needs have I been neglecting, and whatâs one small way I can meet them this week?CTA #1: Join the Love Yourself No Matter What membership for weekly coaching, daily written coaching, and access to my private podcast at Amanda-Hess.myKajabi.com/loveyourself CTA #2: If you need personalized support, book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall so we can create a plan to help you feel more emotionally fulfilled. -
We live in a world that constantly prioritizes convenienceâfast food, quick fixes, and instant results. But what happens when we take that same approach to our own lives? In this episode, I dive into how weâve been conditioned to prioritize efficiency over true self-investment and why thatâs holding us back from real growth, joy, and fulfillment. If youâve ever struggled with feeling like an âinconvenienceâ or putting yourself last, this episode is for you.
Episode Breakdown:đ [0:00 - 2:30] | The Lightbulb Moment
How this topic came to me while driving home from spin class.The realization: Weâve been trained to think of ourselves as âconvenientâ or âinconvenient.âThe connection between convenience culture and how we treat ourselves.đ [2:30 - 6:00] | The Fast Food Analogy đ
Why we canât build a strong, fulfilling life using a âfast foodâ approach.The difference between cheap, quick fixes vs. meaningful, long-term investments.The impact of always choosing the easiest, lowest-cost optionâwhether with time, money, or energy.đ [6:00 - 9:30] | The Convenience of Input vs. The Inconvenience of Output
We often choose whatâs easy and efficient (the âfast foodâ input).But that leads to long-term dissatisfaction, burnout, and lack of fulfillment.The cycle of cutting corners and why it never leads to real happiness.đ [9:30 - 12:00] | Time Audit: How Much Are You Really Investing in Yourself?
A quick self-check: How much time do you spend purely on YOU (not for work, family, or others)?Why most women answer less than an hour per weekâor even zero.The hidden consequences of constantly deprioritizing yourself.đ [12:00 - 15:30] | Money Audit: Are You Always Looking for the Cheapest Option?
A second self-check: How much money have you spent only on yourself in the past year?Why we spend so much on family, homes, and responsibilities but almost nothing on ourselves.The real cost of only buying things for ourselves if theyâre on sale.đ [15:30 - 18:00] | The House vs. Fast Food Comparison đĄ
When you buy a house, do you pick the absolute cheapest one with poor materials and bad insulation? No!Yet, we do this with ourselvesâchoosing âcheapâ solutions instead of quality investments.What would happen if you built yourself the way you build a homeâthoughtfully, intentionally, with care?đ [18:00 - 20:30] | The Power of Real Self-Investment
How investing in yourself expands your capacityâto handle stress, relationships, work, and life.Why the belief that âinvesting in myself takes away from othersâ is a LIE.How my personal coaching and self-development investments have made me better in all areas of life.đ [20:30 - 23:00] | Stop Looking for the Quickest Fix
The obsession with shortcuts and why they often lead to more frustration.The importance of consistency over speed.Why the âslow, nourishingâ approach is the one that actually works.đ [23:00 - 25:00] | Final Thoughts + Action Steps
How to start making better investments in yourselfâwith time and money.The first step: Start with nervous system regulation (grab my free 5-minute reset at joinamanda.ca).A reminder: You deserve more than the clearance section of life.đ§ Ready to stop treating yourself like fast food? Listen now!
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In this episode, I explore the concept of soft strengthâa way to hold boundaries, advocate for yourself, and navigate difficult situations without aggression or emotional dysregulation. Too often, women are labeled as âtoo muchâ when they stand up for themselves or âpeople pleasersâ when they donât. But thereâs a middle ground: a way to be strong without force, and firm without anger. I share personal experiences, client insights, and practical strategies to help you step into your power while staying true to yourself.
Timestamps & Key Takeaways:[00:00 - 02:00] Introduction
How the idea of soft strength came up in my coaching and content creation processStrength doesnât always have to be aggressiveâthere are different ways to embody it[02:01 - 05:30] The Stigma Around Womenâs Strength
The world often labels strong women as âKarensâ or âbitches,â making it harder to advocate for ourselvesThere is nothing wrong with being assertive, but thereâs also power in a softer approachThe balance between pushing through and holding space for yourself[05:31 - 09:45] Advocating for Yourself Without Emotional Dysregulation
Strength is not about demanding or yellingâitâs about clarity and self-trustHow to hold firm boundaries without feeling the need to justify or explain yourselfThe power of approaching boundaries from a place of calm, rather than anger[09:46 - 14:30] Boundaries in Difficult Relationships
How boundaries often come up in co-parenting, breakups, and family dynamicsThe difference between setting a boundary from a place of anger vs. a place of self-respectWhy boundaries arenât about controlling the other person, but about how you will respond[14:31 - 17:50] Giving People Back Their Own Feelings
The tendency to take responsibility for other peopleâs emotionsWhy we try to âfixâ peopleâs feelings and how it disconnects us instead of bringing us closerHow to shift from emotional responsibility hoarding to true, open support[17:51 - 21:30] The Power of Soft Strength in Real-Life Situations
Personal story: Navigating my motherâs illness and seeing how people tried to âfixâ the griefThe difference between holding space for someone versus trying to change their experienceThe kind of support that truly makes a difference in hard times[21:31 - 23:00] Final Thoughts & Next Steps
Soft strength is about showing up as the version of yourself that you want to beHow to journal on where you can embrace soft strength in your lifeInvitation to book a free consult for 1:1 coaching: amandahess.ca/bookacallLove this episode? Donât forget to leave a review! Your support helps more women find this podcast and step into their own power. đ
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In this episode, I sit down with my first-ever life coach, Maggie Reyes, a feminist marriage coach and the author of The Questions for Couples Journal. We dive deep into the social conditioning that shapes womenâs livesâhow we are raised to be âgoodâ by constantly serving others, often at the expense of our own desires and well-being.
Maggie shares her insights on navigating the discomfort of wanting more for yourself, creating safety in self-discovery, and finding balance in relationships without losing yourself. We also explore how small shifts in perspective can lead to big changes in how you experience your life.
If you've ever felt stuck in over-functioning, struggling to put yourself on your own priority list, this conversation is for you.
Connect with Maggie:
đč Listen to The Marriage Life Coach Podcast
đč Visit MaggieReyes.com
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[00:00 - 02:30] | Introduction
Welcome to the podcast!Introduction of special guest Maggie Reyes, a feminist marriage coach and author of The Questions for Couples Journal.Amanda shares that Maggie was her first life coach and how her marketing spoke directly to her experience as a Type A woman married to a Type B man.Maggie expresses her excitement to be on the show.[02:31 - 07:45] | The Journey of Coaching & Walking Each Other HomeMaggie and Amanda reminisce about their coaching journey together.Discussion of the Ram Dass quote: âWeâre all walking each other home.âHow coaching is about support rather than hierarchy.The power of having someone truly on your side.[07:46 - 13:30] | The Role of Safety in Coaching & FeminismThe importance of safety in transformation.How therapy provides safety (Stephen Porgesâ quote: âSafety is the treatmentâ), and how in coaching, presence is the most powerful tool.The misconception that feminism is about hating menâitâs actually about equality.How patriarchal structures affect both men and women.[13:31 - 19:15] | The âGood Girlâ Narrative & Performative OvergivingWomen are raised to be performative in their goodnessâdoing what is considered "right" rather than what is right for them.The societal pressure to put others first and suppress personal desires.The idea of being selfish when prioritizing oneself.Real-life examples of how this manifests (e.g., feeling guilty about skipping a family barbecue).[19:16 - 25:00] | Resentment & Overextension: How It Builds & Why Itâs a Red FlagWomen over-functioning, over-committing, and then experiencing resentment.The concept of low-grade annoyanceâa warning sign that needs attention.How burnout sneaks up when you always âdo unto othersâ but never do unto yourself.The social conditioning behind why women struggle to say no.[25:01 - 31:00] | Learning to Want Again: The Importance of Small DesiresWomen often lose touch with their own desires.The practice of reconnecting with small wants (e.g., picking a TV show, choosing breakfast).Amandaâs example: Wanting to be a singer on The Voiceâallowing yourself to dream without judgment.Maggieâs personal example: Wanting lemonade at Gloria Estefanâs house![31:01 - 36:45] | Practical Steps: Reclaiming Time & Making Space for YourselfReframing your identity beyond just being a mom or wife.âWhat if you had a third childâand that child was you?â (A great way to think about self-care.)Learning to recognize red flags of overgiving.Starting with small changesâreducing unnecessary commitments instead of drastic life overhauls.[36:46 - 42:00] | Handling Resistance & Discomfort from OthersWhen you start setting boundaries, expect pushback.How to navigate disappointment from family, kids, or partners.Viewing parenting differently: Kids learn resilience by experiencing disappointment.The role of safety when stepping into your powerâwhy taking small steps matters.[42:01 - 46:00] | Final Thoughts & Where to Find MaggieRecap of the biggest takeaways:Noticing performative behaviors.Prioritizing yourself without guilt.Understanding feminism as empowerment, not opposition to men.Amanda thanks Maggie for the conversation.Maggie shares how to connect with her:Listen to The Marriage Life Coach PodcastVisit MaggieReyes.comEncouragement for listeners to reflect on what they truly want.Maggie Reyes is a Master Certified Life Coach and Modern Marriage Mentor who specializes in helping driven, ambitious women create their best marriages, without waiting for their partners to change or adding more work to their lives.
She is the creator of The Marriage MBA Program, a 6 month mentorship in creating a successful marriage using principles from positive psychology, cognitive science and simple coaching tools that you can learn today and apply tomorrow.
Maggie is the author of the best selling Questions for Couples Journal which has over 3,000 4 star ratings on Amazon.
And she is the host of the The Marriage Life Coach Podcast which is consistently ranked among the top 2 percent podcasts out of over 2 million podcasts tracked by ListenNotes.
When she isnât teaching or coaching she loves obsessing over Formula 1 Racing, Bridgerton, reading fan fiction, sexy romance novels and watching superhero movies and Mexican Rom Coms with her hubby.
If you want to learn how to stop doing the things that poison the love in a relationship and start doing the things that make love stronger, you can find the tools to create your best marriage at MaggieReyes.com.
Links
https://maggiereyes.com/
https://maggiereyes.com/podcast/
https://www.instagram.com/themaggiereyes/
Maggie Reyes
Life Coach + Marriage Mentor
www.MaggieReyes.com
To listen to The Marriage Life Coach Podcast Click Here.
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Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of burnout, constantly giving and never taking time for yourself? In this episode, I dive into the concept of *wanting*âwhy so many of us, especially women, lose touch with our own desires and how to reclaim them.
Weâve been taught that being the âgood girlâ means putting everyone else first, but at what cost? I explore the impact of this mindset, the necessity of rest, and how learning to prioritize yourself isnât selfishâitâs essential.
I also share insights from my own life, from skating as an adult to teaching spin class, and what they reveal about growth, failure, and nervous system regulation. Plus, I give you a sneak peek into next weekâs episode, where weâll talk even more about breaking free from outdated expectations.
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đč **(00:00) â Welcome & Life Updates**
Iâm getting ready for a trip to Puerto Rico for a business mastermind and reflecting on how exciting (and exhausting) travel can be.
đč **(02:15) â Why So Many of Us Stop Wanting**
As we move through life, we often stop prioritizing what *we* want. Instead, we live in a performative way, following the expectations placed upon us.
đč **(05:30) â The Epidemic of Burnout & Over-Giving**
Women are taught to give endlesslyâour time, energy, and love. But where does that leave *us*? If youâre feeling exhausted, itâs time to take a step back and reassess.
đč **(08:10) â The Role of Nervous System Regulation in Change**
Figuring out what you want requires stepping outside of your comfort zone, which can be unsettling. Thatâs why nervous system regulation is *key* to making lasting shifts.
đč **(11:20) â A Clientâs Story: The Travel Trailer vs. The Boat**
A powerful real-life example of how we unconsciously say no to ourselves in order to accommodate othersâand how that can slowly erode our sense of self.
đč **(14:35) â Why You Need Intentional Time for Yourself**
You canât figure out what you want by cramming self-care into the cracks of your day. Intentional time is essential to reconnecting with yourself.
đč **(17:10) â The Finish Line Myth: Youâre Already Enough**
We often think weâll be âenoughâ once we achieve certain milestones. But what if the real goal is realizing *youâre already enough* just as you are?
đč **(19:45) â Sneak Peek: My Conversation with Maggie Reyes**
Next week, Iâll be sharing a conversation with my former marriage coach, Maggie Reyes. She shares a game-changing mindset shift: treating yourself as if you were one of your kidsâprioritizing *your* needs just as much as you prioritize theirs.
đč **(21:00) â Final Thoughts & Next Steps**
What would it take for you to prioritize yourself today? If youâre feeling stuck, coaching might be the next step. DM me on Instagram (@theamandahess) or book a free discovery call at [amandahess.ca](http://amandahess.ca).
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In this episode, Iâm breaking down the key differences between coaching and therapyâa topic that often confuses people. While both provide emotional support, they serve very different purposes. Coaching is action-oriented, focused on shifting your mindset, regulating emotions, and taking steps toward real change, whereas therapy tends to focus more on deep emotional processing and past traumas.
If youâve ever wondered whether coaching is right for you or how it differs from therapy, this episode will give you the clarity you need!
đč Want to experience coaching firsthand? Join my upcoming masterclass for just $10 at joinamanda.ca.
Timestamps:[00:00] - Introduction
Why I felt called to record this episode.The common misunderstanding between coaching and therapy.[02:15] - Why People Seek Coaching & How It Compares to Therapy
Many women come to coaching feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or emotionally dysregulated.Coaching is not cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), though they have some overlaps.[05:30] - What Coaching Looks Like in Practice
The first step in coaching is creating emotional safety.I help clients regulate their nervous system so they can start thinking more clearly.Simple tools like breathwork, movement, sensory engagement, and scheduling self-care.[09:45] - The Shift from Emotional Regulation to Thought Work
Coaching helps you change how you thinkânot just what you think.We begin questioning deeply ingrained beliefs that are keeping you stuck.The difference between coaching and therapy: coaching is solution-focused and actionable.[14:00] - How Social Conditioning Holds Women Back
Many of us have been taught to prioritize othersâ needs over our own.People-pleasing, overworking, and feeling like life is a performance rather than something you truly live.How coaching helps you break free from these patterns and create a life that feels aligned.[18:30] - Why Questioning Your Thoughts Is the Key to Transformation
Most of us believe our thoughts are absolute truths, but theyâre just perspectives.When we start questioning what we think is ârightâ or ânecessary,â we unlock real change.Coaching teaches you to reshape your mindset so you can take control of your life.[22:00] - Closing Thoughts & Next Steps
The power of coaching in shifting your mindset and daily experience.Want to dive deeper? Join my upcoming masterclass for just $10 at joinamanda.ca.Connect with me on Instagram & TikTok (@TheAmandaHess) or book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall. -
In this episode, I dive into the topic of self-worth, something I surprisingly havenât covered in depth beforeâdespite this being my 245th episode! I reflect on my podcast journey and how over 130,000 listeners have tuned in, which is incredible.
We often feel like weâre not enough, whether in relationships, careers, or personal growth. But the truth is, self-worth is intrinsicâitâs something we are born with, not something we have to earn. The challenge is not about proving our worth but learning how to navigate fear, self-doubt, and emotions so they donât hold us back.
I share how shifting our perspective on self-worth can transform our confidence and overall experience of life. Instead of trying to âfeel good enough,â we should focus on processing emotions, balancing our inner world, and taking action despite fear.
If this resonates with you, Iâm hosting a confidence masterclass on February 11th to go even deeper into these ideas. You can register at joinamanda.ca. Letâs build the life we truly wantâwithout questioning our worth.
Tune in and letâs talk self-worth!
đ 00:00 â 02:00 | Introduction & Podcast MilestoneAmanda reflects on reaching 245 podcast episodes and how over 130,000 people have listened.She realizes sheâs never done a full episode on self-worth before, which surprises her.Welcomes both new and returning listeners.đ 02:00 â 05:00 | Why Self-Worth is ImportantMany women struggle with feeling ânot good enough.âSelf-worth influences confidence, happiness, and fulfillment in life.A common belief: âI donât feel like I have self-worthâ â This thinking keeps us stuck.đ 05:00 â 08:00 | The Truth About Self-WorthSelf-worth is intrinsicâitâs not something we earn, prove, or lose.Example: A newborn baby has full worth despite doing nothingâwhy wouldnât that be true for adults?Key takeaway: We donât have to search for or create self-worthâitâs already there.đ 08:00 â 11:00 | The Danger of Trying to "Earn" Self-WorthMany people chase self-worth through:Productivity & successRelationships & approvalPhysical appearance & achievementsBut when is it ever enough? The cycle never ends because weâre looking in the wrong place.đ 11:00 â 14:00 | The Real Issue: Fear, Not Lack of Self-WorthPeople often say, âIâm not starting because I donât feel good enough.âThe real issue is fear of failure, rejection, or uncertainty.Example: Dating fears â Itâs not about self-worth but about learning to navigate emotions like fear and uncertainty.đ 14:00 â 17:00 | How to Navigate Fear & Build ConfidenceYou donât need more self-worthâyou need to get comfortable with discomfort.Confidence comes from:Feeling fear and taking action anyway.Learning to regulate emotions.Trusting yourself to handle challenges.The key is not avoiding fear but learning to process it.đ 17:00 â 20:00 | Empowering Yourself Instead of Feeling StuckFeeling ânot enoughâ leads to feeling powerless.Instead of trying to feel worthy, ask: âWhat do I actually want, and how do I get there?âLearning to navigate emotions like fear, frustration, and overwhelm leads to real confidence.đ 20:00 â 22:00 | Closing & Confidence Masterclass InvitationYou already have self-worthâyou donât need to prove it.The real work is learning how to navigate emotions and take action despite fear.If this resonates, join the Confidence Masterclass on February 11th to dive deeper.Register at: joinamanda.caTime: 5 PM PST / 8 PM ESTCost: $9.95 USDFinal message: You are already enoughânow, letâs focus on creating the life you want. -
Have you ever felt stuck because of the labels you or others have placed on you? In this episode, weâre taking a deep dive into how labels shape our livesâfor better or worse.
Labels can offer clarity, community, and tools for growth, but they can also hold us back when we use them to justify staying stuck. Together, weâll unpack why our brains love labels, how to recognize when theyâre helping versus hurting, and the steps you can take to break free from limiting beliefs.
This episode is packed with actionable insights to help you shift your mindset, regulate your emotions, and create a life that feels fulfilling and alignedâno matter what challenges or labels youâre navigating. Whether itâs ADHD, dyslexia, or the dreaded âpeople pleaserâ identity, Iâll show you how to turn your labels into stepping stones instead of roadblocks.
đĄ Ready to dive deeper? Join me for my masterclass on January 30th to learn how to build confidence, self-esteem, and emotional resilience. Grab your spot at joinamanda.ca.
đ Or book a free discovery call with me at amandahess.ca/bookacall.
Letâs rewrite your storyâone empowering step at a time.
[00:01] Introduction
Why labels are such a significant topic and how they often impact my clientsâ results.The invitation to listen with an open heart and curiosity.[02:45] The Human Brainâs Need for Efficiency
How our brains naturally create and use labels to categorize information.Understanding subconscious vs. conscious brain activity.[07:10] How Labels Serve Us
Labels as tools for understanding ourselves and finding community.Examples: ADHD, ASD, and dyslexiaâwhat they reveal and how they can guide us.[14:30] When Labels Hold Us Back
The dangers of over-identifying with labels and how they limit potential.Why âI canât do this because of [label]â is a thought, not a fact.[21:00] Emotional Responsibility and Regulation
The importance of taking charge of your emotional well-being.Practical tips for handling overwhelm, procrastination, and executive dysfunction.[28:45] Rewriting the Narrative
Shifting from âthis is just how I amâ to âthis is something I can work with.âPersonal examples of how Iâve navigated labels like sensitivity and depression.[34:20] Individuality Beyond Labels
Why no two people are exactly the same, even within shared labels.How to embrace your unique personality while working through challenges.[38:55] Practical Coaching Insights
How to dissect specific struggles (e.g., procrastination, people-pleasing) for tailored solutions.The importance of nervous system regulation and intentional self-coaching.[47:10] Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Why nothing about you is permanent and everything is figureoutable.A reminder to use labels as tools for empowerment, not barriers to success.[50:30] Ways to Work With Me
Masterclass: Join me on January 30th at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST for an interactive session on building confidence and self-esteem. Sign up at joinamanda.ca.Discovery Calls: Book a free call at amandahess.ca/bookacall to explore personalized coaching options.Letâs break free from limiting labels and create a life that truly reflects your potential.
Donât forget to leave a review if you enjoyed this episodeâit helps me reach more amazing women like you! See you next week!
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In this episode, Iâm breaking down the truth about confidenceâwhat it really is, why itâs so important, and how you can create it in your life. Confidence isnât something youâre born with; itâs something you build by starting, failing, and learning along the way. Iâll share my own journey from fear to confidence, why resilience matters, and how to move forward even when itâs uncomfortable. If youâve been waiting to feel confident before taking bold steps, this episode will show you why you donât have to wait anymore.
[00:00] - Welcome and Topic Introduction
I start by talking about one of my favorite coaching topics: confidence.I explain what confidence really is, why itâs essential, and how you can create it in your life.[03:10] - The Human Need for Confidence
Confidence isnât just nice to haveâitâs a human necessity for fulfillment and satisfaction.Itâs that feeling you get when you believe you can do something well.[06:45] - Confidence in New Challenges
When people want to make big changes in their lives, the one emotion they feel they need most is confidence.I share examples like public speaking, asking for a raise, and dating authentically to show how confidence impacts everything we do.[10:00] - Understanding Confidence
Confidence comes from competenceâknowing how to do something well.I explain how competence is built through practice, learning, and persistence.[15:30] - The Process of Building Confidence
Start, even if itâs scary.Embrace failure as a necessary step in learning.Reevaluate whatâs working and try again.Competence grows over time, and so does confidence.[20:45] - My Journey to Confidence
I share a personal story about starting a direct sales career while battling nerves and fear.Through consistent practice and persistence, I built confidence by becoming competent in what I was doing.[28:00] - Navigating Fear and Building Resilience
Confidence isnât about being fearlessâitâs about learning to navigate fear.Building resilience and emotional capacity helps you push through discomfort and setbacks.[33:20] - Practical Takeaways
Think about the areas where you want to grow your confidence: relationships, career, finances, or something else.Start small, shift your mindset, and take intentional actions toward your goals.Confidence comes from building resilience and creating competence.[39:15] - Upcoming Confidence Training
Iâm hosting a two-hour live training where Iâll teach you:Why confidence is essential.What blocks it.How to create it for yourself.You can register at joinamanda.ca.[41:00] - Closing Thoughts
Confidence is the key to living a fulfilled, joyful life, and itâs something you can create.If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a reviewâit helps the podcast grow and reach more women.If you need personalized support, book a free consult at amandahess.ca/bookacall.Tune in next week for another empowering episode!
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[0:00] Welcome and Introduction
[2:00] Why Ryanne Chose Coaching
Ryanne explains how she felt unsettled and overwhelmed before starting coaching.
She shares her experiences with therapy, which helped her understand her past but left her feeling stuck without tools to move forward.
After a friendâs recommendation and realizing her nervous system was out of balance, she decided to give coaching a try.
[6:30] Early Days of Coaching
Ryanne talks about the first steps we took together, focusing on managing anxiety and finding small coping mechanisms that worked for her.
She discovered sensory tools, like essential oils, which became a key part of her calming routine.
We shifted the focus from revisiting the past to creating strategies to move forward.
[12:15] Emotional Regulation and Self-Compassion
I explain how we worked on recognizing and riding emotional waves without judgment.
Ryanne reflects on learning self-compassion and how changing her inner dialogue made a significant difference.
We discuss the importance of separating emotions from reactions and becoming an observer of our feelings.
[18:45] Anxiety and Self-Acceptance
Ryanne shares her experience with anxiety and being diagnosed with ADHD.
I helped her reframe anxiety as a sign of care rather than a flaw or something to eliminate.
She explains how tools like journaling and nervous system regulation gave her space to navigate emotions and grow.
[25:00] Relationships and Triggers
We talk about how anxiety often shows up in relationships, triggering reactions tied to past experiences.
Ryanne shares how she learned to manage her emotions, communicate better, and regain clarity in her relationships.
[30:45] Building Confidence and the Snowball Effect
Ryanne discusses how small, consistent steps built her confidence over time.
I explain the importance of viewing self-growth as a process, not a destination.
She highlights how prioritizing physical health, like working out and eating nutritious food, supported her emotional well-being.
[38:30] Achieving Professional and Financial Goals
Ryanne shares how she hit a financial goal during our time working together.
She talks about shifting her mindset from dread to excitement in her career.
We worked on balancing her emotional bandwidth while staying motivated and productive.
[45:15] Self-Love and Acceptance
Ryanne reflects on how coaching helped her reconnect with her authentic self and embrace her strengths.
I remind listeners that they donât need to become someone elseâthey already are enough. Itâs about revealing and embracing who they truly are.
[50:30] The Transformation Process
Ryanne shares how coaching helped her feel less frantic and more grounded.
She talks about how small steps led to big changes, making her self-talk more positive and her confidence more natural.
I emphasize the importance of celebrating progress and being patient with yourself.
[56:00] Closing Thoughts
Ryanne encourages anyone considering coaching to take the leap, even if it feels like a small step.
I express my gratitude for Ryanne sharing her story and remind listeners how transformative coaching can be.
[58:30] Call to Action
I invite listeners who relate to Ryanneâs journey to book a call with me at amandahess.ca
I share that we can explore whatâs going on for them and start working toward transformation.
[59:00] Wrap-Up
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[00:00] **Why Iâm Sharing This Episode**
- I recorded this episode on January 1st for my private, client-only podcast.
- Iâm sharing it here so you can get a feel for my day-to-day support and also to highlight the core message on shifting from goal-setting to vision creation.
- Iâm hosting a **90-minute Emotional Mastery Workshop** on January 8th, 2025, where Iâll guide attendees to:
- Reclaim control of their emotions and thoughts.
- Align with their deepest desires.
- Wake up daily with confidence, clarity, and joy.
- This workshop is open to only 10 people, so anyone interested can sign up at joinamanda.ca
[03:30] **My Reflection on 2025**
- Iâm amazed that weâre already in 2025 and how time seems to fly.
- I want to shift the focus from typical goal-setting to **vision creation** because I find it more effective, fulfilling, and less anxiety-inducing.
[04:15] **Why I Favor Vision Creation Over Goal Setting**
- **Traditional Goal Setting** often makes us tie our self-worth to the outcome. If I meet the goal, Iâm âgood enough,â and if I donât, Iâm not.
- In my own life, Iâve gone to extremes when I was strictly âgoal-orientedââlike unhealthy weight-loss methodsâjust to hit a target.
- **Vision Creation**, on the other hand, centers on the experience I want to cultivate and the values I want to honor.
[08:45] **How I Approach Vision Creation**
1. **Start with Emotions**:
- I ask myself which emotions I want to prioritize this year (e.g., peace, joy, satisfaction, love).
- These emotions become the foundation for my choices and actions.
2. **Align Goals with Values**:
- If satisfaction and joy are my priorities, Iâll check whether my goalsâsay, earning a certain amount of moneyâfit with these emotions.
- My actions will then be powered by feelings that are sustainable, rather than driven by anxiety or external pressure.
[12:00] **Decoupling Self-Worth from Achievements**
- I remind myself that my value as a person isnât dependent on hitting a specific milestone.
- When I create a vision, I keep my self-worth separate from the final outcome. This frees me from burnout and fosters genuine growth.
[14:15] **Practical Steps for Vision Creation**
- I reflect on questions like:
- *What are the emotions I want to feel every day in 2025?*
- *What values guide the life Iâm building?*
- *How can I take actions that align with these emotions and values?*
- This process gives me a sense of control, clarity, and consistent momentum.
[16:45] **My Offer to Help**
- If youâre my client, feel free to bring this up in our next session. Iâd love to dive deeper and create a personalized vision for you.
- If youâre not a client but have access to this podcast, I invite you to book a **discovery call** at amandahess.ca. Itâs a great way to explore how we can work together on your vision.
[18:00] **Closing & Call to Action**
- I encourage you to review these steps and start crafting your 2025 vision.
- Please consider leaving a reviewâit helps my podcast reach more people who need this message.
- If youâre ready to stop managing stress and anxiety alone, book a free consult with me at amandahess.ca
**Happy New Year, and hereâs to a fulfilling and vision-driven 2025!**
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In this episode I dive deep into the topic of overthinking. I explore why we overthink, how it affects our lives, and most importantly, how we can overcome it. If youâve ever found yourself stuck in a loop of obsessive thoughts or struggling to quiet your mind, this episode is for you. I also share exciting details about my upcoming free masterclass on December 30th to help you make 2025 your most empowered year yet.
Timestamps:
[00:00] Welcome & Holiday Reflections
I share some Christmas Eve thoughts and how Iâm preparing to help you create an incredible new year.[02:45] Announcing My Free Masterclass
Details about âA New Year, A New You: Letâs End Overthinkingâ on December 30th at 5 PM PT / 8 PM ET. (Register at joinamanda.ca)[05:30] Why Overthinking Happens
I discuss the common triggers of overthinking, from circumstantial stress to low-level anxiety.[08:10] The Tug-of-War Analogy
Learn why trying to âlogicâ your way out of strong emotions often makes things worse.[12:00] Overthinking vs. Emotional Safety
How overthinking arises from feelings of shame, guilt, worry, or fearâand why battling these emotions with thoughts doesnât work.[16:20] The Key to Breaking Free: Nervous System Regulation
I explain the importance of feeling emotions in your body and regulating your nervous system to reduce overthinking.[19:40] Why âPositive Thinkingâ Isnât the Solution
Discover why replacing negative thoughts with positive ones isnât always effective.[23:00] The Role of Specificity in Solving Problems
How focusing on specific issues instead of trying to âfix yourselfâ can change the way you think.[27:15] Why Overthinking Wastes Time and Energy
I highlight how overthinking stops you from solving problems and reaching your goals.[30:00] How You Can Take the Next Step
Why 2025 is your year to master your thoughts, control your emotions, and create the life you want.[33:30] Final Thoughts & Call to Action
I encourage you to join my free masterclass and leave a review to help this podcast reach more women like you.Links & Resources:
Register for my free masterclass: A New Year, A New You: Letâs End Overthinking â joinamanda.caBook a free consult with me â amandahess.ca/bookacall -
- **[0:00]** - Welcome and reflection: "Can you believe it's already mid-December? Letâs make this moment count."
- **[1:00]** - Today, weâre diving deep into *emotional mastery*. Youâll learn how this transformative process can help you handle stress, build resilience, and create a life you love.
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### The Big Idea: Every Problem Is an Emotions Problem
- **[2:30]** - Iâll show you why emotional mastery is the key to solving issues in relationships, parenting, money, career, and more.
- **[3:15]** - By the end of this episode, youâll understand why emotions are at the root of so many challenges and how mastering them can change everything.
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### A Client's Journey: Proof Itâs Possible
- **[5:00]** - Youâll hear how one of my clients went from feeling stuck and overwhelmed to confident and in control using the emotional mastery process.
- **[6:15]** - Iâll share my own story tooâhow I broke free from constant pressure and perfectionismâand how you can do the same.
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### Understanding Emotions
- **[7:45]** - Youâll learn what emotions really are (hint: theyâre not thoughts!) and why understanding them is crucial.
- **[8:30]** - Iâll explain the stress responsesâfight, flight, freeze, and fawnâand how they might be running your life without you even realizing it.
- **[10:00]** - Youâll start to see why emotional distress keeps happening and what you can do to stop it.
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### Step 1: Proactive Nervous System Regulation
- **[12:00]** - Discover the difference between "911" nervous system regulation (what to do in the moment) and preventative practices (how to build resilience over time).
- **[13:30]** - Iâll show you easy, practical ways to regulate your nervous system dailyâwithout spending a ton of time or money.
- **[15:00]** - Youâll leave with actionable tools to build emotional capacity so you can handle stressors without feeling overwhelmed.
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### Step 2: Understanding and Guiding Emotions
- **[17:30]** - Iâll teach you how to interpret emotions as messengers rather than fighting or ignoring them.
- **[19:00]** - Youâll learn how to "ride the wave" of emotion without being overtaken by itâand how this simple skill can dramatically change your life.
- **[20:45]** - By the end of this section, youâll know how to stop reacting to emotions impulsively and start directing them intentionally.
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### Step 3: Creating Productive Thoughts, Beliefs, and Support Systems
- **[22:30]** - Learn why your current thoughts may be keeping you stuck and how to change the way you think for good.
- **[24:00]** - Iâll guide you through building beliefs about self-worth, lovability, and whatâs possible for your future.
- **[25:30]** - Youâll walk away with a clear understanding of how to replace self-criticism with self-advocacy and start living the life you truly want.
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### What Emotional Mastery Will Do for You
- **[27:00]** - By mastering this process, youâll gain self-love, resilience, confidence, and fulfillment.
- **[28:15]** - Youâll see how emotional mastery impacts every area of your life, from your relationships to your career, and even your day-to-day joy.
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### My Coaching Program: Take This Further
- **[29:30]** - Iâll share how my *Emotional Mastery Coaching Program* works and how it can help you create the life youâve been dreaming of.
- **[31:00]** - Youâll learn whatâs included: one-on-one coaching, daily private podcasts, and access to transformative trainingsâall designed to help you succeed.
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### Actionable Takeaways and Next Steps
- **[33:00]** - Before you go, Iâll help you reflect on how emotional mastery can shift your lifeâand encourage you to take the next step by booking a free consultation with me.
- **[34:30]** - Donât forget: Every change starts with a decision. Letâs explore together how to make emotional mastery your reality.
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### Closing
- **[35:00]** - Thank you for joining me today! Remember, a new episode drops every week. If you found this helpful, leave a review and share it with someone who needs it.
** Ready to take the next step? Book your free consultation now at [amandahess.ca/bookacall](https://amandahess.ca/bookacall). Letâs create the life youâve always wanted!
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**[3:25] Getting Started: Why Manifestation?**
- I share a personal update about teaching spin class while recovering from a cold.
- Introduction to the episode's focus: Manifestation.
- Initial thoughts on manifestation inspired by a business coachâs TikTok content.
- Connection between self-love and manifestation as a practical tool.
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**[8:45] What is Manifestation?**
- Reflection on past trends like *The Secret* and how manifestation is often misunderstood.
- A non-spiritual, practical approach to manifestation: focusing on what you want to create.
- Identifying controllable vs. uncontrollable factors in life
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**[14:30] Manifesting Your Goals**
- The importance of identifying where you are and why.
- Using curiosity, not judgment, to examine current circumstances.
- Emotions as the foundation of manifestation:
- How emotions affect energy, actions, and interactions.
- Examples: weight loss, relationships, financial goals.
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**[21:10] The Emotional Component**
- Understanding and managing the emotional fuel needed for manifesting goals.
- Why confidence is often unavailable for new challenges, and how courage and resilience fill the gap.
- Emotions like love, care, and curiosity as drivers for relationship goals.
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**[28:00] Example: Managing Conflict Through Emotional Energy**
- Story of resolving conflict with compassion during a challenging customer service experience.
- Lesson: Diffusing situations with empathy and manifesting better outcomes.
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**[32:45] Emotional Literacy: Key to Manifestation**
- Most people lack the vocabulary to describe nuanced emotions.
- The role of an emotional thesaurus in identifying and processing emotions.
- Examples: shades of anger (e.g., jealousy, resentment) vs. positive emotions (e.g., fulfillment, satisfaction).
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**[38:00] The Process of Manifestation**
1. Recognize and process negative emotions.
2. Build emotional capacity through nervous system regulation.
3. Generate emotions like courage or resilience to fuel forward motion.
4. Apply these skills to specific goals.
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**[45:15] My Framework for Manifestation**
- Understanding manifestation as an emotional equation.
- Practical tools to grow emotional capacity and create desired results.
- Importance of small, actionable steps in coaching.
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**[50:30]
- Manifestation is about energy, not manipulation or magic.
- Invitation to book a free discovery call for personalized guidance.
- Book at [amandahess.ca/bookacall](https://amandahess.ca/bookacall).
- Upcoming free training on manifestation in the Facebook group "Self Love Club."
- Join at [joinamanda.com](https://joinamanda.com).
- Encouragement to leave a review and share the podcast to help more women.
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**[55:00] Final Thoughts**
- Manifestation is a skill worth developing for anyone wanting to create meaningful change.
- Gratitude for listeners and a promise of weekly episodes filled with insights and support.
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**Links and Resources**
- Free Discovery Call: amandahess.ca/bookacall
- Join The Self-Love Club: joinamanda.ca
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Thank you for listening! Donât forget to subscribe and leave a review to help grow this podcast and support more women in their self-love journeys.
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Curious about what coaching looks like? This is a real coaching session to help you see what you can expect. In this episode, I share a live coaching session with a courageous friend from my community. This session provides insight into what coaching can look like and how transformative it can be. Youâll hear moments of teaching, interruption to shift thought patterns, and examples of how coaching differs from traditional talk therapy.
**[00:00] Intro:**
- I explain the episode's premise and my approach to coaching.
- Emphasis on the blend of teaching and open-ended questions.
- Acknowledgment of gratitude for my guestâs vulnerability.
**[02:35] Starting the Coaching Session:**
- My guest and I exchange warm greetings.
- She shares feelings of being overstimulated after Christmas shopping.
- I set the tone for the session: exploring challenges and finding new perspectives.
**[06:10] Life Satisfaction Scale:**
- My guest rates her current life as a 7 out of 10.
- We discuss the reasons: good coping skills but struggles with overwhelm, reactivity, and balance.
**[09:45] Identifying Reactivity:**
- She shares that reactivity often stems from feeling overwhelmed.
- I delve deeper, asking why she dislikes reacting.
- She identifies the struggle of not listening fully and reacting prematurely.
**[15:00] Addressing Childhood Triggers:**
- My guest discusses a specific instance with her mother, a recovering addict.
- Scenario: Reactivity triggered by suspicion about her motherâs actions (leaving her car at the mall).
- She reflects on emotions like fear, disappointment, and feeling let down.
**[22:15] Exploring Disappointment and Boundaries:**
- I encourage separating adult and child relationships with parents.
- She shares childhood experiences of caretaking responsibilities and how these influence current dynamics.
- We discuss unhealed parts of ourselves and managing expectations.
**[30:00] Tools for Managing Reactivity:**
- I share strategies for responding less reactively:
- Recognizing emotional waves and allowing them to pass.
- Having compassion for oneself when triggered.
- Separating personal safety and well-being from the other personâs actions.
**[36:45] Shifting Perspectives:**
- I introduce the concept of âresponsibility hoardingâ and the false sense of control it creates.
- She reflects on how these tendencies show up in her relationship and parenting dynamics.
**[44:00] Building Emotional Capacity:**
- I explain grief and trauma as constants, using the âblack dotâ metaphor.
- Emphasis on growing emotional capacity to manage complex relationships.
- She considers replacing fear-driven actions with love-driven boundaries.
**[52:30] Practical Tools for Boundaries:**
- I advise slowing down decisions and creating mental space before responding to urgent requests.
- She reflects on recent boundary-setting successes and areas for improvement.
**[59:00] Clean Pain vs. Dirty Pain:**
- I differentiate between grieving past realities (âclean painâ) and unnecessary suffering caused by worrying about uncontrollable future outcomes (âdirty painâ).
- She acknowledges her tendency to spiral into âdirty painâ and commits to practicing self-awareness.
**[01:06:15] Final Reflections:**
- I highlight the importance of self-compassion and allowing emotional growth.
- She expresses gratitude for the tools and perspectives shared.
- I remind listeners that relationships, especially complex ones, are ongoing work but can improve with intentionality and love.
**[01:10:00] Closing:**
- I thank listeners for tuning in.
- Call-to-action: Leave a review and book a free consultation to tackle stress and anxiety for good.
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**Links and Resources:**
- Want to try your own session? Book a free call: amandahess.ca
- Follow me on Instagram and share your thoughts about the episode! https://www.instagram.com/theamandahess/
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In this episode, we delve into the complexities of gratitude. As American Thanksgiving approaches, gratitude becomes a hot topic, but is forcing gratitude always a good idea? I explore why itâs okay not to feel grateful during challenging times and how embracing intentionality and celebration can create genuine positive emotions. Listen in as I share personal stories, insights from coaching sessions, and actionable steps to help you break free from fake gratitude and step into a more fulfilling life.
Episode Highlights with Timestamps:
[00:00] - Introduction: Amanda introduces the topic of gratitude and explains the inspiration behind this episodeâAmerican Thanksgiving.
[02:30] - The Problem with Forced Gratitude: Amanda shares her perspective on why forcing gratitude can feel like gaslighting and why itâs often counterproductive during tough times.
[06:15] - Real Gratitude vs. Fake Gratitude: What is real gratitude? Amanda explains how genuine gratitude emerges naturally after processing emotions, rather than as a forced response.
[09:40] - The Power of CelebrationAmanda discusses how celebrating achievements, no matter how small, can be more impactful than surface-level gratitude practices.
[12:25] - Client Story: Finding Deeper CelebrationsA clientâs journey to celebrating her ability to trust her own decisions rather than relying on others.
[14:45] - Why Gratitude Feels Hollow: Amanda shares how âticking the gratitude boxâ often doesnât spark meaningful change or fulfillment.
[17:30] - Overcoming Fear to Access Joy and Fulfillment: Using her own figure skating experience, Amanda illustrates how pushing through fear leads to deeper emotions of pride, excitement, and joy.[22:50] - Fear as the Gateway to Growth: Amanda reframes fear as a necessary component of growth and shares how discomfort can lead to significant emotional payoffs.
[26:10] - Practical Steps to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone: Amanda offers actionable advice on how to step out of your comfort zone and create more connection, joy, and excitement in your life.[30:15] - Coaching Strategies for Tackling Anxiety and Fear: Amanda discusses how breaking down anxiety into manageable pieces helps clients move past fears and achieve meaningful goals.
[34:00] - Why True Gratitude is Built Through Action: Amanda shares how living intentionally and taking courageous steps fosters authentic gratitude.
[37:40] - Call to Action: Amanda invites listeners to book a discovery call to begin their transformation journey and reminds them not to wait until the new year to start.
Key Quotes:
âIf youâre forcing gratitude, itâs not gratitude; itâs gaslighting yourself.â
âReal gratitude comes when weâve processed the hard stuff and see how itâs shaped us.â
âThe price we pay for joy, pride, and fulfillment is stepping out of our comfort zones.â
âDonât wait until the new year to start your transformation. You can start feeling different tomorrow.â
Resources Mentioned:
Book a Free Coaching Consultation: amandahess.ca/bookacall
Connect with Amanda on Social Media: Instagram | Tiktok
Leave a Review:If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review on your favorite podcast platform. Your feedback helps this podcast grow and reach more women who are ready to transform their lives.
Subscribe for Weekly Episodes:Donât miss out! New episodes drop every week to help you manage stress, tackle fear, and live with intention.
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In this episode, I welcome neurodiversity consultant Jenine Lillian to discuss their journey to an autism spectrum disorder diagnosis, overcoming societal expectations, and building an inclusive world. Janine shares their unique perspective, emphasizing the importance of self-acceptance, connection, and actionable steps to live authentically.
- **[00:00] - Intro and Welcome**
Amanda introduces Jenine Lillian, highlighting their work as a neurodiversity consultant and their warm personality.
- **[02:00] - Jenineâs Journey to Diagnosis**
Jenine shares their story of receiving a formal autism diagnosis at 52 and the barriers they faced along the way.
- **[10:30] - Navigating Neurodivergence**
Jenine discusses the challenges of masking, societal expectations, and the importance of authentic connections.
- **[18:45] - Self-Care and Rest**
The power of walking without a phone, limiting sensory input, and finding joy in quiet moments.
- **[26:15] - Breaking Down Stereotypes**
Jenine shares why labels like âtoo sensitiveâ or âoverly emotionalâ can be harmful and the need to treat people as individuals.
- **[34:50] - Building Community**
Amanda and Jenine reflect on the value of saying âgood morningâ and creating layers of connection in life.
- **[42:00] - Addressing Inner Criticism**
How self-worth, dismantling past trauma, and embracing optimism can lead to empowerment.
- **[50:30] - What Jenine Offers**
Jenine talks about their business, including workshops for employers, executive dysfunction support, and their role as a resource for adults navigating neurodivergence.
- **[57:15] - The Importance of Play and Experimentation**
Jenine encourages listeners to try new things and âtry onâ new ideas to discover what brings them joy.
- **[01:03:00] - Final Thoughts and Homework**
Jenine leaves listeners with practical homework: take 20 minutes today to do something restorative for yourself.
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**Resources and Links**
**Connect with Jenine Lillian**:
Visit their website at jeninelillian.com
**Amandaâs Coaching Services**:
Book a free discovery call at amandahess.ca
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**Key Quotes**
- *"Thereâs nothing wrong with you. Itâs about finding the support you need to thrive."* â Janine Lillian
- *"When you give without expecting something in return, you find the most authentic connections."* â Amanda
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If you enjoyed this episode, please leave a review and share it with someone who might benefit from Janineâs insights. Letâs build a world thatâs more inclusive for everyone!
Jenine Lillian Bio
Jenine Lillian (Jenine, they/them) is a Neurodiversity Consultant, educator, artist, writer,
and librarian. For more than 20 years, Jenine has taught and presented across the
public library sector in both the United States and Canada. Jenine has received national
recognition for their advocacy and library work with teens. After receiving a very
late-in-life diagnosis of Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD), Jenine started their
neurodiversity consultancy to raise awareness, reduce stigma and increase inclusion for
neurodiversity and other invisible disabilities. Jenine lives in the Kootenays, British
Columbia, where they can be found making art, talking with folks on sidewalks,
birdwatching, building community through service and networking, and practicing
self-care. You can reach Jenine at [email protected] and explore their website at
www.jeninelillian.com.
Contact Jenine Lillian
[email protected] email
www.jeninelillian.com website
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In this episode, I delve deep into my personal journey and share insights on embracing and understanding emotions. As someone who has walked through emotional battles and navigated the ups and downs of diagnosis, I know how transformative it is to learn emotional resilience. We explore the essential nature of emotions, the importance of releasing judgment, and why moving beyond labels can unlock a more fulfilling life. This episode is about reducing suffering, increasing self-love, and finding a way to live joyfully, even with lifeâs challenges.
- **[0:00] Introduction and Personal Journey**
I reflect on the journey of this podcast and my personal growth in business. This podcast is more than just content; it's a heartfelt endeavor to help others.
- **[3:00] The Importance of Emotions**
Emotions are the core of a fulfilling life. We talk about how managing emotions is crucial for living intentionally and powerfully.
- **[5:45] Personal Experiences with Emotional Battles**
I share my past struggles with intense emotions and how they impacted my life, especially during early motherhood. Emotions can be overwhelming, but there is a way to navigate them.
- **[11:20] Client Stories and Emotional Challenges**
My clientsâ experiences vary widelyâfrom inner battles to life-altering events. Regardless of their circumstances, it all comes back to how they handle emotions.
- **[16:30] Understanding and Allowing Emotions**
We're not taught how to feel or understand emotions deeply. I discuss how learning about feelings, their bodily sensations, and their impact on us is transformative.
- **[21:10] Moving Beyond Diagnosis**
A diagnosis doesnât have to define you. I share my experience with clinical diagnoses and why I choose to see them as information rather than identity. Diagnosis can provide insight, but itâs not a life sentence.
- **[26:50] Reducing Suffering and Enhancing Life**
The goal in coaching is to reduce suffering and increase life satisfaction. We start by managing pain, then look for ways to enrich and enliven life.
- **[30:45] Compulsion vs. Desire**
Compulsion often drives us out of fear, whereas desire is about genuine longing. Shifting from compulsion to desire is key to creating a life you truly want.
- **[33:15] Final Thoughts and Closing Invitation**
Imagine what life could be like if you let go of the belief that somethingâs inherently wrong with you. What if you could experience relief, joy, and love without fixing "everything"?
**Connect with Me:**
If youâre ready to work through emotional challenges, I invite you to book a free call with me at [amandahess.ca](https://www.amandahess.ca) to start the journey to reducing suffering and creating a life you love.
**Outro:**
Thank you so much for tuning in! New episodes drop weekly. Please consider leaving a reviewâit helps the podcast grow and reach more listeners like you. And if youâre ready to make lasting change, schedule a free consult at amandahess.ca
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